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Motivation: The Driving Force
I was observing my health yesterday as I developed temperature, my body was feeling hot, coupled with headache and my eyes were hurting me. I don´t know if it is due to the harmattan season or stressing my eyes in front of the system. I took some paracetamol and also shut down my system. Health is wealth, they say. While strolling on my phone yesterday, I checked nairaland.com and I saw a particular post from a guy advising ladies not to get married not until they have one million or even 500,000 naira which is approximately $1000 or more.
This made me remember this guy because he looks familiar on a Whatsapp status where he was kind of giving advice to young guys including ladies to get out of their parents´ home at the age of 25 or below. Inasmuch as it sounds like an advice or motivation if I want to call it, it is wrong to do that. This is what has led many people take the wrong step to make money because they want to be rich at a young age, they don´t want to listen to insult especially from their parents. There was a movie I watched, the guy was the eldest and his mother frustrated him to look for money and to do what his mates are doing. The guy left home and did money ritual, he was bringing money home. He killed his younger sister and was about to kill his mother when the secret was exposed. He said his mother caused it by driving him to do what he never planned doing. Every parent should support their children and not let their motivation be a driving force into the wrong path. When a child isn´t successful as you expected, unless the child is lazy himself or herself, there should be support and not sending them out to do what others are doing. Doing what others are doing has led many people regretted it today and destroy their destinies. I looked at the guy saying young children should try in one way to get out from their parents´ home at a particular age. Though it is true that one will never stay in his or her parent´s house forever but not when people are saying it in the wrong way or motive. Many children are making it while still in their parents´ house and they find their way. It is in our culture that we think it´s a taboo or bad luck to still be under your parent´s roof without doing anything, and it is also worse when parents are the driving force to make them do otherwise into making money. This guy that was saying people should have millions or 500,000 naira before getting married is still a bachelor and according to some comments, one said there´s no relationship record of him. Well, I don´t want to know but my question is ***“has he not made more than millions himself? Why hasn´t he married yet?”*** Money doesn´t guarantee marriage. Whether you have millions or not, marriage should not be based on that. I am not saying money is not good, but when someone is giving you a stipulated amount for you to get married, it is wrong. A man may have billions, when he is not ready for marriage, he will not take such steps. Waiting to have much money in your account before getting married is like you expecting a car to arrive before preparing for a journey, you will not move anywhere except you plan for the journey. When you have a stable job that is paying well and you are ready for marriage, you are good to go. The guy thought he has motivated people but what if people are tempted to find this money at all means and got this million, when they get married, won´t they regret it later*? "Afterall it is when you have millions or 500,000 naira, you can get married."* People will definitely capitalize on him and his word which is wrong. He is supposed to say, they should try to get a stable job. *"All we dream and think about in this god damn country is money money money. You would think we are the richest people in the world and money is flowing in every corner of the country..* *They keep mentioning millions like one can just wake up and make it, not knowing their words of motivation is a driving force for criminal intent in young boys especially yahoo boys. We are too unnecessarily vain in this country. That's why most of us celebrate almost everything ranging from building a house, buying an iphone and buying a car."* This is one of the comments and I agree with him. Money isn't grown anywhere and making money is not easy. And for you to think building a house, owning a car has guarantee you a happy marriage, you are deceiving yourself. You can have all these and still do not have the prerequisites to getting married. *"My mother always tells me, "Son if you have not finish feeding your self don't go and carry somebody daughter to marry. Because you can't feed her, soon a child will come in what will you do? "Marriage is not an easy job. It takes readiness to venture into it. From monetary wise, physiological fit, spiritual fit and all the essential fits I didn't mention. cheesy.* *Forgot all this yeye advice of hitting millions before marriage. If you are well to do marry simple!"* Here is another comment too which I think it's also good. Though many people with different views to the statement. I saw other comments supporting the guy and telling all ladies to have money up to that amount. Yes, it is true because if you do not plan before entering into marriage, it will be a disaster but when someone is motivating or advising without emphasizing on his word for better understanding, people will misunderstand and take the wrong step. You must be fit in all areas to be eligible for marriage. A lunatic person can never go into marriage. A rich but aggressive fellow who cannot control his emotion cannot venture into marriage. A billionaire without wisdom cannot enter into marriage. It takes one who is physically, emotionally, spiritually and financially fit or stable to get married. Without these qualifications, I am sorry, your money is nothing to help the home. If you read to this stage, thank you so much. I appreciate it. Photo by: Mufid Majnun on Unsplash https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1604156425963-9be03f86a428?ixlib=rb-1.2.1&ixid=MnwxMjA3fDB8MHxzZWFyY2h8Nnx8bW9uZXl8ZW58MHx8MHx8&auto=format&fit=crop&w=700&q=60 [January 05, 2021] (No 5 article)
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Why involve money in everything if we can live a simple life?. Why do ladies need to have that huge money? guys should have that before marriage 🤣🤣
Hehehe! I think the second comment says it all. If you are okay and living a simple life and also understand what it takes to go into marriage, then such a person is ready indeed.
It is one thing to have a million before marriage, and another to spend 800K out of that million you have on your wedding ceremony. Many people spend so much on weddings that I wonder if they save up for the ceremony only or life after
Hmm.... you can imagine how crazy the world is, as tho the marriage is more important than the life after
I know right. It is crazy
Many people prefer showing off in their wedding forgetting that there is life in marriage and it´s forever.
He is just making mouth, not motivation
I hope so 😁
However we see it or whatever anyone says, money does not guarantee success in .arrange and if any one is saying that one must have certain amount of money before getting married, well, it's obvious he has not seen billionaires turn to beggers after marriage.
Exactly! Marriage is not all about having millions or trillions. Thank you.
Money has been a strong driving force in our society, and this has led many young people to making the wrong decision, I remember a guy that stays in his parent house, they have him a room in their rented apartment but he felt they are monitoring him, how senseless, he own a fashion design shop which he doesn't pay for cause his parent own it, he went ahead to rent a room not too far from his parent house, I will say, just 60steps away from his home, and I was like, so what's the point, they can still see him anytime they want, he has wasted money to find money with he has no plan on how to make it. If he had stayed in his parents place and with his shop, there is always chance for improve and wedding will come and things will be settled
He could have been enjoying free rent in his parent´s house but he choose to go his own way.He will see the difference na
Sure he will, and he has started already, probably it was the fun he was looking for and it won't last
Marriage requires wisdom, knowledge and both physical, emotional, spiritual and financial stabilities before getting into it. If one lacks anyone of this qualities before getting married I don’t think he would enjoy the marriage for real. But most especially this qualities are required in a man.
It all seems that these days, everything is now being said to be money money money all the time and it is very pathetic. Though I encourage all women to make money but not to have a certain amount of money before marriage as it appears everything in life is money driven
You are right. A woman cannot be a liability after all but not when people will be telling you the amount to have for marriage. That is nonsense.
I got really focused with this coz the journey always starts and end somewhere… there are so many lessons in this write up but the part that got my attention is spending all the money even before the real business of the day starts, marriage is a no joke zone and anyone planning towards that must see through where he or she is right now to where they intend taking the whole thing too… one thing to realize is that the journey is too far.. You’d see homes wrecked because of no single planning…
They need to think about the journey ahead my dear. Thank you for your contribution.
These so called celebs have really pushed a lot of people into trouble.. Those that listen to their words of course. Most of them do not even mean what they are saying, they are just talking in order to remain relevant as thats what showbiz is all about. But some dimwitted fans would still follow them as if they don't have a brain of their own.
Don´t mind them. Perhaps he might be catching cruise with it but some people would take it serious.
You're right friend... Money isn't the only qualification to get married... Happy holidays...
There are so many people on social media giving such bad advice to people. Everything in life must have a balance in order to be done harmoniously.
You are right. People shouldn´t follow everything the social media is saying, most of them aren´t real.
People mistook the idea of marriage. Instead of basing it in love or Creator's will, they usually based it on the amount of money that they have. Though it is a good thing to be practical, but it isn't still good to think that way.
You are very right. Only God has the say though and He may even bless you beyond that too.
Money is not just everything. I wonder why people put money first in everything. Money is good But the way people mix it with marriage seems to let people marry the money and not the marriage. I still don't blame them because it is from what they see from the screen that reshapes their mind thinking.
Money is not everything, eventhough you got the money of the whole world if you don't have the satisfaction then you can't be happy. Money is not just the key to marriage, it is important but love is more important. You can find money everywhere but you can't find authentic and real happiness everywhere
Absolutely true! You just said it all. Thank you so much.
People do not realise that there is a difference between encouraging someone to be better and pushing someone to do something they don't want to do. The latter can have dire consequences
You are very right.
Money can't buy true love. Money doesn't make a marriage last, if it were so millionaire and billionaires won't need to divorce at all
Exactly. It is not all about money but having the right state of mind about marriage.
Lol. There's nothing we would not see in the name of motivation. Let him show me his account first and I'll ask him why he is still unmarried.
😂Don´t mind him. His motivation will drive some to take the wrong path.
That's how some people will fall victim of this in the name of motivation. Like, fine, a lady should have money and not be solely dependent on the guy, but it shouldn't be an amount they can't afford. And marriages shouldn't be by age. Even if I have up to that before my wedding I'm not spending it on the wedding but my life after the big day.
You are right sis. Marriage continues forever. Thank you for stopping by.
Me like this, I've washed off my hand from anything called motivational talks. I don't fancy a bit of it anymore cause they'd make someone to go astray. This is the kinda talks that pushes Ladies to go and flock around yahoooo boys just to hit it. So bad
Exactly and we are seeing the end result.
A firm advice to us young lads everywhere ...never be in a haste and do things based on what people egged you on for ... hope you feel better now ? Isn't using paracetamol a self medication, it wrong 😂
Paracetamol only relieves pain 😁 thank you for the care too.
One thing my cousin sister tells me always is that money is not the root of a happy home. It is needed but you can be rich and unhappy. Foundation of marriage shouldn't be built on Money. Thanks
Wonderful! Thank you for this. People really need to understand this.
Motivational speakers?🤣 Well, they might actually be of good sometimes but we should be out own first motivation
You are right too. After all we can follow what our hearts tells us.
Marriage isn't even on my mind for now, in fact I've never been in a relationship and will not until I have more than enough money. After all I do not intend to suffer with anyone's daughter...lol.
😂 Nobody likes to suffer na