Shying away from responsibility

“In order to win and succeed in life, responsibility is so important. This is a part of being an adult and learning how to be responsible for everything.”

Tonya R. Owens

I think writing more about me personally makes you know who I am really. I love that as I enjoy talking about myself and my character. Even though I have my flaws, especially the anger issue but wouldn't it shock you if I tell you that I am mindful of that in the public but only exercise it more within my family?

Something I am always understanding is that your family will still bear and cope with you but people outside would think you have gone crazy and they will keep coming up with different talks and would even look at different perspectives away from you. Family is everything but that does not mean I should use their tolerances and keep venting out my anger even unnecessarily.

Something about me is that I don't shy away from my responsibility. I do things when I know it's my turn and it's something meant for me to do. What do I mean here? I don't know how to explain myself better but with this example, you should get what I am saying here.

Where I stay, we are thirteen tenants as students. We each have our days when we wash the toilet and bathroom and one thing about me is that I don't complain but when it's my turn, I do it. It's my responsibility and I should do it.

Some people wouldn't even take it up when it's their turn to wash the toilet and bathroom because someone didn't wash it before it got to their turn and they would be like “this person didn't wash it yesterday and it would be so dirty, I can't do it too”.

I used to say something that if someone refuse to do what he should have done and another person refuses to do it too, everyone would be blamed in the end as no one would be exempted. What you have to do when it's your turn, please do it.

Not taking responsibility when it's your turn makes you immature but when you know when to do things, that is when the maturity in you comes out and makes people know you aren't being childish.

Yesterday, I was forced to check the date to know when I would be washing the toilet and many students have gone home making the toilet left unwashed for days. When I checked the date, I got to know a friend who I took as bestie was supposed to wash and she was around. I called and reminded her and the next thing she said was “I can't wash this toilet. No one has washed it for some days now and it would be so dirty. I can't wash it too”.

I was hurt in my heart for her to say such and she is even two years older than me. I said to her “That isn't how life should be. It's your turn to wash the toilet and you shouldn't be saying because others didn't wash and you wouldn't wash it”

Most times, I even wash the toilet on some days when I have seen no one has washed it.

She kept quiet saying she would wash later as she didn't even know it was her turn. I smiled and just waved it off. This is someone that has always stood on that word many times and I would even talk to her not to see it that way but to do her own. If others didn't do it, that doesn't mean you should not do it too.

It was my turn the next day and I woke up early and did what I needed to do. She didn't wash it later yesterday and I never complained.

This is something I am used to right from time and I don't complain. If the toilet stay unclean, I wouldn't like it and dirtiness isn't my thing. I can't be bathing and perceiving odour or trying to slip on the ground because the ground is slippery.

The thing is, we all would suffer for it if everyone stays out of their responsibility because someone didn't do it.

Where I live with my parents then, none of the tenants including the landlord wash the gutter at the front of the house where people pass through. I always wash it every Saturday and when people pass by, they start to pray and wish me well.

I love to handle things as if they were my stuff and the way I would want others to help treat my things, I would do it too because I follow what the word of God that says “do unto others what you would have them do to you”

I hope you get what I am trying to pass across here? When you know your responsibility and take action, it reveals how mature and responsible you are.

You are not a fool when you do things meant for everyone, when others are ignoring or refusing to do it, it helps you personally and it's for yourself.

Thanks for reading

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[July 19, 2022] (No 200 articles for the year)