The Way Some People Think.
When it comes to a relationship, you don’t have to go into it when you are not ready. In a relationship, you have to give as much as you take if you want to keep your relevance.
If you are the type, that wants to always receive and never give anything back, then the relationship is not for you...yet. You can’t love without giving and as long as you are not offering better value then it is a matter of time before that relationship hits the rock.
So many people have a weird idea of what a relationship should be all about. To some, they always have to be at the receiving end which doesn't make for a healthy relationship because let's face it, we are all humans and even the best of heads can get tired sometimes.
I came across a story on Twitter many years ago and as usual, it was shocking. She said she accepted the proposal from his boyfriend and they are now engaged. She said her boyfriend, now fiancée has been driving a particular car for 4 years and in all honesty, the driver’s seat is bad. I saw it too and it was an eyesore. She said she told him to change the car but the guy said all he has money for right now is for their wedding and not for a new car.
The guy is working; he is loving and okay, according to the lady. She said she once told him to at least buy a seat cover for the seat with the hole but he said he only has money for the wedding and the car or seat cover can come later. She went on about how she is always ashamed when they both go out together in that car and how she sometimes doesn’t want to leave the car or be identified with this man.
Her dilemma is she is thinking of returning the guy’s proposal ring if he is not willing to fix the car seat or buy a new car. She said she is a Corp member and she is tired of the embarrassment the car seat is causing anytime they go out. Some people won't stop to amaze me.
When I read her tweet, I was just shaking my head. This is a lady that will sit back and watch her husband do everything because she has been conditioned to think "Guys should do everything." According to her, the guy is okay and her dream guy, and yet she can’t go out of the way for him and buy the seat cover for the car out of her allowance??? I am sure the guy can afford a seat cover, but there are some tiny details guys can overlook sometimes. I was praying that she would return the ring because she is doing the guy a huge favour.
I don’t understand what some people think. You want to spend the rest of your life with someone and you don’t deem such a person worthy of a sacrifice of your monthly allowance, to fix a car you are both using? She is a leech and she has a weird idea of what a relationship entails. This is clearly the type of lady that would sit back and wait for her husband to come before she can fix something in the house or prepare food, in case the money transfer fails. Ask her what she does with her money and you will see most are on needless things. I don't appreciate those who can't use their discretion.
You can’t leave everything to your partner to do and that goes both ways because there are some guys too who feel only a lady can do certain things. If he is not worthy of your monthly allowance, then he shouldn’t be worth marrying, it is as simple as that.
Another story I came across on Twitter was about a guy who proposed to a lady and the lady put senses into his head. I love strong women like that. This lady actually gave him some tough love even though some might feel the guy was disgraced.
The guy proposed and the lady told him to stand up. She told him, "You don’t have a job, a house, a car, and can’t even pay to make my hair or yours and you are proposing?" She dragged him up, gave the ring back to him and she held him while they left the scene. Other ladies would have probably left the guy kneeling on the spot and left but not this lady. She left the scene with him which points out one thing; she likes him and she wants him to do better. She obviously didn’t say she won’t marry him, she desire better, with him.
A lot of people need to understand that a relationship or marriage is not all about what we see it to be. There are a lot of details underneath which with patience and dedication, you would understand. You need to be ready financially, socially, sexually, morally, mentally and even physically.
We need to understand what a relationship is all about before dabbling into it. Maybe this is why we have more broken relationships and divorces in the first place. Once the foundation is faulty, the building can never stand. Fix it and be humble enough to learn while playing your part.
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The first woman is just a shame to women. You seem to know a lot of these Mr. Ola. It looks like today's world has been very much corrupted already. She is truly the definition of selfish. A car seat should not cost much anyhow. If it bothers her then she should be the one that changes it. Her fiancé had been living with that car seat with no problem. It is just aesthetics at the end of the day.