Frequently Asked Questions Women Of My Age Have To Endure From Anyone

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If you have been married in your 20s, then congrats coz you'd probably never experienced what most women of my age have experienced. Lucky you coz you have found your one great love early. However, women of my age are kinda unlucky because a lot of us have been bombarded with different annoying questions that sometimes made us feel uncomfortable to answer.

Well, here are a few of the Frequently Asked Questions women my age encounter most of the time:

Are you already married?

If every time someone would ask me this question and I get to earn $20, I'd probably have a lot of money by now. Seriously, it's one of the questions that I get a lot since I turned 25.

"Are you already married? " Sometimes, they would also ask you this in a low-key manner, so instead of asking this question, they'd be like, "Where's your husband?"

Most of the time, I'd just smile and let them know that I am still single (unfortunately!). I don't know about you but in my case, most of these people would have a follow-up question ready like, "How come you're still single when you're really beautiful?"

I wish I was courageous enough to ask them back coz I'd probably be like, "Girl, look at me! Now, look at them (other women)! Can't you spot the difference?"

Sorry, I'm not trying to degrade myself here but let's be honest and realistic, men prefer someone a lot better, and I just belong in the "Thank you, next!" category. I also find this question a bit annoying coz it only reminds me how pathetic my life is. While many of my friends my age are having their 2nd, 3rd, or 4th baby, here I am still wondering if I'd ever get to experience meeting that one person who would truly love me for who I am. *Ouch! Hand me some tissue, please.*

When are you planning to get married?

Now, here's another follow-up question that most of my curious friends and even strangers would ask: "When are you planning to get married?"

I wish I knew when but I, myself, have no idea either. Well, honestly, I don't think I'd ever get to experience this marriage life. I'm not sad, though, coz honestly, I kinda accepted the fact that this is what my life is going to be. So whenever I hear this question from either people I know or people I don't even know, my usual response would be, "Probably in my next life."

How many kids do you have now?

So this article is inspired by my childhood neighbor/bully whom I have never met since I was like 8 or 9 years old. Apparently, he DM'd me for the first time in my entire existence on Facebook just to ask for my brother's FB account.

In the middle of our conversation, he suddenly asked me how many kids I have now. He didn't even ask if I was married or in a relationship. I bet he just assumed that I was in a relationship or something and based his question on my age. Anyway, I didn't answer his question yet, and instead, I made a noise post about it. LOL.

I'm going to answer him later though, and my response would be: "No kids yet. I'm gonna have to flirt first." I wonder what his reaction would be like though. LOL.

Are you really that picky?

Yes, I am. Not picky based on the looks though; however, I'm picky in the sense that I won't go for any random guy just for the sake of having someone in my life. If I'd ever get into a relationship, it would be because my heart and mind approve of him.

Why not settle for a white dude?

My aunt would always tell me to date a white guy. Maybe she thinks a white dude would give me a brighter future and cute kids. That's possible but the question is, will the guy likes me too?

Well, to be honest, I really don't mind. In fact, my crush is actually a white dude. Unfortunately, he's taken so there's no way we'd end up together. I guess even if he's not, the chance of us meeting for the first time is still so slim. Plus, it would definitely cost a fortune.

If you'd ask me why I didn't give that Greenlander guy a chance, the truth is I only see him as a friend. Yes, we've been friends for more or less a decade, but there was no spark between us. There was nothing at all. Well, if there's one that I feel comfortable with and someone I can truly trust, then why not.

Closing thoughts

For someone like me who'd been asked these questions million times, I kinda feel annoyed hearing these over and over again, especially when they make you feel like you have missed 90% of your life. I guess I'm just overreacting, but this is just how I feel though.

Anyway, for those who can relate, feel free to share your most annoying questions that are still not mentioned here. I bet you have your own list too.


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Satin lang naman talaga maraming tanong, kala mo naman mag ambag sila pang gastos pag nag.asawa tayo or pambili diaper kung magka anak na sa dami nang tanong haha.

Anyway, it's been a month have you given up on your read account?

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2 years ago

Darating din yung tamang tao na yun te sa di mo inaasahang pagkakataon. 😉

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2 years ago

I believe that your country's culture have the thought of the "circle of life". It is "only normal" to get married and have kids. Or "born to find a partner". Maybe it is from the teachings from the Bible where it is stated to "be fruitful and multiply"; unfortunately I have found many have skewed the "commandment" and take it out of context (putting God outside the repopulation plan) and ended up many broken marriages etc. Filipinos in Malaysia when see single women even in their 40s, they snub the single lady with, "why are you not married?" and even give the suggestion of "just go find a dude and make babies". Which is kind of rude, but I think this is because the women who commented this already have the mindset that they "must depend on someone to live", however this will never come into our (young) thoughts that we will "eventually need a companion to care for one another" when we come to an age that we "become a dependent". However those who decided to remain single must take into considerations of "future survival" when the hair is grey, the muscles are weaker, and body is sore; while the married also have their considerations as well looking at the falling apart world.

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2 years ago

I'm turning 22 this year pero nagstart ako makatanggap ng questions like that about marriage after I turned 20. 🤣 maybe kasi yung mga mosang is, Tingin nila saken kaladkarin may mga friends din kasi ako na lalaki nung shs. Kung ano ano na mga kumakalat na issue kahit wala namang katotohanan. Sometimes, napapaisip ako kung bakit nila ako nirurush na mag asawa or anak agad agad then I realized nalang na yung mga anak nila nag asawa ng maaga.

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2 years ago

Ngek ako gani ate kay 22 palang pero daghan na nangutana about anang minyo², excited kaayo sila hahaha. Mas nindot jud nga into relationship because gusto nato ug dili lang char² ug sabay sa uso.

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2 years ago

Grabe naman, why people keep on asking about when are you getting married?

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2 years ago

I'm just 22 but I was often told to marry some white guy to lift my status much faster. As if it was that easy, no it's not and white dudes aren't my type.

Anyway, I think just be more patient po. 25 pa lang naman, di pa nga lumagpas sa calendar days. Oks pa yan, bata pa yan. Yung mga matatanda nga diyan nakakapag-asawa pa ulit, ikaw pa kaya na ang bata mo pa. Kapag may nagtanong ulit, wag na lang masyado pansinin para iwas high blood pressure.

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2 years ago

I can relate to that question too when I was still single. I get married at the age 27 and my husband is my first boyfriend. Hmmm hopefully someone will find you and you can feel the spark. Yes, tama ka why settle to a person when your heart and mind disapproves. Okay yung buo ang decision para wala ng atrasan at wala ng sisihan.

Never mind about them sis. Being single have a lot of advantages too.

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2 years ago

I'm never a fan of those who pressure others and are into other people's business. If they used that same energy to focus on their lives I guess they would do something productive. I don't like how the society act insensitive and keeps asking people questions they are not ready to answer...they don't even know the state of mind of those people. I see it all around here too and it's never cool, really.

No pressure...take as much time as you can. It's worth waiting for. I tell people, they don't mark attendance for those who do it early or later 🤣🤣😂

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2 years ago

My friend, everything happens when it is supposed to happen as it is supposed to happen. And I agree with you that sometimes women are pressured into thinking they have to live according to a particular clock. So we may sometimes think we must be married by this time or we must have kids and have them by this time. The thing is though, I have friends who don't want to get married and who do not want to have kids and they're happy. So, my friend, enjoy your life and do not feel pressured to live according to anyone else's expectations. The only thing you should do is be happy every single day.

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2 years ago

I won't say i can relate because I'm not yet of that age bracket, but I understand how you feel cause I move with people way older than me and I get to hear their side of story and frustration, its understand, don't let it shake you.. Well.. I think i have seen your picture once.. Not too sure.. Maybe on the discord channel, but you are beautiful.

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2 years ago

It's weird that I'm not even yet 25 and I'm already getting talks about marriage this soon. People should just try and keep their nosyness to themselves.

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2 years ago

Seriously some of these questions are so common worldwide. Like how come you are not married or not having a boyfriend. Must be so boring for girls. Anyway you will get married to the right one one day I am sure. Just promise me something remember this comment as you are signing your marriage certificate.

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2 years ago

If you've asked someone a first question of 'Are you already married?' (which is none of your business, and they say NO. Why'd you continue asking more questions about why and how? People really need to start minding their business.

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2 years ago

I think it is because they want to keep the conversation going. Some of the boys don't even know how to start with a good pick up line.

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2 years ago

That's lame. There a a billion other things to talk about if you want to keep the conversation going.

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2 years ago

Yes they have to find more entertaining and engaging topics to talk about.

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2 years ago

I always think it is so weird that people you hardly know asky you these super private questions!

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2 years ago

These questions are often asked by every woman who is still unmarried. But we should either ignore them or responded them in cute way they never try to ask again. In my example, when I broken in love first time so I shall not do an experiment again as I am happy from my present life. I think we women should be strong to select a man for us. What you think about it sister?.

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2 years ago

People really need to stop asking insensitive questions, it's not okay and I'm sorry you had to go through that

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2 years ago

I am 24 and I get asked these questions all the time, it is so annoying and sometimes my response show it.

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2 years ago

Is it a crime to be single? At least, it is my choice whether to get married or not. People should just learn to mind their own business and stop making life difficult for our singles.

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2 years ago

I am married they always ask me about my profession? This annoys me, I feel they have to ask me," are you happy with your life?"

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