Would you agree with me if I told you not to focus on achieving anything

If you want to achieve anything dont get too attracted to them, it might come to you as a shock.

I know this story may seem funny but it must be told, so I had a crush in school once I was in secondary school then, and it was hard for me to really approach her though. I had to really try to control myself anywhere around her, she was the most beautiful thing I have ever seen in my entire life. This isnt fiction its damn reality, I believed I getting this girl wasnt all that hard. Trust me it got hard! Like really hard, you know when you try to ask a girl out and you think of 100 ways she was gonna stab you.

So then I had this close pal and he's always like let me be your wing man, seriously I didnt understand who we where winging at. So I asked him one sunny afternoon if he would help me secure the baggage and he didnt hesitate to say he would help. Going to meet her they talked for some minutes, he then returned to say 'Oboi this isnt going to work out, she said you must show that feeling by coming to her'. It wasnt long till I summoned up courage that was after we where both paired for a project work, and guess what she turned me down. Questions kept running through "if I wasn't handsome enough, I got a conviction yes you are!..." if I didn't sound right in my approach" or whether the intention wasn't clearly yes. If you'd reason the fact that i did ask then what should bother me about my approach anyway.

So i decided to quit chasing and just back down a bit, you could see that I still wanted to be with this girl. One thing I knew was that I gained confidence, and i learnt new fishing skills. So during my final exams she approached me, and said the sweetest thing ever "I never really wanted to turn your offer down, I just wanted to see how well you'd wait for me and you actually did"

Where I'm I really driving at today, one thing is sure that you can never be at the top by constantly looking at the top. You gotta have to clear your head of several thoughts that says you should keep monitoring your progress everytime. Why would I say that? Monitoring it sometimes might bring you down so all you need do is fall in love with the process and do the process without thinking. Some guidelines that will likely help out;

Set the goal

This is the time to kick start every of your goals in alignment, you would need to start somewhere....maybe it's your job, maybe it's your long desired dream, maybe it's your blogging career. How well do you plan it? How much more would you drop into it? Is it going to be short or long term? Will I level it up at the end of the day?.

At this stage it is very critical, because this is the point where you learn confidence, you learn structuring, and you learn courage. You have got to start regardless of what people's opinions are.

Forget the goal

Next step is to practically forget those goals, dont keep dragging your feet back and forth immediately you fix it let it slide off your memory for sometime.....at least allow it to develop before you return over and over again. The more you check, trust me you'll alter it. For instance let's use the crypto market you know for sure that if you want whatsoever you have as a portfolio to serve you long term, if you keep going back seeing the red lines...you'll be discouraged and in no time you begin swaping.

Achieve the goal

Looking back at what this was really intended for, forgetting your goal dosent mean you wouldn't achieve them, at the process of waiting you learn so many things. If you wanna achieve your goals, focus on controlling your actions or behaviours towards yourself or other people. Dont focus on the goal itself, but focus to enjoy the process that will lead you to achieve your goals instead.

So I just registered for a gym membership recently, i started my routine this week and the first two day was terrible.....like I always just try to control the exercises that I do, thinking i will just grow packs immediately. So I got to think differently "why dont I try to enjoy these workouts and not limit these exercises that I do".

CONCLUSION

You gotta have to draw the plan, execute the plan, forget the plan and it will go smoothly as ever....this works well on a long term. Why not change the course of the game a bit....I wish you success on your way up.

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