Smile to make your children happy
Protagonists of the frowning approach:
Some parents and educators adopt the frowning method in dealing with their children. Hence, they avoid speaking with them cordially or smiling at them. They believe that there should be strict limits between parents and their children so that they can succeed in their upbringing.
They think that smiling and cheerfulness with children will spoil them, while frowning and sullenness represent the discipline and resolve that are necessary for any successful upbringing. Unfortunately, we are sorry to tell such people that this is the approach of the weak, who have not mastered the art of entering into the hearts, even the hearts of the closest people to them: their children!
People with great souls are the only ones who can always be cheerful with their children, while they control the process of upbringing in such a way that ensures their children are close enough to learn from them and obey their orders within a warm family environment.
The wise educator can direct his child through his smile and look, embrace him compassionately, and treat his mistakes with patience. This little smile may be of great importance and influence on the child, especially that he receives it from his source of protection and role model.
Is there any of us who does not need to please his children through his cheerfulness and good morals? Is there anyone who does not need to do so today, when he sees that the educator’s mission has become one of the most difficult on earth?
The protection of children against immorality and other social problems have become issues that require a great deal of concentration and great balance in the personality of the educator, to be able to sustain his children and establish a successful relationship with them.
This relationship serves as gravity that always attracts them to their good origins, and strengthens them in the face of the wild storms of immorality that blow from all directions.
The default principle in dealing with one’s children: Smiling at our children is the default principle, while frowning should be an educational punishment that should be used wisely and only when necessary. Certainly, cheerfulness strengthens the relationship between the educator and the child, while frowning causes the child to dislike his parent and weakens their mutual love. You may even use what is called (the angry smile) when you punish or blame your child as a form of silent, yet effective, punishment.
Cheerfulness and smiling is important to have a calm child: A sense of humor helps children to get rid of the feelings of anger and embarrassment. It also spreads happiness in the house and warmth in the heart, in addition to providing children with a feeling of safety that they would miss if their educator was one of those who adhere to the frowning method.
Good Growth:
Studies proved that laughter from the bottom of the heart has a deep influence on the child’s growth during his early years. Based on the results of these studies, psychiatrists confirmed that laughter is as important as food and that the child who laughs much grows well.
Educational Excellence:
Psychiatrists always stress the positive influence of a smile on the educational process. They say that fun creates a psychological environment full of happiness and satisfaction, and this releases the mental abilities to learn easily. That is because joyfulness prepares the mental abilities to expand and grow contrary to the environment of sadness and pessimism that gives a despondent impression about life.
Smiling attaches the child to his parents:
If your smile springs from your heart and expresses true love for and admiration of your child, then it will have a good psychological impact on the child and provide him with happy memories and strong love for his parents, particularly if they use eye contact to convey their true love and appreciation to him.
Parents and educators, this shows us that the more a parent is cheerful, the stronger his relationship with his children will be, and vice versa. Do not forget to smile at your child when he enters upon you… when you leave the house…when he leaves the house…when you receive him upon returning from school…when you enter upon him returning from work…do not forget to smile when you wake him up and let him see your smile before anything else.
When you put him to bed, do not forget to smile at him so that he may have the best dreams ever. Smile when you ask him about his faults so that he can feel safe and tell you the truth. Finally, smile to immunize your children against feelings of fear and sadness, and turn your relationship with them into an uninterrupted and wonderful series of successful communication.
In such a case, they will respond to your instructions and long to meet you. They will never think of doing anything that angers you because they do not want to lose your SWEET SMILE for any reason.