This was an experience for me from a couple of years ago which i remembered once again as I have decided to start walking again.... Most of the Indian people’s brain less narrow than that of animals… Yesterday, I started evening walk again after few months. As I don’t have any park or ground privileges near my house, I had no choice but to walk on the streets and surrounding main road. Two guys on bike followed me through out 30 minutes and once am done, they even came and stood almost near my house gate. I was ignoring them from the start and continued my walk, as my health is more important to me than this shit. However at the end, I thought they would leave after eyeing and cat calling me on the road.
Unfortunately, they seemed more than just bad guys and came straight away to my house following me on their bike. I was walking towards my gate but I couldn’t take it anymore and really wanted to scare the shit out of them and I turned instantly focusing my mobile camera right on their faces. They literally jerked off because of my unexpected reaction and was scared that I might capture them, they started off their bike and left the place in seconds. They often turned back, because I kept focusing them in the cam, they left finally.
The above incident did not move a leaf in me because this is India and come on, these kind of incidents are very common here and this is just ONE OF THE incidents I actually faced through out my life and in fact this is not the worse. However, what made me anger/sad/frustrated/hurt to the power of infinity is that when I discussed this incident with a very close relative, the first question they asked me “what were you wearing??” I was like “what???”… I was wearing a T-shirt and jeggings (both are NOT skin fit) and i told them the same. And the immediate reaction was like “It’s YOUR fault” .. ” you should have wore a shawl around you or a cardigan”. I was like, “What the heck is wrong with my country’s people? What is wrong with their thoughts” … even if I had worn a saree and draped the full clothing around me, even if I would have wore the Muslim’s Hijab, morons will remain morons right?
If a dress makes you horny? then what about your character? When I asked about it to one of my friends in fb and they told me “men are designed in that way” …. oh really??? …..definitely not according to me. I know and talked to many men who literally looks down or away when girl’s dresses are revealing or few of those good men even ask them to adjust it. And I have also know those who eye girls even thought they are dressed up full and would be waiting for a chance to sneak peak.
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In these thoughts, I forgot the actual problem happened to me of “men chasing” … the narrow mindedness of my society is more disturbing to me than the actual issue. Explains me why rape cases are not getting justice. Why would they??? if your relatives themselves pin point you saying “it’s your dress, its your fault” or saying "You were asking for it" ..in the place in which they actually have to support you and back you up until the justice is served.
Excuse me what???? How do girls "Ask" to get raped?? is this a joke?? So according to this logic, If I get dressed up as a chef, can I walk into a restaurant and announce myself as a head chef?? or If I dress up like a judge, can I just walk in a court and sit in the judge's place?? How the heck does a dress explain the character of a woman or a man?? Explains me the situations that many cases are closed before the court hearing in India, way before the girl gets a treatment in hospital and thousands of cases are not even filed in courts... when you have douche-bag mentality in the society, there is no way to get a justice...
People please….. its not a “girl’s fault” … she must have the right to wear whatever she wants (to her safety, I would suggest her to wear decently). That is what real freedom right? I feel sick because there is no guarantee in my country for a girl to return safely once she left her house. I feel sad and my heart breaks for those who suffered harassment/rape/loss of respect and haven’t been given justice for what they have gone through. I myself have gone through sexual harassment 4 times in my life starting from age 6... I might write a post about my experiences later though..
I was really sad and angry yesterday thinking I must kill someone. But whom??? those who followed me?? or those said “your fault??” … whom??? I wish I had an answer. I wish I had a solution…
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Thank you for reading this guys, and for those parents who have girls, teach them martial arts and bravery.. Tell them not to accept defeat, especially in the hands of morons.. and if you have boy kids, teach them it is NOT okay to follow women around and to actually respect their likes and dislikes.. teach them to treat other women how they want their Mom to be treated...teach early... before it is too late..
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Yes, you are very right. I think the same. I am attracted to woman who wear revealing clothes but I respect them as much as any other human being. Nobody likes to be followed and you reacted perfectly, I think. You should wear what you like when you like irrespective of what others might think. Of course, some circumstances need certain dress codes to show respect, like at a funeral, don't wear white and at a marriage, you should make an effort to look good. But otherwise, yeah, just wear what you like.