It's All Gone At Last
Don't panic!!! I did not loose anyone, everything is going well with me and I hope same is with you reading this. It's been a while now since I showed up here, and I am so overwhelmed by the activities that's still going on here on the platform. A big shout-out to everyone member of this platform that still believes in this great vision.
Back to today's topic. What really inspired me to come up with such a sad sounding topic " It's All Gone At Last" is...........
Okay it all began four days ago when I wanted to login into my read.cash account and I discovered that my dairy which contains my password and paraphrase was missing. I'm not a careless type, I keep my personal belongings in a safe place where I can have access to at anytime.
But what really happened to my dairy? Was the question I kept asking myself for three days. I can't remember playing any kind of hide and find game with anybody. So where could my dairy be......... Inside that dairy, I have other vital information that are so important to me and it's gone.
Looking around, there's nothing I can do other than to reset my password and get a new account where I will be receiving tips here. I'm not too happy with the fact that I am having two different bch account here. But since that was the only option, I had no other choice than to accept it.
**How do you deal with a loss?**
In every persons life, there will always come a time when something that means so dearly to you will vanish without any notice. It could be a loss of a friend, family member, property, investment etc. How do you comfort yourself and move on without causing damage of any kind to yourself. My dairy is gone, I wouldn't say I did not cry at some point, I did, but I didn't give it a chance to weigh me down, I shifted my focus away from sadness. All I could think of was the good times i always have here. Blaming myself for what happened wouldn't change anything so I needed to find a way to get my account back.
I don't really have much to say, but I will leave you with this one advice. No matter what you've lost or going through, just have his believe that healing is possible. It's just a matter of time until you recover from your loss.
The loss might feel like nothing is working around you, but it has the tendency of moving you to your place if purpose if you allow yourself to heal slowly. Don't ever forget that help is always available.
See you in my next blog. Bye for now.....
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The success tips now
My today's focus will be on the person and business success tips
The success tips now…. A person's got some funds to begin the business. The business is up and running now. The question is, How does one sustain a business with the inevitable challenges that may crop up?
The truth is, challenges will crop up, you make all the plans to do something and things are going differently. Challenges will crop up to break you, it could be from one new government directive, it could be from a supply, logistics, etc. Success Tips is "see fear for what fear is", because some of these challenges are just there to cripple you with fear. But advice to myself and to anyone out there is, see fear for what it truly is. It's just a shadow, and we all know that shadows are not real. It is false evidence appearing real. We ought to surmount our fear and keep pushing. Another thing I would want us to know is success abhors inaction. So we can stay and dream up and think about the plans that we have. If we don't stand up and take deliberate steps, nothing would come out of our thoughts and our desires.
Success, request deliberate action carefully thought out, carefully scrutinized, it totally abhors inaction. Much earlier I didn't know the word for it until a few days back that I saw it was creating your vision. I always say to people close to me, paint a picture in your head of what that tomorrow looks like and let every action you have today be like the stroke of a painter's brush on that picture creating that picture for tomorrow. So if you have this beautiful set picture which like I said now it's a vision but you go to magazines, cut out things of the picture you want and all of that. Those pictures will only come to bare when we paint one stroke at a time with our actions, and with our inactions of today. That's what will bring those pictures to bare.
Another success tip I would want to quickly mention in this era where we all need to show that we are successful is "SLOW DOWN". You don't need to show just yet, show when the foundation is strong not when your foundation is weak and feeble. You just made your first million, you want to show, it's not yet time. So you've been able to generate some level of income, you save, you get the value you want to reinvest again, possibly maybe in something else because the bible says we should cast our bread on many waters. Maybe in something else that will yield. Now you do all of that until you come to the point where you can create some level of passive income. Then you can decide to show up little by little. Your showing should be on things that are tangible and valuable like your children's education, your children's wellbeing, your impact in society and all of that. That is more of the trans-generational value and posterity that I'm talking about.
Do not please concentrate on one thing. I'm sure there's a reason why the good Lord Himself made everything by cycles. There's a food chain, there's every form of chain if you look into nature. Everything works by doing its own work. So you might say yes I have succeeded in doing this one thing, I should be able to venture after research into something else. Why because the disease that will affect this one thing I am doing may not necessarily affect these other things. So perchance, this disease or infirmity affects this one, I can still have some other thing running that I will make do with till I can treat this one. So, yes it is important that oh I am so good at tailoring, that's no problem, venture into some sort of retail or something related because your passion should also be a big driving force for whatever you are doing.
Put not all your eggs in one basket so that when calamity comes which will definitely come. It is not a God forbid thing, it's life. The sun shines, the rain falls. When it happens, you have something to go by till that other thing stabilizes.
To be continued.
Thanks for coming around.
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Must We Have It Big Before We Start
What do you have? How can you build what you have to start the business in the most minimal level possible?
The problem with most people have been the fact that they must do it big. People must know that they have started a business. If your focus is profit, if your focus is value, then you should be willing to start small. And then build and generate. All this depends on your space you want to create value in, what kind of business you want to do. You are asked? Okay you want to do this kind of business, show me a proposal and you're calling exorbitant figures. You have not even mastered the dynamics of your business. Another big way to make money to start your business is your social capital, and character. What I mean here is the value of your character. Like can someone trust you with money they have sitting down somewhere and not doing anything, can they trust that if they give you that money to start something you'll return it back.
Trust goes with partnership. If one doesn't have social character, no trust, no integrity, then nothing works for such a person.
**Are there particular skills a person should have in order to succeed in business?**
There are skills any person should have as they seek to venture into business. These skills are skills that cannot be thrown under the carpet. They are needed, they are needs, not want. One of such skills is basic bookkeeping skills. You're wondering why I didn't say accounting? Let's leave that for now. Most people if I'm not wrong tends to run away from this particular skill because it seems to involve a lot of mathematics, a lot of calculations and all that. If a person who is planning on starting a business can't do simple calculations, then such a person has no business being in business because they can't totally depend on a third party to know the financial figures of their business.
If that's what they want to do, then they are not the one running the business because it means anything the third-party feeds them with, they'll take it hook, line, and sinker. As a person who is planning on starting a business, you need to know a simple arithmetic that you put $5 into the business, this is what came out as profit. I think that is one major skill.
Another skill I think people need to put into consideration is the knowledge of what gives, what is obtainable in your local environment when it comes to government. As a person going into business, you can't be a loner. You won't go too far being a loner, you have to have your ears out there and be willing to share information with other people. I want to share something to correct an anomaly; Recently my friend was telling me about a conversation her cousin was having with someone and to cut it short. Her cousin said,"Knowledge is to be shared." God did not make knowledge, so you make your boast in it and say?..oh! Do you know that I know?
Whatever knowledge that we have is to be shared. Why? For posterity, for the betterment of our society, and environment. So why I'm saying this is that, things will be such easier if what I know I can trust you enough to share it with you. Knowing that I couldn't possibly meet the needs of everybody in that line of business, we have decided to. Now I can meet this niche, you meet needs of this other niche. If I share my knowledge with you, we have a bigger and better market share. So knowledge is not something we should Hurd, it should be shared. I think that is one major issue people have, and I know its birth from that place of not being able to trust each other.
**Is money the be-all and end-all need for a successful business?**
I don't think money is the be-all and end-all need for a successful business. I have seen situations where people come in contact with money, and it fizzles out, the money just disappears, and they go back to put blames on other people. This happens because this people lack some core character values. Sometimes they go into business just to show their neighbor that they actually went into business. They are really not creating value. That's why I said from the beginning, your quest to go into a business should be birth out of a desire to create value. Now, that value is now used as an exchange for money.
Another thing I would like to point out is apprenticeship. We all make the joke of when we see somebody who is supposing doing business well, with doggedness and grits we say ah! They are from a business oriented family or tribe. And it's a joke, sometimes we speak of it like in a derogatory manner. But could we learn, could we take a cue from what they are doing. Everybody wants to answer "I AM A BUSINESS OWNER", and you've not even started your business. Could we come off our high horses and learn? So you go to learn, for instance from some other person, rather than empty your cup, so you'll get it full. You go there with preconceived thoughts of I know, I just want to add up. You won't get anything from it. Apprenticeship is something we must get back to learn. There is nothing derogatory about servant hood.
**Would having a mentor to teach one make a difference?**
I don't want to use the word mentor because we'll bastardize the word mentor. Oh, Mr!. A be my mentor, Mrs. T be my mentor. You want somebody to be your mentor, and the person will have to drag you off the bed to now teach you. You choose to desire to learn, not to be taught. Because when the desire is there to learn, even when nobody is teaching you, you're learning. Apprenticeship is a big deal. We just have to humble ourselves and be ready to learn. Don't be quick to answer boss cos it doesn't translate to real money.
In my next article I'll talk about the success tips we should know before starting a business.
How We Finish The Journey Makes All The Difference
Hello everyone, it's so good to be back again after a long break, if i may call so. Thanks to Rusty for coming back too. I couldn't hold back the joy when I found out that our joy giver is finally back again. Rusty, those little tips you blessed us with each time we make a good article really helped us in so many ways. Thank you once again for choosing to come back.
**How we finish the journey makes the difference.** What do I really mean by this journey?
The journey here is not the usual road trip we make, but rather it's the life we are living. "Life is a journey" - the journey through life can be likened to the normal road trip where we come across beautiful sights, good and bad roads, beautiful structures and even the ugly ones. The journey of life is filled celebrations, laughter, challenges, heartbreak, and memories. All of these things, both the ones we expected and the unexpected gives the true definition of our purpose and also impact our journey.
Sometimes having a good moment in the process of the journey is far more important than completing it. Everyone has a life to live. How we end the journey makes the difference. It's just a matter of individual's choice. I might choose to make every moment of the journey count until i arrive at my final destination. While the other person might choose to put themselves in a position where they are showered with pity instead of accolades. If we all maintain a positive mindset, the journey will be a peaceful one, same as the destination we are heading to.
Even with the right perspective, don't expect everything to go as planned. The journey through life at some point becomes rough. Sometimes, it feels like the air in us has been sucked off, and it leaves us gasping for breath. This is a very important moment in the journey. And suddenly our minds are busy trying to figure out what really happened - what did I do wrong?, where did I not see the mistake coming?, was it really my fault? This is the point where the destination will be determined. The choice you make will either empower you to finish well or not. If you choose to remain stuck in the mess and be pitied, you go nowhere, but choosing to rise after the fall will get you out of the quagmire.
To finish the journey well, we need to understand that a perfect finishing comes to those whose choose to rise, learn from their mistakes, and make amends to it. Hence, the earlier you know who you are, understand the purpose of your existence, the better you will enjoy the journey because you will take positive actions that will empower you to have a perfect finishing.
See you in my next blog. Bye for now.....
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Heartbreaks and Breakups
I have come to realize that so many things on our social medias, and even the real world triggers depression. Loss of property, life, job, heartbreak, and many others causes one to find themselves being depressed.
I was a victim of some of those things I mentioned above, and as far as life is concerned every other person must have tasted it at some point in their live. We can't shy away from these things, the only thing that makes the difference is how we react to it when it comes. Like me I was able to deal with it fast and later move on with my life. There are people who have been in situations like this but they refuse to deal with it because of fear of the unknown. They give excuses and hide behind it.
A lot of people will relate to what I will say in today's article. It's something that have been sang about by a very popular musician in my country by name 'Burna Boy'.. The title of the song is 'Breakfast'. Whatsoever inspired him to sing that song was so strong.
A verse from the song goes thus.....
"E don cast
Last, last
Na everybody go chop breakfast (na everybody go chop breakfast)
Have to say bye-bye, oh
Bye-bye, oh
To the love of my life."
This is the best platform to relate this very topic 'Heartbreaks and Breakups'. Majority of the people on this platform have in one way experienced heartbreak and breakups in their relationship.
Being in a relationship and being loved by your partner is the best feeling in the world. Recently, my best friend was on a voice call with her friend. I overheard their conversation since the phone was on loudspeaker. It was not as if I was interested in their discussion but it just happened that way. I heard the other girl said something that really touched me, she said that she can never settle with one guy that she has had enough breakfast (heartbreaks) in her previous relationships. She prefers to go into hookups and other casual stuffs. But I think she gets it all wrong. At some point in her life, she will want to settle down with just one partner, but it will be difficult for her since she has already made some indecent acts a habit. Constant hookups can grow into a habit.
I was in a relationship with my partner now my ex. We were together for about 8 months, everything went pretty well not until the day my partner got a new job that pays him better than the previous one. All of a sudden, the love he had for me started fading away, we fight over very little things often times. For awhile things kept on like this, it got to the point where he blocks my number from calling him. I will become so restless if I don't hear his voice or see him......gosh!! I was so much addicted to him. I checked myself and found no fault, then why has he changed so fast? That was the question I kept asking myself. I even went as far as apologizing, saying sorry for the mistakes I have done and the one I will do in the future. But all of this didn't work.
We continued like this for about a month. Gave him some time if he will change back to the person I use to know. Or maybe it's the stress from the new job... My partner was actually cheating on me with his new colleague from the new company he is working. I got the shock of my life when i visited him during the weekend unannounced. I was so broken when I saw my partner n^ked with this new girl from his workplace. That same moment I ended it finally. I left his place with teary eyes and right from that day I set a rule for myself that I will never trust someone who breaks my heart. The visual of what I saw that day affected me so badly, it kept coming up whenever a guy approaches me. I didn't let it stay with me for a long time, I dealt with it and now I am doing pretty well.
Ending Thoughts
Know this and know peace....... One of the best feelings in the world is being in love and being loved by another person. Love they say is blind, I think that was then and not now anymore. Don't go into a relationship blindly and spend all the rest of your life just to save the relationship. Relationship is not a one person thing, it's a union that should be managed by both parties. From today, know your worth, don't lose your self-respect for anything relationship that you are not happy about. There's no gain suffering in a relationship that will one day end in a bad note. I am not against being in a relationship, but be careful when choosing a partner. Go for someone that you trust, someone that loves you truly. Wish you all the best in your relationships.
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How do you cope in times like this?
I guess most of my friends here would have concluded already that I have given up on this writing journey. But No!! I was away for those number of days because of the recent happenings in my family. I am so happy that in times like this, I am still very much strong. Most people wouldn't survive it, but I did. Sometimes ago, I told us how I lost my grandparents to death on the same day. My good storyteller, best counselor, best grandparents finally said goodbye that day.
Have you been in such situation before, where you loose two closed people on the same day. I don't wish that for any of us here.
How do you cope in times like this? Even if it's not the death of a loved one, how do you cope when you find yourself in situations that don't seem to bring you joy.
Arrangements for the funeral of my grandparents began last month. Throughout October I was so down on every side. Like I can't understand it....... Like seriously, the people that means so much to me are going to be put under the earth. I wept profusely the day it was mentioned to me that arrangements will be made for the program. If I had the superpowers, at that very moment I would have raised them from the death. I cried the more when I realized that it's not possible. Even when the bible says that everything is possible if only we believe, but the level of my unbelief was so much.
But I am very glad that after some days of weeping, I got back on my feet stronger than before. But we are humans, there are days my strength will fail me and I will see myself crying again. The memory of what happened is still fresh in my head. I was so lucky that the thoughts of suicide didn't come in.
There are so many stories of how people committed suicide because of situations like this. Suicide is never an option or even a solution, it only brings more pains to your family, friends, and loved ones. When you go through tough times in life, and for you to take control you have to find pleasure in yourself with the things you have literally and otherwise.
In tougher times, two things I could rightly remember happens in an individual's life. It is either you are striped off of those great potentials and those things that means so much to you, and you completely destroy yourself and everything you've built. Or you stand your grounds and desire for a breakout and step into a better space for a good life afterwards.
It's natural that when you find yourself in tough situations you become so weak and depressed. That's not the best you can do, after it all, you can rise again to your feet. Gratify and motivate yourself and that it is possible that you can get out of this bad phase. Accept more of positivity to help yourself. I love this quote from Rumi - "If light is in your heart, you'd find your way back" This entails that if you have that positive energy in you, your desires are right, trust me every tough situation will float away.
Hope this helps.
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Before It’s finally Gone
Just today alone I have heard this quote like 3 - 5 different time is from different people, "Life is a journey". There is no journey without a destination or and end point. If life is a journey like the quote states, that simply means we all have a final destination. In the journey, we will always have expectations... Have you successfully arrived at your final destination? Have your expectations been met? Gotten all the experience you've always wanted? Lived the kind of life you dreamed of? Visited the places beautiful place you've always wished for? Completed the projects you started?
It could be that you have attempted to meet up with all these expectations, but I know for sure that you are far away from getting all of these done.
Man needs is insatiable, no matter how much you have in your accounts, how many awards you have been given, the wealth you have acquired, and every other thing you have accomplished. There is something missing...... something you have not yet gotten. This journey of life seem to have no end, the destination is unknown. May be it will be revealed to us in another life but not this one.
Before this life is finally gone, we need to do the things that really matters. So many people have sidelined the things that matters the most in pursuit of those things that doesn't matter. Just because that's what they want, and that's why they are going after it. They try to give themselves this false hope that they will put things in order when they finally get to the final destination of this great journey.
Good moments with loved ones, enjoying the company of friends, enjoying family, finding peace of mind, keeping relationships. These are some of the things most people ignore just to achieve what's not important at the moment. These things ignored are very hard to get back when lost.
If we want to experience total peace within, we have to focus more on enjoying the moment, focusing on those things that really matters, taking out good time to enjoy this journey, taking the time to feel the warmth around it. Please don't get me all wrong, I am not saying we should abandon our dreams. It's so good to have bigger expectations in life. Discovering the right balance, nurturing our minds to pursue enormous things without giving up on those simple pleasures that makes life worth living.
However, let us learn to be happy now while we are still hoping to arrive at our destination. Life will make more sense to us and everyone else in our life.
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It might sometimes be very tough to accept defeat
We should never be troubled about the little failures we encounter in the journey of life. One of the things that leads an individual to success in life is failures, understand me right please. From the mistakes made, we get to know the right thing to do and the wrong things we should never try. We learn from it, the correct path to be followed in order to be successful on every side. Accepting defeat can be tough at times, but the beautiful side of it is that the more we accept it, the more broaden our minds become from the lessons learned. Mistakes will always happen, that means we get the opportunity to learn every time.
Since I was going to be free the whole and not to waste it just like that doing nothing productive. I decided to attend a success workshop which was scheduled for today. It was so awesome that I don't regret attending it. The facilitator was an expert when it comes to success talks, he was so good. Before he started, he asked for permission to share his story with us. He said this could be my story, but likewise someone else in this room might be writing the same storyline.
I was doing so bad while in the university, my parents forced me to take up the course I never wanted. In my first year, my result was so poor, but my parents never stop having the expectations that I will eventually do well in exams. The hope the had in me was increasing every day, on the other hand I was dieing silently. They were unaware of what I was going through because of their own selfish interest. I had a hard time concentrating on my studies. This fear of how my parents will feel if I don't meet up with their expectations catches each time I close my eyes to sleep. My parents wanted me to become a pilot, they fail to know that not everyone was destined to be a medical doctor, pilot, or an engineer. It wasn't my destiny to be a pilot.
Days passed by, I started developing fear of failing as a student. I could remember very well how my mind was always filled with thoughts about failures. In the process of helping myself in the situation I was in, I decided to meet with the school counselor for some advice.
I finally meet with Mrs. Veronica who was the school counselor. We talked about a lot of things, and I was feeling okay already. I was about leaving her office when she said something that really touched me. She said, "it is very okay if I am not good in everything, it is okay if I am not doing well in my exams." I went back to my hostel, sat on my bed still thinking of what she really meant by what she said. A calm voice whispered to me that I was taking a lot of pressure on my nerves. That was when I finally understood what Mrs. Veronica was talking about.
I decided that I will talk to my parents during the holiday period that they should cut down on some of the things they are expecting from me academically and otherwise. I only had one problem when I finally visited home, the boldness to say what's on my mind in their presence. After some weeks, I finally summon the courage and poured out my mind to them. After doing that, it felt as if I was released from a cage.
After that day, my parents gave me all the support I needed. I wrote another exams and I got admitted into a different university to study my choice of course. Before I left for my new school, I repeated the lines of words Mrs. Veronica said to me to them but in my own way. I told the, "it's okay if I don't have knowledge of everything, but the one I know and passionate about I should know it to the very last.
I stand here to tell you all with all amount of sincerity that I have found peace within right from that I dealt with the fear of failures. I am successful in my field. After the night there is always a brighter morning.
Our life is what we make of it. If all we do is allow people to decide things for us, we have no reason to complain about the outcome of it. We should learn how to have a voice when it has everything to do with our life.
I went back home with great lessons from the story our facilitator shared. It is always okay to experience failures in the journey of life. But a day will surely come when we will spring up again and say a big NO to failures and succeed. It might sometimes be very tough to accept defeat but we need to have confident in ourselves so we can deal with every failures we have encountered the right way.
Remember, our life is what we make of it. Enjoy your journey.
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Build the life you want
Have you ever felt empty in life before? Like you have not done your best? That the best part of life was given to everyone else, except you? Are you still dreaming for that lucky day to come when you will confidently say you have arrived at your place in destiny? That you have finally achieved purpose?
Everyone under the sun must have tasted this part of life, I am not an exemption. I have felt that way so many times. My aunty sharing this part of her life to a young mind who is still trying to figure out how her future would look like. She is 37 now, yet she has not given up on herself. I was touched by her story, at some point I felt tears dripping down my cheeks. I am very good that though.
*The story goes.......... I will make it short as possible.*
When I was a little girl like everyone else had being, with all the comfort I enjoyed. I had everything I wanted at ease, life was so sweet for me. During my teenage days I would smile at myself because of how beautiful my future will be. Sooner or later I would arrive at the point in life where I have always dreamed of. That I was halfway to becoming the perfect girl I was meant to be.
The night to my 25th birthday I was astounded when I found out that after all this years I am yet to become that person I was meant to be. That I have not lived the best part of life. I was so far from all of this things.
After that night, I felt so empty, I felt that I have not figured it out. With all the comfort I had enjoyed, I still felt this empty, like I needed to crush this great wall in front of me before I can live the kind of life I always wanted.
I felt so angry afterwards....
Angry that I failed to plan for my future.
Angry that I failed to have it all figured out.
I locked myself inside, wept profusely. All of this didn't help the situation. I kept myself busy to avoid reminding myself of those things that will hurt me.
After days of self-pity, I decided to start allover again. I started the journey to build the kind of life I wanted, my career was included. I wasn't easy, but I needed to do deal with every uncertainty head-on.
After listening to her story, I was lost in my thoughts, I found out ways we can adopt to embrace uncertainty. Trust one of this tips if not all will be helpful to us if we are starting afresh or we find ourselves in the unknown.
**Don't seek validation from others.** Many see this as a difficult thing to do. But I tell you, if we want to build the kind of life we dream of, we should practice self-appreciation. We shouldn't wait to get validation from others first. It might be difficult to start, but keeping journal on a daily basis of the things we are proud of, the best decisions we make, and the successes we have attained. Practicing this will build our self-confidence that we don't see any reason to seek validation from other people and it will also help get us to where we are going.
**Rework on those mistakes.** If everything goes as plan, we will always hide from our true selves. Those things we think are our biggest mistakes, we fail to see that the are the greatest gifts we have got. There's always a lesson to learn in those mistakes. If we know this, then we will be reliving ourselves of some things. We should see our mistakes not as faults, but as a exhibition of our unique abilities. By doing this, we can see and understand our strength more undoubtedly.
**Stop waiting.** We just have to know that we are more than enough at every time. If we keep on waiting until we get to the arrival point, we will never get it right. We need to let go of procrastination and start taking that steps towards building the kind of life you want.
Whenever we feel stuck in the process, we shouldn't give up but rather tell ourselves, That we are more than enough. We are capable.
The tunnel that leads to the direction of our dreams will be drawn on the tablets of our heart if we possess a curious mindset. You can be your own superhero and create the good life you desire so much.
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My own inspired thoughts on good parenting
No doubts, something spectacular might in some way inspire your thoughts on how one can be a good parent, I will never argue it with you cos I respect other people's opinions and feelings. Everything I will write here is my own view on what I feel good parenting should be.
Like anyone can go to school, but only a few will graduate with good grades. Same scenario goes with being a parent. I can be a parent, you too can be one, anyone can be one but very few can tag a good parent. I could remember very well as a child, I spent more time with my parents and this led to a very strong bonding between us. It got to the point where I was so comfortable sharing my private life and whatever was bothering me with them. Sharing my feelings or seeking for advice outside my family never for one day came into my thoughts cos I had the right people I can always talk to which were my parents.
My parents gave me everything I wanted, from the attention, companionship, company and many more. I had a great childhood and even now. All thanks to my amazing parents.
Every child needs to enjoy this one thing from their parents, "LOVE and CARE" . It is as important as anything that every parent should build this strong bonding with their kids. Show them love and care, make them feel relaxed, secured and comfortable when they are around them.
I have seen seen in different occasions where parents try to bribe their children with chocolates, and flashy gifts just so that they can have all the time for themselves. This acts alone swallows the love and care that children seeks from their parents. The parent and child bonding never happen. Which is very bad as the child will seek for companionship outside. Sometimes the direction and advice they get outside leads them into joining bad company.
What breaks my heart sometimes is how some parents are more concerned about their own life forgetting about how their children is doing. The well-being of their children doesn't concern them in any way. Some parents compare their children with other people's children without knowing the ability and capacity of their own children. Since the relationship is not there, they fail to realize the level of strength their children possesses forcing them to go beyond what they can do so they won't embarrass them in front of their social friends. They don't care if that's what the child wants, what matters to them more is keeping up with their status amongst their friends.
This gets the child nowhere rather the child feels depressed and eventually loses belief in themselves. Like I said earlier, anyone can be a parent, but not everyone can be a good parent. I so much wish that every parent, soon to be parent on this platform and outside here reading this, that wants to be a good parent should first understand their child's feelings and passion, support them on developing it instead of imposing your own opinions on them.
Never compare your children with other people's children. Every child is born with their own strength, uniqueness. Yours is not an exception, they are unique in their own way. What is expected of you as parent is to support them with everything you have, applaud them, encourage them even when they are not doing well to increase their self-worth by doing what makes them happy.
Lastly, respect their feelings. Get more closer to them, build that strong bonding. Don't give them the chance to sneak outside to seek for companion from strangers. Let them find it in you so they won't be afraid to hide anything from you. If you do this, trust me you will be the best parent any child would wish to have.
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We should love and take care of our body
It is high time I focus on my body.. I think I am adding unnecessary weight which I won't be needing for now. I need to go back to my early morning routine, and this time around it will walking and not running. I seriously need to lose some weight and not only that, I also want to develop the habit of walking long distances for some other health benefits. Things have really changed that most people forget to take care of themselves. Just after the emergence of advanced technology, people no longer live a healthy kind of lifestyle.
Nowadays, it's very hard for someone to use the stairs why the elevator is around. Not to mention vacuums and washing machines, this things are so good but it has taken away the place of physical activities we use to do before now. We are living a more relaxed kind of lifestyle now which isn't really good. Some of the health issues we have now are as a result of the absence or less physical exercises. Most people will complain that they don't have the equipments to do some physical exercises or sometimes they will say they don't have enough funds to register at the gym - the gym is not the only place where exercise can be done, a good number of exercises can be done at home if only we are ready to effect a huge change in our lifestyle. Walking a few distance before boarding a taxi to work is still a good one. Making use of the stairs more often even when the elevator is still functional. It looks stressful, but certainly it will help us to develop a good habit and live a healthy lifestyle.
We should love and take care of our body. Going for outdoor exercises, yoga, taking part in fitness challenge, walking challenge and many more will help reposition our minds to think about how we can stay fit and also live a healthy lifestyle. There are some organization that host some of this activities and there are always people who will never want to miss out.
I have pity for those people who feel too lazy to get involved in this kind of events whenever it's being organized. They forget that it's for their own benefit and not the other way round. Let's learn to make this healthy lifestyle a part of us, we shouldn't do it on days we are force to, it should become a daily routine. And setting target will help one stay motivated and always willing to do more.
This weekend, I'm beginning my daily walking challenge. I won't walk that far cos I'm just starting, but with time I will go long distances. My weight gain is really disturbing and I want to cut down some of it. Apart from that, walking is a great tool which helps relax the mind. Tomorrow I intend walking for about 25 mins, go above that time can be more beneficial cos it will help you build good stamina, more of positivity, and also keep the immune system active and strong. There will be a great change in us if we adopt some of this healthy lifestyle. So let's save our body the unnecessary troubles. Stay fit..... Stay healthy.
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Everyone has a story
Live your story to the fullest........
Some days when I lay on my bed and wish if life was never going to go bad... If we could absent ourselves from the surface of planet earth when we are about to be hit with diverse problem and reappear when it is gone... If only life could be filled with total laughter and celebration.... If only life could be like a calm night surrounded with peace and calmness. But suddenly, the clock turns the other way, life doesn't go the way we wish. Everyone including me has a share of the ups and downs it is pregnant with. We cannot run away from the cloud of despair it brings with it.
Our story fully begins the moment we are brought out from our mothers womb, and it can only end when we send out that last breath. Just the stories our grandparents would tell us when we were kids, it will have the funny part, sorrowful part, romance part, and many more. "I really noticed something spectacular with my grandma, no matter how tragic the story is, she will always find a way to twist it to become interesting". That was my grandma and we are not talking about her today. Life has all if this characteristics in it, from the tragic part, comedy, good relationship, etc. It is our life, and at the same time it is a necessity that we make it interesting no matter what season we find ourselves. Shying away from the tragic part of it will never make it go or stop it from coming. My mentor use to say "what we don't fight today, we will always fight it some other day".
Remember this is our story....... If we continue avoiding those issues that makes us uncomfortable, we are giving it the chance to make it a difficult unsolvable issue. Let me use a book to further explain what I really mean. You can never understand a book if you keep skipping some of the pages in the book. Information is power, and it also makes things interesting or otherwise. If we skip the information on this page of a book, the next page will never make sense and that's how the skipping will continue. Same thing with life, avoiding certain chapters of life will make life difficult to understand. The ripple of confusion will set in as we keep skipping the pages of life.
What makes life interesting is when we accept our shortcomings work towards making it interesting instead of complaining and wallowing in self-pity. Escapism is a pathetic way to lead a life. The very moment we are conscious of what is happening around us, that's when those difficult part of our life's will start loosing the grip the had on us. We shouldn't lay low, keep dealing with those complications as they come to us. Deal with complicated issues and observe life to get the best out of it. We only wish life to be a bed of roses. No one knows what tomorrow brings. Do you know what's in store for you?. What ever you see now is exactly what it is. If we live our life in the consciousness of what will happen to us in coming time, we may not get the chance to have a total control and enjoy the moment. It is so good to think about the future, but what I am saying is that, don't waste the whole of your life doing that.
You have a story...... Do all you can to live it to the fullest. We have all been given just one opportunity to do that, there won't be a second chance if we mess up. Let's fill our story with sweet memories and also make it a colorful one. The length of life can never be guess, hence it's up to us to value every moment we have while we're still breathing.
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Beware! Technology may be harmful in some ways
In my previous article, I talked about how technology has really brought enormous change into workplaces. I gave it all the credits forgetting that it has the other side which is not too pleasing. Most of the things we are doing now existed long time ago, technology has only enhanced it, making it look more beautiful and easier. Todays article is based on what I experienced last night. I have been having similar experiences before now, but the worst happened last night. The technology I have been singing about has succeeded in making me look unserious before my group members. I am not happy with what happened this morning. More of the fault is from me cos I never took my time to check what I was doing before hitting the send button.
Just last night after I made a post here, I spent a in extra forty-five minutes before retiring to do another thing. I opened my WhatsApp to check if I have messages to reply, fortunately I did. My cousin asked me to drop some pictures of how I spent my day with her before I go to bed. I didn't want to disappoint her cos I don't know her intentions concerning the pictures, she's trying to help me on something no doubt. I guess she's doing a kind of followup. I made a very big mistake, I should have accessed my gallery from the WhatsApp app, but instead I minimized it and went direct to my gallery.
After the selection, I hit the share button and it gave me options to choose from. I clicked on the WhatsApp icon and it took me to the page where I would select the people I want to share the pictures with. I marked my cousin as the receiver, but unknowingly I selected another recipients, the WhatsApp group for youth coordinators in my church. Immediately I got a private message from our youth pastor who was one of the admins in the group asking me to delete those pictures or I risked been kicked out of the group. It was then I realized that I had done a very great mistake. I was very lucky cos I still had the opportunity to delete the pictures for everyone. This morning, my actions last night became the subject topic. The youth pastor warned every member of the group to desist from posting unrelated things in the group. I learned my lessons to be careful next time when I am using tech gadgets for anything.
Now here is what I have to say, every form of technology is so good, I can make one happy and smart also. But at the same we should not forget that this same technology has the tendency of making us look like a st*pid person. Like I said earlier that I will be very careful with it, same with everyone else. Especially when it has to do with sending important files, emails to big firms or personalities. We should take our time to go through the files pages by pages, ensure that they are the right files to be sent to the right authorities.
There are times we need to express how we feel to someone in a text message. The auto correct in our phones would not understand what you want that moment. You type a word, and it will autocorrect it to what it feels that is correct whereas it's wrong. I have had instances where I needed to resend messages because of autocorrect. The one I could remember, I was chatting with a male friend on WhatsApp, my intentions was to send him this, "I don't like public places", but autocorrect changed it for me and I got this instead, "I don't like pubic places". It was too late as I have already sent the message, I corrected it over a voice note to avoid another mistake.
Technology is good, and sometimes it can be dangerous. Like if I didn't have an understanding person on the other side, I would have looked like a fool, he would have been offended or even confused. This is my own personal opinion, I don't hate technology or AI in anyway, its really making life more easier for we humans. And I love the way it is penetrating almost all the sectors. But we need to be extremely careful when using it, especially the messaging tools to avoid the damages that it's capable of causing.
Thank you for your time. Hope to have you around some other time. Bye..
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Technology is driving change into the modern day workplace
The existence of technology has really brought a great change to human lives, almost every aspect of human life has been affected in the past few years. From the invention of smartphones, cloud storage, the internet, Artificial intelligence, business intelligence tools, printing press, and much more. In todays article, I will talk about how technology is driving change into the modern day workplace. So, without wasting much time, let's dive into todays topic.....
Few hundreds years back, our workplaces were nothing to write home about compare to now. The advent of modern day technology has really brought in tremendous change into workplaces, the effect of this has made companies, and businesses perform more better and effortless than before.
The very few ways technology has driven great change into the workplace is through more advanced communication choices; options like Facebook apps, Whatsapp, Twitter, Skype, Emails, Cloud technology and many more. This has made the mode of communication get to a greater level. Back in the days where these advanced options weren't around, mode of communication was so difficult. It took so much time before informations and updates gets to clients. Since the invention of technology, the stress from communication has reduced. Workplaces now hold meetings through video conferencing, the idea of traveling long distances just to attend a meeting has been limited. Updates of new products, promos, and services are being sent to clients in just few seconds. Through emails, private informations and documents are being sent without delay or panic.
Another change technology has brought to workplaces is optimization of time management allowing work to be done faster and with a high level of accuracy. This is achievable through the invention of broadband internet connection, cloud storage etc.
If you could recall from what I said earlier about how emails are being sent without delay or panic. Technology has really helped to curb some security issues in the workplace. Many years ago, so many companies were so vulnerable to hacks and other security breaches. It was so difficult for companies to operate properly with all this issues. But thanks to technology, high level of security mediums have been put in place to solve this problems.
Technology is advancing as each day passes. With just a snap of finger, those things that were not achievable in the early thirties can now be done comfortably without stress. No one will ever deny the fact that technology has driven great change into our workplaces. And this change isn't going to stop, for the fact technology keeps evolving everyday, this change will keep happening.
I am so happy to have you visit my blog today. I really appreciate you for sparing the time to read this article. Thank you.
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How do you see life?
There is one creation of God that amazes me anytime I think or see it, "The Ocean". I have never gone down there before but I feel extremely overwhelmed and mesmerized by the depth, and sometimes I wish I could absorb the serenity and peace around it.
The ocean makes me feel humble. Why? There a lot of reasons, but I will be sharing one aspect of it. For those of us that have not been opportune to go down the depths of the ocean..... Have we ever wondered the things we will find down there. Apart from fishes and other aquatic living mechanisms, there are other things lying at the bottom of the sea. I have categorized them into two different parts; the precious things, and the ones that won't have any value or use to us. These are the things we will find down there, if we look if from another angle, we would relate it to life.
Beautiful pearls, beautiful hard corals and not miss seaweeds, and rocks also. No sane person will choose seaweeds if given the opportunity to pick anything they will love to have. For me I will go for the pearls and other precious things. I believe you to will do the same thing because those precious things gotten from the sea are beautiful and they also bring happiness to us. Now, why didn't we pick the rocks or the seaweeds? I guess it is because of the limited value it brings. The ocean offers all of this, and it is our choice to make what we want. Same thing with life, our Creator has put us in a place where we make choices in our lives. Like the instances of the ocean, we have the power to pick the good things of life.
Same way I see life, I use a coin to best define it. Life is not a one way thing, it offers us both the good and the bad - pearls in the form of happy family, having a successful career, getting respect from peers, staying in good health, healthy relationship, wealth and seaweeds in the shape of trouble of life. The list is just too long if I want to mention all of them. Every individual has always struggle every now and then to keep choosing the good part of life and overlooks the ugly part. Living this kind of life is not really good as it will be very easy or us to breakdown when we are faced with adversities of life. Why this happens is because our minds have no been trained to withstand the challenges life will throw at us. We feel disappointed and discouraged easily because of the things we have faced and this wears us a sad look which in turn changes our ambience. The same way we happily spread our hands wide open and accept the good things life gives us, we should endeavor to condition our minds to be ready to face the odds of life and deal with it instead of running away from it.
Sometimes picking happiness from the things life offer is a very daring effort as it entails wearing smiles on our faces while dealing with adversities of life too. It is so good to choose the things that makes you feel relaxed and happy, and don't forget to always go with this feeling anywhere you find yourself.
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Do you swap or you still keep them?
Books aren’t eggs, you know. Simply because a book has aged a bit doesn’t mean it’s gone bad.” There was now an edge to Monsieur Perdu’s voice too. “What is wrong with old? Age isn’t a disease. We all grow old, even books. But are you, is anyone, worth less, or less important, because they’ve been around for longer?
- Nina George https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/old-books
Do you swap books you have finished reading or you still keep them? That's what I will be talking about in today's article. There are people who can't do without books, it has become a huge part of their lives. Someone asked me yesterday if I can still go back to read books I bought 7 - 10 years ago. To be very frank, I don't buy much books, I only borrow from friends, then after reading it, I return it back. I didn't give her the answer she was looking for. I love reading books, but not every book will interest me to read a second time. There are books that will always look new to your eyes even when you have read it maybe twice. There are books that have a certain period of time they are relevant to us, but as we grow, they are no longer useful again. What happens to the is books.. Do you keep them, destroy them or you swap them for new ones?
The lady who asked me the question said she values every book she has read. Every book has something important in it to always learn from she said. She went ahead to say that new books meets old ones in her wooden bookshelf. I can't even imagine what her wooden bookshelf will look like. It will be filled with all kinds of books. I asked her if she doesn't gets tired of reading the old books, she said no.
Now such a person is so connected to books because she sees them as a very engaging tool. Personally, if I have a collection of old books I no longer see the need to keep anymore, I will rather give it out to someone who might need it rather than allowing keeping it for no reason. You might have a different view to what you will do to old books that you have finished reading. Maybe why you are still keeping it is because of the genre, the lessons given by the books, the scent of the pages of the book, the alluring cover of the book.
I have seen people throw some of their old books in garbage. It's obvious that some of these people are so stingy that giving out their old to books to some other person is a problem to them. These books might not be useful to you anymore, but there are people out there whose lives can be changed by it. There so many good things you can do with your old books if you don't intend keeping them.
Giving them to your siblings won't be a bad idea. Some time those books may contain information that will be useful to them in the future. There are other places you can send those old books to, like government schools, charity organizations etc. You can swap them for new ones, that sounds good right. Don't just keep this knowledge with you, make such you pass it on to other needy people.
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A very humbling experience indeed!
A close relative of ours that stays in another state visited our house two days ago. She heard about sudden demise of our grandparents, so she decided to come sympathize with us. I'm not here today to start talking about what happened afresh, we all know the story, or if you are getting aware of it for the first time, you can check my recent post for the story. Back to today's topic..... This relative of ours, she's a mother of two, but one thing that annoys me about her sometime is that she talks too much. I said sometimes..... Sometimes the things she talks about will make a million sense to whoever is listening. Just yesterday evening, she was telling my aunties who were around her experience at the bus station, I was somehow close to were they had the conversation, so I heard everything they were discussing.
According to her, when she paid for the ticket, she was directed to the next bus that was going to her destination. As usual I guess she prayed for a safe journey....... everyone knows her for that. It was her first time traveling outside the state where she resides since the beginning of the year. The bus got filled up with other passengers who were traveling and the journey began. 30mins later after the bus moved, the conductor started asking everyone on the bus if they are satisfied with the services their company is giving to them. My aunty said she was flattered at the next thing the bus conductor did, he put a smile on his face while talking to each passenger. It was her first time seeing something like that, bus conductors hardly smile, maybe because the work is not favorable to them. But this particular bus conductor was different from the ones she has met.... He really loves the work he is doing.
Since it was a coaster bus, he had the opportunity of walking from the front to the back of the bus without any difficulty. The bus conductor was moving around the whole bus with a smile on his face, giving out magazines to some of the passengers who were interested, and at the same time wished everyone on the bus a safe trip to wheresoever they are going. He went ahead to wish everyone a happy New Month, filled with joy and gladness. My aunty said she was trying to understand something while seated in the bus. Is this man doing all of this out of his own free will or is the company paying him extra tips just to do it. Regardless of that, the man had no bitterness for stressing himself to that extent, it looked as if he has been waiting for such moment to do what he did.
Other of my aunties were so interested in the story that they did not want anything to distract them......I was also interested too, haha.. Our super story teller went ahead to say that before they left the bus station, this same bus conductor was seen eating a small portion of meal under a scanty shade. He never had the chance to eat at a good restaurant, on a good plate and all of that. But most of the people at the bus station, specifically the passengers had a good time with their families, and were hoping to have more gala time with friends and families during the weekend. But this bus drivers and conductors don't have such time like we do, they sacrifice every good moment they would have had just to make sure our demands are being met.
What will you call this? Being human.....
My aunty said the happy bus conductor brought a smile to her face while she was she was seriously soaked in self pity over being away from her kids and husband. What an experience she had...
The conversation continued, but I will take a break and speak my mind on this humbling experience my aunty had. Have you ever thought about those people whole work on holidays, weekends, Christmas day, New year eve, etc. Taking our minds back to 2019 when Covid-19 pandemic was spreading like wild fire. Humans like us worked tirelessly with rest to make sure the situation is put to control. Some doctors were away from their families for more than 3 - 4 months. Even now that things have returned to normal, other people are still sacrificing their time to make sure that we feel safe. Traffic police, bus drivers and conductors, nurses, airport workers, and many other professionals. We that have the time to sit with our families, friends and loved ones, should appreciate this people, cos it's not an easy job to do. This people have humanity at heart.
The bus conductor has really changed my perspective. No matter any situation I find myself, I will learn to make the best out of it. I pray for the strength and courage to make a positive difference to myself and every other person I come in contact with.
Like the bus conductor wished the passengers on the bus all those good things, me too, I use this opportunity to wish everyone on this platform the best weekend ever. I hope everyone has a safe weekend. Bye.
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A Perfect Wednesday
It was another new day and I was greeted with soft touch on my cheek from my little cousin. I wonder how she was able to sneak into the girls room that early. I smiled at her, and it was a happy moment when she smiled back. It was 6:15 am, I heard the birds chirping from a tree that's not too far from the house. I was going to be free from that time until 8:30 am when I will be preparing for the days activities. Before this week began, I intended to make some weekly resolution for myself. And one of the things on the list is going for early morning walk, maybe I will just walk for about 25mins. At first I didn't have the desire for it, but with the way my body was going, I needed it.
There is this open field quite some meters away from our house. The field is so big that it could contain six - seven football pitches. There's a museum, relaxation spots, and also some trees are growing there. The ambience of the garden as I will call it attracted me, that's why I accepted it as the perfect place for my new daily routine.
Although I missed the first day which was Monday, yesterday I didn't do much of the walking when I got tired and decided to go back home. But today was different, at 6:30 am, I was already set for the days walk. I put on the right wear for the moment, and with my earphones already plugged in. Most times, good music helps a lot, this is what I failed to do yesterday.
As soon as I was approaching the supposed garden, I sighted other people there already. Some were squatting, walking, running sideways on the footpath of the field. I was so motivated because of what I saw, everywhere was busy even though the field was big enough.
Since my own was to walk only, I focused on the walking for about 23min, at least I covered a few distances round the field today. I met lots of people ranging from young to old, it was so fun that at some point I was laughing at the old people when they were demonstrating whatsoever kind of exercise they were ask to do by their instructor. I wouldn't blame them for how they are doing the exercise, I celebrate them for seeing the need to do it. They have really challenged me as a young person. I pray I will continue doing more exercise even when I am old in age. I returned back home tired and exhausted, but thank God I still got to where I wanted to go to on time.
Like today was planned for me. On my way to where I was going, I boarded the city bus, inside the bus I overheard two working class women discussing the ways how they have been working to keep themselves fit. And this took my mind back to what I saw in the field which I did not mention earlier. I saw a middle-aged woman struggling to do back walking, a man jogs waving his hands. I saw two couples sitting under one of the tress in the field holding hands and chatting, I guess they were tired and that was the perfect way to relax themselves. While I was walking back home, I met this old man exiting the entrance of the open field. I sighted him from afar, he rested twice on the cemented chair before getting to the entrance. I slowed down a little and followed the old man until he got to house that is 3mins away from the field.
When I arrived at my destination, I met this sport documentary showing on the television. One of the sports person was wearing a t-shirt with a strong positive lines of words written on it; "No difficult situation will stay with you forever". I smiled to myself because my day was positive already, filled with inspiration to live a happy life. I so desire that others will be like today. Everything that happened today motivated me in all aspect.
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Moment I lost my grandparents on the same day
Hello beautiful people. Happy New Month to everyone, I am finally back again. My bad, I have been gone for almost month now, yeah!! I'm so sorry for that, I never planned it that way but it happened. I have been through a lot of stuffs that are not too good to talk about. A lot of crazy stuffs happened to me in the previous month, yeah!! For surviving it, I had no other choice than to help bounce back to my real self real quick. Ohhhhhh!!! It's still me Shivaz, I haven't changed much. Make sure every moment you have in September make sure to keep that beautiful smile on your face always. I don't need a magician to tell cos I know it looks beautiful on you.
My article today is a sad one, but I don't want you to feel sad in anyway. It was so terrific the day I lost my grandparents on the same day. My apologies, I am so sorry to bring your already beautiful day down, but it's the way I feel at the moment, I need to share with you here. Gosh!!! I'm having a teary eyes already. It took me two weeks to get over the loss, pains, and brokenness. But now I am able to look at their pictures without freaking crying my eyes out.
My grandpa was diagnosed with brain ⁰cancer in 2016, he passed away on August 2nd, and his birthday was on July 27th. You can see how hard it was for me. He left to the other side of life few days after his birthday. My grandma was strong enough to bear the loss, she eventually joined him later that same day. Two people gone on the same day, it was so sad and a huge loss.
I don't want to bored you with the sad story, but I must tell you that my grandpa was a strong kind of person. It was so tough on him, he fought to the fullest. But along the way, he lost full motivation, he was so empty that he didn't know what to do next to help himself. Two months ago, everything went so bad, we spent so much money just to make sure we keep him a little bit longer. There are days he will wish for death to come take him away. It was so tough to hear this things each time he voices them out.
Early this year, he began losing function in his body. He barely move or even talk as before.. it's just so hard to see someone you grew up to meet strong and lively......someone that had full control of every part of their body.......someone that use to tell good stories now become lifeless. It never came to my mind that August 2nd was going to be the last day that I was going to see my grandparents alive. Grandma was still strong, but the shock of hearing the sad news took her away.
I have gotten over it no doubt, but the good memories still lives in my heart. I will miss them more than when they were still alive.
I am back here, I pray writing articles won't be a problem after today. It's been long I sat down to write, ohhh!!! Poor me.
By for now.... See you around
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In all of this, I am still thankful
Things may look bad, frustrating, pains everywhere, lack of funds to settle my bills, no good job. But in all of this, I am still thankful. Looking around, a lot of people are going through things that are more worst than mine. But they still have reason to smile hoping that things are going to get better soon. I have this woman who just moved into our yard few months ago. She works for a rich family as a caregiver. This morning while she was preparing for work, she saw the another tenant beating her five year old child. When she tried to stop the mum from inflicting more pains on the boy. The boys mum echoed out that the boy is very stubborn, he scatters the house every time, and what not.
The woman smiled and told her that she should be grateful to have a child that is normal on every side, healthy, both mentally and physically fit. While still talking with the boys mum, she said something that broke my heart, I ended up crying in my room this morning. I got to know that she was not employed to give care to an aged person but rather a child of ten years.
She said with a trembling voice how the parents of the boy feel each time they see their son who is suffering from autism and other cognitive issues. Despite all the money they had, they were always sad. They couldn't be around their child because of his condition, that's why they employed her. It's really frustrating as a parent to know that your child will never be able to live on their own, they will never be productive in any way. It is so frustrating as a parent when you realize you will never be able to have a good conversation with your child.
The sins of this family is not that much that they had to find themselves in such situation. I watched a video clip some months back where a child who had brain cancer was told that he has nine days to live. I couldn't stand the tears that dripped down his cheeks. The video was so emotional. As a individual, how will you feel if you're in such a situation. As a parent, how will you feel that after nine days you will say a final goodbye to your child.
But here we are, with sound health, we are normal and healthy in every way. No matter what happens, no matter how the economy of your nation turns out to be. But as long as you wake every morning, be thankful that you can hear with your ears......be thankful that you can see with your eyes......be thankful that you can feel and touch things with your hands. Be thankful for life. We are not magicians to know what will happen the next moment of our lives. You can't tell if you will wake up the next morning, you can't tell if you will return from that trip safely. But in all of this be thankful for the seen and unseen things. Lastly, if you've not yet achieve the goals you set for yourself in first half of the year, do panic, be thankful for every new day you've got which gives you another fresh opportunity to be live that life you've always dreamt of.
Thank you for coming around today. Bye......
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Are you still afraid of the dark?
I believe everyone reading this now had this experience of being afraid of the dark when they were still kids. If you didn't, I did. When I was a kid, I wouldn't accept the idea of spending a night in a room alone. Everyone knew me for this, and this habit eventually earned me the name "fear fear". Some days, when the jokes and laughing is to much to bear, out of anger I will want to sleep alone. But some minutes after, I will find myself outside where other family members are. Back then, no one will dare send me on an errand to get something from a dark room and I will agree to go. No!!!
I use to feel terrified each time I find myself in a dark room. When it's the night hour, my head will be filled with the thoughts of a ghost staring at me or some creepy stuffs like that. This part of my childhood was so difficult to deal with. Even when I shared the room with my siblings, I still had the fear of the dark. Sometimes I will beg them to leave the lights on just so that I can get a good sleep.
All this happened when I was still very young, not now anymore. I have grown above the stage in life where I will be afraid to sleep in a dark room alone. But some adults still fear the dark today, I'm not just saying, it's still happening. One of my relatives can't sleep alone in a room, she will put all the lights on, not because she likes the lights to be on, but because she wants to be sure that something creepy has not crawled under her bed. Spending a night at her place is always a tough decision to make, I personally can't sleep with the lights on. Although I behaved the same way when I was a kid, but not now that I am an adult.
Hope you that is reading this does not behave like that my relative who is still afraid of the dark @ 32. But if you do, you shouldn't hate yourself because of it because I know what it feels like to be in such a situation. It's never too late to fight this fear and send it back to where it came from. One of the most important thing you need to do is changing your mindset. There are other things I feel you should do to fight this fear. I will give a few of them that worked for me. I didn't just stopped being afraid of the dark, I followed a process and I gave me the result I had always wanted. I believe if you follow same process, you will be glad you did. The results will not come even the first week, but constant practice of it will get you what you want.
First thing you need to do is changing your mindset. Change the way you see the dark. One of the reasons the dark appears fearful to you is because you see it as a dreadful moment, mysterious, and other creepy stuffs you might think of. There's no way you can deal with this fear if you don't correct your mind from the negative to the positive. If you can do this first, then you are halfway closer to winning over the fear of the dark.
Don't stress yourself before bedtime. Make sure you give yourself enough time to relax, listen to a cool soft music, fill your mind with the right thoughts. This will help you lessen the anxiety you get when in a dark room. Avoid watching horror movies or TV shows before bedtime. Avoid doing thing that will bring fear upon you at night.
Make your bedroom look more comforting. Use colorful bedspreads, especially the ones with beautiful roses, put things in their right places, use bright painting on the wall. Try to create more space in your bedroom so you can have your eyes on every corner of the room. By doing this you will have less fear even when the lights are put off.
If you are used to sleeping with all the lights on in the room, try to shut off some. Gradually try to put all the lights off some nights. You might not want to put off all the light at once, but dimming the lights in your room and maybe putting all of them off is a great step to overcoming the fear of the dark. It will help you get a better and more deeper sleep than when the lights where all on.
Lastly, if you want to get over the fear of the dark, try to sleep alone in a room. This one seems like the hardest, but try to encourage yourself to at least spend a night alone. If you follow all this processes, you will definitely get over the fear in a short time.
Bye for now .. See you around.
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Just to make more profit and money, risking other peoples lives is absolutely not a good idea
I watched a video yesterday of how a mom was complaining about the carton of juice she bought for her 5 year old son. She said in the video that unlike her she does not bother to check the content of what is inside any of the pack, since it was meant for her sons lunch at school, she will put them there and it's only the boy that knows what he drinks when he gets to school. But that day was different, she decided to have one pack for herself. On opening the juice, she found out that it was something else inside. She screamed, and she went ahead to check other pack to be sure. It was a great shock to her that the ten packs of juice she opened where all the same. The next thing that came out from her mouth was, "Is this what my boy has been drinking in school". The video went viral and I believed that company will be sued for putting peoples health at risk.
Aside the juice, other edible products are being adulterated. Nowadays, because of greed companies have decided to adulterate their products. And this people forget that infants also consume some of this products. Food is one of the most important thing for human survival. But unfortunately, the hunger for getting rich quick and the hatred towards another race has led poor and innocent people to consume food products, medicine, and drinks that has been adulterated.
What do we really mean by something being adulterated.
When a product is consciously lowered in production quality either by using inferior ingredients or extracting important ingredients from the product. Looking at the area of food. Food is said to be adulterated if harmful substances, and inferior ingredients that affects the quality of the food are being used in production.
Some production companies and individuals have become so wicked that they now indulge in this act of adulterating their products, and this is not safe for the consumers. Severally it has been reported how people stay at the comfort of their homes and produce some of this items that humans consumes almost everyday. Products like creams, medicines, paste, canned foods, drinks, and other food items. Some times the stomach upset you suffer my be as a result of consuming some of this products that are not made the in right way.
A lady was complaining to her friend the other day that the new cream she bought from a local store is itching her allover the face. I suggested to her that she has gotten the wrong product. It could be that the cream has been adulterated. Adulterated products especially food items is very dangerous to the human health since it lacks the right properties to aid proper growth of the consumer. Some of the cases of cancer in the hospital is as a result of consuming adulterated food over a period of time.
Adulteration of food items is the greatest evil any company or individual will do to the society. Despite the laws and punishments, this heartless people still go ahead to hide and do what they feel it is good for them forgetting about the menace they are creating. Such people that indulges in such an evil act shouldn't go unpunished.
Companies and individuals who go into this act just have one thing in mind, "To make quick money, and that's it". How sweet is it that because of money you risk other peoples lives which is absolutely not a good idea.
Since this companies don't want to do the right things, people should be careful of the consumable products they buy both in supermarkets or online stores. Check for standards mark on the pack of the product you re buying, like in my country it is SON, checking the manufacturing and expiry date is also important. If you can't find any of this on the pack of the product, just avoid and report it to the right agencies. Health they say is wealth....... So eat healthy, and remain healthy...
Thank you for coming around today. I know very well that I have not been consistent in writing articles everyday, but pls pardon me cos I have a whole lot of personal stuffs to attend to. Signing out now, till some other time. Bye
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Stop worrying much about things and start living that life that's best for you
Yesterday, I was opportune to meet one of my very good friends from my former church, Marvelous. She invited me over to her place since it was very close to where we met. We've not seen ourselves for about a year now, but that moment it felt like we've not seen each other for a decade. We talked about so many things, like how's life and the rest of other things worth talking about. I noticed something different in Marvelous, she wasn't bright as before. She hardly smile, she looked more older than her actual age. I needed to now how life has been with her.
She's always open and truthful. She went ahead to tell me that she going through a lot. It is either she is troubled about what people thinks about her, or she spend too much time worrying about other people life. And immediately it came up me that sometimes we forget about our own life and focus on other peoples life. We tend to worry more over the unseen things, spend more time thinking about the future and yet still we can't lay our hands on those things.
Time they say waits for no one. No one is capable of staying forever in the present, when lost, it is lost forever. Like in some instances where you are having a conversation with someone, and after you've finished with what you were saying you discover that all this while their mind was somewhere else, thinking about a different thing entirely. This people are not fully committed to the present. If I may ask..... What is that thing you are worrying about? Is everything you are worried about worth it? Those things that have made you loose your mind, are the more important than your present?
Often time we spend more time on things that on a normal day wouldn't add any value to our lives. We allow ourselves to give importance to irrelevant people and things to take control of our mind. And this makes us to lose focus of who we really are. How important and unique we are.
Stop worrying much about things and start living that life that's best for you. Give more attention to yourself first before you think of bringing others into the plan. Don't see it as selfishness, it is self-love. Don't give attention to the negative feedbacks people give about you, it's just their opinion and their way of life. Since this set of people find comfort in giving bad opinions of you, you can't really change who they are. People see things differently, everybody have their own definition of what life is.
Two students gave opinions about their maths teacher, one saw a good teacher and the other saw a wicked teacher who gives loads of assignments on Fridays. Peoples perceptions are different, so what you do is all the situation to flow. If all you do everyday is spend more time in thinking about others and what they will say about you, at the end of the day you will only be frustrated and left with stress. The only worthy thing you can think of is your present, because you own the moment and it somehow visible to you.
If you wish good things for yourself, Stop worrying much about things and start living that life that's best for you. Make time for yourself that you can do the things you love freely. Do what your strength can carry, start living the kind of life that will be of great benefit to you. You have the keys to your happiness, it's now left for you to unlock every door of happiness in your life.
***We are coming to the end of the age. In fact we are at the end of the age. And there is a pull like in the days of Noah. There's a pull for everyone to go the way of the world, but there's also a high calling... there's a calling for men to go against the tide, for men to walk with God... And every man in this hour that will walk with God they will carry dimensions of God that have never been seen on planet earth before. Because God is about to cloth this earth with His glory. And is going to manifest to principalities and powers the manifold wisdoms of God through His elect and select. There's a call coming out to you to up the tempo. Press in and make God your best friend.***
Thank you for visiting today. Signing out now till some other time. Bye
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Dreaming to be a child again!
Each time I watch the kids in my yard having some good time , I am always tempted to think if going back to being a child. Despite how good and not too good my childhood was, I wish I could go back there a second time. Have you ever had this kind of thought before?
Read through some of my childhood memories. You can share yours in the comment section.
**Who was your best childhood friend? Write about some of the fun things you used to do together?**
Jennifer and I have been friends since from childhood, and we were about the same age. She's just few months ahead of me. She had this sweet looking face with the prettiest smile ever. We had so much fun together. Our friendship brought both families together and we became one family. I mentioned in my first article here that I love dogs.... Yeah!! Jennifer made me love them. Our friendship grew to the point that we became so close until people began to see us as sisters. Our friendship seemed to have ended when her family relocated to another state, but thank God for social media. We got back together around 2012. The most fun thing we use to do together was communicating in a language no one else understands. We never missed watching cartoons together, and we have this way of always laughing out loud.
**When you were little, did you ever try to run away from home? What made you want to leave? What did you pack?**
Very well. There were days I will be so frustrated that I will have the thought of leaving the house at my age. It wasn't my fault though. When I was a child, I use to hate anything medicine. My parents will always force me and my siblings to take drugs when we show any sign of illness. I wanted to run away from such a life completely. As a child I then, I focused more on the now and not the future. So packing some of my stuffs an running away was not on my mind.
**Did you have your own bedroom growing up, or did you share with a sibling?**
No! Me and my siblings share the same room. We loved it that way, to be together. I personally could not sleep alone in a room, so there was no need to ask for a special room. But as we grew up, the girls have their own separate room, same with the boys. Now I can confidently sleep alone in a room with fear.
**Have you ever needed stitches, broken a bone, or been hospitalized?**
No.... I have never broken any of my bones before, not even getting a stitch on any part of my body. My mom use to tell me that I was so strong as a child. Not for one day has she spent a night in the hospital. Every illness I had then was always cure from the drugs they will buy from the pharmacy. No hospital.
**Did you grow up with family traditions? Describe one**
My nuclear family had a good number of traditions. I grew up to like some of them. The ones I disliked so much was no playing of circular music on Sundays. My family is just too religious.... I grew up to see my parents as givers, and they made it as a tradition that we as their children must learn how to give even when we have very little. And because of how generous my family was, people loved visiting our house.... You know the other side of the story ....
**What are your happiest childhood memories?**
I still wonder how this became one of the happiest memories. Receiving money from visitors or any of our relatives that visits our house. I never used the money to buy things for myself, my mom will take it from me the moment the visitor leaves. But then I was always happy.
I wish I could turn the hand of time back to when I was a child. I miss a so much about it.
***We are coming to the end of the age. In fact we are at the end of the age. And there is a pull like in the days of Noah. There's a pull for everyone to go the way of the world, but there's also a high calling... there's a calling for men to go against the tide, for men to walk with God... And every man in this hour that will walk with God they will carry dimensions of God that have never been seen on planet earth before. Because God is about to cloth this earth with His glory. And is going to manifest to principalities and powers the manifold wisdoms of God through His elect and select. There's a call coming out to you to up the tempo. Press in and make God your best friend.***
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Make time for the things you love doing
I read a post from @pejudear, how our stress buster is a blessing to us. Everything she said was so correct. I love dancing right from when I was still very young, and through dancing I have smiled back home several times. I was always waiting to be invited to a birthday party, school end of the term party, naming ceremony, children programs in the church, etc. Each time I go to parties like this, I will always come back with gifts I won in dancing. I could remember, I was invited to a party, and throughout the whole agenda of the party, there was no time for dancing competition. I became so angry the moment they said the closing prayer. Like did the organizers of the party noticed my presence? Or is it that they did not have enough gifts still left?. I consoled myself and left the party venue sad. But after that day I made up my mind that I wouldn't stop dancing because I wasn't given any gift in the last party I attended, and also I am growing older which means that I won't be running around for petty gifts anymore.
It was just like a dream, and until I fell in love with dancing I didn't know. It is something I have been engaging myself with since when I was a child. Truth be told, I love dancing. Anywhere I go I carry it in my heart. At my free time I try to do what I love doing and this comes together with good music. When this two meets, it's always a glorious experience.
Everyone of us here has something that brings joy, charges you up, gives you happiness from within. We all have amazing stress busters like @pejudear will call it. Some people are aware of it, while some don't even give attention to even think that they have an hobby. Every hobby is a blessing, nourishing our hobbies is very important because at some point in our lives we will need them to either relax our minds or to let go some of life's problems. A persons hobby is capable enough of bringing peace and comfort to both the body and the soul. And because of how things are in our world today, a lot of people place their hobbies at the last page of their plans for each day.
It is so good that you give more time to your career, family, job, etc. But sparing some quality time for your hobbies balance it well. A lot of things has taken our free time like the advanced tech gadgets we have now. My grandma use to tell us that when she was a child, she loved knitting, and that was her hobby. She enjoyed doing it so much. It is so disappointing that it isn't so now. Advanced tech devices has eaten into our free time. We really need to make time for our hobbies, enhance them. We can't afford to let our hobbies die off. Let's be intentional in engaging in the things we love doing. Do let people talk you out from doing what you love doing. Some times people can be the reason why you are not giving attention to your hobbies. Next time they try to speak bad about what you love doing, walk away and never argue with them.
Your hobby is what makes you genuinely feel alive every moment you are involved in it.
Good luck... You got this.
Thank you for coming around today. To my beautiful sponsors, I love you all. Till some other time. Bye...
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Have you helped someone today?
I wasn't planning on writing anything for today. But someone special here changed my mind. I have been a user here almost a week now, I was still getting familiar with some of the things on the platform. But I was missing a very important part, "The sponsorship block". I use to see it on other peoples articles, I was always curious to know why I don't have it on my own article, but at some point I gave up on the quest. Was only hoping that as I become more active, it will appear on its own.
But today, someone helped me to know that I needed to activate it myself. I really appreciate @Lixten for his concern and love, he showed up when I had already loose hope on it. Having a sponsor just after one week of becoming member is giving me so much joy right now. I don't know how to say it, but to be very sincere, I am so happy for it. At last, my time here is not wasted. I have people who are following me, liking my work, and even going extra mile to sponsor from their own wallets. Let me also use this opportunity to appreciate my subscribers, every one of you are so amazing. Having 11 subscribers in just one week is mind blowing. The number is small but it means a whole lot to me.
Have you helped someone today?
No form of help is small. It may look small to you, but to the other person you have done remarkable thing in their life. You have succeeded in making a difference in someone's else's life that day. If you are in a right spot to help someone, don't hesitate or hold it back. Extend it out because you don't know who to will be inspiring to follow suit. I am so surprised that I got a second sponsorship from @Wrinkle few minutes after @Lixten walked me through on how to activate my sponsorship block. You see what I told you, you might just be an inspiration to others who weren't givers to start giving.
You can make helping someone a habit. Including it in your everyday routine will be a nice thing to do. Depending on your capacity and strength, you can choose to do it daily or weekly. Whether you help by giving someone your pen in the bank, buy a plate of food for a homeless child, or helping an aged woman cross the road, it doesn't matter, putting a smile on another person's face is what matters. And this in turn makes you feel good about yourself. As you wake up every morning, see yourself helping people you've not met before. This can help boost your habit of helping people.
Helping others does not benefit the receiver only, it also benefits you in the sense that it makes you feel happy. Helping other people is like planting a tree at the river side. If you help the right way by not asking for anything in return, you have succeeded in securing a better future for yourself cos the people you help today might show up for you when you need help too.
Thank you for coming around today. Signing out now, see you next time. Bye...
If you are given the opportunity, what will you do?
With the recent happenings in the world today, countries fighting against each other, corruption, child trafficking, racism, tribal killings, people are starving to death, lives are wasting away in pointless wars, rape cases is growing on daily basis, and so many others. I felt so bad after browsing through the Google this afternoon. No day passes without bad news, and people don't feel safe anymore. If you get to watch the news, you will get to see the damages that is already happening in the world. After spending close to four hours on Google, I came across this lines of words which caught my attention, "If you ran your country, what will you do?". I stayed on it for some time trying to picture myself in the position where I am running the affairs of the whole world from an office.
Coming back to my country setting, I have never seen a woman become president, so it looks so impossible if a bigger position like running the country can be given to a woman. This is what people fail to understand, they look down on the person and what they are capable of doing and focus more on the gender and the cash they will get thereafter.
If I am given the opportunity to run my country, what will I do? I am personalizing it, you're also free to air your own opinion in the comment section.
Everything I will say after now are just my own opinion and nothing attached to it. If you feel offended at some point, I apologize for it.
Like the office of the president of a country, it will be a huge responsibility to run the world. There are a lot of things I will change or implement if given the opportunity to run my country.
The right to freedom of speech will be taken into consideration if I happen to run the world. Each individual is allowed to air their own opinions related to any subject topic freely. Giving such opportunity to the people will make them believe in the the society. Despite the fact that one is a banker, student, teacher, nurse, doctor, architect, businessman, housewife, a white, a black etc, freedom of speech will be given to everyone.
A leader who fails in this aspect will always have a problem. The same attention I give to women, I will do some to the men. The same attention I give to the rich, I will do same to the poor. No one will be discriminated. Not in our world to that women are being looked down upon when it comes handling some offices, it's always the work of the man. That wouldn't be so if I run my country, I will treat everyone equally. Not every time the rich, I will also give the opportunity to the lower class citizens to play vital roles in the society, good schools, hospitals, will be built for them. If everyone is educated, then expect a kind of country that wouldn't lack behind in any aspect.
I will make great impact by bettering the lives of the people. I am in the position where I was meant to serve the people and not the people serving me. Instead of dashing people money, I will empower them by giving out grants, help the younger ones who are out of school to acquire good skills because I personally believes in self-sustenance, and making jobs available for the unemployed.
I will create awareness in the area of agriculture. Outreaches will be organized for the people in the rural areas to see agriculture as a prime occupation. I will make sure grants are given to farmers, seedlings, fertilizer, modern day farm machineries.
I will make sure every corrupt leader working under me does not go unpunished. Every looted funds recovered will be sent into the accounts of charity homes and this funds will be monitored to avoid it being misused or looted. Poor widows will get surplus food stuffs from it also. I will not overlook the aspect of security. I will employ competent hands to head position that has to do with security of the nation. Modern facilities, equipments will be provided to fight insecurity in the country.
All of this might look so simple but impossible to do. But if I am given the opportunity to run my country, I will put in all my best to make sure my country stands out as the best amongst others.
What will you do if given the opportunity to run your country?
Thank you for your time today. Signing out not, till some other time. Bye
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How you THINK matters a lot
Positive thinking will let you do everything better than negative thinking will.
- Zig Ziglar https://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/zig_ziglar_125675?src=t_thinking
Ever since I signed up on this platform, today is my worst day ever. It is not about the platform, but my commitment towards it. I have been so lazy today that I did not create time for myself to engage with other users here. I don't want it to repeat itself again, so I am making some plans that will favor me. I slept for 6 hours straight today, this is something that has never occurred since I came on board. I really need to do something about it before it becomes an habit that I wouldn't be able to correct later in the future. I really missed everything that happened here during the time I was offline, lots of notifications to check, and I hope I will be able to visit every post before I am caught up in sleep again. It's 10:11 pm as at the time I am writing this article, I don't wish to sleep early today, setting an alarm for the next 6 hours, and I hope I will be able to stay awake till that time.
So sorry for whiling away your time with my bored personal issues. Today I will talk about a different thing entirely, " The way we think". The way we think matters a lot, some of the actions we take in life is as a result of our thoughts. If what we think in a day plays around disappointments, sadness, and stress, then we are automatically telling ourselves that we can't achieve anything good for that day. The way we think, how we think, and what we are thinking about really matters in every individuals life. It is a wide topic to talk about, but I will only touch a smaller part of it today.
Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.
- Marcus Aurelius https://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/marcus_aurelius_386395?src=t_thinking
Our thoughts have a way of influencing us and all what we do in our daily lives. We tend give different interpretation to every little thing that is happening around us, and we try to suit ourselves into this interpretation making it look so true, when most of the time they are not. It's our environment influencing us. So it's high time as individuals to make a huge change to the way we think. Whatever happens around us shouldn't influence our thoughts in a negative way. It may take a longer time to achieve this if you have already configured your mind to always think that way. But it is so possible to make a change after now.
So many things may happen in our personal lives, families, and sometimes we listen to some conversations from different people and after sometime we begin to come up with different meanings and perceptions to what happened and what people said and keep it within us for a long time. In moments like this, take your time to reconsider everything all over again so you won't be making the wrong decision later in the future. Our thoughts should be filled with ideas on how to work things out the right way and not the other way around.
**VERDICT**
Our decisions, and actions are as a result of what we think. How we think will give us an advantage over the next person. It is a necessity that we train our minds to think positive and not negative. The product of our thought is capable of making us and also destroying us. Choose wisely.
Thank you for your time today. It's been a pleasure to have you around. See you next time. Bye
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Anyone can be a father, but it takes someone very special to be one
It's Father's day today.... Yeah!!!!! A day set aside to appreciate them for all the good works they have done over the months, years, and days. If there's anybody who plays a very big role in the life of children is the father, he is like a key head of the family. On behalf of this great community, we say to every father, or yet to be father that we all love you, and wish you the best in the coming days. On this day, carved out to celebrate every father, I will use the same opportunity to celebrate my role model, my popsi, my sugar...... Don't mind me, I love calling my father sweet names, cos he is a sweet father as well.
Short Message To That Special Man: My Father
In the next life, I will always choose you as my father, your little princess is so happy to have you as one of those people God sent to groom her to become a great personality in the future. Outside the husband I will marry, you will always remain the most amazing man I have known. I will always call you a good choice maker anywhere I go. You made the right choice by taking my beloved mother as your wife. Mistake is far from you when it has everything to do with your family.
You've always shown me the right path to follow, even when I am stubborn, you know how to get me to listen to you. How so special you are my Father. You won't watch me do the wrong just because you want to please me as your daughter. Every time you've always taught me to do the right things. Most times when I think I am doing the right thing, but no. You will show up to correct me, you are so supportive. You are an embodiment of bravery, through the love you showered on me all this years, I have learned how to be brave also.
No matter how occupied my mind will be, I will always value and treasure those moments I spent with you while growing up. I am so delighted to have you as my father. Thank you for believing in me, even in my weak moments, you always have me the reason to keep on moving forward and not stop.
How I wish you are here with me while typing this, I would have love to take a photo of you and show to my amazing friends so they can see this amazing and special person I am preaching about. I so wish I can spoil you today with so many good things. Every male child I will have in this life, I will wish them to be like you because your are an amazing person.
I have known you to be a strong person, but you hate to see me cry. This is your weakness, and I am sorry if I have caused you pains through my childish behavior. You are that special one I will always choose to be my father. I will never get tired or bored along the way. Dad I love you so much. I have a lot to say, but I don't want to get my friends bored with a long message.
You deserve an award of the best dad ever. Love you......
To my virtual friends, my father is so special, but so sorry you are only limited to read about him for now.
Thank you for reading. Happy Fathers day..... Signing out for now, hope to see you next time...
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Green tea is a great choice! But take it in moderation
Have you heard of green tea before, or you are just hearing it for the first time?
As a lover of food, and also a kind that is so obsessed in eating healthy diets, I always consider green tea to be part of my meal ones every week. I don't skip a week without taking Twinnings green tea. My parents made me love green tea, and twinning green tea is the choice of the family. When I need to relax my nerves, I get a cup of green tea and it solves the problem for me. Packed with antioxidants, I feel good and relaxed each time I drink green tea. People have really gotten to know about the super health benefits of green tea, and this is making it grow in popularity.
It is widely accepted that green tea was first steeped in 2737 BC during the reign of Emperor Shennong – a mythical sage and a popular figure in the mythology of Chinese agriculture and medicine.
Green tea has this sweet flavor that when taken for the first time, you will love it so much that you will want to include it in your daily meal plan. Is green tea really good for you? Green tea is packed with a lot of amazing health benefits like, reduces the risk of having heart disease, helps in improving mental clarity, helps in weight loss, and reduces the risk of having cancer. The best time I enjoy taking green tea is in the morning before breakfast, and I prefer it hot. It can be prepared in two ways, either cold or hot. I stay 20 minutes before I eat breakfast after taking twinnings green tea. There's nothing attached to this, I just choose to make it that way for myself. I love taking it on Mondays. I don't know why I choose Monday to be the day, but it feels good when taken on the first day of the week.
Anyhow you want to enjoy it, you are so free, and it's not an obligation that it must be taken in the mornings. You might chose to take it before you go to bed, or in the afternoon. Any how it suits you, you are so free to enjoy the tasty drink.
In my journey of enjoying this tasty drink, I have seen the benefits of taking it. It is packed with antioxidants that helps fight against free radicals in the human body. For those looking for faster results of loosing weight, taking 3-4 cups of green tea of your preferred flavor daily will help you loose weight fast. Green tea is just so good for our health. Another of it's benefit is building our immune system. If you are scared of having wrinkles, green tea is always there for you. You get a glowing skin if you make green tea a routine. Before my mom in particular started consuming green tea, she was always complaining of having oily skin, but after consuming green tea for some time she noticed that it really helped to remove excess oil from her body.
No matter how good something is, too much of it will always have a side effect on the consumer. Most people because of the delicious flavor of green tea, they drink more than what they should have consumed and this in turn affects their health. Normally 3-5 cups of green tea is recommended, anything more than that is not advisable.
Considering the amazing health benefits of green tea, it is necessary to also consider its sides effects. This side effects will not occur if the tea is taken in moderation, but outside that one will suffer few effects from it like headaches, and insomnia. So green tea is a good beverage, but don't abuse it to avoid multiple side effects.
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Shivaz.
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