Compassion Vs Entitlement
Good afternoon lovelies, how are you all doing? I woke up late today because it is that time of the month for me and I have cramps and body pains through and through all over my body.. I took rest for the whole morning and so thankful for my husband as he cooked lunch for us today and I just finished eating.. Then it was time for my daughter as her unit tests are starting this Monday and last the whole week and was super busy with teaching her modules and giving her tests. Kid's studies are one of the most tedious jobs these days for Moms because their schools are failing everyone around them and not teaching anything and just collecting fees. The education system is getting ridiculous..
Compassion:
Let's see what is compassion? as the google search rightfully expresses, compassion explained in simple language is "Understanding other's situation and helping them get through it.. and even if you cannot help, you can also show your empathy by just listening to them and not judging them and their lives..It is the "Kindness","care", "empathy" and "The love and affection" you show to other's and the understanding mentality you have upon their situations. Empathy in you would never judge people against their decisions and you always try to understand their life from their shoes..
Entitlement
Now let us what is "Entitlement".. mind you, when I speak about entitlement here, am not speaking about the "professional entitlement" like holidays or leaves etc but about the people's entitlement or the emotional feeling that they deserve to have or own something even if they deserve it.. It is simply the opposite of compassion where people expect people to show obligations towards them just because they think they deserve it even though they might not...
Why I bring these up now?
I have been hurt day before yesterday by one of the users here on Read and am not gonna mention his/her name.. They felt and even commented saying very harsh things about me that I do not visit them anymore and I forgot them etc etc even though I do not see him on my profile often too.. I would have left it alone if this was the first time it happened.. It happened to read community a couple of months ago where a user accused and scolded several users and not just me here for not visiting his article and blamed them for forgetting him...GUESS WHAT!!!
It turns out.... these two people also DO NOT visit other's often as well..
My question here to people who think they have such deep "Entitlement" from others that everyone must visit them even if they do not is "do you people think before posting stuff like this??. Do you guys put some thought before accusing other users like this?
What if they do not visit you?
What if they are busy in their own lives?
What if they are having a health condition?
What if somebody in their house their attention more than you?
What if they are just so down and demotivated?
What if they genuinely want to visit you but cannot because of several other personal reasons?
What if their mind is just blank?
What if they just do not want to show love to you JUST BECAUSE YOU NEVER SHOWED IT TO THEM??
Why do you (you know who you are) feel so entitled and so obligated and expect users to constantly visit you even though you do not.. and even if you do, why do you even expect the same action from others? Don't you have any compassion towards others? Do you know what users here on Read community have been going through?? I will just give you examples,
One user is so busy with her life and with her daughter's school just like me..
One user is helping others on road whenever he comes across somebody in need of immediate help
One user is going through medical requirements for many months
several users are busy with trading, other platforms
several users are busy with their upcoming examinations as they are children
One user always cook something amazing and busy with her passion
Several users are Moms here and some new moms as well and learning managing to new parent's lifestyle
Some users are busy in planning events surprising their Moms, siblings and friends and showing beautiful relationships towards others.
Some users just post and sponsor so many users and show their love towards sharing
Some users here inspire others by having a fit lifestyle by spending time for walking jogging and playing
Some users here just go on vacations and inspire us that we could be that one day too..
I can just go on and on about what every single user is doing here on read.. every single user here has a life to live on, every single user here is busy, every single user here has a story to tell, every single user has their own battles to fight....
just go through a couple of profiles on everyone's page and you will understand how busy people here are but still spend time to share their love, respect and earnings with each other.. What is with the entitlement towards others?? let's just leave them and let people live their lives.. This pandemic has made everyone so down with their emotional health and we do not need new stresses and issues from our own amazing read cash users here..
I just have one pointer here, just because you go and comment on a user's profile, there is no guarantee that it is shown back.. your duty is just to keep being active and when you are fun, sweet, compassionate, understanding, people WILL ultimately visit you, even you having to ask nobody...
I'm so sorry if the post triggers everyone, I have been hurt a couple of times when a couple of users asked me harshly that why I do not visit and even accused me feeling like a celebrity and I honestly never have I ever even imagined myself that way ever...I'm just a normal housewife, Mother and a Paranormal blogger who has a difficult life to live in my reality.. my online life is where I act that am happy, but in reality, am not...
Theblackdoll is depressed, busy, vulnerable all the time as I do not have much help around here except my husband.. and I know there are so many users here who go through the same thing as I do.. and I sincerely thank each of you for understanding me whenever I couldn't visit you all and nobody questioned me before... 99% of you have shown so much empathy towards each other here, you all will be blessed with such a fruitful and equally compassionate lives
I'm so thankful you guys... You guys make my life a 100 times better and I would never get tired of saying these things..
Yours Bloggingly
aww you are having a wee rant! I am entitled to be compassionate š Thankfully nobody has said that to me. It is hard to visit everyone. I do make a point of visiting everyone who leaves a comment on my most recent article. When I have time, I click and read people who pop in my notifications. If someone keeps visiting my profile and I do not visit them, then I would say they are entitled to ask why I don't visit them. But if someone is so upset then they should just be quiet and not visit the person anymore, problem solved!