My Cooking Journey for Today
Today is Tuesday again, June 14, 2022, the second day of the week so it’s another busy day for everyone. So hello guys! How’s your Tuesday everyone?
Today is more special because I was assigned to cook for our lunch. Because we are teaching in a far-flung school where there is no market and food to buy, we are mandatory to buy food in our market before we bound to school. Though this is not my first time cooking, for me it is still special because I’m going to cook the favorite dish of me and my best friends which is usually done by our chef friend, so it’s a challenge for me if I could cook it perfectly as she does.
I woke up the morning at exactly 4:30 in the morning. I need to wake up as early as I can because I know how slow I am to get ready in the morning, knowing that I need to buy all the needed ingredients for my menus for today. But sadly, it took me more than 1 hour to prepare myself, so I had only a few minutes before the arrival of our service, so I need to move fast to buy the things I need.
I finished buying everything as fast as I can. Then we exactly arrived at the school at 8:00 in the morning, it took us almost 2 hours away in travel from town proper to our school.
First I have to finish my class up to 11:00.
11:00 AM
My cooking journey for today has begun…
My menus for today are: Tofu and Pork, Pakbet and Adobong Sitaw
First, I prepare all the ingredients. I started to wash all the meats and vegetables. And then, I started to cut onions and garlic. After that, I cook first our rice. But to be honest, I don’t know how to cook it, not because I don’t want to learn it but because I’m so nervous if I can pour the right amount of water to cook it perfectly. So don’t judge me please, hehe. Our school principal helps me measure the right amount of water needed.
*By the way, my school principal now, my first ever teacher when I was in Kinder. And now, I’m so happy that we finally became co-workers in one school. And now, she became also my, enter now in preparing and assessing myself if I will take the path to be a school principal also or a master teacher. I’m still in the process, I’m only 26, and I still have a lot of rice to eat so basically I will cross the bridge when I get there.*
So now, back to my cooking session,
I prepared everything on the table, and I start first to fried the meat and the tofu. This is not easy; I know everyone can relate, it feels like a battle when you’re frying because of the boiling oil and the fats of the pork. Though is not easy and very challenging, it took me a long time to make it all done. While cooking, I’m praying that I can make the best taste out of it and make my co-teachers want it and agree with the taste.
After that, I cooked the Pakbet that is consists of eggplant, okra, bitter guard, and beans. This is also challenging for me because it’s my first time cooking this, I just followed what my co-worker advise me on how to cook it.
And after that, last but not the least is the sweet adobong sitaw, our all-time favorite. And of course, I’m so happy that the rice was cooked perfectly thank you to my school principal hehe.
And then I prepared the table, and at exactly 12:30 we ate our lunch. At first, I’m so nervous and feeling excited at the same time because I exerted too much effort into cooking, so I’m hoping that they will want it.
So I’m so glad to share with you, that they praised me for a job well done, and I’m so happy that everything is worth it.
The finished product:
So today, aside from cooking, I just also learned about things that make me realize in life:
**Everything can learn if there’s a will.**
Every day of our life is a chance for us to learn. Even if how big or small that thing is, it will be helpful for our growth and development, and I think that’s our everyday goal in life, to learn.
**Appreciate someone’s effort.**
I know this is a small thing for others but being appreciated by others for even the smallest effort is a big thing for me. It makes my heart flutter and makes me happy that someone can appreciate all my efforts, and it’s worth everything about it for me.
**Be proud of your progress.**
Yes, I’m proud. I’m proud of the food I cooked, and I’m so happy that little by little I learn how to cook better and better, especially the rice. And I’m willing to learn more about cooking.
**Final Thoughts:**
**Do not be afraid to try new things and make everything perfect every time you do it. Do not be ashamed to seek help if you need it, it’s better to ask to make it right than to force you to do it and make everything worst.**
That’s all for today, good evening everyone! How’s your day?
What You Don’t See
***Everyone has a different story, that’s the reason why we must never judge anyone.***
Keep in your mind that if we judge someone, we are making opinions behind them without even trying to know enough about them. So if we make prior assumptions, we never get the chance to them about them completely.
Sometimes we need to get through behind to understand a person. Others can easily judge by just looking at them on the outside but the truth is that there is much more behind them that we are entirely unaware of.
**These are the things What You Don’t See:**
**Grief...**
Some people choose to be silent because they do not want to share their loss, especially when they lost a loved one, ended their relationship, or going through personal hardship. They tend to keep these alone because there are motions that they need to suffer and heal alone.
**Anxiety and stress…**
There are times that people hard to admit that they are struggling and pressured for certain reasons that somehow lead to depression.
**Chronic Conditions…**
Some illnesses are not visible. Some people are trying not to speak up about their conditions because they have to or because they feel that they’re all alone.
**So instead of judging people others by only what we see try to:**
**Be kind always**
A simple act of kindness can be appreciated by them especially when they are going through difficult times. It has the potential to make everything happier than ever. It can also boost one’s confidence that encourages everyone to be in a positive living. Kindness leads everyone to positive mental and physical changes that can lower stress levels. So be kind always, and be kind in all ways.
**Check-In**
Make time to know them and how they’re doing and make them feel that you’re listening to them. Checking in with them can make them feel that they support them that they can count on you and can turn to you in times of their needs. You can help them by reaching out to them with words that can lighten up their hearts. Letting them know that you’re there to talk with can make all the difference.
**Think of their Needs**
Make some interactions with them. Respect when they say that they need time to reflect and also the time when they want to share their feelings. Give them time and opportunity to express their feelings and emotions without hesitation and embarrassment. This is because not everyone is the same in taking of grief and suffering, they’re all different. Some ideas and suggestions will not be appropriate, so if you are unsure of how to support them, better to ask them what they need and wants. Just making them know that you care and wish to help them can make them feel great comfort.
**We don’t know anything about their sufferings, or challenges. And even their past life. Always try to know first and understand them instead of criticizing and judging them because people are not always how they seem, there is always more behind them.**
***So instead of judging them, always be kind, check on them and know what they need.***
***Every person has a different story. Don’t read the page that is just opened in of you, there is always something behind them.***
My Motivations!
Good evening everyone? How are you today?
I’m so tired today due to school work and webinars that I need to attend, but here I am trying to make some articles for tonight. Though it’s been so exhausting every day, I just need to be more productive as possible I can because of these reasons:
**My Motivations!**
**No one will pay my bills!**
**No one will make my dream!**
**No one will serve me wealth!**
*So yes, I need to stand up alone. Not just because I want to, but I need to!*
Nowadays, some of us are left with no choice but to hustle hard and early in life. Because some of us have no rich parents, we have no inheritance and have no privilege. We had to shed our blood, our tears, and our sweat to get where we are now and what we are in the future.
But despite all the struggles that I’m into now, I am not ashamed because I don’t have to be sorry for being myself. I do it fearlessly. I gotta spend the rest of my life with me.
**No one will pay my bills...**
I’m an independent woman, and I’m not funded, I do the funding with my wants and needs. As simple as paying my bills matters to me, and it’s so satisfying whenever I got the chance to clear all my bills alone. This is an act of being successful in life for me, as simple as that, as simple as me. I’m not next to luxury, as long as I paid my bills and necessities that all matter to me. I am more for the things I need rather than things that I just want.
**No one will make my dream…**
We are the author of our books; we should be the ones who will write our destinies. No one will ever do that thing for me, if I want to satisfy myself to the ending of my story, I should live the life that I wanted with the help of our Lord. No one will dream for me, no one will do it on my behalf of me. I have to chase my dreams!
**No one will serve me wealth…**
There will be no shortcuts to success. Everything should go along the process, no matter how hard and slow it is, every single step and little progress matters the most. And one of the reasons that motivate me to be financially stable is my parents and my family. Me, as a breadwinner, I need to settle things for them, to make them live comfortably. So no matter how tiring my days could be, as long as I provide them with what they need, as long as they will be happy and satisfied, that’s a real wealth for me.
But everything is not that easy, there are things that I need to sacrifice and let go of for me to move forward. There are usually things that I need to stop doing, and people that I need to let go of for me to push forward. Life is not that easy, that even sometimes are people that will never understand the changes that I need to take, sorry but…
**I’m currently creating the woman I want to be, and I’m sorry that I become selfish with myself, my time, and with my energy.**
**I know that someday everything will gonna make sense!**
**I know that someday as I look back on every cut and scar and all the shattered pieces of my broken heart, I know that these things are the miracles that helped me to survive. All these little things along my journey give me strength and give me faith that I never thought I’d ever have.**
***Someday, I will tell my story of how I overcome what I went through, and I know that someday it will be someone’s else survival guide!***
**How about? What motivates you to keep going?**
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Why do you need to be in the right circle?
Having friends is very important in our lives, not just because they bring happiness into your lives but because friends can enrich=h our lives in some many ways. They teach us about ourselves and challenge us more to be better. They are the ones who will encourage us to keep going to overcome all of our struggles and they are the ones who will celebrate our success. We can lean on them when we need a shoulder to cry on and give positive incomes to our mental and emotional health. This is why we need to be in the right circle of friends because not all friends are good for us and not all are true to us.
We thought sometimes having many friends is all worth with our trust, love, and care. It is all about being in the right circle that all matters. It is not all about the number of friends that you have, but it’s all about how much growth you had with them, the ones that made you the best version of yourself.
Here are the some of the reasons why we need to be in the right circle:
**1. Strong-willed friends can greatly help you to increase your self-control.**
Temptations are everywhere, so if you surrounding yourself with friends who possess a high degree of self-disciple can help you to resist some struggles when it comes to temptations. Having discipline is much more important to boost any of your willpower. A true circle of friends can motivate you to do and maintain healthy habits.
**2. Having the right circle will increase the likelihood that you’ll take financial risks.**
Some people lack adequate social interaction they are more likely to take bigger risks when it comes to money. We should be more aware of our emotions that can affect our spending habits. These uncomfortable emotions can lead you to take chances more recklessly that are not wise for your financial future.
**3. Right Circle of friends encourages healthy behaviors.**
When you are in the right circle, it can decrease feelings of loneliness. One of the health benefits of having a true circle of friends can also make lifestyle changes that have a direct impact on your well-being. They help us to set up and maintain goals; they can also be the one who will watch for us that gives heads up when we are having unhealthy behaviors.
**4. They are the ones who will give emotional support.**
Having the right circle of friends, aside from having good mental health support, can also be the one who can give support toward any emotions that we have. Some studies say that depressed people were twice as likely to recover if they are in the right circle of friends that are filled with joy and happiness, moments. They can also be the ones who will help you to the beat of all the stressful events in your lives. They are the ones we can count on that can help to reduce stress whenever we spend time with them.
5**. A true circle of friends helps build your confidence.**
We have all our self-doubts and insecurities but having friends who will support us plays a big role in building the self-esteem that helps us to appreciate and love ourselves even more. They have a great effect on having the best confidence that we can ever have in ourselves. They are the ones who give a positive influence. Having these kinds of people have the power to mold us into the best version of ourselves. They love and see you who you truly are. Pushing you to the person you want to be, your ideal self of yours.
These are just some of the great positive effects when you are in the right circle of friends. It is not about how many friends you have, but the most important thing is to have the true and right circle of friends that will give a positive outlook towards yourself.
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**Final Thoughts**:
**Be with the right circle of friends, which will give you the reason to live not just for the better but for the best. Do not waste your time to be with people who just call you a friend but have no good intentions to see you succeed in life. Don’t waste your time on those people that will harm you and drag you down, be with someone who will lift you no matter how bad the days for you to get up.**
***How about you? Are you in the right circle of friends? I hope you are…***
Be firm about your choices!
**Be firm about your choices!**
*Hey friends, how are you today?*
*Have you ever been in a situation where you feel like you it’s so hard to put yourself first over everything?*
*And a feeling where it is so hard to make decisions and choose situations for your good?*
*So, here is my article to remind you that….*
**You must close the window that hurts you no matter what and how beautiful the view is.**
You should be firm about your choices. You should not go back to situations and habits that are not good for you and not helping you to evolve. You must remind yourself why you have decided to look and move forward. You should be positive to come by being consistent with your changes, and with your choices now.
It can indeed be so hard to put yourself first over everything. To make and do decisions that are right for your own sake. It’s so hard to meet your own needs and listen to your own heart. It’s so difficult when you have put others' needs before your own. It’s so hard when you tiptoed someone else’s feelings. It is so hard to have this kind of feeling without even asking ourselves:
*What do I want, what do I need and How do I feel?*
**Make decisions to do so to finally start living life for yourself…**
Stand up and speak up for your worth and integrity when times you are not being respected or being valued. Because there are times that people tend to disregard your words if that time comes never hesitate to use your power to walk away.
**Value your time, value your energy…**
You must do your best to let go of what others are doing and saying. You should know that we don’t have control over their intentions, plans, and what they are going to do. But we have control over our thoughts and our well-being. So if someone and something doesn’t feel and give any good, do your best to let go and just focus on the things or someone that are good for you and your life.
If you want to be emotionally free if you want to have peace in mind and your heart, you should lean into the feelings that you don’t want to feel when they arise. You should allow your difficult feelings to exist without hesitations, shame, or judgments, because for sure, everything will pass, and everything will heal in time. The feelings you resist will surely persist.
You should never stop everything from happening. Sometimes, you’re supposed to be vulnerable in front of everybody. These are all necessary because it’s all part of you getting to the next part of yourself, you’re getting into a place where you should be and you deserve to have.
***You should learn how to love the sound of your own feet while walking away from things that are not meant for you. You deserve all the goodness in this world, you are worthy, and everything about you matters.***
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Just remember 5 years ago...
**Just remember that 5 years ago, you dreamed about where are you now…**
These past few weeks, it’s been so tough for me and the rest of all the teachers due to tons of paper works that keep coming back and forth. Plus the activities, seminars, meetings, and webinars that keep rushing every week and add the personal agendas and tasks that I need to finish every day.
So these past few days I feel so stressed and exhausted about everything, and there comes a time that I lost interest in everything that I do. I feel demotivated that I cannot even think to rest and sleep just to cope with the things that I need to finish and submit on time.
So my days are filled with rants after rants, complaints after complaints and so being productive in a day is very difficult for me. Breakdowns after breakdowns and the worst are that I’m thinking about giving up.
Then one night, as I’m crying in silence, and a glimpse, I saw my graduation picture with my parents…
**And then God talks to me in silence and makes me realize that…**
5 years ago, I dreamed of where I am now.
A look back at the time I saw myself when I’m still studying. I remember all the sleepless nights, sweats, and silent cries that I gave just to graduate and get the diploma that my parents want.
As I look back, I remember my parent’s struggles and sacrifices just to sustain and surpass my needs in studying. I remember all the hard works that they offered just to give me everything that I need in my studies.
As I look back, I remember the days when I cried hard to God just to pass all my exams from LET until I entered as a public school teacher.
And now, it’s my 4th year teaching in a public school, it’s not easy to get in here, reminiscing all the things that I need to comply with just to reach the points to be qualified is not that easy.
So I, therefore, realize those 5 years ago, that I dreamed about this. Sometimes it’s not the work/job that is the problem, it’s me, myself. Instead of finding solutions and finding ways to make my work and tasks to be done, I find myself ranting and complaining before everything. Instead of managing my time to begin and finish everything, I choose to cry and overthink so hard how to finish everything in easy ways.
So after I cried so hard, I reflect on myself what I need to do and what I should not do to finish my tasks on time. I need to be disciplined enough to manage all my time in doing everything. I need also to be consistent in doing what I need to do and reach my goals.
**Final Thought:**
**So for everyone who is also struggling with this kind of situation, cheer up, we got this so far just to give up easily. Whenever we feel demotivated, let’s just remember the years that we are dreaming about what we have and where we are now. Remember all the reasons why you push yourself to get in here. Remind yourself that everything will pass, and all these challenges can be our room for improvement and success.**
**We got through everything 5 years ago, so let’s do it for the next more 5 years!**
**How about you? What are your dreams 5 years ago?**
The thing that I struggle with the most...
**The thing that I struggle with the most is CONFIDENCE.**
There’s a feeling inside of me that I’m still unsure of my future. I have so many doubts about the things that I can do. The world seems too big and there are times I feel like I don’t exist. I’m doubting myself and thinking that I’m going nowhere, that I cannot make it and it feels like I already failed.
There are times when people tell me that t they believe in me, and I get scared. It’s not because I don’t appreciate them and I don’t believe in myself also, but because they never see me at my lowest point. I keep all my failures. Not everything that they see is true, I always tend to say that I’m okay to shower out all of my frustrations over everything that is not going right. So, what if I fail them?
How I wish to be brave enough to tell people that their expectations drown me. That they put more weight on my shoulders and even give me a reason to doubt myself, that they make me scared of failing.
How I wish that I could tell them what I need are the silent cheers. The tap on the back, a prayer that gives me strength and the assurance that whatever happens and whatever it takes to all my battles in life they will end up crying on my way home, feeling their arms wrapping up to my shoulders and still be waiting to celebrate with me.
**But then I realized…**
*That feeling of being scared that struggles me the most is somehow a beautiful thing to experience. That there are stages in my life that feel challenging, this could be a reason that we push ourselves to exceed what I have already accomplished and achieved. So if confidence is a problem nowadays, then that’s then it makes me strive and push forward.*
*I should not let the expectations and opinions of other people affect me with all my decisions in life. It’s my life after all, not theirs. I should do what matters to me the most I should not let the expectations and ideas of others limit who I am. Because if I let them tell me what the things I should do and limit myself to do so because of their expectations, I’m living their reality not mine.*
**There is more to life than pleasing other people. There is more to life than following others’ prescribed paths. There is more about life than we can experience. You need to decide who you are not for other people but for yourself.**
**Be confident enough about yourself, you made this so far!**
**How about you? is there something that scares you the most?**
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The Last Message I'll Send
To send a message and relay a message is very important in our lives. It is all about communication. It is where we build trust and helps our audience to understand the message and what action we want them to take. Sending and relaying a message to someone is very necessary to point views, and ideas and to express your thoughts and feelings towards anyone or something important.
Communication is very essential to make things clear and to make clarifications. It avoids and takes us away from a misunderstanding that sometimes causes fights and problems with one another.
Yes, I do love sending messages to express my feelings, thoughts, and point of view to someone and to something. I really love sending messages, because I’m very outspoken with my feelings. Expressing myself is very important because this is the only way how to help myself to be acknowledged by someone I care for or love about. And nowadays, sending messages is very convenient with the use of technologies in which sending a message is less hassle and very easy. I do send or relay a message with the use of emails, messenger apps, and text messages.
*If I have only 5 minutes left to send a message, I will send it to our newly elected president of the Philippines which is BongBong Marcos Jr. I’m not against some of the candidates for the presidency, but I respect the decision and the choice of the majority.*
So if I have given the chance to send him or relay him a message, I would rather say:
*Congratulations on being chosen as the New President of the Philippines. As they chose you, please be reminded that God choose you first, so you must remember that everything you have right now was by God’s grace. So please be a follower of God, obey as He is the King of all kings, and the ruler of everything.*
***Take care of our beloved Philippines; take care of your fellowmen.***
*Despite all the things and unnecessary words, they throw at you and because of your father, prove to them that they’re all wrong. May all the bad things that happen in history will never haunt your people again, this is not to repeat all the mistakes from the past, but to make all things from history right. May your love for the people and for the country will always be in your heart and make them believe that you deserve it and you are worth everything in the end.*
***Focus and be firm with your goals, and let the Filipinos feel that the Philippines is worth living for.***
*As you fight for the Filipinos, and as you stand for the Philippines, please focus and be firm with your goals. Goals that are beneficial for everyone, goals that make our country better, and goals that make everyone believe that you are deserving of the position.*
*Be a loving and caring father to the Filipinos whom they can lean on during difficulties and where they can freely express their thoughts and feelings without any hesitations. Be a model on which Filipinos can reflect and look forward to being better citizens. Not just a loving and caring father, but also an agent of change, a change not just for the better but for the best that everyone will be proud of.*
*God bless you, Mr. President! May God bless all the things that you planned for the Filipinos, and may God shower you with love and enlightenment to see what’s best for our country. Pray hard that God gives you stronger physically and mentally to open up your mind to see the things that our country really needs. Pray hard that may God will guide you and prosper you with skills and capabilities to surpass and sustain the needs of your fellowmen.*
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Though I have a lot of people in my mind to whom I want to send or relay a message, he is the first person that comes into my mind when I read about the topic. He will face now very huge responsibilities where there are still people who are against him and a lot of people that look forward to his capabilities. So I choose him, and I will never regret sending him my last message because I know he will be the person that will God use to protect His children, and He will be God’s way to help and make this country succeed.
About my messages for the president, please also be reminded that all things will be possible for him if we, his fellowmen are good stewards and good citizens of our beloved country. May we all respect, help and support all of his mission, vision, and goals for our country. This may be hard, but with God and the unity that we have, we will win over the hardships and challenges that will come.
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Sending or relaying a message to someone is definitely important, not just to give recommendations, and reminders and make some clarifications but also to give some advice. This also serves as encouragement for the people who are in need of words of inspiration that will boost their strength to face and overcome all the things that they are facing.
May we send or relay a message with positivity that builds someone’s confidence that will help them a better person. May we not be empowered with negativity that can destroy someone’s reputation and make them miserable through your messages.
**Before it’s too late, feel free to relay or send a message to someone you know that needs them. It’s better to speak up for your thoughts and express what you feel so that these people have ideas about what they need to do for you and for themselves.**
**This is also to avoid regrets in the end, regrets for not saying the words, and regrets for not letting them know. So, go, and make them know everything that is inside you before it’s too late.**
***How about you? If you only have 5 minutes left to send a message, who will you send it to? And why?***
God doesn't waste a pain!
It melts my heart and it makes me inspire whenever I see people who end up winning in their lives despite all the difficulties that life throws them. For those people who are standing still to fight for their goals and dreams despite all the failures and pain that tumbles them.
*These people, the living testimonies that God doesn’t waste a pain!*
It takes a heartbreak to shake everything to us and keep us awake that helps us to see that we are worth so much more than what we are settling for. Along our journey, there will be full of in-between times when we feel lost confused, and empty. It seems like everything is falling apart.
But you must continue to walk in your journey, to walk in your life with full of confidence in your heart, and never stop believing that life is not always about living in flawless moments. Everyone and everything can fail anytime and in anywhere, but you can gain and win in all the lessons that you can get along the process. You need to suffer from emptiness to experience the greatness and the fullness of our God.
There will always be a reason for everything. It may be unfavorable and unpleasant moments that you ever experience, but never hold yourself back in time, but as you look into the process and see how life unfolds, you will end up realizing that there will always be a reason behind every situation and find where you should be, a place where to grow and evolve.
Breaking was indeed the most painful journey, we must turn the page where healing will rise no matter how long it will be. You need to stand still for your comeback, for your new you and it will never be easy, but be strong and believe that everything will be worth it in the end!
Living in survival, and there will always be something and someone who will break us. Some failures weaken our hope and expectations that broke our hearts that tear us down. But always keep in your mind that there is always someone who will catch us and we will recover.
**When God shakes everything, He is up to something!**
God sometimes uses the most hurtful and hopeless situation just to show His love and faithfulness to you. So always remember that in your pain, God is doing something that changes you for the better. You may not understand all the reason now, but trust Him, and obey His will.
**Something may break you, but it will never be enough to end you.**
God will never allow anything useless, it has a purpose, and He doesn’t waste pain!
Find some ways to Unwind!
*Hello there friends! The past few weeks have been so tough and so busy because of paper works and schoolwork, that’s also the reason why it’s been a while since I wrote my articles here, and now, it's so nice to be back.*
We are working for our daily survival and to surpass the needs of our family or loved ones. We are working for us to give financial support to those people who depend on us and to those who need us. We give our full effort, time, and energy to work and hustle every day.
But there is a time in our life that we feel, tired and suffocated which makes us demotivated to work and somehow leads us to stress and worst depression, that we feel unhappy and exhausted. So there are times that need to unwind, and free ourselves for a while or even just a bit of time!
Last Saturday, May 21, 2022. We the Buhawen teaching force conducted our team building in Baguio City. But before that, there are stopovers in such places that amazed us with the beauty of each scenery that added highlights to our agenda.
Here are some of the places that surprised us that helped to release the stress that we have due to our work environment.
The first stop is in Banaue, Ifugao where we can find the beautiful rice terraces here in the Philippines. This is located in the mountains of North Luzon, which were created more than 2,000 years ago by the Ifugao people. The UNESCO World Heritage site considered this as the *“living cultural landscape of unparalleled beauty”.*
The second is in Hanging Coffins of Sagada. The people of Sagada follow a unique burial ritual. The elderly carve their coffins out of hollowed logs. They’ve been practicing this kind of burial for 2000 years. Their reason why the coffins were hung was that they believe that the higher the dead were placed, the greater chance of their spirits reaching a higher nature in the afterlife.
Lastly in Baguio City, Baguio is also called the “City of Pines”. Baguio is so popular in summer due to unusually cooler weather which is the reason why it is also called the “Summer Capital of the Philippines”. This place is known because of its amazing and breathtaking beauty sceneries.
**Nowadays, it is very important to find some time to unwind and relax. This keeps our heart healthier, cuts the stress, and reduces muscle tension. This also improves brain function and avoid us to depression. This is also a great help to clear negative thoughts. It helps us to have a calmer and clearer mind that leads to positive thinking, concentration, and decision-making.**
**It is very important to find ways how we can unwind or relax. And going to beautiful places like these can help us forget the burden of our work environment. Somewhere we can go to slow down, reflect, and engage in enjoyable activities.**
***So once in a while, we need to relax and unwind!***
Why consistency is very important?
Consistency is about acting or being done in the same way over time. It is all about unchanging in nature, standard and effect over time. A person is consistent in someone who is consistent always behaves in the same way, has the same attitudes towards people or things, or achieves the same level of success in something.
Consistency for me is all about dedicating yourself to the goals and staying focused on something or someone to achieve his or her goals. It may be hard to let go of old habits, but if we want to improve things and in order for us to achieve personal growth, we must be consistent in everything that we do. So practicing consistency instills discipline and makes us focus and more aware of what we have to do.
Consistency allows you to build the momentum you need to achieve your goals. Without consistency in our lives, you’ll keep running and the worst is having no results and no improvements at all.
There are a lot of aspects in which we should be consistent every time.
Here are some:
• **Consistency at work:** Consistency at work definitely leads to higher productivity. You can finish more tasks and responsibilities throughout the day. Because of productivity, the management will look up to you and trust you to contribute to a higher number of projects and of course to higher promotion.
• **Consistency in communication**: Communication is very important and being consistent is all about building trust with people by being cohesive over time and across touchpoints. Definitely a lack of consistency can be greatly detrimental to communication and can leave people feeling confused and frustrated.
• **Consistency in relationships**: When a person is consistent in a relationship and with your behaviors toward anyone, you can evoke a sense of trustworthiness. Consistency is about the combination of behaviors that include dependability, trust, and a pure desire that forms a serious relationship.
• **Consistency in achieving goals**: Being consistent is massively important because it makes you focus on the things that you really want. You need to focus on a goal and work hard towards it to utilize the power of intention. Being focused and consistent on your goals can give you better results, and of course, you need to do something in order to be great at it.
Living in this world has its ups and downs. It feels like living on a roller coaster ride. Though change is constant in this world, we still ways looking for ways to be consistent. It is true that being consistent is very hard, especially nowadays, but here are some consistent habits that help to develop and improve our consistency.
**• We need to be realistic in our goals**
First, we should know what we need to do. We need to set goals that have objective results. Always remember to come up with smaller steps at first to follow in order for us to reach our goal.
**• Set schedule**
Stick to a schedule. We should know what to do every day. So it’s very necessary to set a schedule for ourselves. Set a planner, or list of reminders or etc. that will help us stay on track. In this way, we can figure out the commitments that we need to do and the things that we don’t have time for.
**• Increase your willpower**
Increasing your willpower takes time, and being consistent is the key to that. You should be reminded of the long-term benefits of being consistent everywhere. You should have a source of inspiration that keeps you motivated to reach your goals.
***Consistency is power, so if we like to achieve our goals and maintain a good relationship with anyone and with anything, we need to be consistent in the effort we put forth. Though it is very difficult to be the best in our everyday life, at least we should not be tired of trying.***
***Being consistent is also about making promises to yourself, if you promise to do something make sure that you can actually do that, you need to be reminded always of the reasons why you started everything. Never ever disappoint yourself, be consistent!***
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My best buddy in traveling!
**Have you ever experienced having a best friend, not a person but a thing?**
*If you’ll ask me, yes I do! I have my earphones!*
I am a college student when I started to use earphones. My school is one and half hours away from our town, I have time to use earphones along the way. So since then, I’m using earphones whenever I’m on the road regardless of how far or near the place that I will go.
So yes, it’s more than heartbreak for me when my earphone is not with me when I’m traveling. The feeling of sadness is running in my mind through my veins without the music in my ears.
And there are some realizations why I preferred to use earphones when I’m traveling…
**Earphones connect me to good music…**
I don’t have any genre when it comes to music, as long as it contains good lyrics and a nice beat that really makes my mood. There is a song that really connects with my feelings and thoughts every day. When I feel happy, joyful songs can really make my mood happier and have really good vibes to start my day at work. And when I feel sad and blue, there are songs that really make my heart feel warm and comfortable that make me overcome the day.
**Earphones connect me to nature…**
I am teaching in a far-flung school, located in the mountain of San Marcelino, Zambales where signal and internet connectivity are unavailable. And our way to my workplace is covered with calmness and beautiful sceneries that really make everyone amazed and wonder about the beauty of nature. So earphones with good music really connect me with nature and make me feel stress-free and relaxed.
**Earphones avoid me to absorb gossip with toxicity and stress…**
Gossips are everywhere, “waitresses” I should say. We are surrounded by these kinds of people everywhere at any time. So instead of hearing and absorbing rants, complaints, and unnecessary gossip about other’s people lives, earphones take me away from this kind of toxicity that can really make my day worst. It’s more makes sense if everyone hears good music with positive thoughts that inspire us than hearing some gossip that can affect human behaviors.
**Earphones take me away from all noise and bring me peace…**
Instead of hearing some unpleasant noise in my ears, an earphone brings me good music that really gives peace to my mind and to my heart. And it really makes me uneasy about the thing that bothers me. A makes me feel at ease with things that worry me. This really makes my heart calm and at peace.
**I can really say that earphones really my best friend and the best buddy in traveling and for the days that I really want to be alone. And it can really ruin my mood whenever this thing is not with me.**
***How about you guys? Do you have something that became your best buddy at all times?***
Just Breath!
Never forget that once upon a time when you were just a little kid you have full of big dreams and you promised that you’d make it all real one day. You know that life will always give you reasons to quit, but make you know also that you have all the reasons to fight. Do not overthink and never ever disappoint yourself!
All successful people have a painful story, and the entire painful story has a successful ending. You just need to accept and get through the pain and get ready for success.
***You know that everything is always shifting and changing, and as a human, we are constantly evolving. And the only thing that is constant among the living is our breath.***
Anxiety has been struggling us for years, and our breath has been our anchor, the only tool that is always with us no matter where we are and what moment we are in. For all the stressful moments and being surrounded by people, and just by going it all through by ourselves, we can quickly be calm and elevate ourselves.
***You can do this by taking slow deep breaths and continuously releasing the stress as you exhale.***
You should know that stuff always comes up in life and life can change in an instant, for better and for worse. When you are feeling down and going through a rough season, just breathe to get through and never ever forget that there will be light on the other side. You are only in that season and all seasons will pass. After the entire storm, there is calm, and after all the darkness there is light.
***Don’t ever underestimate the power of breathing.*** It will always be your best friend, it will always be there for you no matter what. Always be ready because there are some points in life when anything good that happens turns badly and anything bad gets even worse. But you should not be ashamed for being where you are, all you have to do is focus on one small thing you can do today to get closer to where place you want to be. Slowly and lightly, you should take one step at a time, just take a breath, and surely you can get there.
***You just have to connect to your breath and learn how to breathe consciously breathe will definitely support you through all the moments of your life***. It is always your gateway to the present. Whatever is going on, always be reminded that you will get through it.
So take some deep breaths, inhale and exhale and remember that you can handle whatever life throws at you. Your ease has been written along with all your hardship and struggle, just bear a little more patience. We have all seasons where flourish and seasons when the leaves fall from us, you just have to take time and grow again.
***You got all this, don’t react, don’t run, and just breathe.***
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Be comfortable with your own skin!
**Be comfortable with your own skin!**
There are times when you’re not sure if you’re depressed. Not exactly sad but not exactly happy either. There are times you can laugh and joke and smile but when you’re alone at night you forget how to feel.
*It feels like you lost your spark and hard to say that you’re not okay.*
**But, I just want to tell you that…**
It’s alright if you do not know the words that you need to express what you feel. It’s alright if you don’t know how to begin, where to start, and if you don’t know how the chapter of your life will end. It’s alright if you’re not sure about your future and not even sure about your past and unsure about what you’re thinking.
For all the things that you did not want to happen but it did. It’s alright if you don’t know how to apologize and are not even sure if you even have to. It’s alright if you wish to move on and if you wish to stay longer than expected.
It’s alright to cry, cry to sleep, and cry as you woke up. It’s alright to wish that you can change things and to wish that you can go back and make all the bad things and decisions right. It’s alright if you’re not happy with who and what you are. It’s alright if you don’t feel the same way anymore and about all the certain things, certain people, and certain places.
At least for the time being, it’s alright to work on yourself. Take a break and work on yourself and take time as much as you need. Until you feel comfortable with your own skin.
It’s okay to move away if you have to. To find new homes with new people and find what you love in new places. It’s alright, and everything will be alright. This is your life, and only yours to live. Life is too short to worry and be anxious about everything in this world. Do not overthink about everything because it’s okay and it’s going to be okay soon. Just be yourself, and take your time.
***Be comfortable with your own skin….***
Because it all coming back; the inspiration, the answers to all your questions, your vision and your goals, the energy, and your joy. It’s okay not to be alright at all times. You are not a machine and not a robot either. There are a lot of valleys that you need to cross through for you to recognize all the peaks. Your emotions are not just good or bad, you feel weak and lost sometimes; you do not exist with that binary, you can’t define that easily and can’t be summed up like that.
Please, just appreciate the beauty of all the contrasts. Stop expecting from yourself too much. You need to have a pause, you need to take a break and you need to have time with yourself to reflect. It’s all part of it. You need to breathe, inhale and exhale. Things will come to you when you less expect from them.
***You need to breathe and release. Let’s the next step finds you and the sunshine on your faith, let yourself lost in a moment until you’re comfortable with your own skin.***
Everything comes to you at the right time
**Everything comes to you at the right time.**
Not because you aren’t achieving and reaching anything of your dreams yet, it doesn’t mean that you’re not meant for great things in this world.
Not because others left you behind doesn’t mean that you are no good at all.
Not because you’re striving too much yet nothing seems improving it doesn’t mean that you’re not going to succeed in life.
**Time is never your enemy…..**
Time leads you to what is meant for you. So, be patient, keep hustling, keep working hard, and enjoy the journey.
**Grab the perfect timing!**
Life will never be a race, never run in haste so you will not be able to lose the precious things that life has been offering you around. You should trust the process, and may you embrace and claim what you deserve in time.
It’s alright if you’re still not where you think you should be. Take time to shake it off and promise yourself that you’ll never let any of that be for nothing. Keep on telling yourself that you are always well-deserved. Even if how small or big things you achieve, it will always be okay, you always did a great job. You should always be proud of yourself. You should not belittle your own efforts; you should never stop looking out for the things that you can do more. Remember that it will never be an easy journey because bumpy roads are always there. All uncertainties will shake you off and you will never know what will be the end. But if you remind yourself always that you are well-deserved, it’s okay if it takes and consumes too much time. Be reminded that you didn’t go through all that for nonsense.
Always be kind to yourself. Be patient with your process, even the smallest progress matters, and you matters. And if things are bound to happen, you should tell yourself that finally you indeed deserve it! You need to get up on your not-so-good days, face your hard days and convince yourself that you still have a purpose. Be that kind of person more and more, embrace it and let that person always be seen.
**Here are words you need to say every day**:
• You’re not lost. You’re just in the season of waiting and God is preparing for your own breakthrough.
• You’re not broken; God rebuilds you to a stronger version of yourself.
• You’re not left behind; you’re just taking your journey according to your pace. You should not compare your season to others.
Always remember that all your present struggles will someday be a part of your journey through your victory! Whatever will be, it will be. The future is not ours to see, so don’t worry it’s supposed to happen, it will.
***Everything comes to you at the right time. Every season serves a purpose!***
I hope you learn how to say No.
**I hope you learn how to say NO…**
There are times and certain situations that you find yourself thinking to say NO but in the end… your mouth just burst out the word YES!
**Why is so hard to say NO?**
Sometimes people are trapped in saying yes because they are afraid they fear rejection. They are afraid to say no because they think that they hurt someone’s feelings whenever they say no. They are afraid to disappoint someone or make them angry. Even if it’s intentional or not, the feeling of being rude and unkind haunts them especially when they don’t give any of their requests.
**This somehow becomes a burden, the feeling of being uneasy and resentful that is so hard to overcome every day.**
**But…**
I just want you to realize that:
*Saying no doesn’t mean you’re bad.*
*Saying no doesn’t mean that you’re rude. Saying no doesn’t mean you’re selfish.*
*And saying no doesn’t define your personality and values.*
Always remember that you’re living your life for yourself. You are living to be happy. So if you’re always depending on everything by the approval of others, how others think of you, and what others may talk about you, you will never be happy. You should free yourself from those matters that make you uncomfortable.
There are moments when there are people who demand too much and are unsatisfied with the things that you can only give and offer. There are times that they don’t even say thank you and the worst thing is that they blame you if something unnecessary things happen. And so sad that some took advantage of someone’s kindness and time.
So if you don’t want to say yes, just say so. It is not worth it to say yes if you don’t want to do it. Because if you commit to something that you don’t want to do, it will result in doubt and resentment and you begin to make excuses just to get out of it. Stop making excuses, just simply decline.
We have the right to say no and decline a request if we don’t want to. You should not be afraid of saying any and making others feel down which ruins the peace of your mind. You live your own life, and your value does not depend on how much you could offer to others. Remind also that your time is valuable, so never hesitate to say no. Take care of the things that bring you peace, and take care of your mental health. By saying no, you can create your mental health stability by helping with self-care, building your self-esteem, and empowering your confidence by setting boundaries.
***So let me always remind you that:***
***You should learn how to say no, whatever and whenever you feel toxic.***
***You should learn how to say no, whatever is not good for your mental health.***
***Be comfortable when you say no, I hope you learn how to say no.***
Healing is Messy!
Heartbreaks and breakdowns will never be easy. There will always be good and bad days. There are times reminiscing about what could’ve been done to change the outcome and there are times you thought you’ve already moved on. There are days that you feel that you’re totally over the pain but random moments will come that will hit you all over again and again.
**It will still hurt you, even if you think that you’re okay already.**
When the night is deep, and when you look back at the things that you once held before. For all the promises that they broke, you will still hurt. Remembering all the days that you feel tired of everything but you can’t do anything, it still hurt. It will still hurt you after everything; you will still feel the deepest pain and the same agony. You will still see yourself shattered into pieces; it hurts and definitely hurts you.
But once you get past these saddest and most miserable times that you are currently in, you will never ever wish to feel the exact phase but still, this phase shall never be forgotten. You need to remember all the details of this healing process because it reflects you.
People come and go for certain reasons, but always remember that you should not remain in the same place where they’re left you wounded. But you need to begin again no matter what.
**Courage is as simple like as opening your own eyes**.
Courage is the way for you to fall in love with sadness and let you sleep. It’s the courage that helps you to feel and face every single night that you can overcome all the pain even if at times that you feel like you can’t. Courage is not made of combat but rather a quiet fight that flickers even in your darkest moments that reminds you that you’re strong, you’re definitely growing, and there is always hope.
**Changing the world means changing your world as gradually, little by little, gentle as you heal.**
You need to heal no matter how messy it could be. If you want to grow, you need to leave something behind, that’s the reason why making space for grief in the middle of growing is very important. You can mourn your past to make a new space for a newer you.
**So for everyone who is asking and still wondering if they will ever move on,**
Yes, you will. It takes time but you will definitely heal. It will never be easy; in fact, the process will be the hardest thing you’ll go through. Moving on is messy, but one day you’ll wake up and you will feel okay, everything will be fine. You will think of them still, but it’s going to be a different kind of thinking.
At the end of everything, and when you already healed, you tap and say to yourself ***I thought I couldn’t, but look at me now, I’m still here, healed and alive!***
The beautiful thing about letting go!
There are times that you’re afraid of the pain that you’d feel if you let go without realizing how much pain you’re in just trying to hold on. Sometimes you just can’t do anything about everything, so you must let go, and you don’t have to be a prisoner to the things that you cannot change.
Some people choose to hold on because they think that they have to. They put up all with the emotional abuse and all the pain that others inflicted on them, but then again they still hold on because they think that they have to. Some people choose to hold on because they feel bad if they choose and decide to let go and move on. Some people choose to stay because they are afraid of being alone. People hold on for the wrong reasons, that sometimes they cannot even understand their selves anymore even their hearts bleed and bruise.
*But there comes a time that you need to ask yourself why? Why do you stay when you know that everything can be better?* You’ve been holding on for far too long, and it’s time to let go, it’s time to rest, you’ve been exhausted for too long. It’s time to move on.
Some people see that one of the hardest things to do in life is walking away, but it’s not, it’s staying despite the pain. Even if nobody talks about how hard is to let go of the things that of longer serve you, keep in mind that you’re just a human. You have to move forward!
Yes, letting go of all the things and people that you’re not ready to say goodbye to and the attachment you have to get rid of will never get easy. Despite of that, always remember that in the next chapter of your life, you may not see it yet, but definitely that your story will get better. **You’ll get to go to new places and know other people that will give you new hope. You’ll achieve things you thought are impossible to achieve.**
**Remember that life opens up when you let go!** You need to let go before you can see the worst thing that may happen if you stay. **That is when faith steps in, and that’s where God steps in.**
When everything gets heavy, it’s alright to let the raw fall down until you see the sun comes up again. **Remember that it takes losing what you’re settling for to make us realize the things that we truly deserve.**
**Remember that it’s not just because something has ended doesn’t mean it never should have been. You must live, you must learn, you must grow, and you must move on. One day you will realize that it had to happen to give you the lessons you needed to grow. It doesn’t break your heart forever, but rather, it will make you better and everything that hurts will surely pass.**
**Let things fall apart for now, and allow yourself to get hurt for a while, that’s alright. So when the time that you’re ready to get up, life will meet you with your fresh start.**
Emotional Scars
Hey, can I ask you, How are you? How’s your heart? Can I ask you about your scars?
**Your emotional scars**.
Maybe there are a lot of people who cannot notice and asked about them because they are hardly seen because of the pretentious smile that you’re wearing. Scars are permanent, wherever they came from and they deal with you every day. And sometimes it reminds us of the painful things that happened that were caused by our loved ones and the things that scared us the most. It makes you cry, and you can hardly get rid of these scars. Maybe they heal, but they stay.
You’ve been holding onto so much for so many years. There are people, places, days, and times that you cannot get back. You’ve been carrying mountains, that you only meant to climb and that matter really crushing your heart and your will to go on. And all this time, you are not certain which is harder to do, carrying the weight of the world or letting it go.
There are nights that you fall apart but no one will notice how you spend the time putting it back together. Even if you screamed so loud, it seems like no one could hear a thing.
In life, you must feel hurt so you can heal, you need to lose so you can gain, take a fall so you can rise again and there are things that come to an end so that you may start again. You need to experience sadness to appreciate joy, to feel the pain to appreciate peace and freedom; you need to experience heartbreak to deeply understand what love is. It feels like walking through the darkness for you to discover the light that awaits you. Throughout your life, you’ve been loved and lost. You make mistakes and hurt, you trusted and been lied to, you are down and betrayed.
But just to remind you, **these emotional scars are just proof that you’ve grown stronger, and you need to discover that the deepest lessons in life come from the greatest pain.** While there are moments where you fail and falter or feel incredibly let down or sad, these things will not last forever.
It may seem so challenging to deal with your scars, to cope with your broken hearts, painful memories, and heavy emotions. You must not choose to remain a prisoner of the past, because those moments will not define you anyway. Don’t beat yourself up over the past events, past experiences, and mistakes. This past baggage, bad experiences, and memories can really make you feel down, feel unconfident, unworthy and lose faith.
**But….. it will be the best feeling that you’ll be able to stand tall and fight that you fell apart but you survived! Be proud of your scars, choose to keep them to fire you alive and lead you where you are meant to be and for all the tough times and struggles that you need to overcome.**
**Lives may seem so unfair and complicated, very challenging and difficult, that even positive moments don’t occur as often as we envision, but all wounds will heal, and allow us to make ourselves better! Healing occurs in waves, you will float or sink or swim freely and be carried away by the tide, but regardless of anything, always be reminded that you will reach your destination, and these scars will be the most beautiful scars ever.**
The 5 P's of Life
There are special P’s in our life that by applying these can really transform your life not just for the good but for the best of everything. As we go through living in our life, it is very important to seek that peace not just in our minds but also in our hearts. So here are the most important 5 P’s of life that is truly beneficial to everyone that we can use in our daily lives.
• Prayer
One of the most important about life is the great communication between you and God. Nothing is greater than the relationship between you and God through prayers. It’s the great bond that connects you with the Lord. This is the way to experience God in our life. It’s deepened and developed our relationship with Him. When you pray to God properly and when it comes from the heart, He will surely give you what you need on how to deal with your circumstances.
• Passion
Living in this world, you need to live your life with passion. You need to seek it. It’s the fuel that creates a fire within your heart to go through. You need to immerse yourself in the feeling of being alive and optimistic to pursue the things that you love. Passion gives you a reason to learn and to work harder. And it is somehow the key to happiness despite all the struggles in reaching your dreams and your ambitions. It’s definitely giving a meaningful structure to your efforts and time.
• Purpose
When you know about you’re purpose in life you definitely found your passion. You need to live your life every day, empowered and fueled by the passion that you have that becomes the biggest purpose of your life. Purpose serves as a guide in life decision-making; it sharpens goals and gives a meaningful direction in our life.
• Peace
The passion that empowers your purpose will be your source of peace. The fact that peace brings a different kind of happiness- a very genuine atmosphere that lets us sleep sounds at night that every one of us deserves every night. Peace calms our minds and allows us to look forward to a clearer path that helps us focus on our goals.
• Privacy
Privacy is everything. It gives us peace and space to be ourselves without any judgment. It also gives us and allows us to think freely without any judgments. Always remember that privacy is power, it is the key that unlocks the many aspects in our life that are most important, intimate, that makes most of you and most vulnerable. Privacy also sets boundaries and barriers that protect us from everything, especially for the things that can ruin our peace.
In dealing with life, though life is not perfect as it is, I, therefore, realized that these having these 5 P’s everything will fall perfectly. Despite everyone seeing life differently, we should not forget how God sees us as His child. These 5 P’s are useless without God that guides us through everything.
**How about you? What are the 5P’s that you believe that you must have?**
You'll be the greatest testimony of your own life!
You’ll be the greatest testimony of your own life!
Someday you will be amazed by how fast you have grown and seen the things that seemed impossible became possible now. You’ll look forward astonished by wonder how fast you have grown. Days will come and you’ll look forward astonished by the beauty of how you can go and feeling the infinity in how many times that you can bloom.
There are struggles, pain, and problems that you want to let go but they keep coming back. There are a lot of tears and you even scream every night but nobody seems to hear you. Trying hard to pick up all the broken pieces and fix yourself a hundred times, but the pain keeps reminding you of your past mistakes. You’ve been fighting your own battles in silence. You don’t even imagine what you’re going through when you face all those wars alone, but here you are, still standing strong.
There will be ups and downs, disappointments, and difficult challenges that will challenge your patience and faith. Life will even push you to your limits and put you on a bottom rock that gives you the hardest lessons in life. There are things and moments that come in our life that we don’t want to happen, but we can’t do anything but to accept. But all of these are for sure ways of God because He wants to build you to become stronger in all your aspects of your being. God wants you to move forward because He has plans behind all of your struggles.
Don’t ever compare yourself to others. Everyone has a different journey in life. It may feel unfair how others can be easily happy while you’re trying your hard to feel okay. It may feel unfair how others find life effortlessly while you feel barely alive. You even question the meaning of your hard work because you feel that everything that surrounds you is just a matter of luck.
When you’re struggling and when you’re going through hard days always remember that **the person you are going to become someday will be thankful that you did not give up on yourself today**. You need to feel that you have the strength to overcome anything; you just need to believe in yourself and have faith.
God is not punishing you when He let you wait. Don’t be confused when you’re still in the waiting season. He’s just preparing you, maturing you, and molding you. He’s making you stronger. Always **put in your mind and heart that your waiting season is not a wasted season, it’s a blessing.**
**For those who are still fighting their own silent battles, soon you will be the greatest testimony of your life and all of your suffering will become the seed that will greatly help you grow as a human. Your path has already been paved! No matter how terrible each struggle that you have, you can surely still find a reason to keep going.**
***Keep the faith and believe that the time will come you'll be the greatest testimony of your own life!***
The Hardest Good-Byes!
This is the month of hearts but literally I’m writing about good-byes. But before I start this article, I just want to greet you a very late Happy Valentine’s! Spread Love.
**For me, the hardest good-byes are the ones you don’t ever see coming.** The ones you don’t plan and never imagine happening. Like one day you’re spending the day together but the next day will be your last day spent. There’s no sadder about that.
In this life, we will never know how long it takes for everyone to live on this earth or how long a person could stay by your side. You will never know how everything will end and that’s one of the scariest things about life, we cannot predict any possibilities that could happen on earth that even in one snap everything could change, everything could go.
**Sometimes the hardest goodbyes are the ones never said.** It hurts so deeply, and it feels like dark clouds hanging in the back of my mind. Questioning all your worth and desperately finding all the reasons behind it. And it really left the hearts so empty that only tears can make you feel at ease.
It is really sad that sometimes the people or the moments that make you the happiest version of yourself become the reason for your deepest sorrow when they walked away. And the scar that they left behind haunts you every day that shattered your hearts away. Wishing for that person to come back and hoping for those memories to happen again really sucks, and it really hurts inside.
**Despite the hardest goodbyes, always remember that God removes people from our life for a reason.** We may not find out at first why while others left us at all. The only thing that we can do is to pray and trust it whatever the reason too. We’re all trying our best to figure out why God is trying to remove someone from our life though we cannot deny that we still hang on to those people because we love them or because of the memories.
To all the good-byes that happened in our life sometimes, **it is what is meant to happen.** Even if how hard it is or how painful it is, if it's God's will, it will happen even we are not forced to. People come and go, and life undergoes some constructions. There will always be special things that happen in every goodbye. Sometimes these good-byes become the window of someone’s motivations, emotional health, and an invitation to grow for a better version of themselves.
Life is too short to dwell on sadness and things that didn’t work out and regret from the past. **All the ‘what-ifs, and if only” can greatly stop you from being happy. It’s how unpredictable life is, you will never know what will happen next in every minute.**
**So this could be a reminder to everyone of us that we must appreciate everyone while we have the chance. Spread love and live life to the fullest! Learn to let go,and accept things that you have no control.**
Everything about you matters!
Everything about you matters!
There are a lot of people who have been questioning their worth. They are searching anywhere to find their belongingness. But the moment they force to look forward to the answers that will be the moment that they only found rejections and frustrations.
For me, worth is not about something to find but it’s about something to feel. It’s not a thing that you need to look to be found, but rather a feeling that you need to feel from within. It always starts with you! And don’t you dare to forget how rare you are.
It always starts with you. It’s all about believing and understanding yourself as a person. You need to accept yourself, with all of your flaws and imperfections. You need to have a great sense of self-love, and that’s one of the most important things. Self-love shows self-respect that goes with self-worth, and it’s all about the self that you cannot find in anyone else. When you love yourself first, everything else will fall into line.
Sometimes, you accepted less because you settle for it. You’re in the idea that having a little will always be better than nothing. You need to remind yourself that you don’t have to please other people to take full responsibility for your happiness and life. Knowing all your worth as a person gives you the power and can transform your life not just for the better but for the best.
Failures, frustrations, and rejections will always be part of our life, and these things are always part of the process along your journey. Life will never be easy. But we need to have faith in you. You must believe that you are gifted that you must be attained. You must face all your fears to gain your own strength, your full courage, and great confidence.
You need to figure out the difference between what you’re getting from what you deserve. If your emotions get invalid and get ignored, never hesitate to walk away. You don’t need to have others' approval, if you know to trust yourself, one thing is for sure, you will know how to live. Stop wasting your time on what and how people think towards you. Be with people who are proud of you always and all your ways.
Everything about you matters. Even the smallest thing that you do matters. The way you see the world matters. You don’t have to express your words because your voice matters. You are capable to feel all your emotions because your feelings matter. Be brave enough to fight for all of your dreams because your vision natters, live the life you want, and take the path you want to take because your road matters. Your existence matters, you’re here in this world for a reason.
**Always be reminded that if you know your worth, no one will ever make you feel worthless. You are what you believe you are. You are destined for greatness, so you don’t have to settle for less. Everything about you matters!**
Reasons why people tend to gossip!
There are people who love to spread damaging information or details about others, whether it’s a fact or not. It is used by some people who are dishing the dirt. Also, they are surrounded by people by people to see as a way to bond and come with you. Gossiping leads you to toxicity that poisons not just other's life but yours too. So definitely can greatly harm others even if it is unintentional or not. So whatever it was called, people used to gossip to hurt people in order for them to feel good about themselves.
Here are reasons why some people tend to gossip:
**• To Appeal**
There are a lot of reasons why people tend to gossip. They give more time to gossip and minding other businesses to appeal. They used these malicious things about others to fit in within their group of friends, as a way for them to impress others.
**• To make themselves feel better**
Sometimes being jealous of others can greatly be the reason why people gossip. They thought that making false rumors to drag that person’s life to feel some satisfaction. Especially when they feel about themselves, they target some of the weaknesses of others as a weapon for them to target and destroy one’s life. They tend to talk about other's life to deflect attention from themselves.
• **To feel accepted**
Peer pressures can also be a factor why people choose to gossip bout others. They’re thinking that gossiping about others can make themselves to be accepted to the group that she or he is into. So if someone in the group is gossiping with someone else or spreading some rumors they feel they are also obliged to share some of the gossips to make themselves worthy in the group.
**• To get attention**
When they know some of the secrets that they know they are the first one who knows first about the information it makes them the center of attention. Some people used to gossip in trying for them to fit in or climb the social ladder or as a tool to gain popularity.
**• To gain power**
Some people want to be in control of everything. When they are at the top of the social ladder they are more determined to climb higher and they accomplish it by using or diminishing the status or reputation of another person. They used everything that can make them nice and beautiful for their social status.
**• To get revenge**
When people are envious of other people’s looks, money, and popularity they will use gossip to hurt and bring down that person. In their minds, spreading some gossip sometimes satisfies their need for revenge. And they are happy knowing that person’s life is miserable because of that gossip, and they think that they won against that person.
**• To relieve boredom**
Being bored is one of the great factors why people gossip and spread rumors about others. Especially for those people who love drama and they begin to feel bored if drama is not around. So, because of feeling bored resort to rumors and gossip to spice things and make everything more exciting.
These are just some of the factors or reasons why people tend to gossip. Nut whatever the reasons may be, we should not tolerate ourselves and together others to gossip about other’s life. Gossiping is harmful; it will not just destroy someone’s life but your life too. If you know that it can destroy someone’s life and reputation, never used the gossip to add more burdens to their life. Try to put their shoe on yours, it maybe makes you happy and satisfied, but you will never have a life that is worth living if you live a life with gossip.
**Try to mind your own life, and focus on your own personal growth. It’s their life to fix, and it’s their life to choose after all.**
Healthy Relationship
Do you question if your relationships with the people in your life are healthy? Building and sustaining a strong bond with others, whether romantic, platonic, or familial, is an important part of having a happy life.
While the elements that determine whether or not a relationship is healthy vary from person to person, there are a number of characteristics that are common markers.
**Adaptability**
Human personalities, like emotions, are prone to change and fluctuation as life unfolds. Have you ever had the impression that someone in your life was evolving?
While they are still themselves, time and experiences may cause them to portray a different version of themselves. It's crucial to be aware of this and embrace it, because adaptability is something that all healthy partnerships have in common.
*Both partners in the relationship must be willing to compromise for each other and adapt to changes in order to achieve a balanced power dynamic.*
**Encouragement**
We've all had different ambitions and dreams. People in strong relationships recognize the value of ongoing support, even if their goals do not always line with those of others. Even if you don't understand or relate to someone's aim, expressing encouraging words and support can improve their day.
**Comfortability**
When you're in the presence of someone very close to you, do you ever notice how your body physically relaxes?
As soon as you enter the secure, familiar environment with them, you may find yourself inhaling deeply and then sighing with relief. A healthy relationship is marked by a sense of comfort. Consider chatting with someone you want to become closer to if you're feeling tense around them; opening up could help the relationship advance. And it might make you feel more at ease with them as a result.
**Trust**
Trust is an important indicator of a healthy partnership. Consider receiving a text from your lover informing you that they'll be attending the same party as their ex. This indicates a trusting and healthy connection if you feel calm and unafraid.
Similarly, if you have faith in your friends and family to look out for you, it indicates a positive dynamic. If you don't trust these individuals in your life, however, you may improve your relationship with them by conversing with them and being open and honest with them.
**Physical intimacy**
Intimacy isn't always synonymous with sex. Physical touch has been found to be beneficial to one's health in numerous studies, so it's no wonder that healthy relationships frequently involve cuddling, kissing, hugging, or simply being physically present with one another.
There's a strong likelihood you have a healthy relationship with a friend, lover, or family member if you find yourself physically pulled to them. Similarly, if you don't feel comfortable becoming physically close with someone, it's critical that the other person respects your wishes and doesn't put you under any pressure.
**Boundaries**
Crossing each other's limits is one of the quickest ways to end a relationship. Recognizing and respecting the physical and emotional boundaries of the other person, on the other hand, is critical in developing a good relationship.
Creating boundaries for oneself entails three steps: determining what your boundaries are, conveying them to others, and sticking to them. It's fantastic if people take these boundaries seriously.
*If they don't, a serious dialogue with them would be helpful. If nothing changes, you may need to reconsider your options.*
**Happiness**
This may seem self-evident, yet strong partnerships bring delight and happiness to both sides. Feel-good chemicals such as dopamine and serotonin are released by our brain when we contact with someone we care about.
Do you enjoy spending time with your friends and family? Do you anticipate seeing them? If that's the case, you seem to have happy, healthy relationships.
**Communication**
Whether it's settling problems, vocalizing each other's desires, or enquiring about one another's well-being, this is another significant sign of a strong relationship.
***Clear communication is a fundamental sign of a healthy relationship.***
There will almost always be arguments in any relationship at some point, but what matters most is how you both work together to address the conflict in a clear and courteous manner.
***Creating and maintaining a strong connection requires effort on both sides. Start with communication if you feel there is potential for improvement.***
Am I a Blessing or Just a Burden?
There are a lot of things that keep running out of my mind. Thoughts and feelings that I need to figure out. And there’s a question that’s bothered me somehow “***Am I a blessing, or just a burden?”***
Years have passed, and my emotions are being invalid because of the things and circumstances that surround me. I can’t even express my feelings and say the word that keeps bothering me in my heart and mind.
Others may see me happy but only a few know what insides me. They know the struggles; they know the pain that I have been struggling with and the heartbreaks that I have been fighting. I can’t even say what are things that make me happy, but I’m craving for peace.
**I’m craving for peace…**
I’m craving for peace that keeps my heart unease. Even now and then, I’m always looking for the place where I belong. I’m searching for a place where I can call my home and my comfort zone. I’m seeking a place where I can run when everything was falling. My heart was searching, searching for love.
**I’m searching for love…**
I’m searching for love that my heart could bring back to life. My heart was shattered and deeply wounded by the words that feel like a knife. The heart beats fast and frightened that caused by the hundreds of storms. All my life I’ve been trying to prove the hundred percent of my sincerity for all the people that I’ve loved without even asking for any response. But despite everything, I make sure that I give all what I’ve got and take all the risks. There are also times that I’m finding an argument.
**I’m finding for an argument…**
I’m finding an argument that I can defend myself. I’m searching for an argument where I can shout everything that insides me. I’m praying for a time that even once I can prove everything that I have and show the true feelings that I’ve been hiding for so long.
But when the time that I found my happiness, that’s the moment again that I keeps asking myself Am I worthy to have this? As I welcome new people, new things, and new changes and growth, I always end up thinking about the possibilities and complications as I let them enter my life. Especially for the people who share love and happiness with me, ***Am I worthy of their love?***
I’m worried about all of my uncertainty and afraid of everything that I can’t control. The more selfishness I get the damage to someone’s heart and life gets worst. And the more I get attached, the more he/she gets broken. But the more I force myself to forget the more I can’t let go but hold back. I foresee the beautiful possibilities of their lives without me, and I know that their lives get better without me too, but here I am, enclosing them within my heart and disregarding all these possibilities and beyond. And this keeps me thinking, ***am I a blessing, or just a burden?***
Truth About Life
Is there anything you wish you could tell your younger self about how life lessons must sometimes be learned the hard way and too late? Life is full of twists and turns, and it can be tough to stay on top of everything all of the time. However, it is during these times of difficulty that you will experience growth and long-term fulfillment, allowing you to live your greatest life.
**Time doesn't last forever**
Have you been pursuing a long-term goal? As you become older, you realize how quickly time passes. You'll obtain more knowledge, money, and memories, but you'll have less time to do so.
Aligning yourself with your true desires will help you feel more fulfilled in your time. Perhaps making some difficult sacrifices now, such as ending a poisonous relationship or breaking a terrible habit, would be necessary. These sacrifices may be painful at first, but you'll grow out of them and into a new, happier phase of your life.
**You need to take the risk**
Do you find yourself continuously imagining what-if scenarios as you get older? You'll begin to reflect on your prior choices as you become older. People of a certain age will begin to consider whether they've had a worthwhile life.
Many people are content with their choices, but others will be in misery and look back with feelings of regret, shame, and disappointment. You could fail a few times, but ignore that nagging voice in your head and take the chance.
**Don't act like someone you're not**
Do you put on a show in front of others to avoid feeling out of place? It's natural to want to blend in with the crowd. It's how our forefathers ensured they weren't left to fend for themselves. It's a common human inclination, but if you don't stand up for what you believe in, you may find yourself living under a fake veiled identity, constantly trying to satisfy others at the price of your own pleasure
**Take care of your body**
Do you consume a balanced diet? Do you get enough rest? and workout on a regular basis?
Remember that you only have one body, and your early years and habits determine how your health will develop and change in the future. Do you drink a full glass of water with each meal? Do you go for a run or work out? Why don't you try sleeping for eight hours every night? Build your healthy habits now so that when you're 70, you'll be glad you're still healthy.
**Don't be too tough on yourself**
It can be distressing to talk badly about yourself making mistakes, especially if your mistake has had a detrimental influence on others. During these times, you may find yourself thinking poorly about yourself, labeling yourself a failure, dumb, or stupid. However, if you keep beating yourself up, you'll train your mind to accept pessimism as the norm.
A self-defeating mindset can lower motivation, increase feelings of helplessness, and even lead to despair.
**Building strong relationships**
Do you find it difficult to open yourself even to your closest friends? People who have positive relationships with family, friends, and loved ones have less health problems as they get older and also feel more fulfilled. Having true ties with people is one of the most essential things in life. Whether you find your circle at school or at work, cultivating a great social life can have an impact on how your life unfolds.
**Life throws curveballs**
Have you ever waited for something wonderful to happen just for life to rob you of it, no matter how prepared you were? Sometimes plans don't go as planned due to events beyond your control, and you're left to react to them. It's tempting to quit and give up in these situations, but know that it'll be worth it if it's something you actually care about.
**Material goods don't bring your life joy**
Do you live a lavish lifestyle or make rash purchases? Money is a powerful instrument, but it can also lead many people astray. If you let it rule your life, you'll spend all of your efforts on growing a number in your bank account at the expense of the things that make life truly worthwhile. Life isn't about that new phone or that high-end bag; if you spend all of your time pursuing material possessions, you'll neglect other aspects of your life.
Consider what is most essential to you; chances are it isn't anything that money can buy.
**Don't give up too quickly**
Remember how you established a good habit and then failed to keep it up after a while? You can't achieve anything without putting out the effort. This work may take several hours or perhaps weeks before you notice any real benefits. This can be intimidating for many people, forcing them to stop just when their adventure begins.
You don't have to work nonstop to get ahead and achieve your goals; all you have to do is take tiny, steady steps every day and, over time, your efforts will bear fruit.
**Be grateful every day**
While certain days, months, or even years may be difficult, each moment, each day, and each second that goes will not return. Life only comes around once, so be grateful for the little things, the big things, and everything in between. Life isn't always pretty; otherwise, we wouldn't know what differentiates the good days from the bad.
**Focus on the good days and days that make life worthwhile, and you'll see that your life story isn't quite as horrible as you think.**
I settle for the ghost of you.
My eyes could speak, what my heart shouts in peak. My action speaks louder that keeps me thinking even harder. There is happiness in my heart and desires every night, which tomorrow could bring the peace that I’ve been praying for. Choosing what is right is different from the happiness that I want. Pleasing the world to see through my heart, but the darkness losing its sight.
You’re the answers of my whys that even my heart can’t deny. The connections between us keep a distance that we cannot even hide. We got the chance to know each other by fate, but we don’t have the perfect time to follow our faith. Not because we don’t have the capability to choose what we want, but because it’s all about choosing what is right. It’s indeed a crazy ride, and nothing is even guaranteed. Even it happens unintentionally; I can’t resist the joy that’s inside my heart***. You’re the song that gives rhythm to my heart that I’ll love to sing for the rest of my life.***
Even I want you desperately; it also makes me feel unhappy. It’s because of the gap between what I want and my reality**. So loving you alone make more sense**, than forcing things that you cannot even control. Even if it’s love at the wrong time, knowing you is always the best thing for me. ***You’re always in my heart, even I cannot get close to you, I settle for the ghost of you.***
Whatever it takes, and whatever happens**,** ***you’re always my beautiful scar***, you’re always the most beautiful fate that happened in my life. Even you can’t be next to me, you’ll always be inside my heart. I know that it’s so sudden, but for me, it’s feeling like forever. The happiness you brought in my life makes me feel so alive; even it means to be paralyzed when you’re gone.
**Nevertheless, I will never regret everything. I will never regret knowing you; I will never regret loving you. And even letting you go is the answer; I’ll do whatever makes you happy. You deserve genuine love. You’re worthy of all the love, and you deserve all the goodness in this world. Even if I’m not the reason why it will be alright.**
***It’s a beautiful fate to meet you for the first time; it must be fate that we met. Thank you for being the most beautiful fate to me.***
Christmas, it’s a season of sorrow for many.
**Christmas, it’s a season of sorrow for many.**
Christmas is a wonderfully and favourite season of the year. You can greatly feel the vibes and the positive ambiance when the month of December is nearly approaching. The lights, the music, and the Christmas decorations can greatly bring positivity and hope. It’s a celebration of when Jesus Christ was born. It’s a renewal of our King Jesus Christ's birth.
Christmas it’s a season of love, care, and sharing. This is the time where you are thinking about a celebration that everyone could enjoy. Preparing foods that everyone could be satisfied with and wrapping gifts that everyone could be happy with. A celebration of showing love and affection towards the people you love.
**But Christmas is a way different to others; Christmas is somehow a season of sorrow for many, why?**
**Some of the families are incomplete.**
There are preparing for Christmas with incomplete family members. Some family members are on duty, at work, or abroad. Because of the call of duty, people have no choice but to work. While responsibilities and for the sake of their family, for someone who has no capability to go home especially for those who works abroad, they have no choice but to endure the idea of missing someone especially in this time of the season, a holiday where the family should gather and celebrate together.
**Loss of someone they love.**
While others are celebrating Christmas together with their family, there is also someone who suffers from the loss of their loved ones. You can never predict or you can never tell what will going to happen every day, but the pain of losing someone you love and thinking about celebrating Christmas is another thing that burdens their heart.
**Others cannot afford food**.
While others are thinking about having different kinds of dishes for the Christmas celebrations, there are some that cause of poverty they cannot afford to have any food for Christmas. The excitement about having some foods on the table that every one of them could enjoy during Christmas is nowhere to be found anymore.
**Many are sick and bedridden**.
They're also suffering from illness and some are bedridden who have no capability to enjoy the spirit of Christmas because they worry so much about their lives and conditions that make them unease.
**They are affected by natural disasters, like typhoons.**
There are places and millions of people now who have been affected by typhoons. In this kind of disaster caused by typhoons where many of their houses and properties have been damaged, it’s really heartbroken for everyone to know that Christmas is nearly approaching. The displacement of thousands of families and also the interruption of power and communication lines make it harder for them to feel the essence of Christmas.
**There are things that we cannot control; there are instances in our lives that are unpredictable that some of us cannot handle alone. Regardless of the specifics, always remember that this season of joy is oftentimes a season of sorrow for many. Choose to be kind, be generous, share love and give help to someone in need; if you cannot offer anything else, just make sure that you’re not going a hard time with people. Just pray for them, and make them feel they are wanted, they are loved.**
**Always remember that the true essence of Christmas is not about having a lot of money, gifts, and foods you can give and offer, it’s all about the ultimate centering presence of Christ Himself. All presents in the world are worth nothing without the presence of Christ, remember that.**
MERRY CHRISTMAS EVERYONE! ❤️
Spread Love ❤️
Being part of AxieBCH Dojo Community: Opportunities and Unexpected Friendships
It was year 2020 when I started to learn how to earn Bitcoin Cash through different kinds of platforms like noise. cash and read. cash. And this year 2021 when my sister-in-law introduced me to this guild which is the AxieBCH Dojo Community. This community allows everyone to be a scholar who can play axie. One thing that amazed me about here is that SLP can be converted to Bitcoin Cash. This community not just gives opportunity to play, but also help everyone, especially in financial matters.
She mentioned to me all the things she has done for her to get the scholarship. Where you need to be active and communicate with others. I decided to join here, not just for myself but also for my Aeta students. It’s my great purpose in joining the community, to extend my capabilities to help not just to share knowledge but also give them food, and other essentials. It gives me hard time to hustle here because of my work. I’m a teacher and I’m teaching in a far-flung school that is located in a remote area, so signal and connectivity are not possible there. But because it’s a great privilege for me to be part of this guild, I pursued everything I can to be a scholar here. I gave a lot of effort, gave a lot of my time communicating in the community as possible as I could.
At first, I’m so ashamed to talk with the people in the community. I don’t know how to introduce myself to them. But again, because I want to be part of this guild, I tried to give my best, especially during video call time. I have done my best to speak up, so when the time comes where I used to talk to them every night until morning, I’ve realized that talking with them gives me comfort and I’m so happy whenever I got the chance to talk with them. We laugh and we talk about so many things, and it became my stress-reliever every night. So when I got the scholarship, I’m so happy and very grateful for everyone who gives me chance to be part of the community.
And this typhoon named Odette came, some members of this community was been affected. It is so sad for everyone knowing that many of our members suffered that caused by the typhoon. **And you know what amazed me about this community?** ***It was the unexpected friendship that the guild was built. Aside from having great coaches, we have kind-hearted members who give the effort to gain and raise funds for them.*** Imagine the fact that some of here are not acquainted personally, but the friendship that developed here really gives me a reason to be proud to be part of this ***AxieBCH Dojo Community.***
Though we’re just virtual friends, where many of us are distant for how many miles, you can feel the care and love for each other. I can say that ***I belong to the best community***. I can see the unity for everyone who has the willingness to help someone who is in trouble.
And yes, I will never regret the effort I gave to be part of the ***AxieBCH Dojo Community***, I am blessed, I am grateful, that in this community I can call it ***my family***., And for everyone who has been affected by the typhoon, hold on tight, and let’s pray together. Everything will be fine soon. God is always with us, and He knows exactly what you need.
And for those people who extend their capabilities to help and share for the people who need help. God bless you and believe that God will give you and shower you with more and more blessings. We can make this together, we can get through this together. Cheer up, and have faith! Great things will come your way.
@TeacherJen
