Valentine Special.
I didn't want to write about this but I just felt I should share my view on this. I am not trying to please or convince those who are indifferent about it nor am I validating those who believe in it. I believe we all have our reasons for doing things and not doing them. Everyone for himself or herself as they seem fit because it's not about what works for others but about what works for you.
I was never a Valentine person either while growing up and that was largely because I focused on my pocket. I try to shy away from it forgetting that love is about sacrifice. I just do the little I can do but deep down I knew it wasn't sacrificial but love is about being sacrificial. If it is something you can do comfortably then anyone else could have done it but when we do that little bit extra without "killing" ourselves for it, I believe that's what counts.
Over the years I have changed my mentality regarding Valentine. On the other hand, I've always wondered why I have to wait a day before showing appreciation for those who matter to me. That was one of the major reasons why I didn't fancy Valentine while growing up apart from the money aspect anyway. I got to understand over the years that it's not just about waiting for that one day to celebrate them but it's about seizing that one day to let them know how special they are in case we haven't said it or done it enough.
Some might say they don't need to do it that one day since they always show it to their spouse, yes, you might be right, but it's not surprising why people complain that motivation doesn't last for long just as bathing and that's why we recommend it every day or in this case, from time to time. Yes, we don't need a particular day to celebrate it but for someone who understands value and appreciation, I don't think you would want an opportunity to pass by without showing those who matter to you that you care.
That thought changed me while growing up and that's why I tried to reach out to my friends and those who matter to me with gifts and appreciation from time to time. Yes, I don't have to wait for a particular day but I still won't let that particular day pass by without showing them even though I've shown them over the years how much they mean to me. I believe this is just a reality check for us to place our priorities right, hence, Valentine.
A lot of people have redefined what Valentine is all about. It aches my heart to see ladies think they are only supposed to expect gifts on Valentine without them also giving out gifts. It goes both ways and if we say it's a season for love, does that mean that love has to go one-sided? Most ladies focus solely on receiving that day while very few extend their hand of love too and that's sad. It's not a "man thing" but a "love thing" so as a lady, don't just expect, do something too.
Most ladies would tell you it's because they have nothing at hand but you had the whole year to at least show some thoughts to another person who matters to you. It's not about that day alone but what you have been doing leading up to that moment. There is no excuse for failing to do your part because it's not a day that showed up as a surprise either, you knew right from time and you have to play your part.
Another thing that aches my heart is when most people think it's about lovers alone. I get it, the story was the story of a lover but we don't have to heap unnecessary pressure on ourselves because we don't want to feel left out so we accept the love of another man or woman before Valentine's Day. A lot of people have gotten their hearts shattered all because of the pressure to have a partner before Valentine's Day.
Over the years I've had single friends who I reached out to during Valentine and I don't have to be romantically involved with them before I let them know they are loved. Most people shout "single people like us" before Valentine but it's never about your status but it has everything to do with your heart to love; it could be your siblings, it could be a close friend... It's the thoughts that matters not what society dictates.
You can call up your friend and go on a Valentine's Day cruise with that person. You don't have to ignite a love feeling that isn't there all because you don't want to feel left out. It's about appreciating those who matter to you because trust me, any human would go to where they are celebrated rather than where they are tolerated. What you don't appreciate won't gravitate towards you and that's a fact.
It's never about the magnitude of the gifts or the gesture but it's solely about the thought behind it...letting someone know that you are one of the beautiful parts of their lives and they are of yours. Make someone feel that special effect this season and it's not supposed to be a one-off but it's what we should learn to do over the years too, consistently since we would always have things to celebrate and we don't also have to wait for a particular celebration too, just show kindness regardless and let those who matter to you feel loved.
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Valentines day wasn't meant for married couples alone. As a single you can as well celebrate it with your neighbors, co-workers, friend, or even your family. Taking your dad and mom out for dinner and have a good and memorable loving time with them wouldn't be a bad idea. Same with your friends.
It shouldn't be centered on married couples or lovers alone, it can be celebrated with anyone you cherish and love.