Am I a cheater?

That's my main reason jud Dae nganong wa na nako siya pahibaw a ky magsalig unya abusado. My nalang Gani ky nakamatikod ko Daan nga ing Ana siya. Lisud na di ko maabusaran ang kamaayo sa akong ex.

Oi you are back. I know you have read the article about anang ako ex. He is one of a kind jud. Buotan ug generous.

lage. sayang lang ba naay nahitabo niya. pero maayo nuon ok na sya.

Tama sis akala ko pag my asawa na ako gagaan at giginhawa na buhay ko pero kabaliktaran ang nangyari Mas lalong nagiging stress at magulo ang buhay ko. Yes my asawa ako pero hanggang Jan Lang kasi parang wala din naman. Thank you sis

Take your time sir..

You had the early tale signs of what his intentions were when you told him. Some may argue you have to tell your partner everything. I don't necessarily believe that on all matters. I would do the same thing if I was in your situation. For the longest time we only had a joint checking account it drove me crazy. What's this? why you buy that? Bluh bluh. I'm the bread maker like you. My wife makes up very little of our income. She gets a monthly disability check which is small. Anyways I broke off and got my own checking account and got another job. Took a lot of criticism from her for that. Rarely do I use the joint account which is where the majority of the income is. Even in a marriage you need some privacy. Especially when it comes to sources of income. It's been less stressful since I had my own account. Cheating no, wanting to do what you want to with your income should be our choice. Of course tons goes to supporting family needs. In your case the donor asked you to use it for a certain cause and you should do that. I gave you your answer. Do you think I'm wrong for getting my own seperate account?

Well I think you got my point sir. It's being practical as I am the bread winner and he doesn't have a regular job. He's supposed to be the one to work and provide for our family. Anyway you did a right decision on getting your own separate account. Just like you have said even in marriage you still need privacy and agree to that coz since I got married I learn not to tell my husband all the money that I have coz before when he knows everything that I have he spent a lot and not thinking of what we will spend for the next days or weeks. My salary is always not enough for our every needs and I never bother to tell him coz he can't help anyway. I just find my own ways to earn from my side hustles.

Not providing, no control, no idea what is needed not a good combination. I hope he is trying hard looking for a way to better provide for his family.

There's not many people who touch me with article that hits home with me. You have done this twice within a few days. All I can say is more to come for you!!

He tried but no permanent job still not good. I don't know if ever he will be the one to work, I am not sure if he can provide all we need since he has vices, especially smoking.

Thank you so much, sir. I am not expecting people to understand my situation hence I am amazed at how other writers understand my point. I am thankful that I can share my thoughts about my personal agenda and gain some ideas and suggestions from other writers. Thank you so much sir for always taking the time to read my articles and also for sharing your blessings not only with me but also with other writers.

Your welcome. Not going to lie I understand because I'm much in a very similar situation. Everytime I learn more about your situation you add something that is the same for me. I'd be all for talking with you at some point via DM.

Oh I see. well if you wish to talk via DM you can tell me where I can contact you,it is somehow okay to talk to someone who has a the same situation

Oh noise.app is fine. Maybe sometime in the next day or so. Thank you :)

okay .just dm me in noise.app sir.

Okay

Naalagaan si daughter ni Who sis?ni ex ba? Si Canadian ex di niya anak si daughter itinuring lang niyang anak ito simula nung ngkakilala kami.Si hubby walang job .Minsan lang meron so walang regular work,,,ako lahat bahala sa expenses sa bahay

Ni Canadian? Attached sa bata ano. Malalaki na siguro anak nya dati?

mga 6 years pa si daughter nung ngkakilala kami ni Canadian pero we meet 3 years after kaming nagkakilala.nasa article ko sis kung bakit it takes 3 years bago kami ngkita and nung nagkita kami eh wala na kaming relationship kasi na amnesia si Canadian nung LDR pa kami at nakalimutan niya ako ang tanging naalala niya yung name ng daughter ko at yung bday ng Nanay ko.Basta mahabang kwento sis .For him he owe me something kasi if di siya nakidnap at nagka amnesia siguro masaya kami at tuloy yung plan namin pero everything was change after siyang makidnap.Di man niya mafeel na love niya ako pero he still care for me and for my daughter..

Awwww 😭 tragic pero nangyari ano? Grabe may ganyan tlagang kwento. Yong halos magtampo ka na wala kang balita yon pala may nangyari na. Mabuti natandaan ka na ngayon?

we just make new memories sis nung kami pa.I just told him kung ano past namin

siguro white lies akong gbuhat for the sake ra pud sa akong anak and for the sake nga dili maaubsaran ang kabuotan ni ex

I dis agree. di li man na bakak kung dili ka mu deny and since wala sya nangutana, and wlaa ka nisulti niya it will remain nothing. kuan lang, wala lang ka nag saba sa iya kay wala sya nangutana (kung nihatag ba "utro" ug kwarta )

got your point sis.

hah aI'm glad youo do kay di dko ka explain .

kana ako pares sis bisan pa siguro ug nakamatikod na nah siya he will not ask me syempre kahibaw siya unsa my iyang gkatampo sa pag skwela sa akong anak nga wala man..

As I've written above hubby already knows that I am communicating with my ex it's not a secret and he also knows that ex send me money for my daughter before but then hubby was expecting me to buy a new phone from the money that is intended for my daughter.

wala pong flirting kasi alam naman namin na we are communicating for the sake of my daughter.and tama po he cares for me and especially for my daughter kasi iniisip niya ung future ng anak ko.gets na gets mo talaga ang point ko sis.tama lang kasi na itago ko sa kanya kasi ayaw kong abusuhin ni hubby yung kabaitan ni ex.

It's fine po ma'am I understand you po. I can see that your ex is a good man po.

Daming back story about sa amin ni ex kasi siya sumalba sa akin nung walang wala ako at binigyan niya akong ng 50k pampuhunan para my own business din ako dati.

dati alam naman niya sis pero after nung sinabi niya na papabili siya ng new phone galing sa pera ni Ex na intented naman for my daughter dun ko napag isip na aabusuhin niya ang kabaitan ni ex at ayaw ko yung mangyari dahil laking pasalamat ko nga dahil my care pa rin si ex sa anak ko eh

Kya nga sis wag mo ng sabhn abusuhin naman at bka mmya utusan ka pa na humingi

yun ang kinakatakot sis baka nag okay lang siya na magcomu kami ni ex para maka benefits din siya..

sis kahibaw naman daan si hubby nga tg comu mi ni Ex.tgbasa2x pa gani niya among convo.kahibaw sad siya before nga tg padala ug money si ex pero not this time kay lagi nakabantay nako nga murag mag abusar siya ug makahibaw siya nga until now tg support ghapun si ex sa akong anak,imagine giingnan ko niya before bag ong cellphone ra daw iyaha if magpadala si ex hoy diosko di ko ganahan nga abusaran niya ang kabuotan sa akong ex,kana akong bana sis muangay na ug libre,mao bitaw siguro niokay siya nako before ky mas ako may mugasto b4. and even if makahibaw pa siya and masuko siya unsa my mahimo niya nagpaka amahan ba siya sa akong eldest wala diba,if magkabuwag mi then be it.mao rana akong ghuwat nga magkabuwag mi.

Ay ,sakto rasad sis nga e secreto nimo ,di sad maayo moabusar ta sa usa ka tao.

gani sis,didto nako narealize nga di maayo nga makahibaw siya nga tg padala si ex para ni daughter ky lagi mag abusar si hubby and di ko gusto nga abusaran nako ang kamaayo ni ex ky dili tanang tawo andam ghapun muhatag ug suporta bisan man nga naa nakoy own family

he knows already that ex is sending me money before .As I have stated my reasons I don't want him to rely on the money that my ex is sending

super kabuotan nga tawo sis ug manggiloy on ,kahibaw siya nga ako ry naay income .

For me mas okay na e keep, as I keep reading some of her articles mdjo walang silbi yung asawa nya.. sorry to say kasi lagi nya sinasabi di sya mahal nang asawa nya..at sya lahat sa gastusin.. which is very odd kasi walang regular work. For me lang practikalan na lang tsaka yung ex naman nya walang ibang intention but for her daughters sake lang naman ata.

Natawa ako sa comment mo sis..My article pala ako about my ex sis at yung buong love story namin at kung bakit di naging kami,Basta it's a long story to tell pero walang makakaputol sa communication namin kahit sino pa man yan kasi for me malaki ang utang na loob ko sa taong yan .He is my hero.Basta hirap eexplain. Mahirap talaga intindihin kung bakit we still need to communicate pero alam na alam na ni hubby why I still have to talk to my ex.Ayaw ko lang kasing abusuhin ni hubby ang kabaitan ni Ex.I know kung anong ugali ni Hubby oportunista.