In life you always learn.
Greetings friends of read.cash. I am here again and today I bring a thought that I have been having these days.
I realize that in many families, even if they are well constituted, there are always discussions, it’s normal. Discussions are good up to a certain point as long as there are no altercations beyond logic.
In some families, where there is the presence of the father and the mother, they usually have rules for all the members of the family to reach an agreement and everyone has clear points.
Over the years I have realized that although all members of the family are present, the rules have not been carried out as they should be and the members fall into arbitrary and meaningless discussions that do not lead anywhere and sometimes only lead to verbal or physical violence.
A few days ago, I read a story of a lady in a well constituted family that had in her family nucleus many disputes, because the mother was a very scolding person and fought with everyone.
At some point in life lights come to our mind that make us change and then everyone realizes and wonders what is strange that happens to the person.
This mother in question changed her life strategy one day and decided not to argue anymore.
The older son told his mother that he crashed the car to which the mother replied that he should go to the mechanic and get an estimate to fix the car and then he would figure out how he would take the bus to go to college. The boy was surprised not to hear his mother's usual nagging.
The father told the mother that they had run out of certain foods in the pantry, to which she told him to take the shopping list the next day and go shopping with his youngest son. The gentleman remained thoughtful, that was not the answer he was expecting, there was no constant discussion of why they ran out or why this was happening.
Then a sister-in-law arrived and expressed her decision to stay at home for two days for some urgent errand. The mother told her that she could come and stay in the living room, sleeping on the couch and staying there as she could.
They all got together and thought that something was wrong with Mrs. Mother and they would test her to find out what was wrong, but none of them found anything and they decided to ask her directly why she had changed her attitude.
Mrs. Mother replied that she had finally realized that she was exhausting her life and taking on the responsibilities of everyone in the family.
She worked, cleaned the house, took the car to the mechanic, bought the week's groceries, did the laundry and so much more. The time came to review her life and she realized that all the visits to the psychologist, yoga, personal growth courses, spiritual courses, etc... came to the same point.
Each one should assume the role in their life, each one should assume their own life and grow in it, enrich it, live it, experience it and not that one person should take care of all the responsibilities of a family group and expect to be happy at the same time.
The moment she saw that the final point of our serenity in life is given by ourselves at that point she came to the conclusion that everyone should know that we are all part of a team and where we all must participate and each one of us must have our own responsibilities accepting the consequences of good or bad actions.
That is why every time she can intervene in the consequences of the bad or good particular situations that each one presents in life, she will do it in the way that each one takes responsibility for his life, his actions and the consequences.
My dear readers, I had never thought of this way of life as she puts it, but I realize that it is a reality. I am the owner of my happiness, of my sadness, of my sorrows, of my thoughts, of my responsibilities and I and only I must know when to start and when to finish something in my life so as not to exhaust it so quickly.
I hope everyone is having a great and very organized life and if not, it’s time to learn something new according to what we have just read.
Thank you very much.
There is possibility that one would break down when you are trying to carry all responsibilities to yourself and not allowing others take theirs themselves. I am glad she could now be at peace and allow others take their responsibilities themselves. Thank you for sharing this with us.