I know we all have different reasons why we choose those we say we love and no one can doubt the authenticity of your claim but situations will happen that will put to test to challenge the reasons you think you have. If your reasons are not deep, you might find yourself doubting your choices and it's a terrible thing to live in regrets when you should be enjoying your life with someone who truly matters.
I've chosen to date some ladies before because I think they were cute and those were the days I didn't even know what I was doing. I felt dating someone cute would raise my profile with my friends and sure, it did but it was insensitive of me to do that because no one deserves to be dated because they are just cute. It's an insult because I am indirectly saying she has nothing else to offer other than her beauty. How about we start choosing people because they are kind?
It's true what they say that the most beautiful ones that know they are really beautiful are the ones that will give you more headache 🤣🤣😂🤣😂 because they know they are hotcake so if you mess up, there are many lining up on the wings willing to take over hahahaha. Jokes apart, our reasons for choosing a partner must be deeper than the money they have and the face value they have because many people are suffering underneath just by choosing a partner by this criteria.
I heard recently a story and I was shocked. This guy is rich but wouldn't spend so much on his family. He is only consistent with paying the rent and school fees and of course food in the house but the wife wanted more. He didn't allow her to work and yet he isn't helping her with other things that needed to be sorted out. They are married with 2 children already and now she is frustrated.
This is why you shouldn't skip the courtship period when you are dating someone. Don't think you want to nail a man down by quickly getting married to him without knowing the basic things you should know and some guys too think they need to nail a lady down by getting her pregnant so she would stick with them. Most people who tried these approaches are regretting it because the honeymoon is over and reality has set in and it's more than they bargained for.
The lady in question ignored so many warning signs because she felt this guy is rich. She ought to have gotten close to this guy's siblings to know and hear how he treats them because he can't be lavishing money on his siblings and then not want to lavish on his own family. It's obvious he isn't the type that allows money to work for him and he works for money instead. How can you have a family and you are rich yet you won't take care of them? I think those who did money rituals are the culprit to this based on the movies I have watched and it's just plain wickedness to watch your family suffer when you could have done something better to alleviate them.
The wife in question organized with some boys and kidnapped her husband. They demanded a ransom which the man paid and he was released. The wife got her share of the money and acted like nothing happened other than the fake care and worry she showed as she was nursing her husband back to health because they beat him up a bit.
A lot of people would try to give justification for what the lady did and as payback as we might want it to sound I think it was greed that led her to this guy in the first place. She ignored so many warning signs and felt all that glitters was gold and she wanted that life of affluence without getting to understand the man to be sure if she can put up with such a person. She is wrong just as the husband is wrong in trying to make life difficult for his family.
You don't fix one wrong with another wrong. She got the ransom money but then would she be happy? Does that mean the situation would change? If the man hasn't changed and that experience didn't teach him anything he would still frustrate that wife because he would always question her on where she got money to buy the new things he would be seeing.
Take your time and there is no need to rush things. You are not broken because you are single. Nothing is wrong with you because you haven't found someone yet. Would you rather get just anyone and endure misery in your marriage rather than take your time, do the due diligence you need and get your conviction before forging ahead.
A lot of people are filled with regrets. They skipped the process because they yielded to what society demanded. Society wouldn't show regard to you if they think you are not in a relationship and the same society would mock you if that relationship fails. The standards are wrong and why should we yield to what society thinks?
Some people should remain single and achieve purpose than for them to get caught up in a relationship that is just bondage. Lack of self-love had forced many people to accept the love they think they deserved. You should love yourself enough not to accept just any kind of love from others.
Some vital discussions must be had before deciding to go on to marry your spouse and if you are not okay with the discussions because they won't favour you in the end, it's better to end it than think no one else would accept you and you go ahead with it. It's okay to put your interest first while you both find a common ground where everyone wins. It's a relationship so no one is better than the other, just make sure you have something you are bringing to the table apart from your good looks and sex.
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Looking out on those warning signs really matters a lot in a relationship to avoid chaos later. Taking things slow before hooking up with your partner forever is the best to know and understand each other.