How Do You Handle Disappointments?

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2 years ago

I define disappointments as missed appointments.

We usually get frustrated when things don't go on our way. We then start to doubt ourselves if was it really not meant for me or I just didn't exert my full potential to achieve it?

Dealing with disappointments is something that a pessimistic person would go through because it adds up to their anxiety and it affects their well-being. For one, I would say that I was once a pessimist and it was so hard to deal with everything around you that is full of negativities.

We face our own different struggles and for sure we shouldn't invalidate one's struggle as petty because we don't share the same level of pain and stress tolerance.

Of course, by definition, appointments are schedules agreed by two parties to meet at a certain place, time, or situation. So that means to say that dis-appointment happens when one (may it be a person, desired career, sign, event) did not meet other person on the desired time you wished to.

If this particular appointment was not met, does that make you a failure?

Well, you're not. If you put all your efforts to achieve that something you truly desire, but you did not achieve it, that makes you a winner. Even if you exhausted all your time and energy for that you were not able to surpass it, you're still winning.

That just means to say that it will lead you to something better than what you desired for. We are naturally biased to react to negativities and so we have this automatic reaction that maybe it's on us. That maybe we lacked effort, we didn't give our best shots.

Nope. It's not always the case. There are things not meant for us and it is some sort of a detour to where we should be at. Again, it's an appointment. Two parties have an agreement. Whether it's a job application and you didn't get hired, you broke up with your girlfriend, you didn't pass the entrance exam for your desired school, you failed to achieve the passing score for your aspired course, it has something to do with timing.

Why do we get disappointed?

Simple, because we established a certain level of expectation for that situation to happen. However, setting expectations is not bad at all. It's just that, you were hopeful and you believed you can achieve it.

The fact that you believed in something positive to happen means that there is hope and that there's still good in this world. The fact that you are still surviving means there is hope. There is still a chance to try again. It's never too late to exert effort again.

The good thing about disappointments is that it prepares you for better situations which are bound to measure your grit, endurance, and perseverance. When you get disappointed and you decide to try again, you are no longer the same person who failed that test. You are the person who survived that ordeal and you have become stronger in any way that you imagine.

You had someone you look up to.

One possible reason for getting disappointed is when you have someone you look up to and it turns out that they're not the person you want them to be.

We have these idols in our lives that we aspire to be like them but when you figure out that they have secrets shouting for truth which is the exact opposite they're showing in public, that's heartbreaking.

You never get satisfied and contentment.

You always want something more and if you sustain that attitude in your entire life then you will always be disappointed at a certain point.

For sure there's a certain circumstance in your life where you wanted something so badly and you promised yourself or God that if you can get it, you will be satisfied and contented with your life. Then, you finally did. You got it, now what? What's next?

It's a nature of a human being to keep asking for more.

It's more of the intangible things that we are not grateful for. There's a missing piece in our hearts that we want but we anchor ourselves to other things to pacify that feeling which doesn't help the situation at all.


How have I grown as a person?

Learn to be more grateful.

Having a grateful heart speaks more of your character. Developing this powerful attitude is something that everyone must have as much as possible. That way, you wouldn't feel insecure with yourselves. Learn to appreciate the things you have than what you had before.

This is not about lowering your expectations but to practice gratitude.

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Thanks for reading.

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We got disappointed also in ourselves if our desired things didn't come in our expected way

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2 years ago

I would say that I was once a pessimist and it was so hard to deal with everything

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2 years ago

Disappointments are being part of everyone's life. We got disappointed also in ourselves if our desired things didn't come in our expected way. But it doesn't mean that, we are stuck in the middle of struggles always. I believe, one day our dreams, our plans will come in a right time and in the right place. Just trust the process and give all the best we can. 😊😊

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2 years ago

disappointment is synonymous with failure because when we feel disappointed at that time we failed in our struggle, but always remember that all of that is a lesson because life never goes smoothly, life experience is the best teacher. rise from all this because happiness awaits ahead.

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2 years ago

I do agree with your definition of disappointment po. I handle them right ahead eh. I make sure that I will not feel disappointed for a long time.

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2 years ago

Yup, it's also about deciding when to move forward and not let yourself get stuck with the circumstances.

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2 years ago

Exactly what I thought po.

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2 years ago

Disappointments is when you did your best and some natural forces ruin it that all of your hardwork turn into waste.

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2 years ago

But you have nothing to lose because you did the best way that you could. Right?

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2 years ago

Disappointments came when we expect too much or either we didn't reach our goal. But as long as we did everything to make it happen it's still worth it at least we try.

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2 years ago

Trying and doing your best is so much enough in winning life. Thanks for dropping by ❀

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2 years ago

As long as you give it a try, you are a winner. Other don't make even the first step---trying. If you try and failed, it's ok atleast you tried and you can't blame yourself.

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2 years ago

Exactly madam. You have nothing to lose anyway. There's no harm in trying.

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2 years ago

Sometimes I just take as normal thing because what will happen will eventually happen so I accept it but most times it can really hurt

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2 years ago

Yeah, it's okay to be hurt but we should accept it otherwise we'll get stuck.

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2 years ago

Yes, disappointments occur because of false expectations. But when we learn that it makes us grow then we learn to manage them to our advantage.

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2 years ago

Hi, gertu13. nice to see you again on my article. Been away for quite some time so I wasn't able to visit your articles lately. I agree, at the end of the day, disappointments are made to teach us lessons that we can apply to our future endeavors.

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2 years ago

But now you're back and we keep seeing each other. Welcome

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2 years ago

See you around. ❀

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2 years ago

Bakit feeling ko for me 'to, Ate? Kasi blangko sagot ko sa exam ko kahapon. Haha, char. Di naman ako nadi-disappoint kapag may ganitong ganap. Nalulungkot, oo pero not to the point that I'll feel disappointed of myself. Saka I know naman na I did my very best. And also feeling disappointed of myself will just add to my stress and isipin and just like what I usually say, "I am not a stress-digger." So, no no tayo sa ganito. Ikain na lang natin 'yannnnnn! πŸ€ͺ Naalala ko din tuloy 'yung thesis sa mga Psychology students sa univ namin. I have a friend in there and I am one of their respondents and its about how failures and disappointments affects our self-love and self-worth.

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2 years ago

It's okay to be sad because somehow you were hopeful and you did not expect something bad to happen. As you said, don't dwell too much on that disappointment because it surely affects your self-worth and mental health.

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2 years ago

Katulad nga kahapon, Ate. Ikinain ko na lang tapos nagpost ako sa noise.casha and tadaaaa! Okay na ako kaagad kasi nailabas ko na eh. Ngayon? Ay balik na sa normal na para akong di nag-exam, haha. Kasi kung dadalin ko talaga sya? Wala din namang magbabago sa sagot ko, mai-stress lang ako kaka-isip and I don't want that. :)

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2 years ago

Exactly. You wouldn't want to get stuck forever. There's always a next time.

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2 years ago

true gyud, the reason why we end up disappointed kay we expect something from it man gud niya sadly it didn't meet our expectation.

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2 years ago

We became too hopeful for it so that is why. Does this mean we should not hope for it nalang? Haha

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2 years ago

I believe talaga na there are things that are not meant for us. We just learn to accept it.

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2 years ago

That's right, but acceptance takes a lot of courage too so it's gonna be a long process to deal with. πŸ˜…

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2 years ago

This is what I needed to read today maam. Thanks for this very inspiring article. You are right po, disappointments doesn't mean failures. It's just all about the timing. I've learned a lot from this. Having a grateful heart is always the best thing to have.

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2 years ago

It starts with a grateful heart talaga madam. Thanks for your kind words ❀

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2 years ago

Siguro sa akin madam Jeaneth yung wag na lang magexpect. Noon kasi kapag nageexpect ako na matatanggap sa isang company or kahit yung magkikita kami ni "ano" or yung may gusto kang bilhin na akala mo mabibili mo na pero biglang tumaas ang presyo, madidisappoint ka lang. Then iisipin ko na lang na "baka it was bot meant to be". πŸ˜” tapos kagit na tanggap ko na, ilang days ko oa din siya iisipin at dadamdamin.

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2 years ago

Being sad is normal talaga madam kase we expected something for it eh. Kaya nga my mantra would be "hope for the best and expect for the worst". Haha

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2 years ago

Setting too much high expectations will surely gives us disappointment kaya madalas talaga I expected least na sa mga bagay bagay though di pa din natututo sometimes. Expect pa din ng expect kaya nasasaktanπŸ˜πŸ˜‚

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2 years ago

Haha. It's so sad to think na we should lower our expectations so it won't be that hurtful πŸ˜† Instead, let's just be grateful nlng.

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2 years ago

Negatives are present to either make or break us, and one of them is disappointments. It's not bad to feel disappointed because not everything we expected is how it is. It's one thing that makes grow

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2 years ago

I agree madam. It helps you to grow as a person din. ❀

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2 years ago

When you get disappointed and you decide to try again, you are no longer the same person who failed that test. You are the person who survived that ordeal and you have become stronger in any way that you imagine.

I love this line. Yes, mas naging matapang ka na harapin ulit un even thiugh you knew na mahihirapan ka. And if you fail again, then look for other opportunities. Ako, I haven't thought really of how I handle disappointments. Siguro di ko lang sya dinidibdib.. .

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2 years ago

Uuuy that's true madam. It's about how you perceive situations eh like how you react to such disappointments. Thanks for the highlighted statement ko madam. 😁

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2 years ago

My pleasure madams, hehehe

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