Have you noticed that our way of thinking can sometimes be our biggest stumbling block?
When we have had bad experiences, or suffered for any reason we tend to put up certain protective barriers, which is totally logical and natural, but sometimes we go to the extreme and make those experiences mark us in such a way that we stop trusting other people, our environment and even worse: ourselves.
This is why it is important that we broaden our outlook and start by not feeling "victims" of what happens to us, but to look for the lessons learned from those experiences that we classify as "negative" and transform the suffering into evolution and personal growth.
If you dare to see beyond your nose, and you are receptive, you can always find a learning experience. The idea is not to feed a fear that defines your present and future actions, but to realize what is the invitation that the situation you are experiencing is making to you.
Strengthen your self-esteem, become more independent, have faith, acquire new skills?
These are just a few examples of my learnings that may be common to you, or very different. I could also add learning to trust your instincts, valuing each present moment, having a more positive attitude, among many others.
Over time I have become convinced that the situations and people that present themselves to us always bring us a message, even if it is not in the way we want it to be. I wanted to spend more time with my children because I had a very demanding job and suddenly this pandemic came unexpectedly that has kept us cooped up at home for more than a year, of course it was not the context in which I was planning to spend more time with them.
I also wanted to develop my patience even more and having to be their teacher at home has challenged me every day to be patient, stay calm and learn new things. Not to mention that I was not a friend of crafts and certain school activities and with the baby I have had to develop creative skills to stimulate his learning and growing process.
Learning to set limits was also a big challenge for me, and life gave me many teachers who came to show me how necessary it was for my well being to set limits clearly, in some cases it was easy, in others more difficult as in the case of my ex-partner, father of my children.
The key: Maintain a perspective that helps you handle the situation in the most harmonious way possible. If we stick to perceive the situation from "victimhood" we will only suffer and expose ourselves to many imbalances.
I always remember a story I was told years ago about 2 salesmen who were sent to Africa to sell shoes. One of them, upon arrival, saw that many people were without shoes, they were simply walking barefoot or with rudimentary sandals, upon seeing this, he immediately called the company and told them that there was no possibility of developing a market in that place. The other, upon seeing the same situation, was amazed and informed the company that he would establish his operations center there because there were many sales possibilities because people needed to buy shoes to be more comfortable.
What I mean by this is that in the same situation, you can have very different perspectives, the issue is in what decision you are going to make according to the challenges you face.
What path would you take in that case? Would you see opportunity or failure? Would you risk even trying?
The perspective we have of everything, even of people, will be our great ally or our great stumbling block, it will encourage us to go on and try, or give up without even having tried, and it will also define the way in which we will go through this earthly life.
It will either allow us to see the light at the end of the tunnel or it will engross us in darkness.
I guess learning to flow with the circumstances without judging what happens to us as "good" or "bad" can help us in this challenge of having a more objective and harmonic perception.
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When there was a pandemic, your children united you. You became their teacher so that they could continue their education. I admire you in such a situation. It’s hard because we’re not used to it. But you still manage. Keep it up, madam.