Poison
Toxic is when they can't let you go but also can't treat you well. Are you in a particular situation? What is keeping you from leaving this kind of relationship? Is the phrase "you love him/her" one of the key reasons you put up with this sort of treatment?
Allow me to tell you about one of the longest relationships I had years ago. I was young at the time, and I was desperate for everyone's attention. As you come to know me, I said in a recent article about my life as the family's black sheep. So, yeah, I rebelled until I found a guy who showed me some affection. I was a juvenile at the time, and our relationship was illegal under the law. But since I fell in love with the beast, I went to great lengths to fight for him. We chose to live together for a short time after I became pregnant. He just drove me to my parents' house since I was due to give birth that month. So, after I gave birth to my adoring child, problems began to appear. I was suffering from postpartum depression at the time, and this beast had stopped showing any signals of empathy. I have no idea what occurred to us at that point, and I can't even recall the specifics of our arguments.
When I returned to my parents, our relationship had become really unhealthy. I can tell you that I was getting more mature at the time, so I chose to move on. As I was receiving chilly treatment from him, I realized how toxic our relationship was. He was a walking red flag.
He was never a good father to my kid, therefore I elected to terminate my connection with him. All he wants is to be satisfied as a man, therefore I decided to let him go and bury his memories forever. I couldn't even recall his face at this point. Because of him, I've had burdens and anxiety up to this point. Fortunately, what's nice is that I'm no longer in that kind of terrible relationship. I swear I'm not going to return. I'm sure my kid will ask me about his father sooner or later, and I'm not sure what I'll say. But I believe what's important now is that my kid and I are in better hands.
As I write this, I am reminded of my past and wonder why I chose to remain with that guy. As previously said, I am a black sheep. I was not a favored daughter, I was not a nice friend, and some people despised me for reasons I still don't understand. This guy seemed as if he were a superhero. But he was the evil within his vest. He sucked my energies and virginity like a leech. The trauma is still there in my life. I never imagined that the negative effects would fade.
Ladies, if you see any red flags, get out of the relationship as quickly as possible before the harm becomes extensive. Get out if you ever feel that your emotions aren't significant to him. If he begins to treat you coldly and never accepts your points of view, run, girl!
And if you do decide to date a guy, make sure he isn't a walking red flag. It is really rather simple to seek for any indications of this. If he's not into you and anything he says is simply air, get leave as soon as possible.
Are you in a relationship like this? Toxic? what is something that keeps you stay in this situation? Is it because of love? If you love him more than yourself then sad to say that you are living in an unhealthy union.
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PUBLISHED: FEBRUARY 16, 2022
TIME: 11:54AM PST
This is true Fren. Pag red flag iwan na agad para di magsuffer sa future