Hello everyone, it is Oikawa again! How is everyone doing today? Three days remain till we enter December, aren't you excited? Another month has passed, and you are still alive; that alone should make you happy.
The previous year and this year have been pretty hectic, with lockdowns and instability everywhere; sometimes, I wonder if this decade would be a good one.
It may have started badly, but I hope we all have a reason to celebrate when we enter 2030.
Anyway, I didn't write this for that reason; I wanted to ask why people still stay in relationships when they know they aren't wanted?
It bugs me to see people sad and lonely when in a relationship with another person, especially when they do not commit to the other.
A friend of mine has liked someone for some time now, and they finally started going out, but the thing is, the other individual has absolutely no interest in them and is only dating them out of pity.
It is sad to hear, but I don't want to intervene because it is not my responsibility.
It shocked me when my friend told me she wanted to get pregnant for him because she thought he would never leave her alone due to his responsibilities as a father.
She continued stating how it would benefit her and how other girls do it to their boyfriends; I stayed there listening to her crazy talk; I would admit I was horrified by what she said.
I felt sorry for the guys who fell for this, and I immediately brought her back to her senses; she is only 18 and is thinking of having a baby so that she can stay with a guy.
Sometimes, I wonder how people think; imagine what would have happened if I didn't stop her from fulfilling her plans.
I am sure she would have gotten pregnant and ended up having tons of regret in the future.
In her mind, I am sure she thinks he would have no other option than to stay with her, and they would both live happily ever after, but life is not a fairytale; one day, I am sure she would look back at her decisions and frown.
I don't want to admit it to her, but over time love will fade, and what keeps a relationship strong is true friendship and responsibilities; there is no point in staying with someone who will not stay in the long run.
The sad part here is that other girls do it, and they may think they are benefiting themselves, but the only person that would be hurt is the baby.
One day, they may see the baby as the reason they failed in life, which won't be suitable for the child.
If a relationship isn't working, is it not obvious to leave it while you still can? I think that is why dating is important because it allows you to understand and get information on your life with that person.
In the past, people didn't even need to date, their marriages were usually determined by their parents, and they had no voice in making these decisions.
But now that we have dating, I see no reason for someone to be unhappy in a relationship; if you date a person for six months and have no information on them, you are only creating problems for yourself.
Even after dating, I still see a lot of people unhappy in their relationships. Still, they never want to let go for some reason, and they keep on clinging onto something that has failed, then they go off to marry that person and end up unhappy forever.
You didn't come to this world to be unhappy, and we only live once, so why would you choose to spend yours with regrets.
This problem doesn't only happen in dating and marriage; it also happens in friendships.
I see this a lot of times, a situation where someone clings to a popular/famous person because they want to receive approval from that person.
You will see them being treated like trash or invalid, but they still cling to that person, hoping they will give them approval one day.
No one needs to approve of you before you live your life; you didn't come into this world to make others happy because no matter what you do, there will be people who still dislike you.
Live for yourself, and when you are unhappy in a relationship with someone, talk with them, and share how you feel; they may understand, they may not understand.
If that person truly values you, they will understand and change how they act towards you.
"Don't stay when you are not wanted" You are only hurting yourself.
Thank you for reading!
Love should be from the two sides. Once it is not so, it's only a waste of time.