@King_Gozie
I’m Getting Married ***What is the age recommended for marriage, and I'm so curios to know your answer?"*** This was a dilemma with a friend.. here's what she said "I don't know about marriage and I don't know about kids either, seems like an egotistical pursuit masquerading as something so noble. I do like the idea of doing amazing things with awesome people, maybe I'm just tripping but family just seems average and I don't really see any thing in marriage and commitment" I understand why some people don't agree with the idea of marriage and having a family and all of that coz I think everyone is entitled to their own desires.. but to me being a firm believer in marriage, was because I was fortunate enough to have both parent for some time although my dad's late now. My mom got married when she was 21 and my dad was 27 and so they got married at a young age. When you see that happen and grow up in that situation seeing them overcome any obstacles together of course you're going to believe in the idea of marriage.. But then she says she has a good family and don't believe in that idea of marriage, here's my opinion... she must have had curiosities about those other things and for her to say nothing can ever lead her into having a long term connection but yet she talked about so much on personal desires.. There's nothing deep and meaningful about those things that was listed, there's nothing deep and meaningful about life itself.. then at the time I was thinking I about it, I actually felt like being in one to have the experience so quickly.. We kinda do what's beneficial to us, you want to see your legacy live on through your kids.. at the same time would anyone say a marriage is a bad thing based on this points. We kept on arguing all day and I was like for every step to be amongst a family we are trying to build some thing that will out live us regardless of how we feel about it at that very moment.. Here's my philosophy, I think that love does exist and it's worth the wait.. of I had gotten love at this age, I wouldn't been ready for it and I wouldn't be able to process it correctly and it currently would have broken me because I am not ready for, we must be in tune with ourselves first before we find a match outside ourselves.. then someone out there sees you and gets attracted to you and you're also going to be aware of the people in tune with you. So you're getting more opportunities and becoming more observant of those opportunities to be loved and love some one else.. we must keep working on ourselves and this is to everyone out there feeling lonely or having a negative feeling about marriage, keep doing what you do and dont stop working on yourself. This message still speaks for you to take all those love you want to give to somebody else that don't deserve you and give that to yourself instead.. When you do find a partner that is in tune with you and also with themselves, you can enjoy having the best moment together... I ended it all with finding someone who makes you pause for a while, in that process you feel something then I agreed within me that she's never felt something like this before and really don't know what love is yet.. ***So I'm asking a general question, "Should love be a scam or a joke?"*** What would you say about her opinion towards having a commitment and connection between two people… she wasn’t accepting all the facts thrown on this argument. It’s personal and if anyone decides something it should be generally tagged to everyone.. when I ask her why exactly did she say something like that, there was no reason from her.. I know I sort of changed the idea of me getting married, so sorry I’m not doing that yet and you may just be the one I’m searching for.. Thank you for reading… I love you all. Two days left for 2021 to be over, I’m more excited for the new year.. ***December 29th 2021***
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Marriage is something one should not rush into. One has to take his/her time in finding the right person. It's just like an irreversible chemical equation, once the reaction has started it can be reversed.
I love how you related this with a chem reaction, most times I look at marriage as a lasting commitment and anyone going into it should be ready in all areas.. I really wish a lot of people having issues now that should have dealt with at the initial stage could have realized all this, it may just one thing missing that will result in chaos… thank you for breathing new life and something different into this topic with a lovely contribution..
I agreed, When my parents marraige then my mothers age was 23 or my father's age was 31,it seems very awful that my dad married in 31,but in my views if we loved any one any she also love you then you have to marry her early as you can becuase the time not same always,love is a joke if we feels it from our heart and if we just use brain then we can understand what is love love can't be manage with feelings,it will destroy ourselfs if we feel it from our heart, or love is the many blunders of our character behavior patterns etc. I think you have to married now it would be good for you and enjoy your life
I’m not in the right frame of mind to get married yet 😅.. but that could be a handful of suggestion though… I understood everything from your reasoning, age shouldn’t be a judge guests having a good partner likewise having a good home and partner.. it takes two to tangle like the saying goes, Preparedness is important when one’s mind is made.. Thank you for this, I could learn something..
Speaking of marriage I don't think there is any recommended age, it has to do with maturity and preparation. A 20 year old person could be ready while another 25 year old person may not be. Age isn't a factor.
That’s true Kris.. I feel preparedness is key when going into marriage.. even people older can have it all wrong in a relationship or marriage… maturity is what is takes in a long lasting union. I’ve seen worse happen, when there was no proper alignment from both parties.. I agree fully with you brother thank you
I've seen so many cases as such.
Exactly… we keep seeing them happen. It’s not something that can easily be amended, once a mistake is done it’s done.. How are you feeling now?”
Marriageable age for men is 25 while women is 23. But I'll say marriage should not be rushed into. It's a lifetime commitment
I never of this though and I have noted this age.. it should be rushed into, that’s means in two years time I should be preparing to be in one cause I will be eligible 😊.. when both parties realize that it’s for better for worse, I think much thought have to go into it..
As what others side marriage is not setting up by the age. Its up for you if you were going to get marry someone with ur recent status in life and u think that its already a right time.
Love is not a scam neither is it a joke but a beautiful thing we must all have. Getting marriage is not by mouth and no one must be in a rush to get married. Marriage is not a joking matter but a school on its own. So, age is not a yardstick for marriage but to some extent it is as marrying at a tender age can cause breakage of the marriage on the long run. This is why understanding each other is necessary in relationship. First you must understand the way both of you relate to eacu other and the way your partner feel about you. You must also understand your partner if he or she is having just the outside beauty. The fact remains that, they must bother love each other to the fullest. Jumping into it cannot and can never sound too well. It does not matter how old you are but what matters most is the love you have for each other. Love exists and it is real but not fake.
To me, love is not a scam neither is it a joke. Marriage is not for everyone. There are some who shouldn´t be talking about marriage especially when they do not understand what it entails. Yes, age doesn´t concern marriage, provided you understand the techniques to having a good life together with your partner.
Everyone can love but not all are into marriage.. it depends on persons preference.
Very true ate.. not all are actually ready to be in a marriage hence the sudden chaos in homes… I love your opinion on personal preferences..
My father married at 21 so he got a sibling that could be his friends.. We oftenly play basketball together... Hehe, and we could also help him do heavy stuffs when he needs us. I recommend 23 age
Getting married should be plan but sometimes teenager nowadays excited of getting married but these arr beneficial and non beneficial, depends on how they overcome the incidents and how the parents support them
I guess marriage should be 18+
Yeah… but shockingly I have seen 17 😅😅… it doesn’t have an age barrier and that shouldn’t be the basis for marriage alone.. truly it is the recommended age as well
28-35 is my preference. Unfortunately, I don't want to jump into it lol. Well not all are really not open about marriage. It's a serious thing that should be thought about a million times before engaging in that matter. It might be easy for some, but not for the practical ones.
I believe in your preference as well.. no one should be compelled to dive into it because they just turned 20 or 25 but it should be ourselves put into consideration, How ready are we going forth?” You have made a good decision and when it’s time for that to happen, you will meet someone who will always be in tune with you… thank you dear
It depends on our lifestyle, perceptions ie. I got married at 27 and felt I should do it earlier. With kids before 30 life become a little put together. But that's my personal opinion.
Maybe it depends? I have no plan to get married right now but maybe soon, I'm not even sure with my future
I'm 20 already, and getting married is still not on my mind. But my preference is 25-29. It seems easy but it definitely requires a lot of time to think about it.
That’s a good preference, and I feel anyone within that range should have worked within that motive.. it requires a lot like you’ve written, really I thought you where like 25 😊.. it’s your life and no one should make that decision to make a commitment except you..
I can say age do not determine when to married, so far bot parties agree and have knowledge of what it takes to be together as husband and wife.
There is no an exact age for marriage, as long as couples is ready to take bigger responsibilities and consequences in life. But before entering to that stage, they should also think about it thoroughly as it is not a joke or scam.
Love is real and good. It can happen at any time because there's no age range for it. Aaaand also marriage can come at any age so far the people getting married are matured enough. Maturity is not just in age, but maturity in everything. From our reasoning to actions. Someone who can take solid decisions can decide to marry.
That’s true and really there’s no age range to it.. I love your full explanation of what maturity means because people misinterpret that word and what it entails.. There just be readiness between both parties towards a union… thank you for this write up 💛
To enter into marriage is one of the biggest decisions one can make. It requires thorough thinking. Its not about the age, but the readiness and preparedness of our body and soul to take an immense responsibility that we have to carry for the rest of our life.
Is not that there's a set age for marriage but when one come of age(say revolving around 25 and 30 for ladies and men respectively) and finds someone compatible, they are good to go. It's all about willingness and compatibility of the other partner and not mainly on age.
You are equally right about this, it’s not mainly about age but willingness towards it as as a matured mind.. it could even go beyond 30 and start below 25, what gives if it fulfills everything required then go for it…
I strongly believed in the idea that we should prioritized and develop ourselves first before we look for our other half. It is very improtant to have a strong foundation of ourselves before we let other people come to our lives.
Age for marriage is not fixed. But I would say for a lady, I'd say from 25 years of age. And for a man, I'd say from 25 years too. Depending on the individual. The honest truth is that: not everyone will be wealthy, find love, have a happy marriage or even get married.
Awwwwwn. It's a life contract and an eye opener. They say love is blind (that's during courtship) but when the chemistry turns biology, eye go open
😅😅😅 when that eye open na problem be that… maybe courtship could just be the answer towards building something that relates with commitment.. May God help us all to find awesome partners..
As for me, age can't be a stumbling block when making marital decisions except on the ground that one is still an adolescent in the respect rather, marriage decisions should be made when one is ready by heart, then, such marriage decisions could be made.
As for the age,I think when the man is stable and has a good job at hand that is feeding him,he can then think of going into any marriage.
I believe it’s not only having a stable job but a firm affirmation of what is ahead and college preparation towards that effect… but we know in Nigeria that if you don’t have a good paying job, marriage is just a fantasy… thank you Vic
I really don't think there's an age for marriage. If two people love each other well enough to settle they should go ahead. As long as they can handle the responsibility that they are about to commit to. There are marriages of marured people that still crumble and crash. So age is not a pre requisite to me.
I’m going to have to overrule maturity as the only criteria, you’ve really broken it all down perfectly… there are still marriages that end even if it was based on the maturity level, knowing the responsibilities involved and making up our minds fully to handle them when it comes up is very important.. You’d see and notice marriages crumble when from the onset, issues like this aren’t dealt. I’m no relationship advisor but age really isn’t everything that when making a commitment.. thank you Mhiz
I think it differs for everyone when the best age to get married is. But you should be stable, have figured out quite some things and be in a balanced relationship with someone before you embark on that adventure
Hmmm this is everything i needed to know Plint… it solely depends on every individual.. everything counts as a way of having a clear mindset towards marriage.. Like I discussed earlier, connection and communication matters a lot…
Am 25 now and thinking of marriage now is not Part of my plans now because I have nothing now. So thinking of it now Is something else, but I know that before I turn to 30 I would have earned what I will you in taking care of my family.
For me the ideal age to get married is before you reach the age of 30. This is just for me , because the most important is you are financially and emotionally ready. Financially aspect because you will be building a family. You need to make sure you can provide well. Emotionally - to overcome all challenges along the way of your marriage life. Getting married is not a joke as it is a lifetime commitment. So make sure you really love the person you gonna marry not just because youre in rush .
Sooner you will have your the one 💖
Awww thank you Mel… I really can’t wait for that moment ❤️
Let's then eat a wedding invitation after a long time. It's been a long time no marriage has been eaten. Get married quickly. And we will have a lot of fun in your marriage.
I don't know about marriage so i don't know what to say. As for me, I'm planning to be single lol
When I read the title I thought you actually getting married na hehhe. Anyway, soonest you can find the right woman for you.
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