Don't Make it too Late

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Marriage is a part of our life, but we have the choice to go for it or to live our life alone; to focus serving in church or to focus taking care of your love ones. It's not about a race that you should push yourself, but a decision that you must think multiple times.

Today's article is to show how important love is in marriage life. So if you're not yet in this point of life, make sure to always pray to God about this, as He is the best author and director of our love life.

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Story of an Hour is a Contemporary Literature written by Kate Chopin in 1894.This depicts about the modern marriage life, which Mrs. Mallard the main character represents. I actually read this twice, as this kind of work uses a lot of imagery.

The story begins when Josephine and Richard, told Mrs. Mallard about the death of her husband due to train accident. Mr. Mallard wept and filled with sadness, and went to her room. When she's already alone in the room, she stop crying and felt relieved. The sadness turns to joy, thinking that the death of her husband means freedom. But on the last part of the story, when Ms. Mallard went out the room, her husband went home like there's is nothing happened, and confused what's going on. Mrs. Mallard was shocked, fell down and had a heart attack, which the doctor said, "died of a heart disease - of the joy that kills".

Would you think that Mrs. Mallard was really happy seeing her husband? Or discourage about the change of plot?


I am still a student, and marriage is not yet in my vocabulary, but why I came up with this topic was because some of my friends already entered this and end with frustration.

I have this friend whom I haven't meet again after we finished Grade 7, he transferred in different school and our communication was gone. After 6 years I saw him again in the city carrying a baby. I was surprised to see him, and then he show the baby, saying that it was his child. In a distance there was a beautiful girl that he point out, saying that it was her wife. I'm really happy for him because of that, and we say farewell and never meet again.

Recently, he chat me and asked how's my life going on, we are just chatting funny things until we came up into his marriage life and then he said that they already broke up because the girl cheated on him. The new guy is rich and have a business, which he think why his ex-wife chose to be with. Now he was so sad, since his ex-wife get the baby and stay away from him.

If you have read @King_Gozie's article I Got A Crush On You And This Is Your Test, He mentioned about setting a standard, reality of love and self-love. In this article I leave a comment saying how important setting a high standard is.

And thank you Sir, that you appreciate my thought about your article.

At last, what I want to convey is to choose wisely who are you going to marry someday. Don't waste your time and effort for someone who doesn't deserve you. While for those who are married already, I would like to send my prayer for a more fruitful, blessed and full of love journey of your marriage life.

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Hello lovely readers! How was your day?

I would like to say sorry for not visiting your articles because I had my second dose of vaccination yesterday and I need to take a rest. I will visit your articles when I'm fully fine. Thanks.

GOD Bless. Hugs!

Ps. Thank you for those who've mentioned me, I will visit your articles later. I really don't feel good for now:)

October 5, 2021

-Ling

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ako nga nauna ang pag anak before na kasal. eh kasi naman ang covid nakaka delay ng plans.

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2 years ago

That's some wise advice. I guess we all have seen how people suffer after rushing to get married to someone they don't match with. It really takes time to understand a person. But then again, our body clock is ticking and we rush even knowing the consequences. Thanks for the writing, it was a good read.

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2 years ago

Love is essential in life, especially in married life. I had attended a lecture by famous mathematician Roger Penrose during my college (the 1990s). Roger's girlfriend was sitting in the front row of the auditorium. They have been together for so many years. But I don't know why they didn't go for a formal nuptial knot (court or Church). Remember the love marriage (and the divorce after many years) of Stephen Hawking, who was also a co-researcher of Roger Penrose.

The labor of love in human lives is fascinating.

Thanks for this discussion on love.

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2 years ago

We should not hurry to choose a life partner for us, a right partner can make our life heaven but at the same time a wrong partner can our life hell to. We should think more before going to love realationship. Love is important but at the same time respect is important too. The person who we love if she/he can't respect me then she/he can't love me too.

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2 years ago

True, it's all about love and respect. If these doesn't exist prefer to end it.

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2 years ago

i think before getting into marriage you have to consider the kind of home you want and visualize how you want your family to me then that will let you know what you really want in a man or woman cos when you get in divorced is not an option. thank you new friend for this message

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2 years ago

Yes I'm thinking about this, just to plan ahead. It's good to look forward on the things that you want about marriage. And nice to met you!

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2 years ago

is a pleasure from me am grateful

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2 years ago

Marriage is not a race. It should be thought of well, prayed of well. And daming mga marriages na nasisira lalo na ngayon. Kailangan talaga maging strong ang relationship ng mag asawa at hayaan din na ang work ni Lord ay mareveal sa marriage life. Sa story ni Ms. Mallard, baka natakot sya kasi mawawala na naman ang freedom if the husband is alive. hehehehe

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2 years ago

Yes Sis, ito yung mahalaga; dapat si Lord mismo yung mag work ng relationship, atleast doon alam nating safe tayo. About naman kay Mrs. Mallard, ganon na nga Sis, baka nabigla at na disappoint sya, iniisip niya na kasi yung freedom nya pero maling balita pala nakarating sa kanya

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2 years ago

For me before going marriage , mas gusto kilalanin ko muna yung magiging partner ko in the future ,kasi pg sinasabing marriage para dapat kung ano yung pina numpaan mo sa harap ng latar tutuparin, kasi , hindi yang parang kanin na kapag sinubo mo at mainit ay iluluwa mo. at alam ng lahat na kasal ay sagradong lalo na pg sa simbahan may blessing yung kasal nyo galing sa pari .

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2 years ago

Tama Sis, mahirap ng magsisi sa huli. At dahil sacred ang kasal dapat wise tayo bago mag enter sa ganitong situation.

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2 years ago

Yeah, At alam ko kadalasan kasi pg nagsasama na saka na lalabas ang tunay na ugali, i know its normal sa mga bagong mag asawa ,pero ang masaklap is yung nawawalan na ng love sa isat isa at magiging dahilan sa pghihiwalayan, same to my uncle they are 15yrs of marriage at sa tagal nila ngkahiwlay pa, sad kasi ang daming na nilang na pundar na time sa isat isa, mga gamit at higit sa lahat yung pagsasama nila as a couple , masakit pero wala naman tayo sa katayuan nila para mag decide para sakanila. d rin natin alam ang story nila kaya .At kung sakali man na mag pa kasal is yung sigurado kana talaga na sya na ang gusto mong makasama hanggang sa pg tanda.

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2 years ago

Kahit may anak na ako, feel ko di parin yun rason para e rush ang marriage eh. Alam ko labag to sa heavenly laws pero gusto ko rin may mapatunayan muna at maging successful

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2 years ago

Agree naman ako sayo. Marriage is sacred and isa sa pinaka importanteng events as a couple. No need to rush it, plan ahead and work for it. Gawin nyong special and memorable yung araw na yun:)

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2 years ago

Know your worth, be good friends and make sure he respect you and most especially be financially independent just in case a day comes and he show no interest again

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2 years ago

I would love a man who knows how to respect me. I even seeking for this on a friendship how much more in romantic relationship :)

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2 years ago

Marriage means a lifetime commitment. So think wisely before entering into that level. Don't rush it. I also dream to be married when I was a child but now that I'm being a grown woman, I just want to focus on being successful before anything else. Gusto ko munang may mapatunayan sa sarili bago mag commit sa ganyang level.

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2 years ago

Love your words Sis. Ito din prinsipyo ko sa ngayon: ayusin muna yung sarili ko, plan for my parents at kapatid, business then makatulong.

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2 years ago

Marriage can't be contracted in just one day, people who rush into marriage Don't last in it. It is better to be single than to rush into marriage

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2 years ago

True, single but happy than marriage but problematic

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2 years ago

Marriage is very deep and not seen as many take it. A lot of people rush into marriage just to quench some thirst and to "belong" and oftentimes ends up in a big mess. I have heard, I have seen. Marriage shouldn't be rushed into.

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2 years ago

Totally right, that's why we should be careful and wise enough for this matter

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2 years ago

Marriage is a life time contract, we need to choose wisely have written some articles on how we can improve our marriage , you can check my profile, Marriage is a future contract we all need to get seriously prepared for marriage. Nice write up 👍

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2 years ago

Oh, thanks I will visit it later :)

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2 years ago

U are welcome always 😘

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2 years ago

Choosing your partner is choosing your future, so be wise and don't be on the rush.

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2 years ago

Yes Sis, and I'll mind this too:)

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2 years ago

Marriage is not an affair to be rushed into. One's partner should be carefully chosen as it will have a major effect on how your life will turn out

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2 years ago

Indeed! And we must put this in our heart and mind.

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2 years ago

Marriage is not only about love but the way you holding together through ups and downs, on how you build to become more stronger. It's about how you walk the future of being a wife and husband. Love, care and supporting each other must be on presence.

It's so sad sis, you broke up the man because you saw another man that belong to the high standard. This is the reason we should be careful to the person whom we choose to be part in our life to enter the world of marriage.

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2 years ago

Super agree ako sa sinabi mo Sis. Di naman lahat perfect about love, pero we have the chance to think and choose what is right. So kung nagmamadali tayo or bigla-bigla nalang makikipaghiwalay kasi may nakita na much better, parang ang sama naman.

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2 years ago

Oo sis. Sobrang mali talaga lalo na yung committed in marriage na. Sobrang sakit nun tas ang laki ng kasalanan mo nun. Dapat maging careful tayo sa pagpili ng partner natin pero minsan kasi nangyayari yan dahil nagbago yung tao sa pagtakbo ng panahon. Depende talaga yan sa tao sis. Sobrang sad talaga.🥺

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2 years ago

Yeah that's true,, enjoy first,, it's not easy to getting married if you're not ready mentally,, because mostly someone told me getting married is not easy things, they face so much struggles.

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2 years ago

Right! It's better to plan ahead and be ready, than to face those struggles because you're rushing to it.

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2 years ago

Yeah you right sis

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2 years ago

Yes we should enjoy our time. Do not rush, ro wait is to receive a perfect time.

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2 years ago

God's plan is perfect, so better if we go for it:)

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2 years ago

I agree that we should not rush to enter into relationship especially when it comes to marriage. There's always a perfect time for this matter. Let's just enjoy our single life now lol haha

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2 years ago

Hahahha true enjoy muna, ipon muna. Mas maigi na yung ready ka na sa lahat, even financial.

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2 years ago

Yes ,your right journey are still young enjoy your days now it will come in a right time with a right person,God have reserved for you

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3 years ago

Just like you Sis, recently lang ng celebrate ng Anniversary. So blessed :)

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2 years ago

Niahahaha sissy ayw ko nlng mag asawa hahaha

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3 years ago

Ayiee Sis, baka foreigner future mo ha hahah

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2 years ago

Hahaha pasaway sissy

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2 years ago

There is a right time for marriage BFF, there is a person na nakatakda saatua. And we should put standards regarding with that matter jud.

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3 years ago

Kaayo bff uy, lisod ng magsisi nga ulahi na

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2 years ago

It is not good to rush into marriage, many are crying why they rush into it today. We need to always apply our 99% intelligence before we get involved

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3 years ago

Yes, just so sad that a lot of people rushing about it

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2 years ago

You are absolutely right about this,we singles should be wise and before going into any relationship we need to know the in and out of our partner to be cuz marriage is eternal.

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3 years ago

Right, there's no turning back when we are already married, so we must be wise about this.

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2 years ago

Marriage is incomplete without love. If you don’t love each other by their souls then I think you shouldn’t do a marriage but nowadays people love only by physically and when it comes to marriage they ran away. If you are in love with someone then marriage is the best way to prove it you don’t have to prove it physically.

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3 years ago

True! I always tell to myself, not to be with a man who don't have a plan to marry me someday. It's okay to be single than to be in a relationship with wrong person.

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2 years ago

Indeed.

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2 years ago

Single and still blessed with it. Sorry to disappoint you. But I trusted someone and she broke me badly and now.. I don't trust anyone dear. I know that your words are accurate but dear, I'm done with that.

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3 years ago

No it's okay. The right girl will open your heart again, you don't need to force about it; it will come:)

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2 years ago

That's why you are my best friend. You never fail to stand with right suggestions.

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2 years ago