Symptoms of Shyness

“The more that you read, the more things you will know. The more that you learn, the more places you’ll go.”

-Dr. Seuss.

We continued our seminar yesterday and thank God the groups were called randomly and my group was lucky to be called. While presenting, I noticed some people were shy to face the crowd and express themselves freely including myself. I noticed the same symptoms in them which I jotted down and decided to research more on it when I get home. I already told @Kristofferquincy in his article that when we make research, we also learn too not minding the hours we used while doing that. I told him I would also start researching but it would be after my exams so I can have enough time but this present one cannot be put aside but to write things I learned from it.

Shyness is among everyone and it's an emotion that causes fear and anxiety to people. It affects how a person feels, behaves and act around people especially strangers or at a new place. Shyness is mainly for the introverts because you cannot see an extrovert to be shy, but would always mingle around everyone. These sets of people find it hard to build relationships and would prefer doing things on their own.

Some symptoms of Shyness are nervousness. They feel worried when they want to do something in public. One of the students presenting today, I noticed her mood and I could see fear in her. She was worried on how to say something in public and with this, they develop stage fright just like me. Another is that they are breathless. My friend did her own elsewhere and when she returned, she narrated of a particular lady who was rushing everything she has crammed and when it got to a point, she became breathless. She was choked and couldn't speak nor breathe. She had to step back for another person to continue.

This sometimes happens to me too where I would rush things so I can go back to my seat but in that process, I feel choked and would want to calm myself down before continuing. Shy people are self-conscious. They are always scared of other people and they assume when they think, they are talking about them and with this, they feel insecure. Shyness will cage the victims and make them unable to do or say what they want.

Voice shaky can also be a symptom of shy people. Though they know what they want to say but once they mount the stage and start talking, you will feel their voices shaking and this can affect them from saying what they intended to say. It's always easy to rehearse things you would say on stage and will be done perfectly but once on stage, the shaky voice will make them forget all what is in their heads and wouldn't be able to go further.

CAUSES OF SHYNESS

One of the causes of shyness may be traced to home where parents who are authoritarian or overprotective can make their children to be shy. Parents who do not allow their children express themselves or do things on their own may develop shyness.

According to research, about 15 percent of infants are born with a tendency towards shyness.

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When parents are also shy, definitely it will affect the child too. When a parent is warm, caring and less strict to their children, it will result in them relating so well in the environment and are more comfortable around people.

While growing up, my parents never allowed us move closer to boys. We never talked to them and none of us had a relationship with them in school. All our friends were females because the fear they instill in us made us stay away from them. Till I got admitted to the college of education, I had the fear and shyness to talk to any guy even at school and it's still affecting me today because I feel I might not be accepted. Thank God for social media where I am trying to relate and move closer to them. This is to say, parents have influence on their children.

Another cause is bullying. When a child is being bullied in the school, it will definitely affect them to be shy especially when they are threatened not to expose their secrets to anyone.

Then, a society, community or environment can also cause a child to be shy. The society should build solid relationship with peers in the society and this can be done by dividing tasks for them and also to work in groups. When children are relating and communicating with each other, they find it more comfortable and convenient to open up in public and not feel shy.

Now, with all these being said, how can parent or anyone prevent shyness?

• Cope with change

• Teach them how to manage anger

• They should start practicing being humorous

• They should show compassion and help others. This is one thing I am trying to do around me to prevent shyness too.

• Going out to explore other places.

Thanks for reading from my blog today

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[February 02, 2022] (No 33 article for the year)