Borrowing that line from a tale we are all familiar with (or are we?) and changing it a little bit.
The lead image was a photo I took in one of my walks in our town where Farmgirl went. Read it here. That is where I usually run most of the time back then. The field is the famous strawberry field where you get to pick fresh strawberries and some other veggies too.
I will not talk about that though. I'm not the one to talk about negativity but I'd like to try.
Let's go back the title.
Awhile ago I was reading news about Jake Davison who killed five people before killing himself. One of the victims was a 3-year-old girl.
According to reports, he is linked to what is called 'incels' or "involuntary celibates."
These are group of single men who loathe and despite women and resents those who are in a relationship.
Some of them may have been NGSB. Some may have been treated badly or humiliated by women in one way or another. Some may have been rejected by women or failed to build relationships. Some may have been brokenhearted. Whatever the reason is, they feel they are not "boyfriend" material so they would rather hate women.
There were mass shootings (at least six in US) related to 'incel.' A man in Canada killed 10 people and injuring others when he rammed a rented van in a busy city district. There were other reports that are related to 'incel.'
This reminded me of what my partner said.
If people will look into a mirror, it will reflect different faces, different kinds of people. If that mirror is a human, it will reflect what kind of person you are and will act that way.
I want to relate that to "we create monsters."
I believe that we are inherently good and kind. The way we treat others will have an effect on people. We, the people, the society, are the ones creating these monsters who keep doing these crimes and violence against others. You may say that it is up to us to not be affected by how others treat us. We should focus more on the positive side of things. How can that be when all we show to others is totally the opposite? Maybe one action is not enough but one action from a lot of people is a different situation.
There are other groups out there that were built on hate it's because of the way people treat them.
Back to 'incels', according to a report, these 'incels' are affected so much by the way they were treated and how sorry they feel not only that but they will soon feel frustration, depression, loneliness that they soon resort to suicide. In chat rooms and forums and channels for 'incels', they are even "encouraged" by others to do so but they "should not be selfish" in that they should kill others first before killing themselves.
On the brighter note of things, there are those who call themselves 'incels' but they are not as extreme as the others. Some say they are not violent and they don't act on their misogyny. There were even those who became 'ex-incels.'
So we really should be more kinder and nicer to others in words and actions. Also, we should guard ourselves from who we spend our time with. We should be with those who would encourage us not to do harm but to help us improve and have better outlook in life and not feed fire to the negativity that we already feel.
I am talking in general and not to just men but we should treat everyone nicely. Do not take people for granted.
Have you heard of 'incels?' What kind of person will you see when you face the mirror?
The is just the tip of the iceberg. There is more about incels and other extremist out there.