The head and heart in relationship

"A strong relationship requires choosing to love each other, even in those moments when you struggle to like each other."

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Good morning everyone, it´s feels good to be free from the stress of being a student because I don´t have to wake up again, thinking of the lectures I would be having. There was a particular book a student read for her exams and I decided to read but while reading, I learnt many things from it and I would be bringing them out for us to learn from too. At least, we learn when we read. We shouldn´t fail to keep learning from anything around us, most especially through reading.

In the book, the character grew up and everyone was expecting him to get a wife. He is very hardworking and would always give advice to "would be couples" even as a single man. He seems to understand and know the tenets of relationship. In the book, he said something that brought the above title;

Carefully select your wife; the husband may be the head of the home, but the wife is the heart of the home. Do not be deceived by mere packaging; marriage is like a groundnut, you must crack it before you can see what´s inside.

We all know that the head and heart are parts of the human body and both have their work they perform. A lecturer explained the equations in behavior to us and said that if one of the five equations is removed, it will affect the others immediately as they won´t make sense again.

So also is the head and heart. Though both are very important because once the head is cut off, the other parts stopped functioning, but do you know the parts wouldn´t stop until the heart stops breathing? Take for instance, when killing a fowl, the head is the first target and once it is cut off, the other parts would still be shaking for a while until the heart stops.

The man truly is the head of the home while the woman is the heart. The truth is that when a man carefully choose or select a good wife, the home will be in good order but when you choose a bad wife, there is a great possibility that the heart stops at a point and making the head useless.

Every man has his own choice of a woman. Some men would desire the beauty aspect in a woman and forget to check her character and attitude. Once a man makes the mistake of bringing her home, the head is already unstable and when the wife finally accomplished her plans of destroying the man, the wife packs her thing out of the house. Definitely, the heart of the man stops functioning, it will only take the grace of God for the head to stand still.

A bad wife is a snare to her husband´s destiny.

There are some women who have been sent to destroy men´s destinies and if you are not careful enough, things might get damaged even before you realize you have been into the wrong marriage, all because you were after her beauty and not what she can offer in the home. Beauty is fine but that shouldn´t define your prerequisite in choosing a good wife with good character traits that will bring happiness and peace to you.

A wife with a good heart will support her husband no matter what happens but a wife with a bad heart will corrupt the man´s mind and hack everything in his life.

When a man being the head carefully selects his wife with a good heart, even if the duo fight, it will only renew their love because both of them are into it with the same mindset. A lady who has different tactics in mind that is not aligned with her husband, is ready to destroy the man not minding what happen thereafter to him.

So also, as the head of the home, it is important to make your wife happy because without her in your plan, there is no going forward. A real woman will always pray and support her man if she is happy, but when as a man, you aren´t doing things to bring happiness, both the head and heart are gradually getting ruined.

Some of the tips I learnt from the book to make your home happy as a man are,

• Balance two things in your life as a man. Your work and wife are your equations and the earlier to balance both, the best for you. Create time regularly to be with your wife. Do not let boredom take over her. Even though you work, when you return from work, remember that she needs you and not bringing your work home and trying to avoid your wife when she really needs your attention.

• A foolish man would allow their children or any other person that doesn´t matter to make their love for the wife wane.

  Before your children, comes the person you have known for years and because of your children who have been added to the equation, you then shift your love to them, forgetting your wife. It is good to love your children, but when the love has been shifted completely away from your wife to the children, it turns the home upside down. You have to be careful not to allow hatred or impartiality destroy your home as the head of the house.

• Lastly, a responsible man lays the foundation for riches, then invite his wife and children to enjoy and grow the riches together. I feel this is the part that needs a man to be extra careful so that all he has worked and labored for doesn´t go into the trash suddenly due to the wrong choice he made by himself.

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