Possessiveness
Hi Everyone!!
I think all of us become possessive for any person or any thing but it is painful.We all know the reality but cann't be un-possessive becuase it shows our intimacy and our interest to keep our relation going on.Anyways, I wrote a poem on that topic in which I expressed my thoughts completely about possessiveness and thus I showed reality.
Here is my poem, I love it and my all friends praised it a lot because these are realities which are harsh but we have to live with them anyhow.
In this poem I used some hidden meanings which you will come to know when you will analyse it deeply and critically. I kept rhyme scheme flow through out the poem which has made it beautiful penned work. You all will love because that is experience of us all.
Here in the poem word “mine” means “possessiveness”. Even along with the presence of facts in this poem, there is a lesson for all of us. Instead of showing mineness everytime and being in state of restlessness, it is better to be a little possessive or completely being not.
Worth your self.Know your value and live your life because when you are facing internal seculsion, no one can heal your sorrow and that is what human beings are unable to do. We all can show our sympathy appearently but your sorrow is yours.....
Be positive
Hi...Everyone..
Am back here after a long time.I hope everyone will be fine...
Today am gonna post a quote type article written by me about positivity of this world...Many people make wrong spaculations about things present in this world.Some say why diseases exist?Why troubles come in my life?Why am not good and others are pious??As we know that everyone has his own mind which is different.And way of thinking is thus different..Everyone perceive everything according to his own perception and understanding level..Many people are truely positive who try to find positivity even in negative situations to live better.Some people take anything postitive while at the sametime the same thing looks negative to many people due to their different views..May be it is because everything plays different part in everyone's life..But in any case only positivity is the important fact which makes life pleasureable...On the other side if something is positive, then no one's views can make it negative...
Anyways here is my post.
But we should think about the way we interpret and how others interpret.
Stay positive and happy...
Expectations
Today I am going to share my opinion and experience as well. In my opinion sometimes we expect more from people(friends specially) than they think and can give. Am not saying that you all must agree with me. I just want to share the reality and you all know that everyone has different experiences and thoughts. This is good to be independent, that is my desire but in many things we need help/support from others. In many situations, work and in hard circumstances we need support from friends. But I think if your close friends, no consider a common friend to whom you don't have any close relationship or friendship. You began to expect help from him/her. But your heart breaks when no common friend nor any close friend fulfils your expectations. Maybe it's our fault that we were expecting more than they can give. I laughed when I thought about my experience . I am going to tell you all because that was my mistake and I should not depend upon them but that was necessary and is necessary. There are many things in which we become unable to be independent. That was the motif and reason behind commandment of Islam to help out others. Anyways let's come to my experience and I would like to say it is an experiment. I am saying again and again that it was my mistake not theirs because they are not bound to help me and it's not their duty to support me.
That's all my mistake because I was thinking more.
However, now read my experiment.😂😂
My hypothesis was different from the final result.😑😁
I made a YOUtube channel. And maybe you people know that if you want to be a successful YOUtuber it all depends upon hard work and support of others. For monetization a YOUtuber needs 1k subscribers +4000 watch hours. Watch hours are just too much and a difficult task to complete.
So I made a channel because I was thinking that I have a lot of friends, and very sincere and helpful friends(really they are no doubt), so they all will watch my every upcoming video at least only for 1 minute. I mean to say there will be a minimum 70 + views (quantity of my friends😂😂) on every video. But my thoughts were wasted and made me pessimistic about the future of my YOUtube channel. And the funniest thing is that even my brother doesn't know the name of my channel, and he did not visit my channel even for one time though my first video was uploaded by him. He remains always busy in earning money for us😢😢.
Apart from these all things I just want to say that now in this modern era we all are forced to be independent even in all those fields in which we are badly dependent on others. In this kind of field I don't think that we can be independent. However, we have to be. Now I am working with Indian people to firstly complete my subscribers and then in the next 2 years😂😂😂complete watch time. I subscribe and watch their video, and they do the same. Am not pointing out anybody, am just sharing this and want to make all of you aware that what could happen to you if you will make a channel😂😂😂.(just kidding)
Seriously I don't know the reason why I laugh when I think about this. No one can do anything for you. You have to fight alone, cry alone, work alone and ..................... That's a great thing which I came to know just because of my channel.
But I also accept that everyone has his own life, chores, aims and many other things to do. It's possible that they don't find time to help others. As all have busy routines of life. Somehow our thoughts are responsible for disappointed results.
I love my all friends and am ready to help them in every field of life according to my capacity. They all have a place in my heart which I can't remove.
I just want to tell you all that we are independently dependent and this is not in our hands and control because we have to be. But we can help ourselves a little more by working harder than before. Work for yourself as much you can.
I wrote a quote after this experiment. 🤪
And I am really happy because of the results. Somehow that was necessary to make many things clear and make me aware that don't say to others, work for your self.As we know that Allah helps those who help themselves. It's an folish act to think that others will do all things and I should be always on rest.🤐😅
Really am laughing and I can't explain how much happiness that experiment and thinking about that gives me. It's not satire, it's reality.😘😍
Role of Sleeping
*****Role of sleeping:*****
Sleeping is one of our basic needs of daily life. It's necessary. If a man does not sleep he becomes a victim of headache, laziness and inattentiveness. Due to lack of sleep he becomes unable to focus on his work. Even lack of sleep causes mental and health problems. As we know that our Allah who has created this universe has created a lot of things for humans. All things present in this world are somehow beneficial for humans. If there Allah did not create night then how we took rest. So Allah created night for our peace and rest. And sleeping has many great effects on our mental health, physical health, mood and performance. I want to tell you all some benefits and effects of sleeping.
No one can live without sleeping but sleeping more than needed is not healthy. More sleeping affects the performance of your brain. If you will remain sleepy always then your brain will also remain in the same condition and then will be unable to focus on your business or anything else.
The most important benefit of sleeping is that if we read something or remember something before sleeping then in the whole night our brain processes that thing. It means it is very beneficial for students. If they make it a habit to read only 30 to 45 minutes before going to bed then all content which they will read will be stored in their permanent memory.
But it has negative effects for those who think about their problems at night. That is the main cause that they remain always worried. If they will eradicate their habit of thinking about problems at night, their problems will become less and the rate of remaining worried will decrease.
Same is the case if you start your day by thinking about hardships your whole day will be wasted because you will remain gloomy and unsatisfied. So no one can erase your hard circumstances except Allah and your own habits. It depends upon you how you want to live your life. Believe me it all depends upon you. Let's focus on our main topic, which is the role of sleeping.
And another thing if you really want to improve your life you should do something good at the end and start of the day. Then you will enjoy a peaceful day and night as well. So don't sleep less nor more. Take 6 hours of sleep. And also focus how you sleep. Sleep in side pose. Don't like direct eye contact to sky, roof or bed sheet. This is harmful.
گزر گئ وہ عمر اب.....
Gud morning Everyone!
I was thinking to write something. So I wrote these few lines. It's like a “Ghazal”. But I randomly wrote it. I love urdu poetry. I wrote my opinions in English but I thought that the happiness and amazing feeling which I feel when I write urdu is more than while writing English.
گزر گئ وہ عمر اب………….
میں جوا نی میں ہی بُڑھاپا گزار چکی ہو ں
فقط وقت گذارنے کی کو شیشں عروج پر ہیں
رہتے تو بہت بھلے ما نس لوگ تھے میرے دل میں
اب تو سب کو چ کر گئے ہیں
سمجھنے کو تو سب تیا ر ہوتے
پر اے اُجڑے شجر سمجھتا کو ن ہے؟
گر جو لو گ سمجھتے تو کیو ں یہ
فساد ہوتے……………...
کُچھ گز ر تو گئ ہے گزر با قی بھی
جا ئے گی پر اے خدا مجھ کے تیرے بند وں
کا بد لنا وقت سے پہلے مار دے گا
گز رنی تو سبکی ہے پر میرے جیسی کس کی
گز ر ے گی؟……….
دوش تو میں کسی کو دینے سے رہا قاصر
اپنے ہی اعما ل نظر آ جا تے ہیں
کبھی بیٹھو تو اُ جڑ ے لو گو ں کے ساتھ
پھر جا ن جا ؤ گے ہو تا کیسا ہے شا م کا وقت
عجیب خیا لو ں, آنکھو ں میں نمی,
گہری چپ اور پچھتا وے سے بھرا ذلت کا وقت
سمجھ پاؤ گے کیا؟……..
وہ جو ویرا ن دل بھی کہنے سے قا صر ہے.
کہ جیسے پتے چھو ڑ جا تے ہیں شجر کو
خز ا ں کے مو سمو ں میں
ملتی تو ہے دا ستا ن میری کئ ویرا ن سا حلو ں
سے بھی …………...
پر سمجھتا کو ن ہے؟
تما شا ئ لو گ تو دکھو ں کا بھی میلہ بنا دیتے ہیں
تو بتا ؤ سمجھ پا ؤ گے؟
How to become a good speaker?
How to be a good speaker?
In my point of view a good speaker is not who speaks the language which he understands perfectly but the audience doesn't. I think it's the speaker's responsibility to convey his message. Some people speak english to show that they can speak without keeping in mind that his audience is understanding him or not. I think a speaker who speaks a language to which his audience is familiar. Many people who can only understand urdu become unable to understand english speakers and this makes them deprived of important messages conveyed in speech. So don't always try to show your own skills. First consider which language could be appropriate. Speak urdu and with that use some english common words if you wanna be a good speaker. It's not the case all the time. Obviously when you will address an english audience then automatically you will deliver a speech in english. But I think it is a mistake to speak english while having listener of urdu language. Keep balance in everything. I just want to say that instead of focusing your command on english focus more on the way(language)by which you will be able to easily convey your thoughts(message).
Am gonna make these views in a points form so that you will get my point of view.
Be familiar with language of your audience
Be focused on your message
Engage your audience by doing some interesting things(tell them any joke)
After 5 minutes of your speech question anyone to make them attentive
Before conveying speech ask them for their point of view about topic
Don't use high accent(specially like american)because due to that it's become tough for them to make a sense of word which you are speaking
If you want to use english then use British method(btc english)
Be brave and just make your speech outstanding
Reality but why?
Sometimes some of us start thinking that someone is their life. They consider that they can't live without him/her and also connect their every happiness. According to them if they will find him/her in every pleasureful moment then they can feel real happiness. But I can't understand why we depend on anyone to that extent. It's shameful that we spend many days without remembering Allah and even don't repent. So try to think on that whom should be more important for us.
Question to your self now.
Poetry
I love poetry because according to me it's healing and change my mood. I like deep and meaningful poetry. I don't like common poetry. Poetry should show hidden meanings.
Am sharing some amazing poetry.
This shows that people can cry only for you when you will die. Your's life sufferings are not painful for them.
InshaAllah that's the case with those who ingnore their true lovers.
These for those who made wrong choices like me.
Yeah those who leave you, don't return. Specially this is for those who die and can't come back like my father.
Poetry
Am gonna tell you about the oldest genre of English literature which is “poetry”. Poetry is oldest and first genre. Poetry is easy to write as compare to other genres(drama, novel). It's the easiest way to express your inner thoughts by using small words to explain bigger meanings. It's healing, interesting and amazing.
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Sometimes due to our own misktes we become so much depressed and sad that we start thinking that happiness will never come in our life again. And remorse of mistakes never leave you alone and keeps you stressed.
Being dependent
Sometimes many people start depending on you and stop hard work. That's not their fault, it's your fault because you do everything for them. This makes them lazy. In this there is not only your loss but also of them. If you will be continuous to do that you will become tired by doing it regularly, and they will become lazy and dependent. So help them less. Focus more on your own chores and let them work hard and be successful. It's better for both parties.Be independent and let them be independent.
Children
Children are another blessing of Allah. They can make their parents happy even in tough times. As we can't love anybody more than our parents, same is the case with parents. They can't love anyone more than their children. Children add happiness, amusement and blessings in parents life. That's the holy relationship of this world. Parents children relation is a relationship in which they love each other without any hidden worldly purpose or profit. Both parents and children feel dis-satisfaction without each other.
We are nothing without parents, and they are also nothing without a child. Because in our society a married woman having no child is criticized badly though it's in Allah's hands. It's His wish that whom He will bless with children and whom not. So, be positive and spread positivity.
Rules of happiness!
**Following are the rules which I follow to remain happy.**
Smile
Faith in God
Thinking that trouble is temporary
Ignoring bad comments
Ignoring those who make you unhappy by their harsh words
Patience
Feeling easiness even in pain
Keeping my self busy and apart from pessimistic thoughts
Smiling while seeing parents
Pray
Being focused on my aim
What should be?
Why people always try to find the richer person? Everyone wants to make rich people their friend to fulfil their needs at time of hard circumstances. Every mother wants that her daughter should be married to a rich person. It's good because parents want that their child should always remain happy, and they try that no difficulty should come in their life. But why they don't more focus on type(nature) of person to whom they are going to marry their daughter. I think money is not everything. I know it's our need but not to extent to which people consider it. Try to find a man having good nature and enough money not unnecessary. What a life of daughter is if she finds a millionare but a cruel and strict millionaire?
I think as compare to that life,it's better when you have not a millionaire but a humble, cooperative, sincere, true soul lover having enough money to fulfil your every desire and need.
Because often millionaire are selfish and always easily be attracted by women. So try to find peaceful life not a life full of money without soul satisfaction.
Emptiness
Don't let people make your life empty. Emptiness is often caused by strict, harsh and bad attitude of others. When they ignore you and whenever you talk with them they disappoint you. Then you chose to live alone and feel emptiness in your life. As I wrote in a quote.
So I think others don't have right to make you feel emptiness eternity. So be controller of your life. Let them go, make your self busy and do something different and big.
What is life?
Life is not what we think and expect. Life is what we do. It is in our hands that what we make our life. If we chose right path then it becomes pleasureful life but it become burden if we chose wrong path. So don't blame your fate or any other person for your difficult life. Allah has created two ways(right and wrong) to achieve something. Therefore, it depends upon us that how we get something.
Painless
Sometimes in life after bearing most difficult moments we become emotionless and painless. Even anti-happiness. Due to bitter realities of life we start ignoring happiness and at the time of pleasure even in crowd we feel loneliness. This is what we become after extreme pain. And after that we feel painless in painful moments.
Love
Love is the most powerful emotion ever. It can change your life and personality. That's right if we love someone truly not physically(though its human need but should be done after marriage). Only those love stories completes in which soul love is more. Love is a very vast topic, and we can write many pages about that. Some people have the worst experience of love due to their own mistakes. But others have flourished their life with strong emotion of love. If we use every emotion positively it can give you fruitful results and will fill your life with blessings, pleasures and success.
Why?
Why we do bad with others???
Why people forget that somehow they are doing bad with their own selves. Because we will get what we give. Why people do too much wrong with others? And bitter truth is that they don't repent. But when they face the same troubles, they start thinking what they have done. Then they forget that what they did in the past and thinks that they are innocent and what is happening to them is not a justice. I think if we do bad then should remember it because we will be punished. That the hidden main cause of Islam when in Islam it is said that everything will return to you whether they are your good acts or bad. So do what you can bear from others. Remember Allah exists, and He will punish you for your acts.
What matters?
What really matters?
Answer is your action.
Some of us think that only thinking is enough for achieving something. They just thinks and imagine. But reality is that we can't get anything in this world without hard work and passion. But other reality is that we can get everything if we work hard and have strong determination for that. So don't stop after thinking, set a goal, make a schedule and act upon daily. If you do something to achieve your aim at daily bases then one day you will InshaAllah. God help those who work passionately. So action is too much important, though thought is base of your goal.
I wrote many quotes regarding this concept, am sharing some of them here.
Imagination
***Wandering like a star in the dark night.***
***Jumping from one cloud to another.***
***Playing with tiny colorful flowers.***
***Enjoying the rain but feeling alone.***
***Staring at the sky,***
***thinking about what is going on.***
***Noticing poor little child smile,***
***and feeling happiness.***
Pray
The best gift ever which we can give anybody is pray(Dua). According to last prophet Hazrat Muhammad(P BUH) we should give something to whom we met. We can't give something to every person whom we met. Therefore, Hazrat Muhammad(P BUH) suggested that we should prayer for him/her or should give a flower. And according to me prayer is more valuable than materialistic objects. So always pray for others.
And it's my pray for you all read cashanian.
May God fulfil your all desires. May God give success to everyone. May Allah fulfil our hearts with the light of Iman. May Allah protect us all from sins and mistakes. May Allah erase our problems.
May Allah be with us in every situation. May Allah give you long life filled with happiness and success.
Ameeeen Ameeen Ameeeen
Morning!
Sleeping is like death when we sleep we become equal to dead body. And even we don't know that tomorrow I will awake or not. So morning is a start of new day and new life. Morning brings new things for us. It gives us chance to start a new journey. There is no morning for those who become pessimistic. If we awake in the morning we should thank Allah for giving another chance to correct ourselves, to seek forgiveness from Allah for our sins, to forget everything happened in the past and start a new journey of life.
صبر کا پھل
انسا ن جس تکلیف سے بھی گزر جا ئے وہ ایک دن خو د میں ایک ایسی طا قت بنا لیتا ہے کہ آگے اُ سکی زندگی میں اُسے چا ہے وہ لمحے وہ کھٹن پل یا د آ بھی جا ئیں تو بھی اسکی آنکھیں خشک ہی رہتی ہیں. تکلیف سے گزر کر انسان بہت ہمت والا ہو جا تا ہے. تبھی تو اللّٰہ ان مشکلا ت
سے گز ارتا ہے تا کہ انسان میں سہنے کی طا قت پیدا ہو سکے کیو نکہ یہ زندگی جتنی آسان ہے اُتنی ہی مشکل بھی ہے. ہما رے ساتھ جو بھی ہو تا ہے ہما رے لیے اچھا ہو تا ہے جو ہمیں وقتی طو ر پر بہت برا لگ رہا ہو تا ہے. بے شک اللّٰہ وہ جا نتا ہے جو ہم نہیں جا نتے.
It's your life
Don't let people control your life. It's your life, you have to live it. As I wrote a quote about that.
When you face any problem because of people who control your life then you have to face difficulties, they don't face your troubles. Your troubles are yours but your authority is not yours. So just listen those people who gave you valuable advices.
Easiness
Don't think about your own easiness. Don't become a cause of other's troubles just because of your own profit. Be kind and be easy. Make your life easier by spreading easiness.
Parents
Parents!
Parents are the most precious blessings of this world. They love us without any hidden purposes like other people do. They feed us, care us and fulfil our every need and in return just want that we should be obedient of them. But nowadays people don't give respect and attention to their parents. Its bitter reality that only parents can handle and feed 10 children or more than 10 but children(even 10 childern can't handle their parent) can't handle their parents. When they reach their puberty they become selfish and become unable to fulfil the needs of their parents. Why they forget that they will face these all things in the future. This world is paying attention only on earning money. In lust of money people forget blood relationships and even ignore their parents. So be careful. Parents and relationship are more important. I love my parents. My died passed away 11 years ago. But I love mom and can't imagine how I will live without her because she always remains ill.
Blessing
In my opinion life is a first blessing that Allah gives us. No doubt Allah has blessed us with countless blessings but life is first and great blessing. We should enjoy our life, should keep Allah in our heart, should face every hardship with patience, should have strong belief in Allah, should do good deeds because Allah demands from us nothing but only His remembrance. When someone creates something, he creates for any purpose. So purpose of our creation is to obey His commandments. Why we can't do whatever He has said us to do?? He created us but as people say that human is selfish. It's true that we are not even sincere with our Allah. We are nothing without Him but yet we only remember Him when we face any problem. Anyhow, we should try to do good deeds for pleasure of Allah.
Life
Many people consider that life is too much difficult while few consider it easy and enjoy it as much they can. The difference of opinion is due to different fortunes, choices, mistakes and routines. Your daily routine affects your life very much. Life is like an exam because all people live life differently as all attempt paper according to their own understanding. So if anyone is happy, we should not be jealous of him/her because somehow we are the main cause of our sorrow or difficult life. Your luck plays an important role. But whatever life is a blessing. Sometimes I wonder that what would be if Allah did not created us and this idea makes me sad. So am so much thankful to Allah for this great blessing. And with life He created many things for us to help and amuse us.
So be thankful. Don't be hopeless.
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Become sad without any cause
Wondering happiness doesn't exist
Tears without regret
Ways are looking dark in the light
Feeling blind while seeing objects
Unconsciousness with consciousness
Believing lies though know the reality
Ignoring though need
Lifeless while continuous struggle
@Zarachadhary92
