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2 years ago

Greetings my dear reader friends, I hope you are doing much better today than yesterday, today I bring you a story that I found very sobering and I hope it will be of much benefit to you.

It happened in a town in a far away country in a far away continent, where the elderly are respected for their wisdom. The people of the village, knowing that there was an old man among all the elders and that he possessed the greatest wisdom known to man, went to him often to present their problems.

The wise man spent most of his day attending to the people in a very cordial and helpful way, offering them the best advice according to the problem they had.

He had been doing this for most of his life, something began to disturb him and he realized that many citizens of the town came to his village two or three times a week and always with the same problem.

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They would relate the same circumstances of their problems, only they would change places. Wherever they went, the same situation always occurred and the resolution of the problem was always the same, he realized that people did not follow his advice and only went to his village to tell their misfortunes over and over again.

So the wise adult decided to put an end to this situation in the best possible way. When the next day his village was filling up again with the same people as two or three days before, he told them a very funny joke, all the people were laughing so hard that they could not converse, when they calmed down, the wise man went back out and told the joke to everyone again, including those who had already heard the joke and those who were arriving, and so he continued telling the same joke so many times that the people were no longer laughing.

Someone annoyed said to the old man...

"Enough of the same old joke all the time! It’s not even funny anymore".

Then the wise man stood up in the middle of everyone and said…

"How is it possible that you have been able to get tired of laughing at hearing the joke for more than 20 times and yet you haven’t been able to get tired of yelling and crying over the same problem more than 20 times in the whole week."

People realized the meaning of those words and from there on were more careful in consulting their problems with the sage.

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This happens with us more than we may realize. We often live complaining about everything, there is always something that bothers us and we do not see beyond our noses. It happens that to the people we have next to our relatives or friends we always go with the same tragic story.

We know what the solution to the problem is but we do not implement it because we prefer to tell the same problem over and over again to the same people.

I think what we are looking for by always repeating the same thing is to drain the sadness and helplessness of not doing anything to solve it, then we look for our friends and family who always listen to us and we tell them the same thing, don't you know what the solution is? Don't you know what the advice is that is repeated over and over again? You do! Of course you do!

If you don't seek to resolve your conflict by not accepting the advice you are given, don't waste your time always on the same thing because in the end everyone will get tired of hearing you and will leave you alone, when they see you coming in one way or another they will tell you that they have something important to do and they won't hear you again.

And it's not because they are bad friends... it's because they are tired of always hearing the same joke.

Change, try to apply the advice, there is always a way to do it and don't lose your friends and family out of boredom and tiredness.

I hope this story has helped you to look inside yourself and check if you are like the villagers who always repeat the same story with their problems, having and knowing what the solution is.

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It's really true, you get people who tell you the same story over and over again on the same day, haha.

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2 years ago

Draining their frustrations, bro.

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2 years ago

Draining you frustrations, bro.

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2 years ago

Hmm this hits me though, that's why sometimes I prefer not to tell anyone my problem but I do write it sometimes if I can't contain my frustrations anymore just to ease some heavy feelings.. because I know telling the same thing over and over again with the people around us will be annoying instead of receiving compassion from them as they were already feed up hearing the same story.

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2 years ago

But as you said, you still have some good friends who give their all for you. That's good and appreciated.

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2 years ago

This is very much true in between friends and relatives also. Even if we try to avoid them, inorder not to hear the same story, they stick on to us. Its better we keep our mind occupied. So that we do not spent time hearing such things

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2 years ago

Or be clear with them and tell them that if they have the solution in their hands why don't they implement it?

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2 years ago

Disculpa que te escriba en español, es mucho más fácil para mi.

Siempre recuerdo a mi profesor de matemáticas de 3er año. Él siempre nos decía "quien agarra consejo, llega a viejo", así de manera coloquial.

Eso me ha hecho pensar mucho. Siempre habrá problemas en nuestras vidas, esta bien si el problema que tienes no le ves solución y le pides ayuda a un amigo o familiar, el te dará un consejo, quizás uno bueno o uno malo, es tu decisión seguirlo o no, pero si es un buen consejo y no lo sigues, sigues quedándote en el problema sin solución. Lo peor que uno puede hacer es seguir contándole el mismo problema a la misma persona y que te dé los mismos consejos, haces que la persona pierda su tiempo en intentar ayudarte mientras que tu solo sigues encerrado en el mismo problema.

Quizás a ese tipo de personas solo le gusta desahogarse, no busca arreglar el problema, pero eso hace que la paciencia y el tiempo de la otra persona se agote.

También pienso que, no solamente tenemos que escuchar el consejo, sino analizarlo y ver si realmente nos ayudará a resolver el problema, como dije antes, puede ser un consejo bueno o uno malo.

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2 years ago

This story helped me clear up some things in my head. Thanks. I found myself here. I am the one who talks every day about how my grief over my father's death hurts me. Although I have heard all the advice, I still repeat the same thing. Maybe I should start looking for answers within myself.

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2 years ago

You are a smart woman and you will know what to do with your feelings. Sometimes grief lasts longer than expected because you don't give yourself a break. I hope you find your inner peace.

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2 years ago

Worthy words from you dear. I appreciate it.

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2 years ago

Thanks you.

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2 years ago

It is one thing to seek advice and it is another thing to actually follow it. Some people complain but will never do what they have to do to change things

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2 years ago

It is true that they prefer to beat around the bush and not to solve.

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2 years ago

Yes

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2 years ago

Some just good in complaining without even doing anything for them to get out in their situation. Why not take action right. That's what I learned here madam 😁

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2 years ago

Because they prefer to keep on giving pity to others for their own whining all the time. Thank you for learning something my dear girl.

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2 years ago

The message is well received... Stop whining and complaining everytime... I loved the story too... I love stories...lol... Really great article...

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2 years ago

If you want attention just whine all the time.

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2 years ago

Lol... Reminds me of babies...

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2 years ago

I agree with this, I tell people to stop complaining. Change the record I will say. Loved this gertu

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2 years ago

Very weel my Friend. !There are a lot of people complaining and the worst thing is that they don't put the advise to work.

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2 years ago

True ma'am gertu. As a human instead of complaining about the life problems to the others please wake up. Do the right thing. Be as a human with weapons. Always be in an active mindset what will do first.

Listen and follow the advices then start to apply it for your ownself. Be responsible enough. If you have a complains again and again with the same problems, people will making an excuses to not listen because they are humans too who felt tiredness.

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2 years ago

Yes, we are human and we also get tired of hearing the repeated cries of those who do not overcome their crisis.

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2 years ago

Yes even me too ma'am Gertu. I felt tired listening with the same problem but never listen the advices I'd gave.

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2 years ago

Maybe you were hearing but not listening. This happens frequently

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2 years ago

We should be humble for us to the any good advices.

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2 years ago

Ok. Thank you for stopping by.

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2 years ago

Truly, people get tired when you talk about the same issue over and over especially when they have stated their opinion on the matter. Why seek their advice if you won't heed to it. Even if you decided not to heed to the advice you're given, stop repeating your dilemma to them.

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2 years ago

It seems that there are people who only seek the empathy of others towards the problems they are going through but do not seek the solution to them.

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2 years ago

meaning we're being drowned to our problems and we kept sinking because we don't act properly.

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2 years ago

That's right, better said impossible.

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2 years ago

I love the point. I feel attacked huhu. I am just the village people who loves tp repeata and cry over the same reason evn if I already know tge solution. Thanks for this. It made me realized things.

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2 years ago

Really, my dear Secoya?. I can't believe you're such a crybaby. Hehehe

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2 years ago

Good point and it's so tiring giving an advice but never apply to themselves. Some also don't accept their mistakes but they keep pushing that they are right. Insane people.

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2 years ago

Because sometimes the problem is yourself and you don't want to accept it.

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2 years ago

Great story you have. Very morale to everyone. We humans just want to hear solutions on our problems even though we knew it already mabye because it somehow comforts us? I don't know but some people always like that walking in circles even they know their problems and solution but choose to not solved it.

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2 years ago

I think they themselves are part of their big problem.

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2 years ago

Most of us having knowing the solution to our problems repeat our story all over again,it shouldn't be so,we need to change and apply the solution to our problems.

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2 years ago

We prefer to go around in circles, not to close conflicts and seek advice for the same thing all the time.

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2 years ago

Its clear that alot of folks, especially the young adults always forget advice... You might help one our of a dilemma for a hike, but he or she would still fall for the same temptation sooner or later and would run to you for help again... And once you become fed up with them, you might be termed a bad person

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2 years ago

Sometimes a person plays to weariness with the patience of others and then they feel victimized by being left alone with their problems.

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2 years ago

There are a lot of lessons here and we humans (including me) don't always want to hear the solution to it, we just want it solved by the person we telling it to.

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2 years ago

Yes, do you usually do that?

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2 years ago

This situation is like a broken record that irritates with its sound. You have to be able not only to hear, but also to realize what you have heard.

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2 years ago

That's right my dear friend.

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2 years ago

There are people that choose not to solve the problem because of some reasons, but it should be solve. The good advices will always make the situation solve.

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2 years ago

For people who take the advice, everything can be solved.

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