What to do if a person scoffs

Once I asked you not to call you kitten, bunny, teddy bear. Second time. It doesn't make sense. All you get in return is something about love, friendship, what's the big deal? They don't understand that it's unpleasant or hurtful. Besides, it's ridiculous to make such a request.

Or if someone just calls you by your last name. It is pointless to remind you that you have a name. He cannot hear you. Or pretend to hear it and continue in the same way.

Another example: constant jokes and teasing, reminding you of the slightest mistake and putting them in the most unfavourable light. You blush, you turn pale, and you try to tear yourself away, but nothing helps. The man continues to mock you.

Let's start with the most important.

Why would a man behave like this?

Obviously not to amuse himself or others. At first glance, it may seem that this is the main purpose and you have been chosen to play the role of the clown. It is not.

The main purpose of this behavior is to throw you off balance. And the longer you resist, the more active and assertive your opponent becomes. This trick is actually very effective and works almost flawlessly. Once a man finds out what you can tweak - he won't leave you alone.

Okay. You'll throw them off balance, make them cry, make them angry. And then what?

Then that's it. A person under stress can't control their words or their behaviour. You can expect anything from them. He will certainly say things that he should not say under any circumstances. He will do something rash that will cost him his reputation, his career or something else.

The goal has been achieved. The usual manipulation.

How to handle.

First, you need to understand: this man communicates this way with everyone, and this is his mannerism, or just with you, and you are on a special pedestal in his eyes. If it is the first case, an adult, appropriate person will realize his mistake after a single (sometimes repeated) comment and stop this behavior.

If talking about it didn't help, it's almost certainly the second case. And here it is more difficult. The manipulator won't believe that there is no reaction to his behaviour on your part, especially if he has shown it before. On the contrary, he may act with redoubled force. And his constant intimidation (there is no other word for it) will continue to achieve its goal. No one can take it on a regular basis.

The situation looks hopeless, and in fact it almost is. Because there is very little possibility of truly effective action:

- Exclude this person from your life. Brutally, decisively, forever. It will not change. He will never. Make no promises. These people tend to betray themselves and after a while revert to their pattern of behavior.

-Honestly say that you understand this manipulation and that its purpose is to make you angry. Therefore, in the presence of this person you are now in complete control of yourself. This often works, but sometimes it is useless.

- Get down to his level and piss him off too. But this is not as easy as it seems. And it can eventually lead to a contest of wits and pissing each other off. Overall, it's a very good option, but if you're confident in your abilities, take action.

But it is worth assessing whether you are being mocked, teased or harassed. Could you just be too suspicious and offended for no reason?

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23.02.2022.

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