When you are looking for reasons to celebrate...
When you are looking for reasons to celebrate, any reason is good, because the sole intention of celebration and enjoyment makes everything ready for that special moment.
I like celebrations, and although I adapt to any type of celebration, I like more the ones I spend in my close circle, with my family and close friends. Since I was a child I liked to organize celebrations in my family, I invented costume parties, cooking contests and any other activity in which all family members participated, it was always a lot of fun, because in the vacations, opportunity in which we all got together, we did many different and fun things.
In the month of February when we enjoy the carnival days, we always take the opportunity to have a costume party, we play cards, we play games, I think it is one of my favorite celebrations because I love to see the inventions of my sisters and cousins to come up with the best costume, and one of my uncles always manages to scare my aunts with his costumes.
On one occasion we invented a dessert contest, I don't think we imagined that collective sugar rush, because there were too many sweet things to try and no one thought about the food, we were all focused on the desserts and after that we couldn't eat them for a long time, but we had a great time.
I also remember that, as a teenager, I enjoyed with my best friend the day before our birthdays, it was the day of the "unbirthday", every May 26 and August 27 we had a celebration between the two of us, it was an excellent opportunity to review how our year had been and prepare for the next one, it is a tradition that I like and we still keep after 25 years, a good excuse to get together and update us with our lives.
My marriage was a little peculiar because we chose a December 24 to make the party, in my country as in many countries of the world commemorates that day the birth of Jesus Christ, and there is the tradition of gifts that brings the baby Jesus or Santa Claus. We were preparing all the details in a week, I feel that every day of preparation was an opportunity for celebration, as we ended up with the family listening to music, advance preparations, having a drink or two, sharing laughter and much more. By the day of the wedding we had already had about 7 days of celebration and we were really exhausted.
One of my uncles dressed up as Santa Claus and handed out the gifts to all the attendees, it was really something peculiar for a married couple, we had a great time and even though we divorced 14 years later, it will always be a pleasant and beautiful memory of our family. The birth of our son was the greatest joy and celebration of our lives.
I love Christmas celebrations, it is my favorite time of the year, it is the month when there are plenty of excuses to share and be with family.
In general I think that any reason is good to celebrate, the arrival of a new family member, a marriage, a trip, a birthday, reaching any goal, be on anniversary at @readcash, and why not, even separations can be a good excuse to celebrate.
I feel that every day we open our eyes is an opportunity to celebrate, life gives us a new day to live and enjoy and every little or big thing that happens to us can be worthy of celebration, then I think it is a matter of attitude, to be willing to enjoy, to share, to live in grace and harmony.
Sometimes we do not realize that we let many moments of celebration pass us by because we are so imbued with work, occupations, obligations and a myriad of other pretexts. We leave the celebration for a "special occasion", when in reality, any reason is good to celebrate, you can always have a reason or invent an "un-birthday" day to celebrate. At the end of life, it is those moments that we will keep in our hearts, those bonds we made with others are the ones that leave the mark of our transit here on earth, and that is why I think we should always try to take advantage of those spaces to share with family and friends.
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Divorce: existential failure or new beginning?
Greetings to all the Readcashers that make life in this Community, in this opportunity I wanted to share with you my experience on this subject, which I consider of great importance and sometimes, we take for granted or perhaps we do not dedicate the due importance to it, , especially in the form of how to approach it with our children.
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To begin with, I must confess that I was the typical "Susanita" of the Mafalda cartoon (cartoon of Argentinean origin), who thought of marriage *"until death do us part"*, the idea of a divorce never crossed my mind and even less that I was going to raise my children in a family nucleus without such an important member: Dad.
It was for me a really difficult decision that took me about two years, even I must confess that until the last moment I resisted and tried everything I could do, however, my heart knew that there was nothing to save and when I managed to understand this I could let go of that toxic relationship that paradoxically ended at that point of death, but not a physical death but of Love, of that state that once united us and that had vanished in us forever.
It's a very hard situation to process for adults, imagine then what it represents for children who have the illusion of living with mom and dad together every day, sharing every moment with their great loves.
Being in that situation I knew that I did not have the tools to explain the situation to Miguel, my son who was 4 years old at the time, and I wanted to help him in his grieving process, to take care of his personal world, because he was very closed to dad. Therefore, I had a clear priority that I had to make use of the necessary tools to give him all the support I could.
I sought guidance from a wonderful family psychologist; I followed her work closely because she is dedicated to the subject of conscious motherhood and she was my great salvation at that time. I remember that she gave me very clear indications, which I share with you in my words:
**1.** The only thing that is mutating with the divorce is the couple's relationship, the father-child and mother-child bond should not be broken by the separation and it's the first thing you should take care of and also transmit to the child.
**2.** Each one of the parents must take care to maintain this bond intact, each one is responsible for their relationship with the child.
**3.** Neither parent should interfere or limit the bond of the other, so you cannot use the child as a flag to inflict harm to the other, nor force the bond that does not fall within your sphere of responsibility.
These were the keys to our first conversation, she told me that under no circumstances could I lie to Miguel to paint a different reality to the one his has, nor try to replace with my presence the spaces that corresponded to the father.
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She also told me that I should speak to him clearly, with few words, in a conversation no longer than 5 minutes, which is his attention span, emphasizing that the love of his mom and dad is still the same and that he continued to be the center of our attention, that he as a being was the sum of the best of mom and dad.
Another recommendation was to approach the subject not from the point of view of something that was fractured or broken, but rather, that a new family was being born, changing shape and that it was also perfect for us if we accepted this new reality that was presented to us.
This guide was very important to me, not only because it gave me peace and was a great point of support, but also because it allowed me to see divorce in a different way than I was seeing it at the time. For me it was a kind of existential failure and I was sadly stuck to that idea of a broken illusion.
The support I had from that family psychologist to change the perception I had of the subject was healing and liberating, it was no longer an existential failure but an opportunity to live other experiences and renewal. After the divorce, and even being alone with the upbringing and all that this may imply, I felt a Peace that I cannot describe in these lines, it turns out that I had lost it and I did not even realize it.
And I think that the understanding of this was what helped me to transmit the situation to Miguel, he also realized that days of calm came, and that despite the circumstances his mom and dad would always be there for him.
I'm still building this dialogue, Miguel still has some questions or concerns and we talk about them openly. It is extremely important to answer all their questions and concerns, even if they are repetitive, as well as to accompany them with love and patience in the adaptation and acceptance phase.
I hope these guidelines can help you in case you are going through a similar situation. The only thing I would like to add is to advise you not to get carried away by the emotion of that moment and always put your children first, act with maturity thinking that every word and action you say or do has an impact on their welfare and therefore it is of vital importance to always protect them in their process.
***And of course, answering the question of the title of my post, the divorce has been a great opportunity for renewal in my life, of many learnings and personal growth, because after that I found myself again, and I am infinitely grateful for having done it.***
Thank you very much for your support, see you soon!
Blessings ✨
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You are the entire Universe within you
In recent days I read a beautiful publication of @TruSuccessXpert, it was really a refreshing experience to read his post because it reminds us with an incredible delicacy and a motivating message, the importance of believing in ourselves and to wake up to be in that true nature that we are as "Beings of Light" creators of our circumstances.
I'm very passionate about these topics because I have been a permanent seeker of that nature for a long time, I think I have removed many veils and false beliefs that I had about the world, religion, faith, and human nature itself. I could say that I'm at a level more focused on living in the present moment, aware of my emotional and mental creations, and at the same time taking responsibility for all the situations that present themselves to me, seeing them as lessons that I must learn in order to continue on this path of awakening of consciousness.
In this post, beyond talking to you about this whole journey, what I wanted to capture were some words that resonated with me and came to me after reading that beautiful publication that @TruSuccessXpert commented on, which I recommend you to read at this link: https://read.cash/@TruSuccessXpert/letter-from-the-universe-27aeedac
Without further ado, I share with you what I wrote a few days after that writing that moved me internally this reflection:
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You are the most beautiful and important guest in this existence we call life, in this earthly experience that invites us to remember our true nature to return to the Source.
Live, give yourself the opportunity, trust, let your heart beat every day and add divinity in you, making things better every day, being aware of your emotions and thoughts and always choosing for the greater good from a consciousness connected to the love of creation.
You are exactly what is within you, that spark of divine light from the Universal Source that extends in all of us and unites us with invisible threads in this energetic reality. You are everything you see and at the same time, everything you observe in your life experience is also part of you, of your creation, both what you like and what you don't like.
That is why you must remember that each life experience has to do with the learning that you have had to experience in order to grow and evolve. All those around you are your Masters, even those who make you "suffer" under a limited perception of reality seen from the point of view of suffering. Nothing is outside of you, everything is inside and from there you project the whole world you see.
To free yourself from that suffering imposed by the selfish and limited mind, you must abandon judgments, and that incessant need to want to impose your vision, your reason, opening your mind to a broader perception of all that exists and taking responsibility for your creations.
Love is the greatest force in creation, and it is only what it is, there is no way to describe in words what you experience when you are immersed in that Source of Universal Love of which you are a part, that is why it is important that you recognize that all that is perfect lies within you and you have unlimited power of creation.
Within this transit of life you may experience a lot of chaos, fear, and that is also part of the cosmic balance of this vast Universe, while you transit it from that energy of Love, acceptance and fluidity in this universal current will come to you in help to show you that path of evolution.
Be aware that you are an infinite being, inexhaustible, pure energy of that Source of Love and exploit that unlimited power that is in you.
Thank you so much for your support, I appreciate your comment.
With love, @miriannalis
Blessings ✨
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"The story of Friar Francisco"
Blessed Readcashers present,
Time goes by pretty fast and today I was surprised because I realized that I already completed 6 months since I joined Readcash, although I have not maintained the level of dynamism that I would like, I look for spaces to build every day the image I want to have of my Blog.
Since I started I have shared motivational and reflective posts, and today I wanted to try something new that I have been experimenting with in the area of literature.
Lately, I have been inspired to write short stories, sometimes I find certain stimuli that inspire me like my children or some anecdote or experience of the day, I have also tried to awaken my muse with images or words making a kind of game, selecting words or images randomly and build a story on it.
Yesterday I was writing about a romantic story with a little twist in the direction of the protagonists life, with these random words: **monastery, welder, remember, flowers** and **death,** I want to share with you my creation so you can give me your opinion about this story that I called:
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I have the need to write my story and share it with the world. It's time to unburden myself and drain all this turmoil I feel inside and **remember** the reasons that made me stay in this holy place.
When I met Anne my world changed completely. I was a disoriented young man who until then had made the wrong decisions. To tell you that I dabbled in drugs is really a trifle for all the things I did against my body and my family and all the disastrous life I led.
Anne was a very special woman, she was able to put aside my history and see beyond the outward appearance, what even I had not recognized in 27 years of my existence. A woman who made me dream of a world of possibilities, of the best possible world. She was strong-willed, courageous, tough, and at the same time, warm, compassionate and loving, identified with feminist movements and a follower of leaders such as journalist Tawakkul Karman, 2011 Nobel Peace Prize winner.
Thanks to her encouragement and faith in me, I started working at the **Monastery**; they needed a **welder** to undertake different remodeling and repair works. I could say that it was the only good thing I inherited from my father, may he rest in peace. I had avoided the trade because I didn't want to be anything like him, but paradoxically it was the only place that gave me a chance with the chequered life history I had up to my 27th birthday.
When Anne proposed it to me, I felt it was my only chance to show her family, and everyone who knew me, my desire to better myself and change my personal situation; so I accepted the offer. What I lacked in pay I made up for with the beautiful scenery surrounding the **monastery** and its gardens full of red color with its many **flowers**. I spent hours contemplating the beauty of this peaceful place. Most of the older monks and also the novices treated me with great respect and for the first time I felt the appreciation of a community.
This work did not interrupt my relationship with Anne; with her there were no dull days: laughter and games abounded between us, and also very tense moments when our tempers and disagreements exploded. We were very passionate in every way.
My years with her were the happiest of my life, to the point that I swore eternal love to her and, in the name of that oath, I worked every day to be a better person and to have a way to offer her security and stability. I did nothing but dream of our future together. However, his family was always the reason for our arguments, they refused to accept our relationship.
In the monastery I began to read some scriptures and the monks allowed me to stay permanently, to take care of other tasks, after each day I met with one of the monks, almost always with Fray Luis and I managed to win his affection, although he had a cold and distant appearance, I discovered that he was very close, human and understanding.
From him I learned about philosophy and the difference with theology. Every day he challenged me to think and reflect on some existential question and this encouraged me to continue studying more and more. Our conversations became more interesting every day, many paradigms and mistaken beliefs I had about God changed in those discussions. He would assign me readings and then we would discuss their meaning.
I spent countless hours and days praying with Friar Luis for her recovery, but the arrival of **death**, besides being sudden, was implacable in its purpose. Days of restlessness consumed me, and the only salvation I found was in this monastery where I reaffirmed my vow of eternal love for Anne and began my priestly vows.
Since then 20 years have passed and I still remember her as if it were yesterday, in her name I managed to make this Rehabilitation and Recovery Center: "Anne Foundation" along with other brothers of the Congregation, we are dedicated to support the lives of many young people who are lost in the world of drugs and find a new path.
That is why I decided today to write these lines, in recognition of that oath of love, aware that it is time to let her go, and accept that energy was transformed, materialized in this great work of love to which I dedicate myself now on behalf of Anne, for you always dear my eternal gratitude.
With love and eternal gratitude to Anne, Friar Francisco
I would love to know your opinion about the story, and even propose that we can play this game of **"Awakening the Muse"** with random words, what do you think?
I read you in the comments, hope you liked the story.
Blessings ✨
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Living in gratitude
As a child my parents taught me to be grateful, but I feel that I did not learn the true power of gratitude until about 15 years later, I think because that teaching was based on recognizing favors received, plus a standard of education, of proper social behavior.
When I was 15 years old, I experienced an accident in a river, I almost died in a waterfall that ended in some big rocks, fortunately my dad was able to save me just before I fell, in the best style of Hollywood superheroes, fortunately I had no injuries beyond a few scratches. Until that moment I had not thought in my mind to be thankful for life every day, at that age, I think very few people think they can be on the edge of death and it turns out that every day that passes you are dancing in that cycle of life, between living and dying.
My life changed radically since that event, a year later I was doing volunteer service in a hospital for children with deformities or pathologies in the extremities of their body and spine, to tell you that it was another great year of transformation I think it would be too little to say, to see the hard tests that other people go through, even as children makes you realize that you are too lucky to walk and use your arms without limitations, although this seems quite obvious.
Have you ever stopped to think about this, have you ever been grateful for having the blessing of being able to pick up your toothbrush and clean your teeth without anyone's help?
In that hospital I met Daniela, a 7 year old girl who had a deformity in her little hands and had already been operated 4 times for it, one day I arrived at the Hospital and found her very happy, she was overjoyed. She was jumping up and down as if she had seen Santa Claus in person, when I asked her the reason for her joy, she answered me something that left me pondering all day, she simply said:
***"I am happy because today I was able to brush my teeth alone for the first time in my life".***
I think this is a very common expression (perhaps a bit rude for my vocabulary) but it can be summarized in this abbreviation: Wtf?
That's how I left the Hospital, feeling terrible because even though I had been on the verge of death, I had realized that my level of gratitude did not have the level of that little girl's, I realized that there were so many things to be grateful for every day, and I was overlooking them.
Over time I have learned that gratitude is a "state of being" that puts us in a state of grace that allows us to appreciate the best every day, to exalt the good in our lives, instead of the worst, or what we consider "bad". Sometimes we may go through situations in which we believe that nothing could be worse, that there is nothing good to exalt or be grateful for, and it turns out that even the simple fact of brushing our teeth is enough reason to be grateful and be in gratitude. Having the possibility to breathe and live, regardless of the circumstances you are going through is already an opportunity that not everyone has, so we must appreciate that we can do it every day.
When we constantly complain about our situation, about what we lack, or what we do not like, what we are doing is putting our attention on the lack, it is a basic thought of scarcity that keeps us away from prosperity and harmony, a mental program that we must eradicate from our thoughts. Instead, practicing gratitude on a daily basis places our attention on what we have, on the opportunities, it's at the same time a small act of faith that invites us to Believe and have Hope.
So, I want to leave you today with a couple of practices I do to be in gratitude:
- Every morning when I get up, I give thanks for 7 things, the first things that come to my mind, such as breathing, being healthy, seeing my children; and I do the same practice before going to sleep.
- During the day, I choose a space to be in silence for a couple of minutes and breathe, at that moment I look around me and appreciate everything I see, even my life immersed in everything I see and I simply say "Thank you".
These are practices that we can incorporate into our daily routine that take us no more than 10 or 15 minutes as a whole, and bring a lot of value to our lives.
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Encounter with Universal Energy
Today is celebrated the world day of Reiki and Reikista, and I wanted to take the opportunity to write about it, because this System has been very important for me, in this journey of learning the management of universal energy and also about generating good karma and positive vibes for me and everything around me.
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Reiki is an ancient Japanese technique of channeling healing energy through the laying on of hands, is a system of harmonization and natural healing, which works on the basis of:
**"REI"**: universal energy coming from the source that nourishes all existence.
**"KI"**: vital energy found in every living being.
That is, this technique seeks to connect the universal energy with the energy of each living being, and acts at the physical level (body), mental (thoughts), emotional (emotions and feelings) and spiritual (energy and connection with the Divine).
How is this possible?
It's possible to achieve this encounter between Rei and Ki energy, because every particle of our body contains the information of the Universe and gives us access to that connection with the Totality, we are sparks of Divine Light, we share the same source of the Creator and all existence, so we can achieve that connection at the time we want in many different ways, and Reiki is one of them.
For me, Reiki more than a technique or healing system has been a philosophy of life, it's not a religion, and the only dogma it proclaims is based on the principles that support its practice, which are:
I found this path more than 15 years ago, and it has been a path that has helped me grow, evolve in consciousness and connect with the power of my inner healing force, that power that we all have by sharing that essence of light with all that exists.
Reiki helps us to maintain a balance in our energy and to connect with higher frequencies such as love, peace, compassion and forgiveness.
Although it has a method to follow and you must be initiated by a Master for its practice, I can recommend that you seek that encounter with the Universal Energy through yourself, practicing every day these principles that I showed you above about harmonizing our energy. It's also important that you close your eyes for a few moments before starting your daily routine and ask that universal energy to converge with yours and guide your every step.
So rather than highlighting the benefits of Reiki in this post, I invite you instead to explore within you that healing power, believe it or not we are all endowed with it, it is something innate in all beings and not a supernatural gift as we have been led to believe since time immemorial.
**Give permission to the Universal Energy to be part of all possible aspects of your life, bless the food you eat, bless every being that is part of your life and your environment (even those who do not like you), visualize yourself surrounded by a sphere of light as if it were a protective shield, these are simple habits that you can incorporate to generate that conscious link with the Energy.**
To close, I leave you a meditation exercise that you can practice at the time of day that is most comfortable for you, you simply must have a space of about 5 to 10 minutes, and release all the occupations you have to devote yourself entirely to the exercise, you can put a relaxing music of your liking to help you generate the atmosphere of meditation:
***Sitting comfortably, with your back straight, close your eyes and take slow and deep breaths, go releasing the tensions of your body with each breath, if you observe any distracting thought let it pass, do not get hooked with it, just continue with the breaths.***
***When you feel relaxed, place your hands in front of each other and in that state of stillness perceive the energy that forms between your hands, it may be in the form of heat, tingling, a magnetic force, current, or even you can not feel anything at all, let these sensations flow, do not interpret, or make use of reason to explain what happens or does not happen.***
***If you feel any of these sensations, the presence of the energy between your hands, move your hands little by little, moving them away from each other, without losing that connection, play with that energy until you form a ball between your hands that you can manipulate, stretch and pick it up. With that warmth in your hands, take them to your heart and invoke the Universal Energy, ask it to irradiate you with energy and experience that moment of connection for a few moments letting flow all the blessings that will come to you at that moment.***
I hope you enjoy this meditative exercise, and if you practice it or have done it before, I would love to hear about your experience in the comments.
Wherever you are I send you the best of energies ✨
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Nothing is forever except change
Blessed present ✨
In recent days I have been searching for thought-provoking quotes and thoughts from spiritual Masters to share on Noisecash, and I found this quote from Buddha, which despite its short words holds a powerful meaning:
Reflecting on our existence, I observe that since we are born we are in constant transformation, isn't it obvious?
And beyond this obviousness, I find it curious to see how despite being marked by this premise of change and transformation that is part of our nature, we find it so difficult at times to adapt to the changes that occur in our environment and in ourselves.
We even pretend to cling to people and relationships with the false idea that they are "immutable" when the truth is that they are also in constant transformation. Everyone and everything around us is in permanent transformation.
We can see this clearly with our children, we start taking care of them with devotion and then there comes a time when we must let them live their own learning experiences without much interventionism.
Our bodies change every day even if it's not perceptible to us, there comes a time when a gray hair just appeared or you realize that you no longer have the vitality you had before.
You can have a great fortune in your bank account, make a bad investment and lose everything in the blink of an eye and that life of luxury that you thought would last forever vanishes in front of your eyes.
Everything changes, nothing is forever, just as our lives were transformed with the arrival of this pandemic, and trying to resist this only makes it an insufferable process, more so than it already is on its own.
Understanding this premise of life has allowed me to adopt a more flexible stance. Before, I used to be rigid and willful in resisting those changes that were not to my liking and this did nothing but cause me much suffering (such as clinging to a relationship that had no future at all).
With time I realized that everything happens for a reason and it has helped me to evolve in consciousness, so now I flow better before the challenges that are presented to me, as if I were in a constant dance with movements that adapt to the rhythm of the music.
**Have you ever thought that? Living life as if you were in a constant dance in which new rhythms and melodies are emerging at every moment.**
Before I could not see it this way because it was hard for me to let go of control, but now I have become a dancer with the cosmos and all existence, so I thank and bless each of the changes I have experienced in my life that make me be the person I'm today, with all its lights and shadows and a large accumulation of learning.
See you soon! Thank you for your support
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**The attitude of accompanying the other** https://read.cash/@MiriannaLis/the-attitude-of-accompanying-the-other-7983c430
**Habits that drain your energy** https://read.cash/@MiriannaLis/habits-that-drain-your-energy-92379115
**When things don't go as expected** https://read.cash/@MiriannaLis/when-things-dont-go-as-expected-f315489b
**Creating expectations, accumulating suffering** https://read.cash/@MiriannaLis/creating-expectations-accumulating-suffering-fd0a317c
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The attitude of accompanying the other
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These last few days I have been reflecting on this attitude of "accompanying" the other from a space of empathy, understanding their rhythms and their spaces, as if it were a dance with the other, going to the rhythm of their steps, but a little beyond simply following the rhythm but also realizing the importance of putting oneself in the other's place and developing empathy, based on knowledge and respect for the other.
I have been thinking about this a lot, watching my children grow up. I have two sons, Miguel and Gael, Miguel is 10 years old and Gael is two and a half years old, even though they have a big age difference I have been able to see how their learning and growing processes are so different.
Miguel has been very fearful since he was little and it is hard for him to dare to do new things, he is quite introverted and he avoids anything he feels he can put himself at risk. On the other hand, Gael, despite being younger, has a more intrepid, extroverted and adventurous personality, possibly because he is so young he has not yet developed the ability to see risk or danger in things, however, he is still an extroverted child.
So I have at home both extremes in personality and different ways of seeing the world and consequently doing things. This has led me to understand that I must go at the pace of each one to accompany them in the best way in their learning processes, without imposing anything that may go against their wishes and rather taking advantage of their potential from what they are.
All this has been something rather intuitive, actually I did not propose this as a mother, on the contrary, I came with the chip of my formation in which parents told you what to do and what not, even if you were not willing to do something, you had to do it, period -like eating a horrible liver steak-.
I have thought about this because in recent days my son Miguel learned to ride a bike, he had not wanted to ride his bike because when we gave it to him 3 years ago he got on it and fell off, from then on he became very afraid of the bike and did not want to experiment anymore. It took 3 years for him to be ready to take that step again, and this time I was also ready to support him to overcome that fear.
When I saw him start the bike I was very happy to see how he convinced himself that everything would be fine, accompanying him in each step and with a lot of motivation he started riding until he got the rhythm of the bike and then he was riding alone on the avenue enjoying the ride.
As parents we must develop this ability to adapt to the individual context of our children, paradoxically some parents think that it should be the other way around: -the children should be the ones who adapt to the circumstances of society or to our way of doing things-, and they force them to do things for which they were not prepared and this generates those traumas or resistances, and also that important opportunities are lost.
I also see that many people may have the bad habit of comparing: "my son walked when he was one year old and yours is still not walking", I remember those words of a neighbor who was worried because Gael, at 14 months old, had not started to walk. Fortunately I ignored her and didn't worry about it because I knew that my baby would start walking at his own pace at any moment, and he did! The next month he was running around the house and no one was stopping him.
If I had worried about his comment I may have put my son under unnecessary pressure to walk and this would have surely stressed him out unnecessarily, because in the end, what is the problem with a child learning to ride a bike at 10 years old or a baby learning to walk at 15 months?
Absolutely none! It is perfect and wonderful because it was a learning process that happened at the right time when they were ready to take that step and as a mother I learned to adapt to that by practicing this attitude of "accompanying" and following their rhythms.
We are all different and everyone has their own way of being, thinking and acting, and I feel that as parents we can learn to educate and "Guide" from a loving and caring space, without impositions, taking them little by little to feel ready to undertake an activity or goal and celebrate each small step they take from their possibilities, respecting their times and ways of learning.
**What do you think about this?**
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Habits that drain your energy
In recent days I talked to a friend who felt "low energy", she phoned me to tell me that she had been feeling down, with no energy to do things, she even told me that she felt paralyzed, and in addition she had gone out to do some shopping and had broken her shoe! The height of bad luck and bad vibes...
After talking with her for a long time, I thought about developing a series of articles to talk about "habits that drain our energy" and what kind of strategies we can use to raise our vibrational frequency without having to go to a therapist.
I'm going to start this series with a habit that robs us enormously of energy and we are all exposed to it every day: "worry".
Worrying about what we cannot control or is beyond our sphere of control significantly reduces our vibrational frequency, and also affects our physical, mental and emotional health, which is why we must learn to manage this bad habit and employ certain strategies to keep us in a more balanced state.
In days like these in which the pandemic we are going through has disrupted our way of life, even our way of thinking, our emotionality and the way we interact with the environment, it is extremely important to be aware of how those external factors that we cannot control can do serious damage to our state of well-being.
And we can see this in a practical way, that is, don't just take what I'm telling you and try it. If we become attached to the news about all the negative events happening in the world sooner or later they are going to hit our psyche and our emotions, eventually we will end up getting sick or be plagued with stress, worry and anxiety.
On the contrary, if we learn not to get "busy" wasting our energy on things that do not bring us value or well-being, we will see a big difference in our health and our way of going through the world.
I have always followed a saying:
"Where you put your attention, you put your energy"
If you worry about what you cannot change, control or solve, it is time to ask yourself this question: What good does it do you? What do you get from this habit?
My friend is permanently worried about the economic situation of the country, we know that in Venezuela there has been for many years a critical situation not only economically, but also socially and politically, among other elements, however, no matter how much she occupies her mind on that, it will not help in any way to solve the situation of the country.
And this does not mean that we should be indifferent, but simply that we should learn to pay attention to things that build us up and add value over things that bring us down and lower our energy.
A long time ago I read a phrase that I loved and I try to keep it in mind in my daily life:
I don't know who to attribute the phrase to, it was shared in a workshop I attended and I felt that it holds a great truth, since we only have control over our personal sphere, from this postulate and trying to keep my mind serene, I often try to question myself before the situations I live and ask myself:
**Is this within the sphere of my control?**
**Can any of my actions change the course of this situation?**
**Can I change the way the other person thinks or acts?**
If the answers to these types of questions are "No," then I don't worry, because there is nothing I can do to improve what is affecting me. It is understandable that we go through situations in which we may feel overwhelmed, but this takes years off our lives, making us aware of our mental states is of utmost importance for our self-care.
If I let myself get carried away by economic worries for example, I start to feel pressure in my neck and I get pains in my spine, there I realize that I have to act, try to find balance and review what I´m doing, sometimes I have realized that I have said a word or thought something that feeds this concern and immediately I assume that I have to change the strategy.
Other times, reviewing my actions (what is within my sphere of control) I have observed that I have to change the strategy to be more productive, or, flow in the midst of these abrupt changes within the economy by organizing the accounts and setting priorities, among other solutions. Most importantly, I don't make myself a victim of anything.
What I mean by this is that I cannot solve the economic situation of my country nor eradicate Covid, it's beyond my sphere of control, what I can do is to pay attention to how it affects me and within my field of action see what I can do so that it does not affect me in any area of life.
Taking care of our mental, emotional and physical health depends on us and how we let ourselves be affected by what is on the outside. Therefore, we must start by abandoning this type of habits that consume us, and look for tools that allow us to adapt or respond to adversity in a better way.
**I hope this information has been useful to you, I would like to know what strategies you use to not fill your head with worries.**
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When things don't go as expected
Greetings ReadCash friends
I was disconnected these days from the platform because I started a new project that has taken all my attention these days and I want to tell you about this experience and particularly about an episode I had recently.
A little more than two months ago I started a program of Podscats through the Discord platform, called "Guidelines for Wellness", in which I talk about topics related to personal growth, development of consciousness, physical, mental and emotional health.
I had no idea how to do the program, I received an invitation to do it and I simply took the opportunity that was presenting itself to me and I began to study how the Podscats are developed, I had the impulse to start and not postpone the beginning of the activity, so with a little fear I started my program.
I confess that I'm still in the study phase, trying different ways and every day I'm adding new details. I like to be organized and I try to schedule everything before each program.
With the audio Bot I still have a short circuit, I suspect it has feminine energy because it responds more to the orders given by my gentleman friends (laughs), it's something I'm still trying to understand.
So far I feel that the program has had a good influx of listeners and is very interactive. I have had very good feedback from the users and this has really encouraged me, it makes me very happy to feel that I am doing my bit to help others (and myself) through this medium.
In two of the programs, I have had serious problems with the internet connection, both mine and those of the interviewed guests and it has been a great shock with the reality of those situations that are out of my hands.
I consider myself a person who always flows with the environment always looking for the best solution, but at the same time I try to be a perfectionist and take care of the details and this kind of situations that escape my possibilities of resolution move me a little internally.
At the beginning I observed how I felt a bit frustrated because I felt that I was losing that effort in all the preparation of the activity, but the assistants were very relaxed and I noticed that they were quite understanding, so I said to myself: "it's time to flow with this experience that invites you to let go of control and perfectionism".
Yes, it's an issue that I have been working on for years, I usually take this kind of things very seriously, I have improved a lot in this aspect and I have relaxed a lot, but I realized with these two experiences that I still need to transcend this issue.
I think it's natural that we want all the projects we have and in which we put our best intention and energy to be perfect, but I also found in these opportunities the perfection in the "imperfection", it turned out that we changed the dynamics to make the program and we could still enjoy the activity, many attendees also took advantage of the moment to make their contributions and everything was wonderful.
All this made me ask myself these questions:
**How can I flow in the face of those external situations that escape my sphere of control?**
**How can I take care of my emotionality to avoid entering the stress zone?**
**What is the worst that can happen if things don't go as expected?**
I feel that accepting the circumstances and not resisting is the first big step, I could not do anything about that adversity because the operation of the internet service is beyond my sphere of control, so it's useless to feel bad about something that I cannot solve.
On the other hand, I held on to a great premise of life that I have "my peace is my most valuable state" and I realized that I'm the only one responsible for taking care that this state is not disturbed. Only I have the power to allow something else to affect my emotional state, if I give that permission to the external to affect me, I have to assume the consequences of my own decisions and that made me realize that the best I could do was to keep my "center".
Finally, what was the worst that could happen if the program did not develop as I had planned? Absolutely nothing, surely postponing it until the next edition, but there was really no fatal consequence in that situation.
Since then I have become more relaxed and have freed myself a bit from the planning I did before, I still build a script but much more relaxed, giving way to spontaneity and the unexpected, and I enjoy the activity much more after that.
Every life experience we have brings us a learning experience, and without a doubt this has been a great opportunity for me.
**How are you doing with this theme of flowing in the midst of adversity?**
I read you in the comments and if you have information or suggestions that you can contribute regarding this type of programs are welcome.
**Thanks for reading and see you soon!**
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**Emotions, Karma and DNA** https://read.cash/@MiriannaLis/emotions-karma-and-dna-67310b9e
**Time out** https://read.cash/@MiriannaLis/time-out-00989d13
**Caring for our sacred temple** https://read.cash/@MiriannaLis/caring-for-our-sacred-temple-561f310d
**We are more than a physical body** https://read.cash/@MiriannaLis/we-are-more-than-a-physical-body-ab57fdc1
**Changing perspective** https://read.cash/@MiriannaLis/changing-perspective-30ea78aa
**Could you put yourself in the place of Mother Earth?** https://read.cash/@MiriannaLis/could-you-put-yourself-in-the-place-of-mother-earth-a35d07e7
**Do you choose or do you let others choose for you?** https://read.cash/@MiriannaLis/do-you-choose-or-do-you-let-others-choose-for-you-1399dbfd
**Do you want to get out of your comfort zone** https://read.cash/@MiriannaLis/do-you-want-to-get-out-of-your-comfort-zone-f593938f
**The story of the monk Panshan** https://read.cash/@MiriannaLis/the-story-of-the-monk-panshan-21c93893
**Dealing with Change** https://read.cash/@MiriannaLis/dealing-with-change-997e5561
**The problem of when** https://read.cash/@MiriannaLis/the-problem-of-when-ca71295c
**Starting a new route en Readcash** https://read.cash/@MiriannaLis/starting-a-new-route-in-readcash-05aff7c6
Creating expectations, accumulating suffering
**Have you ever experienced a great suffering, a loss?**
Suffering is a contrite desire. It´s a desire for things to happen in a certain way or for people to behave as you would like them to, and when they don't, the desire clashes with reality, and from this friction arises suffering, that is, the problem arises in our insistence that something different from reality happens.
We tend to focus too much on what we consider that we lack, we feed thoughts of lack and we are usually drawing goals about things to achieve in the future and this makes it difficult for us to pay attention to what we are, what we feel and think in our day to day life.
Unfortunately, we usually start to value the importance of living in the present moment and valuing our time when an event calls our attention, such as, for example, the death of a close person, the breakup of a relationship, a job loss, a catastrophic investment, a pandemic... among many others. In my case it was a traffic accident, in fact two actually, the first one led me to make a radical change in the accelerated way I was living my life and the second one I considered a reminder (but these are stories for another publication).
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The point I want to get at with this is that sometimes we forget that being happy is only achieved in the here and now, and for me, it has nothing to do with what you have or what you expect from situations and others, but rather a process of inner cultivation and personal development.
When we generate a lot of expectations about what you want or desire from others, your family, your partner, your environment, the State, and a long etc., what we really do is to accumulate frustrations, since we can hardly control that everyone responds positively to our aspirations in the desired time.
If I have expectations regarding what another person will do for me and we do not express our desires, if that person does not meet our "demands" we get frustrated and problems start, I would dare to say that most of the conflicts in couple relationships arise from this cause, from unfulfilled expectations, from accumulating in our mind desires that we pretend to be fulfilled by the other.
***"I wish he would take me to the movies", "I wish he would bring me breakfast in bed", "I want him to take care of the kids for a day", "I wish to watch my game without interruptions"*** **...**
*What other wishes or expectations would you add?*
Frustration is nothing more than a feeling of failure or disappointment that overwhelms us when we expect to fulfill our desire and we do not achieve it, that is, it's a dissonance between the expectations created and the real facts, and we experience this as a failure, which leads us to this state of frustration and consequently to suffering. It depends on each person the reaction to this emotional shock that occurs, which can manifest itself with emotions such as anger, sadness, and even end in depression, or worse, in aggression towards the person or situation that we consider responsible for our frustration.
To overcome this, two very important factors come into play: "perception" and "learning to flow".
It depends on the lens through which we look at our situation or what happens to us, our disposition to experience what we experience as "failures" or to become frustrated for not obtaining what we desire, by this I mean that if we consider the obstacles as an impediment we will surely feel bad; on the other hand, if we see them as a possibility to continue learning and evolving, the feeling of failure will no longer have a place in us.
We can go to an interview expecting to be hired and not get the job, for example, and although our preparation for the job has an important weight, there are other factors that do not depend on us.
A good example at the relationship level would be this: -I spend a whole morning preparing a special dish for my partner expecting him to recognize all the effort and love I put into the dish, and when he arrives he simply eats like any other day without mentioning it-.
What would you choose to do in this case, how would you take it, would it cause suffering for you?
I go to another example a little more extreme, when I wish to keep a partner, a friend, a child by my side, and he or she leaves my side, I will have a suffering if I believe that, because he or she leaves, I am being abandoned or despised. My desire to be loved and my attachment to a certain person make me frame my happiness in keeping him or her. And if I don't succeed, my belief and my attachment crash against reality. And this is the origin of suffering.
The truth is that everything is a deception of our mind, because that other person is not your happiness, it is an illusion that makes you think of that, because happiness is an inherent state of your Being, otherwise it would be to give that power to another, with which we would all be great unhappy.
Do you realize that if we did not feel abandoned, despised or offended, we would not suffer?
You carry love, happiness and peace within you: discover them! And you will no longer need to generate expectations on others.
Other attitudes that will help us to live without attachments and expectations are:
Accepting that we cannot exercise control over everything that happens to us, and consequently assuming life as it presents itself to us, receiving everything that happens to us as learning and opportunities to evolve.
Do not cling to other people with the intention of resolving our emotional conflicts.
Take responsibility for our happiness and our moods.
I hope you liked it, I'll read you in the comments. Blessings ✨
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Emotions, Karma and DNA
A few days ago I wrote a post in which I said that we are more than a physical body, that we are a unit that is made up of different dimensions, the most important of which are: the physical, emotional, mental and spiritual dimensions.
Then I made reference in the post "**Caring for our sacred temple**" to the importance of taking care of our physical dimension, of considering our bodies as a "temple" that serve us as a vehicle of expression in this earthly experience and therefore deserve all the respect and care we can give them. https://read.cash/@MiriannaLis/caring-for-our-sacred-temple-561f310d
Today I would like to continue with these ideas to talk about the emotional dimension.
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As human beings we have a sociable nature, day by day we relate with other people in different environments and this makes it so important to manage ourselves at an emotional level in order to have a balance.
Now, managing ourselves at this level not only implies having the ability to feel emotions, but also to identify them in others, as well as to recognize what emotion we are feeling at a given moment and its cause, including all the thoughts that are involved in this process.
**All of this involves acquiring better self-knowledge and expanding our ability to listen to ourselves.**
I believe that emotions are not good and bad in themselves, rather they represent a "reaction" to a stimulus we receive, either internal or external, so they can be considered as the result of the perception we have of what happens to us, or of our interaction with the environment I am talking about.
**The crux of the matter would then be to know how to live those emotions that come to us without clinging to them or allowing them to dominate and affect us, especially in the area of health**.
Many researches point out that our emotions impact the cells and tissues of our body and have influence in our general health, in our thoughts and aptitudes, from here many currents have been generated that deal with emotions and their effects such as biodescodification, bioneuroemotion, emotional intelligence, among many others.
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A few months ago I read a book by Dr. Candance Pert, called "The molecules of emotion", in which she develops a research she carried out on the subject. There she highlights that she discovered that the main systems of the body form a vast network that carries information, the neuropeptides and their receptors, which she calls the biochemicals of emotions, are those "messengers" that are in constant communication with the immune system, therefore she affirms that emotions are the connection between the mind and the body.
He points out that emotions affect and alter our DNA - and likewise, our DNA affects our emotions, attitudes and behaviors.
***"We must begin to see our emotions as cellular signals involved in the process of translating information into physical reality, literally, transforming mind into matter. In other words, the body and mind communicate through molecules of emotion." Dr. Candace Pert***
To make the subject more interesting, I must tell you that according to Dr. Pert the emotions that impact our genes do not only come from the experiences we have in this life. According to her we inherit the emotional patterns and beliefs (or "stories") of our ancestors, which are deeply embedded in our DNA, influencing us in ways we don't even notice.
The good news is that it affirms that we are not prisoners of our genetic inheritance, as our genetic codes are flexible and can be reset and with them the stories of our lives.
All this has made me think that our emotional reactions are also related to those past life experiences - ***karma?*** Surely, if we have not transcended certain learnings such as the management of emotions, I suppose that those emotions and their learnings travel from incarnation to incarnation until we can illuminate that karma and transform it into Dharma, at that level that allows us to feel true peace and serenity, without being affected by the turbulence or uncontrolled emotional whirlwind.
I can't imagine what it will be like to be in that unperturbed state that Buddha's stories narrate for example, for now I think I'm at the level of recognizing what happens to me, when I'm in an emotion that lowers my vibrational level and give it space to experience it and then release it to move forward. It's the healthiest way I've been able to get through them.
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I feel that repressing emotions by thinking that it is wrong to "get angry" for example, is a wrong attitude, that makes our body reflect that indifference somewhere. Therefore, I believe that if you are already experiencing an emotion that shakes you, you should live it, observe it, question it, cherish it and then seek to overcome it, but that also implies an internal review of how you are perceiving the world you see, how your thoughts are, and that would be a topic for a future post.
I would like to close by concluding that to the extent that we learn to manage our emotions and connect with higher emotions, our consciousness will go up a level, our vibrational frequency will be higher and that will help us to connect better with universal intelligence.
I will continue with these ideas in other publications, for now this is what is going around in my head and I take advantage of these lines to empty those thoughts a little.
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**We are more than a physical body** https://read.cash/@MiriannaLis/we-are-more-than-a-physical-body-ab57fdc1
**Changing perspective** https://read.cash/@MiriannaLis/changing-perspective-30ea78aa
**Could you put yourself in the place of Mother Earth?** https://read.cash/@MiriannaLis/could-you-put-yourself-in-the-place-of-mother-earth-a35d07e7
**Do you choose or do you let others choose for you?** https://read.cash/@MiriannaLis/do-you-choose-or-do-you-let-others-choose-for-you-1399dbfd
**Do you want to get out of your comfort zone** https://read.cash/@MiriannaLis/do-you-want-to-get-out-of-your-comfort-zone-f593938f
**The story of the monk Panshan** https://read.cash/@MiriannaLis/the-story-of-the-monk-panshan-21c93893
**Dealing with Change** https://read.cash/@MiriannaLis/dealing-with-change-997e5561
**The problem of when** https://read.cash/@MiriannaLis/the-problem-of-when-ca71295c
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Time out
This weekend I traveled to my sister's house, who lives in a city near mine (about 2 hours by car), because of the mobility restrictions that still exist in my country due to Covid19 we had 6 months without seeing each other since we met at Christmas to spend a few days together.
To make the most of our sharing during that weekend I decided to disconnect from the phone during that time, I think that somehow unconsciously or unplanned my sister and my parents who also accompanied me joined me to be disconnected from the phone for a while.
It is really amazing to realize when you are away from the phone, pc, tablet or any other device, the time you spend on technology and also the spaces to share and enjoy with family, friends or yourself, that you are losing because of being immersed in everything that involves being permanently in front of technology: work, news, studies, obligations, bank accounts, more news, in short... during that weekend I could enjoy many conversations with my family, watch movies and even play with the kids.
In that space of time I also realized that I was really exhausted, being a single mom, doing home office work at the same time that I take care of the kids, follow up on school activities and take care of all the chores at home and additionally keeping active on my blog and social networks, is really demanding and exhausting, which made me remember the importance of taking a "time out".
That's what I call those spaces of leisure that are so necessary to maintain our mental, emotional and physical health, in my moments of "time out" I try to get away from things that can generate stress or worry, or simply distract me from what I want to enjoy at any given time.
I must confess that these spaces of "time out" at other times produced in me a kind of "guilt", before I was very connected with the "doing" and "producing", and although now I continue to stay productive most of the time due to the serious inflationary situation that my country is going through, I try to balance the "doing" with the "Being".
And although we may think that these spaces of "time out" are difficult to have or require some special conditions, really if we organize ourselves we can manage to open in our agendas a moment for us. An hour of leisure time a day, for example, besides helping us to relax and make room for our personal interests, also helps to enhance creativity, self-knowledge, the expression of emotions, to clear the mind, to enjoy, to recharge energy to continue with the day and much more.
**What do you like to do?**
**What are those personal interests that you can't satisfy because you're in the productivity rut?**
**How much time do you dedicate to rest?**
These questions are very important when making the decision to take a "time out", and there are other ways, maybe if you can not be consistent during the week with an hour of daily leisure you can do as I did that I took a weekend to rest from all the technology and dedicate it to the family, or you can take half a day a week or a whole day. In short, everyone can adjust their schedule according to their activities, but the most important thing is that there is a willingness to dedicate time for ourselves, for rest and leisure.
A couple of hours to watch a movie on TV, take a walk in the park, a relaxing massage, have coffee with a friend or maybe a couple of beers, meditate, breathe fresh air, go to the beach or just 5 minutes in the sun in front of your window or in the garden of your house, are just some examples of activities that can add greatly to our well-being and recharge us positively.
Looking for those spaces of balance will determine our level of overall health, they are extremely important in our well-being and harmony, so I wanted to take this opportunity today to extend this invitation to you:
"Take some time out"
**Are you up for it? What would you do in your time out?**
I read you in the comments, thank you very much for your visit and support.
Blessings 🙏✨
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Caring for our sacred temple https://read.cash/@MiriannaLis/caring-for-our-sacred-temple-561f310d
Changing perspective https://read.cash/@MiriannaLis/changing-perspective-30ea78aa
Could you put yourself in the place of Mother Earth? https://read.cash/@MiriannaLis/could-you-put-yourself-in-the-place-of-mother-earth-a35d07e7
Do you choose or do you let others choose for you? https://read.cash/@MiriannaLis/do-you-choose-or-do-you-let-others-choose-for-you-1399dbfd
Do you want to get out of your comfort zone? https://read.cash/@MiriannaLis/do-you-want-to-get-out-of-your-comfort-zone-f593938f
The story of the monk Panshan https://read.cash/@MiriannaLis/the-story-of-the-monk-panshan-21c93893
Dealing with Change https://read.cash/@MiriannaLis/dealing-with-change-997e5561
The problem of when https://read.cash/@MiriannaLis/the-problem-of-when-ca71295c
Starting a new route en Readcash https://read.cash/@MiriannaLis/starting-a-new-route-in-readcash-05aff7c6
Caring for our sacred temple
In recent days I wrote a post titled "We are more than a physical body", in which I reflect on our energetic nature that transcends the dimensions of the physical body.
In the comments @iamheavenbound asked me an excellent question, which inspired this post today. The question was:
**"Indeed. we are more than our bodies but we still have to take care of this body right?"**
My answer: absolutely yes! and I would like to take the next few lines to talk more about it.
Our body is the physical vehicle that was given to us to live this earthly experience, its optimal functioning depends on whether we have a better or worse experience and I feel that we came to life to "be happy" and find fulfillment in what we do, therefore, having a body in good condition will help us considerably to achieve that purpose.
I must confess that when I started in the holistic world to learn these energetic topics I had a confusing moment because I thought that the most important thing was to feed the mind, the intellect, to look for that wisdom, then I changed that paradigm and looked for that sense of evolution concentrated only in the Spirit and the connection with more subtle planes.
Then I realized that I was in an extreme that I was forgetting an important part of me: my Body! and all that this physical dimension represents (prosperity, personal bonds, aspirations, etc.).
From there I undertook a journey of encounter again with my body and this earthly experience, I met Biodanza, a system that shows you the possibility to connect with your instincts, with the pleasure and enjoyment of this existence from the wonderful biology that we are.
I learned to love my body as the wonderful Temple that it is, to be grateful for its existence and to take care of it in the best way, I am still in this diligence, learning to feed myself better, to recognize its signals, to listen to its messages.
All this without forgetting that we are more than this physical body, looking for that balance that takes me to the middle point without living in extremes, appreciating every experience and every moment lived.
I believe that the key is to look for that middle point, not to believe that we are only a body and to focus only on the material, forgetting that there are other important aspects that shape us as a Being. Neither should we go to the other extreme of believing that we are only Spirit and because we want to walk in the clouds we forget about the body, and do not attend to its needs or take care of it.
Perhaps we give more importance to the physical plane because it is what we can control in a certain way (although it is not entirely true), and therefore, depending on how we take care of our physical body, it will be healthier or not, and this in turn will depend on our lifestyle, eating habits, the practice of physical exercises, rest, cleanliness, among many other aspects.
However, our body is also influenced by our thoughts, our beliefs, our emotions, which is why I insist on the importance of finding that middle ground, because depending on the type of thinking we have, our emotions will be affected and these in turn will end up affecting our body, positively or negatively.
Maybe I will change my mind later, but this is what resonates with me the most at the moment. I really like a quote from Osho that best illustrates this idea:
"The conscious man lives in the body, loves his body, takes care of it but knows that it is not his body. He knows that there is something in him that will survive death and that it is eternal, time cannot destroy it. He has come to know this because he has been able to enter into his own Being".
That is why for me the Body is my temple, and I take care of it as that sacred space that it is for my life (although I am still changing many habits - especially eating), but I seek to maintain that point of balance that connects me with the other aspects that transcend this physical plane.
Grateful for your support and comments! 🙌✨
See you soon
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We are more than a physical body
**We are more than a physical body**
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We are more than a physical body, we are much more than what can be seen and touched, what we can perceive with the 5 senses, we are also emotion, mind and spirit and all these make up the different dimensions of Being that integrate us as a whole linked to everything that exists in creation.
Each of these dimensions has a special place and scope in our way of acting. If we were to imagine ourselves as a 4-story building, the physical dimension would be on the first floor, the foundations of the building, then on the second floor we would find the emotional dimension, on the third floor the mental dimension and at the top would be the spiritual dimension.
All these dimensions are interrelated and to the extent that we are aware of the scope of each one we can achieve a greater state of well-being, because we could live in a higher level of congruence and connection with ourselves.
There is nothing more dissociative than to think one thing, feel another and act in a totally different way to what we think or feel. And although it may seem logical, ironically these are the incongruities we observe in our routine when our body asks for rest and instead the mind pressures you to continue being "productive" or when emotionally you feel saturated but you act as if nothing is happening to you and continue to swallow everything that happens to you, among so many other inconsistencies.
Although it is possible that we identify with the physical body to the point of believing that we are it, we are not, it is only a small part, we are inside it temporarily. We are part of the whole, of existence, but each of us has an individuality represented in our Physical Body and in our Being.
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That is why it is so important that we are clear about who we really are, to harmonize all these dimensions and to be able to be connected with existence in a more harmonious way.
At the other extreme to those who believe that we are only a body, there are those who are stuck only in the Spirit, they stop living experiences in the present moment and have no interest in their body because they put all their attention in that connection with the subtler planes, however, I feel that this extreme is not good at all, because finally we are experiencing a physical experience, something brought us to earth, karma? Maybe, or surely it is, but the truth is that I believe that in everything we must seek the point of balance and I do not think we can achieve that at one end of the scale, unless you are an ascended being who came to this plane with a special mission.
Starting then that we came to this earthly experience to complete a learning process, or to cover our karma, I think it is important to keep in mind that in order to raise our level of consciousness we have to align both the physical body (what we see), with the mental dimension or aspect (thoughts) and the emotional (feelings), to have a degree of congruence that leads us in these different planes to work to achieve the same purpose: our welfare and happiness.
If we do not achieve this cohesion in these aspects, we go through the world as disconnected, we do not have a clear purpose, if we do not balance these 3 dimensions we will hardly be able to activate the potential that is contained in our spiritual aspect or dimension. This is why it is so important that we also understand that we are "energetic" beings and that everything around us is permeated by the same energy that created us and of which we are a part.
We live through our physical body, it is true, at this moment it is our vehicle and therefore we must take care of it as the great and wonderful temple that it is, eating well, exercising, taking the proper rest, connecting with nature, among other actions, but we must never forget its connection with the mental, emotional and spiritual part.
Thank you for joining me here, in recent days I subscribed to this Community and since then, I really wanted to write and share here with the members of this interesting group. So today I wanted to touch on a topic that I have been developing in a program that I recently started through Discord called "Guidelines for Wellness" and I hope to continue sharing it here.
Blessings ✨
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Changing perspective
Have you noticed that our way of thinking can sometimes be our biggest stumbling block?
When we have had bad experiences, or suffered for any reason we tend to put up certain protective barriers, which is totally logical and natural, but sometimes we go to the extreme and make those experiences mark us in such a way that we stop trusting other people, our environment and even worse: ourselves.
This is why it is important that we broaden our outlook and start by not feeling "victims" of what happens to us, but to look for the lessons learned from those experiences that we classify as "negative" and transform the suffering into evolution and personal growth.
If you dare to see beyond your nose, and you are receptive, you can always find a learning experience. The idea is not to feed a fear that defines your present and future actions, but to realize what is the invitation that the situation you are experiencing is making to you.
**Strengthen your self-esteem, become more independent, have faith, acquire new skills?**
These are just a few examples of my learnings that may be common to you, or very different. I could also add learning to trust your instincts, valuing each present moment, having a more positive attitude, among many others.
Over time I have become convinced that the situations and people that present themselves to us always bring us a message, even if it is not in the way we want it to be. I wanted to spend more time with my children because I had a very demanding job and suddenly this pandemic came unexpectedly that has kept us cooped up at home for more than a year, of course it was not the context in which I was planning to spend more time with them.
I also wanted to develop my patience even more and having to be their teacher at home has challenged me every day to be patient, stay calm and learn new things. Not to mention that I was not a friend of crafts and certain school activities and with the baby I have had to develop creative skills to stimulate his learning and growing process.
Learning to set limits was also a big challenge for me, and life gave me many teachers who came to show me how necessary it was for my well being to set limits clearly, in some cases it was easy, in others more difficult as in the case of my ex-partner, father of my children.
**The key:** Maintain a perspective that helps you handle the situation in the most harmonious way possible. If we stick to perceive the situation from "victimhood" we will only suffer and expose ourselves to many imbalances.
I always remember a story I was told years ago about 2 salesmen who were sent to Africa to sell shoes. One of them, upon arrival, saw that many people were without shoes, they were simply walking barefoot or with rudimentary sandals, upon seeing this, he immediately called the company and told them that there was no possibility of developing a market in that place. The other, upon seeing the same situation, was amazed and informed the company that he would establish his operations center there because there were many sales possibilities because people needed to buy shoes to be more comfortable.
What I mean by this is that in the same situation, you can have very different perspectives, the issue is in what decision you are going to make according to the challenges you face.
**What path would you take in that case? Would you see opportunity or failure? Would you risk even trying?**
The perspective we have of everything, even of people, will be our great ally or our great stumbling block, it will encourage us to go on and try, or give up without even having tried, and it will also define the way in which we will go through this earthly life.
It will either allow us to see the light at the end of the tunnel or it will engross us in darkness.
I guess learning to flow with the circumstances without judging what happens to us as "good" or "bad" can help us in this challenge of having a more objective and harmonic perception.
Thanks for your support. See you soon!
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Could you put yourself in the place of Mother Earth?
Yesterday was the "International Mother Earth Day" and it is an appropriate occasion to reflect on what we are doing to care for and preserve our environment, which is our home and is suffering more and more every day due to the devastating consequences of pollution and our unconservationist actions.
Even when we can take some "basic" care such as taking advantage of natural resources, not wasting water, making good use of energy, among other actions, it is necessary to ask ourselves if all these actions we are undertaking are enough, or even if we can do something more to make a difference.
While we cannot take care of the entire planet, we can take responsibility for the space that corresponds to us, starting with the place where we live, including not only the home but also the neighborhood, the city and eventually the country. If we were all aligned with this same purpose we would do great things for our planet.
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And believe it or not, every little action counts, it all adds up to a healthier and more sustainable place to live. I always remember these powerful words of the Dalai Lama: "If you think you are too small to make a difference, try sleeping with a mosquito".
What a phrase he gave us, do you know how really annoying it can be to sleep with a mosquito circling over you all night? Unless you're as heavy a sleeper as a bear, you know what I mean by this.
It is not necessary to belong to an association to save animals from marine pollution, or to develop some super special ecological bags, we can in each of our spaces make a difference and this is especially part of promoting awareness on this issue.
There are still many people asleep in this little blue world and it is necessary to show them by example what should be done, as well as what will happen to us in a few years if we continue on this same path abusing Mother Nature.
Humanity has been very mean in the pursuit of development and wealth. For centuries we have exploited the earth to the limit, and it is time to stop or perish in the attempt.
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That is why we must understand that reversing all this damage may involve a certain amount of sacrifice, such as giving up certain comforts or undertaking new projects that involve work and effort. It can also represent a big change in the way we are used to live.
In any case, I wanted to share this reflection with you today because I have been asking myself questions all day, and I remembered a classic teaching from my parents "always put yourself in the other person's shoes before acting and don't do anything you wouldn't want done to you".
It made me wonder: **What if we all put ourselves in Mother Earth's shoes, would that change the picture?**
What do you think? Could you do that thoughtful exercise?
I'd love to read your thoughts in the comments.
Thanks for your support, blessings.
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Do you want to get out of your comfort zone?
I think that when you talk about this topic you enter a gray zone where mountains of fears, worries or expectations and illusions arise that in one way or another can paralyze you or push you to start a new adventure in your life.
I used to be very adventurous, in the sense that I liked to explore new things, I would not stay in a job for more than a year because I got bored and I was always challenging myself to have experiences that would confront me or demand the most effort from me. I can say that at that time I was quite competitive with myself.
With the arrival of responsibilities, marriage, children, economic goals to achieve and many other things related to the material world I was leaving that impulse towards the new and unknown to enter the world of the "stable" and "safe".
To be honest, I didn't realize at what moment this radical change occurred until a couple of years ago when I received a recognition in my job for 12 years of service. I remember that day I wondered how I had lasted so long if when I joined I had not projected more than two years in that place.
Although I have had many enriching experiences during these years in the Company, I have also had some unhappy moments, more than I would like to have, and all of that made me ask myself the question: *How did I stop being that young woman in search of new experiences to become a woman with a planned and structured life from head to toe?*
I went from improvisation to planning, from the new and the unknown to the safe and stable, from trying despite the circumstances to take the square root of the whole picture to say whether or not to dare to sign up for some new initiative.
Of course this life of planning has led me to many successes and achievements, but I am missing something that has to do precisely with getting out of that comfort zone or at least I think so.
For the last few years my country has suffered a great economic devastation, and for those of us who are still betting on a better future in our country, we have had to reinvent ourselves in many ways.
And sometimes leaving that comfort zone is not only a decision that you can make or not by choice, but life can sometimes present you with those pushes that lead you to take the step even when you are not convinced of it.
**Getting out of the comfort zone**
***Let go of control**
The first thing you must do to get out of the comfort zone is to let go of "control", that attitude that leads you to calculate every step and every possible consequence of what you do or don't do. No matter how hard you try, you will never be able to predict what might actually happen if you don't give yourself permission to try.
I know that achieving this step is not at all easy, I used to be quite controlling and always wanted to measure everything precisely, even the weather was a big torment if things did not happen as planned.
To achieve this I decided to flow more with the circumstances, then I tried to accept all the invitations that life offered me and I let myself be led, it helped me a lot to do things that made me uncomfortable in a certain way to stimulate my creative side, that is, if I did not like or did not know how to do something (example: a craft or a language) I challenged myself to learn or do my best to participate in that activity that was not in my domain and control.
On the other hand, I do not punish myself for mistakes or bad decisions, instead I take them as great learning opportunities that add to my growth.
***Having a receptive attitude is vital to make way for this flow.***
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* **Dare to take that step.**
Try with or without fear, challenge yourself every day to do something different. If at this moment you are fed up with what you are doing, don't you think it is a good time to try something else?
How long are you going to expose yourself to experience a situation that does not make you happy?
Understanding that everything in our lives has a cycle, a beginning and an end, and that there are always opportunities that will give us the possibility to experience ourselves in another role, condition, ability or context is what will feed our souls with that spark that will fill that emptiness you feel inside and that will encourage you to take that step out of your comfort zone.
I always wanted to write, but I didn't see the opportunity and it didn't seem like a lucrative activity from which I could earn good resources, and in that letting myself flow I got here, I have a year of writing and I feel that the ideas don't stop flowing and I am happy with what is happening to me and the doors that are opening.
A year ago I wouldn't have imagined myself dedicating myself to an online activity, without a schedule, boss, and boring tasks to accomplish.
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When you dare to take that step your whole life changes. It is also important that this step forward with determination is accompanied by inner work that allows you to connect with your desires, your passions, and with the recognition and love for your personal worth and the connection with your inner strength.
This change does not have to be radical, you can jump into the water all at once or you can simply enter little by little depending on what makes you feel more comfortable, but don't stop trying!
I wish you to feel great and in harmony wherever you are
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Do you choose or do you let others choose for you?
Three years ago I discovered an activity that has truly transformed my life. It's Biodanza, which in a few words means: "the dance of life" or danced inner life as I like to call it.
I liked my first dance session so much, that I longed for the next one to come and so it happened week after week, until I decided to sign up for training as a facilitator of this system.
If I had to give you a more formal definition of Biodanza, I would say: "Human integration system, which uses movement, the power of music, contact and the group, to awaken in the participants the connection with their instincts and self-knowledge".
In the 3 years of training I went into a deep inner journey, this added to the fact that I had just divorced and was in the process of transformation. I have learned a lot on this journey, and today I want to talk to you about the "Power of choice".
Yes, through dance I realized that this power of choice was delegated to others, every time we were asked to choose a partner to dance a piece, I always expected someone to come for me and choose me.
I didn't realize it was a deliberate attitude on my part. Until one day the facilitator of the session emphasized the importance of "making your own choices," clearly you can't always choose, but most of the time it is.
Making decisions has always been my Achilles heel, I think a lot about the pros and cons before making a decision, even before I could spend hours in a store choosing a piece of clothing, which for some of my companions was a pretty hopeless situation.
I was very clear about my indecision problem, but when I saw myself in those dance sessions leaving my choice in the hands of others, I realized that the same could be happening in my life in general and I had to take action!
To begin with I realized that being indecisive or not making a decision is already a choice in itself in the form of procrastination, omission or silence, where I give my power to others or the circumstances themselves to make the decisions for me.
All this made me wonder: **How true was I being to my feelings and thoughts?** And how congruent I was about what I wanted and my actions.
When we silence our emotions, ideas and thoughts in a certain way we annul ourselves, we become our own stumbling block and accumulate a lot of dissatisfaction.
The big question is: **What produces this silence or inaction? What is it that prevents us from exercising this power to the full?**
In my case, the fear of making a mistake was my big issue, I was so afraid of failure or doing something wrong and then not being able to fix it that it slowed me down a lot when it came to making decisions. I was also worried about disappointing others or making a bad impression.
In the case of dance I also realized that I was afraid of "rejection", to think that I could go looking for someone else to dance and not be receptive was something that worried me, even worse, while I was waiting to be chosen all this was going through my mind and at the same time I crossed my fingers that someone I liked would come to me.
Then the best question came to me: **What is the worst that could happen if...?**
When I started to ask myself these questions I realized that everything I was afraid of was a real stupidity, what is the worst thing that could happen if I chose someone to dance with and that desire was not reciprocated?
**Absolutely nothing!!!** I would have to turn around and look for someone else and not take it personal, finally everyone has tastes, desires and interests that may not coincide with mine at any given time and that's perfect!!!!
That's what it's all about to experience this life characterized by the diversity of thoughts, to respect my desires and those of others, to give the right value to everything and above all to live in the present moment without postponing my decisions for an uncertain future.
Now, I value every moment of my life and I try to follow my intuition and instincts (something that I re-learned with dance and that I will tell you later in another post).
See you next time!!!
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The story of the monk Panshan
Legend has it that the monk Panshan had traveled through numerous cities observing life and studying in numerous temples. Despite his many efforts at study and meditation, he had not attained enlightenment (satori). He wondered what more he had yet to learn in order to reach that state of enlightenment.
One day, he went to the market to buy supplies for the temple, and noticed a group of people waiting to be served by the butcher, who was displaying a large roasted boar. One of them asked the butcher for "half a kilo of special meat", and the butcher replied with a smile:
*- On this animal, what cut isn't special!*
They all laughed when they heard this, but the monk remained astonished as if lightning had struck his head.
On the way back, everything he saw seemed to glow like a beautiful radiance, the trees, the flowers, the birds and squirrels, every man and woman he met along the way. At that moment he knew that the words of that butcher had made him achieve what he had longed for.
When I read this story I was very moved, I feel that it narrates the path of travel and learning that we are looking for in life. When we start it, we invest all our time and effort in searching outside, in every external thing we look for that state of enlightenment, of full happiness, of feeling linked to the whole. This makes that search endless as it happened to the monk Panshan in this story and makes us feel an emptiness inside us that we do not know how to fill.
We occupy our lives with endless goals, pretensions, dreams looking for a way to fill that space, but without realizing it we give all the power to the external, to everything that is outside.
Then comes the butcher's answer, in which he exclaims: *In this animal, what cut is not special?!* and with it that hammer blow that gives clarity to the monk in his way of perceiving the world. Extrapolating from this answer, one might ask:
**In this world around us what is not special? In your life what is not special?**
Creation is absolutely perfect, everything around us is really splendid, have you ever contemplated a beautiful sunrise and not been infected to start your day with the best energy?
You are special, as well as everything around you, that spark of creation is within you too and the path of recognition, or rather, self-recognition is what will open the doors to perceive the world differently. In order to achieve this, you must start with yourself, it is a task that only corresponds to you, find that glow and love yourself in all your forms, even with your shadows, embrace them, accept them and transcend them will make you a more integrated being.
That is why Master Jesus said "love others as yourself", love must begin at home, if you cannot see that special radiance in you, your eyes will not be able to admire the beauty of others or of creation. And this is not at all about being self-centered or living from the ego, but to awaken that energy of love and compassion in ourselves in order to extend it to others.
When we begin this journey of inner transformation there is no turning back, certainly you can find many wounds, look at painful things, mistakes, among many other things that make you feel sadness, rage, anger, shame, however they are also part of your story and make you the person you are today. Understanding your history, understanding that you did the best with the level of consciousness you had, with the tools you had available, connects you with that compassionate and non-judgmental look, which in turns out to be very liberating.
**Dare to look inside, because once you cross those shadow barriers and accept them, you will see the special being that you are**.
Blessings ✨
-The story "The Roasted Boar" is a traditional Zen tale, I read it once in the book "Zen Speaks", by Tsai Chih Chung and I shared it in this article with some modifications.
- First image taken from Pixabay, copyright free: https://pixabay.com/es/illustrations/buda-zen-monje-la-meditaci%C3%B3n-yoga-4338379/
- Lead image taken from my personal archive and of my exclusive property.
- Original content authored by me.
Dealing with Change...
The world is constantly changing and this includes everything that makes it up, including each one of us. Every day there is a renewal, something different, sometimes we believe that everything remains the same but that is not possible, just look around or inside yourself to see that transformations are occurring.
Of course there are imperceptible changes, for example, over time things at home wear out until one day they are deteriorated, children grow every day and we notice when their clothes no longer fit or they outgrow us in size ... suddenly just one day a gray hair sprouts, you do not know how it happened, but all these situations were a set of changes that were happening in a period of time until they were finally visible to your eyes.
We are also presented with changes in the form of "shocks", those that you did not expect and that often turn your world upside down, such as losing your job, having a traffic accident, losing a loved one, a pandemic, winning the lottery or finding out you are pregnant!
Our lives are in a constant pulsing, we are exposed to experience situations every day that can transform us in many ways, the big question is: **How do you deal with these changes? What do you do to deal with them in the best possible way?**
On many occasions we tend to resist because we do not want to leave our comfort zone, because we fear the unknown, or we are simply terrified of failing in the attempt, but this attitude only complicates the picture, because even if we want to avoid certain situations sooner or later we will have to face them.
If you have this type of reaction, this question is for you: **Why do you find it difficult to accept change?**
Months before I made the decision to divorce I was in this dilemma, I did everything I could to avoid an inevitable end to my relationship, but I was terrified of how I would face life as a single mother and the whole social scheme of having to also face the stigma, even family stigma: the first woman in the family to be divorced.
I delayed the decision as long as I could, until there came a point when circumstances led me to divorce as the only possible solution to the whirlwind I was living through. A year later I wondered why it had taken me so long to make that resolution.
The peace I felt when I was out of that toxic relationship and started a path of inner knowledge, placing myself again as the protagonist of my story left me perplexed, I could not believe that I had hesitated so long in getting divorced and I do not regret it at all, although I would have liked it to have been a more friendly and less tortuous process.
The important point of all this is in the approach we give to it, different people choose different reactions to the same situation. To illustrate this idea, imagine that one day you are on the subway and everyone is running around like crazy, you don't know what's going on, there is chaos in the station.
This situation I am telling you about is a real life experience I had years ago, that day I could really see how some people let panic take over, others acted from a calm space, some had their attention focused on solving the problem, helping others to get out, others were running desperate only thinking about themselves... so many things I saw that day, stuck to the wall, where I was watching all that scenario.
After a separation, many people choose to close themselves to love to avoid future suffering or because they are stuck in the pain caused by the breakup, others have faith in Love and are ready to start their life again, even with the risks that this may represent. In one or the other case there was a "change" that for better or worse leads to a transformation of the Being you were.
I decided to deal with the change flowing with the circumstances, I felt and feel very well after that gale that passed through my life. Today I can look back and be grateful for all that learning that strengthened me, reconnected me with my courage and with myself.
Now I am more conscious of my choices and decisions, and I try not to stubbornly resist changes, I observe them when they arise and flow with them in a dance that connects me with the constant pulsating of life.
See you next time!!!
Image sources taken from Pixabay, copyright free:
https://pixabay.com/es/illustrations/espiral-universo-espacio-creaci%C3%B3n-1037508/
https://pixabay.com/es/illustrations/cambio-flechas-nubes-cielo-948024/
https://pixabay.com/es/illustrations/arroyo-conciencia-el-flujo-de-r%C3%ADo-1106336/
First photo taken from my personal archive and modified with Photolab app.
Original content of my autorship.
The problem of when...
**Have you ever made a statement with this word?**
I think it is almost inevitable to answer negatively to this question, and for some reason it seems that we are used to "postpone" things to wait for the best time to do them.
So we start with a long list of "When":
When I bought the house I will be able to....
When I get married I will be...
When I have more money I will indulge in....
When I have more time I will...
When Friday comes I will...
When the time is right I will...
When I'm done I'll be able to...
When it's...
**What other phrases would you add to this list? Do any of them resonate with you?**
When we get used to using this phrase, and even worse, living from the when, we let time go by and those things we want to do, have or Be are diluted, they remain on another plane and most of the time we do not achieve them or when we finally achieve them we realize that they did not meet the expectations we had about them.
Thinking from the when always poses a limitation and places us in a timeless space in the future that leaves us in limbo, with an idea or dream that we are not sure if we will be able to fulfill, and this just subtracts energy to achieve it.
Life is this present moment, there is no perfect time to get married, have children, take a trip or eat that special meal you long for. The only perfect time is "now". If you want to go for a run just put on your running shoes and go out, if the weather is not in your favor just run in your room and don't procrastinate that desire.
It's that simple, there is a saying that goes "who does not risk does not win", you do not know what will happen if you try now or a few months or years later when you think the conditions are given, so it makes no sense to keep postponing what you want to do, this does not mean that you will go crazy doing a project without planning, you know what I mean.
I was used to live from When, waiting for the best time to do things, or to have more time, or more money, and so many other justifications... and thanks to an experience in which I almost lost my life, I realized that I could have gone flat out with a big to-do list waiting for the perfect opportunity.
And I'm not only referring to big ambitions or projects, but also to everyday things, as simple as having coffee with a friend, making a phone call to a relative I haven't contacted in a while, expressing my affection to another person, or spending a fun afternoon with the kids at the park... so many things can be contained in that waiting list.
Waiting for that favorable moment can be a great perdition, important opportunities can pass and part of the learning that brings us to live this earthly experience is to risk, to have the courage and commitment with ourselves to follow our desires, to bet everything to be happy and live to the fullest without self-limitations.
So what are you waiting for, what are you longing for at this moment, what is stopping you from putting that desire into action?
**Stop being your own stumbling block.**
See you next time!
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Image sources taken from Pixabay, copyright free:
https://pixabay.com/es/illustrations/dudas-s%C3%AD-no-negocio-error-3747362/
https://pixabay.com/es/illustrations/preguntas-demanda-dudas-psicolog%C3%ADa-1922477/
First photo from my personal archive and modified with Photolab app.
Original content of my authorship.
Starting a new route in Readcash
Greetings community, my full name is Mirianna Lis La Cruz Romero, I know it sounds a little long, but since some Family Constellator explained to me the importance of using all names to honor and keep in mind both lineages from where we come from I try to use them to honor my paternal and maternal energy.
I am Venezuelan, single mother of two beautiful boys, lawyer by profession and holistic therapist by conviction and passion. I have always felt attracted to writing although I had not done it beyond the work level.
A few months ago I discovered this world of Blogging, I confess that at first I saw it as a kind of hobby, nothing serious or of great commitment, but as time has passed I have realized that it is a tremendous job that requires a lot of dedication, effort and commitment.
To summarize the story a little, I tell you that 10 months ago I started in this world of blockchain and social networks based on these platforms through Hive. It has been a very enriching experience in many ways, first of all because I connect with the passion I have for writing and I feel that now my head does not stop thinking about ideas to capture in my posts.
In addition to this, I have had the opportunity to meet many people, other cultures and also about this world of cryptocurrencies that I did not know in its entirety, and of which I still confess to be ignorant.
I feel that all this came to me at the best time, just when I felt super disconnected from my profession I was introduced to Blogging as a form of expression and profession.
Posting on my #Hive blog has brought me a lot of news about myself, it has opened up many personal processes that I am observing and processing, and at the same time it inspires me that creative vein that I had dormant trapped in pre-established formats and forms.
All this has motivated me to look for more and that is how I arrived today to this platform, looking for other learning experiences. I am still not clear about what I am going to share with you through this channel, I like to write about topics related to motivation, personal growth, Neurolinguistic Programming, energy management, and other related topics.
I love to meditate, to enter into spaces of silence and inner search. Posting about my experience with meditation is something I can share, or maybe I can just write about the many things that go through my mind.
I hope to be carried away by the movement of this platform to decide something about it, for now I confess that I am very excited to be here, I have many expectations, almost as many as concerns about the operation of @readcash and I hope to contribute the best I have to give and add my bit to the growth of this platform and my own.
Grateful for your support and accompaniment. Any welcome advice I welcome it with much pleasure and open arms.
See you soon!
Photos from my personal archive and my exclusive property.
@MiriannaLis
