Being silent can be just as great as the words you really mean to say, like when it is more comforting to hugging someone who just had a heartbreak or who just lost a special thing or person than to just say, "Sorry for your loss."
Another time when we can say silence is golden is when you are not sure of what you want to say.
If you are not sure of your own feelings concerning a particular matter, it's better to stay silent until you are more sure of the matter because there's more harm in revealing a false or an exaggerated feelings.
Choose to be silent instead of pushing out your feelings that are hurtful out in a rush, those feelings might not really portray how you feel about the matter.
When you feel so eager to say something unkind, take a deep breathe first and think of all the possible consequences the words you speak might evoke.
Another time when we should rather stay silent is when someone is sharing a story that has meaning with us.
Let the friend or person telling you the story feel ‘heard’ by nodding silently and you should maintain eye contact.
Silence can be the best friend you could have when settling matters. Say your mind, then close your mouth after, let the other person also come to their own conclusions, don't be the only one doing the talking.
Your silence will show that you are so confident and sure of what you just said, and that you respect and honour the other person enough to hear what they have to say.
Sometimes , it is best to be silent and it might be the most timely solution one could ever give because the other person is not in a position to hear what you have to say.
For example, when a friend needs you to listen to his/her problems, but such person is unable to accept your advice at that moment you gave the advice.
Learn to be silent in your working place, when you don’t have anything that is of benefit to contribute in meetings or during projects.
Unless you can boost the conversation by raising an important point or saying something that is interesting, something missing, or something beneficial, it is better to just keep observing and learning.
Finally on silence, silence is golden when you don’t want to interfere in foolish arguments. As some disagrements will never be resolved, one must agree to disagree.
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There will definitely be times in your life when you will need the power of your voice. You will need to open up your mind and speak up what's in your mind.
The voice within you will want and need to be heard, respected and praised.
Ensure that you use your voice properly and speak up whenever your feelings are being trampled upon.
Many things are beyond our control, and it is within our power to control the words and feelings that we pass across to others around us.
Make your feelings understood clearly and let people know that you value your personal well-being.
Speak up for other people who have no voice or who are unable to speak for themselves due to one reason or the other. Your voice may be the only saving grace that will protect such people from harm.
Speak up when you see evil perpetrators doing wrong because silence could be seen as you agreeing complicitly.
We can view speaking up as the truest act of mankind, and since as far as we know, we are the only animals who can speak up.
Speak up whenever you are asked of your own opinion, as whoever asks the question will value it well.
Finally on speaking up, speak up whenever you want to be heard. Whether in your working place or whether in your relationship, if you believe you have something valuable to say, don’t be scared to open your mouth and speak.
The ability to speak up takes a very high level of confidence, but just like all skills, someone only needs to keep practicing in order to get better.
The major focus is just for us to know when to be silent and when to speak up.
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There are days when I just feel like being silent. But because people are used to me being noisy, they feel like I am sick when I am quiet. 😅 but with regards to argueing, sometimes I would keep quiet if I do not want to things to escalate more.