Good parent, Bad child
“Parenthood...It's about guiding the next generation, and forgiving the last.”
Isn´t it bizarre to see a child turns a bad one even after been brought up by a good parent? Many times, we cannot blame all parents when their children "act out." Most parents have tried their best in bringing a child up. They gave such a child the best morals from home, went to school to acquire more morals and at the end of the day, their behavior is nothing to appreciate over. We can never blame most parents, but we can still blame others, depending on how the situation is.
There is a saying in Yoruba that talks about training a child. When we see a child been brought up in a godly home by wonderful parents, and acting irresponsible, we would say "He or she was taught well, but refuse to adhere to the advices."
It is so funny at times seeing children from Ministers of God´s parent turning bad and being wayward, and you feel it´s the parent´s fault. No, it might not be their faults because they have tried their bests but it is the child who have decided to be away from home. I really give kudos to such parents who have worked hard and sacrificed their lives to make their children great. Parenting is hard, I must say. God will help all parents.
The story of the man I talked about days ago who had two children who are identical twins. One thing we should understand is that the behavior of two siblings cannot be the same even if they are twins. It is impossible to see them acting the same way.
The man tried his best nurturing them and when they grew up, one was privileged to school in the city and immediately he got to school, his behavior changed totally from his twin brother.
I thought that it was because of him being away from his parent, made him changed while the other one still under his parent´s roof was responsible, but I realized that even if you are still with your parent, your real character will show because behavior is like a smoke, it can never be hidden forever. When it get to a stage, your true self would be exposed.
There are many factors that contributes to children acting out even been brought up by wonderful parents. Such factors are to be looked into and with careful monitoring, should parents observe and make amends at the appropriate time.
OUT OF INORDINATE CURIOSITY
Many children are curious and want to have their answers quickly. It is right to want to find answers to something you are confused about, but when it has gotten to the point of asking for answers from the wrong people, it is risky and dangerous because out of curiosity, they begin to involve in unnecessary illegal actions.
A child who sees another fellow squandering money here and there would want to know the secret behind such wealth and when the child seeks the help of a wrong person, they are initiated and that is the beginning of them acing out and refusing the advice of their parents.
This is why parents needs to create more time for their children, make them ask questions and give them the right answers.
I was discussing about sex education to my friends sometimes ago and some were of the opinion that they can´t discuss such with their children when they are young. When will the time be then? I asked.
This is so happening in the world where we have some parents who find it naughty to talk about sex education with their children. The shocking part is that children now knows better than their parents who refused to explain this topic to them, and this is through technology.
They are learning faster with gadgets from friends. These type of children would want to learn more and once they get the attention of outsiders, that is the end.
The best time to teach your children about sex education is when they start to know the good from the bad, perhaps at the age of 3 when they are able to understand that there is punishment if they do something bad.
Many parents would use their businesses as excuse for not creating time for their children. These kids are already getting answers from adults away from home and by the time you realize what is going on, the knife has already cut the hand of the child (It´s an adage). It is necessary to create time for your children now than later when it would be so hard to change them.
Even if you are providing everything they need, at school and in the home, without the attention they need, your efforts will be wasted at the end.
To be continued.....
Photo by Alexander Dummer
[March 01, 2022] (No 60 article for the year)
Many parents get blamed for their kid's misbehaviour but in truth, these kids are being influence by t go e world as round them. I think we us good to train a child cc with godly with wisdom. That way it becomes hard to depart from it