Part Of Life.

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Challenges are part of life and there is no man without them. We might look all pretty and nice but we all have that one thing that is eating up deep inside that no other human knows or can satisfy. We all want to have a challenge-free life but I am sorry, we can't because challenges are part of life and depending on how we handle them, they make us stronger and strengthen our character.

You must have heard of the popular phrase "The rich also cry" and that's nothing but the truth. We seem to judge a lot of people based on face value but face value is a false value most of the time. There was this song from the movie I watched many years ago and it says "I saw a luxurious car with a rich man in it, driving it. I was wishing that life would be favourable to me to make me like that man one day but I seem to forget that wealth/riches comes with its trouble too."

We don't seem to understand what others are going through and we just conclude that they have everything under control. When some open their mouth to tell you the things they have gone through or the things they are going through, you would be forced to call them a liar because it would be too good to be true. Challenges don't get easier with life and the more you think you have overcome one, you are only unlocking a bigger one which is why we need to build strength with every challenge we go through because we would need that strength to unlock the next phase.

I was discussing with a friend of mine yesterday and she told me that she couldn't wait to be done with school and I laughed. She wondered why I laughed and she told me she was being serious. I simply reminded her that leaving school is not the end of her problems but the start of major real-life ones and she was left with no choice but to ponder on them.

The moment you leave school that's when reality would hit you hard especially if you were the type that was lucky enough to be sponsored through school by your parents. Imagine having 3 other siblings after you and they just started school just when you graduated and your parents are not that financially capable. You just entered the pressure zone especially if you are a Nigerian where parents make us understand that we are investments to them and they have done their part in sending us to school.

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There is this slang we say here: "Problem no dey finish" - meaning "Problems don't end" and that's the truth but they can be managed. We just have to ease ourselves of the pressure and know that we are responsible for ourselves and no one else. I know we all have this entitlement mentality and God knows I had it too while growing up especially when my dad just passed away. I was expecting everyone to be handing me money since "my dad just died" thinking sympathy would get me on my footing but that period was when I saw humans at their worst.

I saw family members who always flood our place to get help keep their distance while some even said so many derogatory words. I saw humans at their worst and that was when I got to know that no one owes you anything and it doesn't matter the good deeds your parents had done. It is good to do good, don't get me wrong and I am sure dad felt happy doing what he did but he did it for himself and his conscience and it doesn't always mean I should leverage on it. Of course, maybe later in life, I would reap it or my children would but I can only continue from where he stopped and not let that affect how I see people.

How you handle what life throws at you matters a lot because it would either make you or mar you. You can't always have things your way and not everyone would like you. Most people try to focus too much on how others see them forgetting that it's our personal view that matters to our lives. Challenges are part of life and we cannot run away from them.

You finish school and you start getting worried about getting a job or starting one. You go through that phase with pressure sometimes and anxiety as you might not even see a single soul to help you at that time. It doesn't mean that they don't want to help it's just that they can't. You get the job and you have targets on your back to keep your job or you have mounting pressure to help out your siblings while still trying to do better for yourself. You have a family to also build alongside making the best for yourself. When you think about life you will understand that it's an endless cycle where you always have to encounter one problem or the other but those problems are not insurmountable. With a better attitude, we can always overcome them.

Each stage you go through be prepared for challenges to come. It doesn't mean you are professing bad things but it only means you have to prepare your mind for it. Even the Bible says "In this world, you will have tribulations but be of good cheer for I have overcome the world." It's not a matter of IF challenges would come but a matter of WHEN it would come. Jay Z wasn't lying in the lyrics of his song that says "Hoping for the best but expecting the worst" (Forever Young). We need to expect challenges and if you are doing something and there is no challenge there, you have to watch it 🤣🤣😂 because speed is useless when you are on the wrong path.

One thing is certain, everything will be alright. You are not the only one in it but you can get out of it with the right attitude.

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