Is Suicide Really The Answer
Went on YouTube to watch some funny videos when a particular music video caught my attention. It was a song featuring one of my favorite singer, Sia. It was titled Marathon an original song owned by Avicii. I was enjoying the beat when I went through comments on the video, and one of it was, ' Dear Avicii, we are still enjoying your music, while you stay to watch us from heaven'.
Immediately I left the site, just to google the cause of death only to discover, he committed suicide. Then I began to ponder what would have made such a successful DJ to take his own life, and then I arrived at the title of my article. Is suicide really the answer? Why take your life, when you can't restore it back ?
Suicide to a layman is the intentional act of taking one's life following an incident, it could be as a result of depression, sickness or even set backs.
Why Suicide ?
Studies indicates this sorrowful event cuts across people of all age and so shouldn't be stereotype to only young people. It usually results from having negative feelings about one self. People with a high chances of committing suicides are those who have been emotionally abused like victims of child abuse, rape cases, broken relationships and substance abuse.
So scary that even children, also contemplate on taking their own lives. Why ?
Most times this children suffer mental stress as a result of their parent's broken marriage, divorce or even death. That is why, it is never advisable to quarrel infront of your children, neither blame them for being the reason why you are in a broken marriage. In such instances, they tend to leverage the stress on their parent by taking their own life.
Teenagers are not exempted from this, it could be as a result of a failed relationship, I vividly remember my first love, how and what I passes through the day I caught him with another girl. I was so young and naive to ever consider suicide as an option to ease my pain, thank goodness I didn't, because I wouldn't have been here to type this.
Getting over a broken relationship is a major challenge, and this has resulted to some being depressed , resorting to substance abuse, and eventually ending their life. It could also be caused by major failures in life. Watching your friends succeed while you remain at the same spot all your life, could be so depressing and if you are not careful, suicide could be your last option.
They are certain conditions or happening in our life, which could make us consider suicide. Like victims of rape and teenage pregnancies such people if not counseled before time might go into depression coupled with stigmatization, if this is not controlled, it might result in suicide.
Further research led me to know, Avicii's caused of death was as a result of sickness, this clearly shows us that they are some disease condition which could trigger suicidal thoughts. Let's assume you are down with lupus erythematosus or diabetes mellitus which cannot be cured but only managed, such individual if not properly taken Care of may want to end his/her life. That is the reason, care givers are always assigned to people with such diseases and a routine counselling too.
Ways To Prevent Suicide
Why choose to end your life when you can find other lasting solution to your challenge. Rather than end your life, why not tell it to God. No religion in the world will ever support suicide, and Christianity is not exempted.
No challenge were you meant to bare alone, there is a verse in a beautiful hymn that says 'oh what needless pains we bear, all because we do not carry everything to God in prayers' . Rather than cry, beat yourself and conclude it is over, tell it to your maker. Suicide is never an option no matter the challenge.
Seeking the advice of a psychologist will also provide solution. You don't have to bottle everything inside of you, be open to people you love, tell them what is bothering you and watch you problem being solved. If they can't, then they should be able to rally around you, providing you with love, care and attention.
Substance abuse should be highly discouraged, you don't need all those stuff to be fine, all you need is the right people.
If it is pain that is giving you suicidal thoughts, move away from it. If your friends are the ones with the negative energy , give them some space and watch your life turn around.
Conclusion
You don't need to commit suicide before you could be alright, always find lasting solution to whatever bothering you. Lastly, if you are in position of helping someone having suicidal thoughts, please do it with all you heart, knowing fully well, you just saved a life.
Talk to someone who is depressed, counsel and try to cheer them if possible. Please let us help reduce cares of suicide.
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I agree, suicide is not the answer. Here in our place, there is an increase in teenage suicides. The reasons? They were scolded by parents, afraid of being scolded. I am praying that these people with suicidal thoughts will come to right support system for help.