I love the weather today, after the heavy heat that we experience in the past few days, at last I finally smell the air coming from the cold breeze of rain. Hahhh, life - this is the life that I want. Simple, peaceful and full of foods - sana, lol. If only we can wish for this kind of weather everyday. Just enough rain to kill my hotness , I mean Mr. Sunny's hotness rather. But this is just impossible yeah. With the kind of Climate that we have, you know pa change change, aguyy. Anyway, I don't have much of ganap today - as always.
I don't have work so all I can do is to lie on my bed and grind more here in read.cash and noise.cash. I started my day watching "Law School" it's a Korean TV Series by the way. Every morning I do it while having my breakfast. I'm still on episode 05 - I can't finish it on one go because I want to focus more on read.cash and noise.cash, lol. It's on episode 5 and the twist of that Series is just, arghhh. If you're a KDrama addict then you should know by now how nerve wracking is some stories in Korean, you know the twist. They have that always.
And as I'm watching this one, I just notice this one character who has an odd character. She's kind of cold and doesn't care about anything. She's also one of the smartest in Class. She has this poker face, shes rarely smile - actually I haven't seen her smile even once in that Drama. It's like she's stopping herself from doing it, she doesn't want to show any emotions to everyone. I mean, she has a good life, and she's not like the others who's struggling in life, so what's the reason of the unhappiness that I can feel and see in her face?
And I found out on the next episode why she has that cold face. She has everything yes, she has a good house, all the things that she wanted and she also have a very Strict mother, as in seriously. They are molding their daughter to be a monster. A strict guidance is good to make them more responsible and get the future that they want, but not to the point where you will plunge into their head to be always on top, you are taking away to them the chance to enjoy life even in School. You don't give your child a chance to take it easy, a little rest maybe is enough right.
Another thing, someone who's not as smart as her actually manage to be on top just because of "Comma," it's in Criminal Code. This Sol B (the smart one) got 67 on the subject while Sol A actually got 97. And because Sol B Mom is always monitoring her grade, the time that she learned about her grade is also the time her Mom discover it. She receive a call from her Mom and said harsh words to her daughter just because she didn't manage to be on top, her Mom is so furious. It's like, she don't have the right to be on second or third - she should be on top as in.
She keeps on nagging to her daughter about why the not so smart kid got on top while she only she's. She's also blaming the fact that Sol B is staying at the Dorm with her classmate that's why she got that grade. And Sol A, she's a blaming her. I mean, the kids is trying their best to get a high grades but why it's not enough yo some parents. This happened in real life too for sure, you are not a allowed to get a line of 8 grade, it should be it's either a perfect score or 99. And this is where some parents will use that "Comparing" to other siblings method with their kids.
I also experience that, they are comparing me to my cousin (na hilaw). Not blood related, but she's my Mom's partner niece. They keep on comparing me to her that she's very talented some other things. I can't help but to feel sad, coz it's like they want her to be their kid than me. It's not a good feeling and I hate her that time, lol. But anyway, I don't have a kid that's why I can't really say the right thing to do when it comes to parenting. My Mom didn't force me to study well or force me to be on top of class and I'm thankful because of that, lol
But I'm regretting it now that I didn't take my study seriously 🤧. If ever I will have a kid (I'm still not sure with this, tatawasin pa muna, lol) but if heaven will let me have a kid, I won't push them too much into studying. Sure they can play, enjoy their youth, enjoy their life but - I will just make them understand how important education is. So that they will still do their best when it comes to studying to their own accord. They will do it because they want to.
I will still discipline and teach them what is wrong and right, I'll open them to fit in to the reality that we have now. But no forcing, I'm a good kid naman noon so maybe my kid will get that traits to me, lol. Though I'm a little naughty - alright I'm naughty when I was a kid but that's it. I'm still a good kid to Mom coz I always listen to her, so hihi. You know what over protectiveness can do to a child especially if it's below the belt. They can become rebellious because of it, it will affect their mentality. That will lead to a more serious matter.
There are no perfect parents, but as long as you love your kids then that's good. Just lessen the strictness and give love on Christmas Day.
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July 03, 2021