My life and a piece of advice.
Our own life is the best school we can have, when I was very young I was still more introverted than I can be now. I was afraid of everything, at home I was never allowed to have an opinion as my own ideas were worth a good deal of physical abuse from the authority in my house which was represented by my father.
A father who thought totalitarianism, imposition of command and zero arbitrary consent to his idea. So I grew up afraid, repressed and thirsty for freedom.
I took the initiative to study more thanks to the advice of my good mother who was subjugated to her husband's command, a woman that only repeated to us incessantly "study so that one day it won't happen to you like it did to me, and you can fend for yourselves".
She knew that her rights were being trampled on, but she believed that she could not revolt, she only responded with love to the continuous verbal attacks against her. To keep her family and her children together, she put up with everything.
That is how I grew up, always thinking that one day I would get out of all that situation and be a free person with my own ideas, I studied a short career, not easy but it taught me to have discipline and to develop my mind. I have always thought that God has guided me because without having anyone in the health field my idea was to follow that school.
I am so grateful to life for the path it invited me to follow. I began to see many people I admired. They patiently and lovingly explained and disciplined the students, that is, us, and I liked that, there was another way of being that was not violent.
I learned to strive to achieve my objectives, to set goals. I met interesting people who left me full of feelings of admiration and respect for their work.
I met people who loved me for the way I was, for being respectful, for being somewhat shy, for being hardworking and responsible. This was taught to me by my mother, may God rest her soul for her love and advice so simple and so full of wisdom.
Of course I am also grateful to my father's violence because without it I would not have the inspiration and courage to leave home and learn to defend myself. We can learn from everything, not everything lies in the fact of hating.
I know that there are many people who do not share the idea of forgiving and forgetting, because they believe that the two are linked in a literal way. No, they are not linked in the same sense.
Forgiving means that you don’t hate the person who did you wrong, it means that you have overcome an obstacle in your life without which you cannot grow. Forgetting, forgetting is this, it doesn't happen but it doesn't affect, it's what I'm doing now. I’m remembering the moments of physical terror in my person and I feel no pain in the memory, nor do I feel anger, nor do I feel hatred for the one who did it.
My friends, forgiveness is a process. We can totally forgive and it doesn't mean you forget who offended you or what they did to you, it just means that you released that pressure from your heart and mind and you can follow a path of peace that no one can take away from you, even if they want to.
Remember that you and only you are the owner of your emotions and no one else. If you decide to forgive from the depths of your heart you will succeed. If you decide to be happy and joyful you will also be able to do it, we can do it all, we just have to practice it a lot and get out of our state of comfort by being bad and blaming.
If we are going to blame, the only one to blame for managing your life is you. Do not allow others with their actions and words to limit your life, your spiritual growth and your happiness.
Fly very high in thought, realize your illusions, work hard to achieve your goals. Copy the form but do not copy the content of others, it’s why I imitated many people to move forward.
I imitated their excellent schedules to study, I imitated the way they group to study, my friends are my friends but my interests are others. I imitated the way to communicate with people of all ages, I imitated the way to tell anecdotes and make people laugh, I imitated the way to tell a sad fact and transform it into a fact to laugh at myself and I succeeded. I managed to have the life I have, it is not perfect but it is what I want.
I was a 16 year old woman who started to struggle little by little and managed to learn from life to be happy and fulfill her goals.
Happiness is not a possession but a position, if you want to be happy then find happiness in the small details that life offers you, they are small moments, small actions, small things that will brighten your face and widen your heart. Make the most of them and laugh, if it’s the occasion, writhe with laughter, fall on the floor, stop and laugh out loud, it is those moments that will not be repeated and you will always remember them.
Try to learn in a healthy way all the things that life will put in your way, because that will be all you will have to grow, live, enjoy and share.
Happy day to all my dear reader friends and thank you for reading my content. Thanks also to the support of my sponsors.
Not being able to forgive those who did bad things to you will only build up more hate and negativity that's why it's recommended to forgive them even if they didn't ask for forgiveness. You're the only one who can make yourself not to suffer due to heavy feelings..