Marriages are based on love ... Most of us think so ... However, in the 21st century, there are marriages based on "supply" and "demand" ...
Reasons for arranged marriages can be of economic nature such as. the feeling that our biological clock is ticking, "papers", bad financial situation ...
Research shows that arranged marriages are more stable than those where people chose a partner on their own. Getting married in the phase of falling in love has shortcomings and it is not advised without reason not to make such important decisions as the choice of a partner "for life" during that period.
It is estimated that every other marriage in the world is still arranged. In India, where as much as 90 percent of marriages are arranged, the divorce rate is the lowest in the world. What does that tell us? Are these couples happier or just have no choice? Is a contracted marriage necessarily a marriage without love? What can we learn from him? What were the good and what were the bad sides?
We never know what someone’s true reasons are and we can’t “put everyone who gets married for economic reasons in the same basket”. Why are prejudices about people entering into marriage due to financial security, while it is much milder to look at a marriage in which people have stopped loving each other over time, insulting, arguing, and persistently staying in it?
We often hear that people have already come to some years, have achieved in other fields, but for fear of being left alone, they choose to marry the person who is currently next to them.
There are many people who decide to marry because of offspring. It happens that after a divorce, people say that next time they will marry someone exclusively to have children. There are actually two key relationships between spouses who have children - partnership and parenthood.
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Love is important for marriage, but it is not enough in itself for a good marriage. Just as love for the work we do is not enough to go to work on those days when we would rather stay in bed, or to be good and successful in what we do.
It takes commitment and responsibility (which we have chosen voluntarily). Every long-term relationship goes through cycles of harmony-relationship breakdown-relationship repair. When a relationship breaks down, some people will stop and try to overcome the problems and improve the relationship.
Others will go - without stopping and thinking - in the direction of worsening and ending the relationship. It is precisely in times of crisis that our will and determination to work on improving the relationship can be seen, as well as how skilled we are at creating healthy and stable partnerships.
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Happy is the man who finds a true friend, and the happiest is the one who finds him in his wife.
The whole skill in marriage is to be able to move from love to friendship, without sacrificing love.
Only marriage out of love is attractive. Marrying a girl just because she is cute is the same as buying an unnecessary thing at the market just because she is beautiful. In married life, the most important screw is love, sexual attraction, one body, and everything else is insecure and boring no matter how cleverly we recalculate. So, it is not about a nice girl, but about a loved one.
A. P. Chekhov
Two people are needed for marriage, mostly three for divorce.
Do not take women because of their beauty, because beauty can ruin them, do not take them because of their property, because property can make them hanged, but take them because of their nature, and you will have well-behaved, frequent and hard-working wives.
I want you to have a wonderful marriage, whether it is out of love or it is arranged!
I will cherish my marriage out of love, and love my husband regardless of all possible problems that arise in marriage ...
I wish you good night, good dreams, or maybe someone good morning and a nice day ...
Yours @MarijaJak !