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Greetings friends of read.cash. I am here again and today I bring a thought that I have been having these days.

I realize that in many families, even if they are well constituted, there are always discussions, it’s normal. Discussions are good up to a certain point as long as there are no altercations beyond logic.

In some families, where there is the presence of the father and the mother, they usually have rules for all the members of the family to reach an agreement and everyone has clear points.

Over the years I have realized that although all members of the family are present, the rules have not been carried out as they should be and the members fall into arbitrary and meaningless discussions that do not lead anywhere and sometimes only lead to verbal or physical violence.

A few days ago, I read a story of a lady in a well constituted family that had in her family nucleus many disputes, because the mother was a very scolding person and fought with everyone.

At some point in life lights come to our mind that make us change and then everyone realizes and wonders what is strange that happens to the person.

This mother in question changed her life strategy one day and decided not to argue anymore.

The older son told his mother that he crashed the car to which the mother replied that he should go to the mechanic and get an estimate to fix the car and then he would figure out how he would take the bus to go to college. The boy was surprised not to hear his mother's usual nagging.

The father told the mother that they had run out of certain foods in the pantry, to which she told him to take the shopping list the next day and go shopping with his youngest son. The gentleman remained thoughtful, that was not the answer he was expecting, there was no constant discussion of why they ran out or why this was happening.

Then a sister-in-law arrived and expressed her decision to stay at home for two days for some urgent errand. The mother told her that she could come and stay in the living room, sleeping on the couch and staying there as she could.

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They all got together and thought that something was wrong with Mrs. Mother and they would test her to find out what was wrong, but none of them found anything and they decided to ask her directly why she had changed her attitude.

Mrs. Mother replied that she had finally realized that she was exhausting her life and taking on the responsibilities of everyone in the family.

She worked, cleaned the house, took the car to the mechanic, bought the week's groceries, did the laundry and so much more. The time came to review her life and she realized that all the visits to the psychologist, yoga, personal growth courses, spiritual courses, etc... came to the same point.

Each one should assume the role in their life, each one should assume their own life and grow in it, enrich it, live it, experience it and not that one person should take care of all the responsibilities of a family group and expect to be happy at the same time.

The moment she saw that the final point of our serenity in life is given by ourselves at that point she came to the conclusion that everyone should know that we are all part of a team and where we all must participate and each one of us must have our own responsibilities accepting the consequences of good or bad actions.

That is why every time she can intervene in the consequences of the bad or good particular situations that each one presents in life, she will do it in the way that each one takes responsibility for his life, his actions and the consequences.

My dear readers, I had never thought of this way of life as she puts it, but I realize that it is a reality.  I am the owner of my happiness, of my sadness, of my sorrows, of my thoughts, of my responsibilities and I and only I must know when to start and when to finish something in my life so as not to exhaust it so quickly.

I hope everyone is having a great and very organized life and if not, it’s time to learn something new according to what we have just read. 

Thank you very much.

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There is possibility that one would break down when you are trying to carry all responsibilities to yourself and not allowing others take theirs themselves. I am glad she could now be at peace and allow others take their responsibilities themselves. Thank you for sharing this with us.

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2 years ago

Life has progress we learn in every steps we have in our life. Each of us po talaga is have our own responsibility to live and enjoy life. Sa mga mistakes po dun dun po tayo nakakuha ng kaalam.

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2 years ago

Maybe I should become like Mrs. Mother. 😊 Everyone should take responsibility for their actions, one person cannot hold all the strings in their hands. Thanks for these instructive thoughts. The article got me thinking.

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2 years ago

Goodness! I can't imagine the mother's life, very exhausting indeed. The people around her should analyze themselves rather than analyzing what's wrong with her.

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2 years ago

me gusta el mensaje en mis artículos muchas veces digo que cada día es una oportunidad de aprender algo nuevo, como hoy que aprendí aquí un poco mas de la historia y fundador anónimo no tan anónimo de read.cash y noise, entre otros temas feliz domingo amiga.

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2 years ago

This should be practiced by all mothers. Sometimes in their quest of taking responsibilities, their personal growth is sacrificed because they are too occupied with the family's well being. All the members in the family should take responsibility and help one another. All the tasks shouldn't be left for a mom to do. She has a life too

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2 years ago

It was a very timely realization in life. Why wear out ourselves when we can gently ask others in the family for help and tell them to just relax if they're tired of something. this draft is really on point 😁

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2 years ago

That's true ma'am. Sometimes, all the stresses isn't worth it as we wouldn't succeed in changing anything as much as we try. So long as one does his or her best in a given circumstance, then it's advisable to leave the rest. Over-exertion could prove detrimental to both our physical and mental wellbeing

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2 years ago

this is something to be learned indeed we can only change what we can control.. and that is ourselves.. I do hope my mother could realize this too... but just like my mother, I am also a work in progress... I pray for grace to rule over my heart...

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2 years ago

You are absolutely right, we are the owners of our own emotions and on how we express it. If we choose to let out those emotions in a loud nagging way, it is us who will only suffer.

I have noticed this too with my mother's actions. With her sudden change of actions and attitudes. But when I noticed it, I always thought of maybe she was just tired of doing the same thing again and again and scolding us. That's why we just let her be in that way.

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2 years ago

I had read about this story before, indeed being a Mom is a hard job, that is what I am always telling my MOm. ahhaah

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2 years ago

This is relevant and relatable. A lot of people it seems do things and say things that they don't want to be accountable for. We really should be more mindful of our thoughts and actions for whatever we do affects us all.

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2 years ago

This is the hard part of being a mother, lots of stress and etc. That's the reason I need some changes.

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2 years ago

Learnings is part of our life. Experience without gain lesson is significant. Thanks for sharing you awesome content. I really appreciate you for this.

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2 years ago

Life is book of lessons new experiences every single day we get something new and interesting. We should have space to learn always.

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2 years ago

Talking softly without arguing reduces quarrels and changes lives for the better. I agree with you. Everyone in the family is a group, but they should think about their own lives.This will reduce the annoyance of the person who will manage the family and you can enjoy a beautiful life. Thank you for sharing the important words.

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2 years ago

We never cease to stop learning. We learn everyday. I believe it a general contribution to run a family, especially where there are grown ups. Everyone doing what is required of them not waiting for anyone is the key to forward ever..

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2 years ago

You are correct. It like a team and it takes a team to win a championship. Everyone has a role t play for things to move well.

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2 years ago

I do agree at this point. Dealing other people starts from the personality we had. If we fail to be good to ourselves definitely we are failure in dealing others too.

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2 years ago

The conclusion was worthy words from you. Really appreciate that.

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2 years ago

They said there's no sorrow, there's no anxiety it is only created by our minds. I think that's true, peace and serenity starts within ourselves.

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2 years ago

Ohhh myyy. This is so me, I am the kindof person who always gets mads when a member of the family fails to perform her/his duty. I have realized that I shouldn't stress myself with the things that I am not responsible baout.

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2 years ago

I agree with you, Gertu. You said it all just on point. 💗

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2 years ago

This become an awakening for me. I should be like Mrs. Mother from now on..

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