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Merry Christmas dear friends of read.cash. Hope all of you are having a great time with family and friends with variety of good food. Enjoy!

Understanding "love" Some music are so refreshing, so soothing that our feets move automatically according to its tunes. I was actually hearing a movie song of our local Tamil language, the reason why I mentioned about this. A pleasant one, so melodious slow song about love being the essence and essential of life. I was watching a regional language film. A beautiful love story. A one sided love story till the end. It also enlightens the relationship of a grandfather and an youngster grandson. The grandson is so attached to his grandfather that he expressess all his flaws and expects a solution. They are more like friends. The heroine here likes her friend very much from childhood, but when she understands the hero respects her only a s a friend she silently withdraws. Family values are given more importance. Here the hero and heroine are living in the same building but different apartment. Though both of them are very close nothing like love erupts between them until the end of the movie. Several times the hero falls for other beautiful girls and the person guiding him is the heroine. But nothing works out. And after two days the hero forgets about it. He is a delivery boy for a food company and she a software professional. The hero's friend, philosopher and guide is the heroine. Nothings works out without her. The grandpa ignites a spark in the heros mind - why not go for a girl who cares him rather than he cares her. And he can never find a better girl than the heroine. When he refuses saying, "I can never consider her as my better half" the reply from Grandpa was "start considering from now". After few days of consideration he proposes her but she refuses. Feeling shameful to meet her after this incident he avoids her and this hurts her. So she decides to move to Canada when she gets a lucrative job offer. Once she moves to Canada, both of them understood the intensity of love for eachother. And finally decided to tie a knot. So if you need to understand the real meaning of love one has to stay away from other for atleasr few days or months. Life is more smooth and love is beautiful when you marry a person who loves you rather than you love. Such relationships carry on for years by the term called "Understanding eachother". In my view point in any relationship we have to open up our mind. It is the only way you get to know better eachother. There are peoples who take advantage of love and squeeze the opposite sex financially. Here value of money or respect is the main factor. **Unconditional love makes some people blind. They forget family, friends and relatives. And finally to realise this they have to experience something worse.**

Is humane attitude still in us!! It is three days since I made a patient visit to read.cash site. Though I was peeping in then and there. I had some guest's and kept them occupied. Nice to have friemdly chat once a while. Refreshing indeed. Recently in the local news was stories related to humane and inhumane attitudes of closed ones. I would like to narrate few stories. On one hand a teacher took a primary student of her class to her home, as the parents of the little boy was hospitalized and nobody to take care of the little boy. The teacher took legal permission from the child helpline centers to keep him until his parents are discharged from the hospital. How could we not appreciate this teacher who did her duty on humanitarian grounds. Generous attitude of such teachers should be recognized in the community and rewarded. Such teacher is the one who brings the best in a student and such students are the one who forms a better society to their nation. There was another such incident. A lady salesgirl working in a renowned jewellery shop named Alukkas was on her way to the shop in the early morning hours. Suddenly, she noticed an old man running after a public transport bus which was about to leave the bus station. She ran as faster as she could to stop the bus. Not for her but for the poor old man who could have missed the bus if she had not arrived on time. The shop named Alukkas has branches all over middle east. The owners are from our native. This whole incident was caught in the CCTV and was viral in all televion channels. It striked the owners of the Alukkas jewellery who started enquiring about her details. Her famiy comprises of her in-laws, husband and two children. They are in the process of building a house (with a heavy loan ) which was already under construction. As a token of gift, the owners gave her a new house on humanitarian ground. It wss s big celebration for both the owner and the staff. Now if you see the flip side of inhumane act. Yesterday their was a trending news in which the old aged parents were abandoned in the hosital. The story goes this way. Old parents were brought to the hospital by their son. On the pretext of meeting the doctor for their ailment and later abandoned them in the hospital premises. The police have registered a case against the skn for his irresponsible behavior and inhumane act towards his parents. As a simple human being just imagjne what thoughts would have gone through those helpless parents at that moment. They spent all their health and earnings to bring up the children and in return they were rewarded with what?

Things that make me happy....a prompt I was hoping what to write when I saw this prompt of @Ling01 Which made my work a bit easier to search for Articles. The prompt is available in this link https://read.cash/@Ling01/writing-prompt-let-us-know-who-you-are-590c413a **List 15 things that make you happy.** Being in the company of my family, watching a comedy movie, having food at the restaurant with my dear friends, I enjoyed most when I used to bunk classes, just sitting simply atleast for a while without doing anything, praying and communicating with Almighty, going for a an evening walk with my hubby, waiting for the arrival of my kids during vacation s, trying out new dishes, meeting old friends, travelling to meet school mates, get together after years, taking parents for a small outing, listening to music and abive all gardening. **Do you make decisions with your heart or head?** To Be honest Iam not good at making decisions because if I make a decision I totally get confused as to what I said was right or wrong. **What is your dream job?** I Never had one. Once I completed my graduation I just wanted to get any job where I could make money. So then I got a job in school, though it was by chance in the beginning later it became my career by choice. Those were the best days of my life. **What qualities you value in a friend?** We all know a saying - a friend in need is a friend in deed. When somebody stays by you during your tough times to share your sorrow he is the friend to be valued more than anyone else. **How have you changed in the last five years?** As each year goes by, we are getting older meaning we are getting strong enough to take our own decisions. Iam getting older but Iam still in the learning process. In the last 5 years I felt Iam getting mentally stronger but physically weaker. **How do you manage stress?** By remaining silent for things I don't get an answer. Stress is more in the younger generation. They react mostly by screaming . **Write a letter to your future self** *Dear Future self,* I appreciate the life I went through now by making some one happy, by making mistakes unknowingly, by not hurting others purposefully, by leading a peaceful life etc. So let my future continue this way .

To communicate not necessary to know the language Irrespective of the fact that universally people speak different languages, particularly their native language, nobody ever stops travelling from one part of the universe to another. While a kid, when they just start to speak and when being scolded for their naughtiness they react to it by just crying. At the same time when you purchase sonething favorite of their's, the overwhelming happiness in their face with reaction can never be expressed. I was just watching an advertisement where a soldier meets his young one after a year. The happy child stood still for a moment with gasp, just to make sure it was her pappa. The moment she recognises she hugs him tightly thinking he might leave if let loose the hug. Where is question of communication here? Just gestures are enough to make someone cry or someone laugh. Recently a friend of mine visited a Gulf country. She went to a restaurant for having rice. It was an Arabic restaurant and peoples speak more of Arabic than any other language. So when she ordered for rice she got something else. Later with the help of the food menu being displayed with pictures was kept in each table., she happened to order the food of her choice finally. Where is the question of communication here? A menu was the medium of communication for the waiter and my friend. There are peoples with inability to speak. But they are getting their things done through the language they learnt which is called the sign language. Here the real challenge is faced by the listener if he has no idea of the sign language. In here, the communication requires patience rather than experience. It so happens a smile can be a blessing for peoples to get to know more about the other person. When we visit a new place may be we are not familiar with the language of that place but a friendly face with a warm smile will definitely lead us to our destination. Being in a community like read.cash it is good to get connected with eachother though nobody knows each other personally. There are articles written inlanguages other than English which is difficult for one to understand. But just have a glance at the comment section there you get to know the outline of the article atleast to a certain extent. Sometimes I feel never to communicate because some of the informations you get are baseless and pointless. So it is always better to be a stranger in a strange land. There you learn to communicate more than expected.

Kaarthigai Deepam As already mentioned in many of my articles, India is a place with lot of culture irrespective of caste, creed and socialism. Each place from east to west and north to south is unique having its own custom and rituals. So yesterday "**Karthigai Deepam**" was celebrated in South India mostly in the state called Tamil Nadu. **Karthigai Deepam is also called as "festival of lights ".** **Karthigai is a month as per Tamil solar calendar and Deepam is to light the Diyas.** It is usually celebrated for 3 days. As per Hindu mythology this festival is celebrated during this month because the karthigau Nakshatra ( meaning stars) coincides with pournami (the moon) and this is said to be the full moon day of the month. There are so many stories related to Lord Shiva as to why this day is being celebrated. As this festival is being celebrated for three days, on the last day the people rush into the temples to seek the blessings of Lord Shiva. This is a tradition as per Hindu mythology to light "Diyas" on this particular day. Not a big celebration or a big festival. It is just lightning the "diyas". Diyas are made from mud or clay. They are small circular pot like thing ,with a wide opening in the centre and with two thick threads placed inside the oil in the Diya. In the evening people lit the Diyas and place it jn a row at their homes. Do you know the reason ? It is to drive away the evil from their homes. A new blessing to the home. Few information were taken from Wikipedia.

A pleasurable trip A trip is always pleasurable when you move with your family. Vacations should be kept aside for such trips to explore the beauty of the place you visit. When you travel you get closer to each other. In other words, you get to know each other better be it your spouse, siblings or off springs. A short but sweet memory to last for, such trips should be considered a must during vacations. Now-a-days, solo trips are a craze. Today, I just happened to see a news. It goes this way..a lady who is an ardent fan of Argentines Lionel Andres Messi, made a solo trip to Qatar to watch him play. She is a mother of four and went all the way from North Kerala, South India to watch him play. Such is her spirit and interest in foot ball. You actually need no reason to travel but then when it comes to something you can't resist, then you have no other choice but to travel. Making a dream come true by travelling is never a joke. It is one's determination. The craze in travel has just started very lately among our nearby peoples. Precisely saying after the covid period, when people spent more time within the four walls and finally decided to explore when the impact of covid lessened. **To make your travel a very happy and memorable one, I would like to share few tips** Firstly, decide the place of vist and then make a thorough study about that particular place. Study in the sense.- A point of stay from where your destinations are at a short distance. Just travel by connecting to the nearest places either by road or by bus or by walk. Be sure about the weather condition especially, when travelling with family. So thay you carry dresses accordingly. A study about the food and places of visit is a must. Do carry first aid, incase of small emergencies it will be great help. Make your luggage more comfortable by carrying only the required items. A group trip must always be preferred rather than a solo trip. These are just few useful tips to my knowledge. Exploring is the only way where you get to learn more by experience. You get to know the good and bad part of life. Meeting different peoples with different cultures is a beautiful experience. If you have one , never forget to share in the comment box. So that it might be of use to some traveller. Images captured from my mobile from one of my travel.

A Helping hand for the abandoned parents Recently a "**home**" for the abandoned mothers was inaugurated by **Yusuf Ali,** one of the renowned business man and owner of the Lulu Malls around the globe. This so called person is from our state but settled in UAE. To be precise he is a man of vision exceptionally for the poor. A wealthy man who owns a mansion and a helicopter for personal purpose, is a simple person with lot of ambition. His main intention is to reach to the needs of a common man. And that's how Lulu Mall came into exiatence. He was here to inaugurate **"Gandhi Bhavan"** a home for the abandoned mothers. With special care and concern he built this for the mothers. He had openly made a statement for contributing a lumpsum amount every month for this home. Though this organization was already in existence and operated partly by the public, Yusuf Ali took the initiative to renovate it into a new building with new furnitures. On the day of the inauguration he flew all the way to reach the destination. He was happy on seeing the mothers at home. He made an open statement to this aged mothers that even if he is not there, the flow of income to this centre will never be stopped. On seeing him many mothers cried out of respect and happiness. He probably is in his 60's. When we approached them, the mothers stood up from their seats. He immediately said to them "it is the children who should stand up on seeing their mothers" and forced them to sit Definitely a matter of pride.. He assured them medication, food and other basic necessities. He was enquiring curiously with all the mothers indi individually about "Are they provided with food of time", "Are they provided with medicines" and so and so. He said to the media he is not doing this for publicity but just on humanitarian grounds. Appreciate more such peoples into charity foe the benefit of those who are helpless and homeless . Due to increase in abandoned parents, the number of "homes" are growing in a fast pace in the nook and corner of all cities. **Man has become a shameless creature to abandon parents for their own happiness. F**or one moment man forgets the sleepless nights spent by their parents for their sake. **Man forgets that one day they will have to face the same fact in life. Let's pray he don't, if only Almighty wills**

Happiness in my green garden My little green garden. Where I find my happiness in fresh air mostly in the morning hours. When I go around I feel Iam one among them. To be honest, the interest towards plants and flowers started very lately. As my son leaves for his college by 7.30 a.m. I have to get his breakfast and lunch ready within the time. Once he leaves for college, I get my time to spend in the garden. My next one hour is with nature. Let me show you few things from my garden which I had been enjoying these few days. This is green and brown spinach. Brown spinach is rich in fibre. People here prefer brown spinach to green spinach. But believe me I prefer green spinach more. **Spinach is rich in Vitamin A. And it is told that it is too good for the eyes.** Let me give you an easy preparation of spinach. *Preparation time just 4 to 5 minutes* Heat a tea spoon of oil in a pan and splutter mustard seeds and a tea spoon of raw rice to it. Once it splutter add little shallots and whole red pepper to it. Just fry for a minute and add the spinach (which should be cut small in size). After 2 minutes of frying add fresh grated coconut (it should be one-third of the spinach) to it and fry for another 2 minutes. It will be done. As its a leafy vegetable, to retain its vitamin and colour never saute for long. You can have it with hot rice. If necessary, you can add lentils to it which makes it more tasty. Next one is the bay leaf. We do have a large tree of this at our home. This purpose of this tree is more beneficial. The bark of this tree is used as the cinnamon stick which we use as spices for most non-vegetarian items. **The leaves which is otherwise called as bay leaves gives a beautiful nostalgic aroma which is mostly used in Indian Biriyani's.** The leaf has something to its credit also. One of the evening snack especially in our state is prepared from this leaf. It is told that it is one of the healthy and delicious snack. **The aroma you get when eating this dish cannot be expressed in words.** **Preparation of evening snack from Bay leaf.** Take a cup of wheat flour. To it , add hot melted jaggery (as per your taste), 3 medium sized bananas, one tea spoon of cardamom powder, half a cup of grated coconut and finally one table spoon of ghee. Now mix all these well along with the flour. Your hand is the perfect blender for this. Once done, make it into the size of lime sized balls. Now take each ball and make it in the cylindrical form and wrap one each in a leaf. Finally steam it for minimum 10 minutes. You can enjoy it with hot black tea. Finally, these are the herbs and spices I have in my garden. An Indian non vegetarian curry particularly, is incomplete without these herbs and spices. All these pictures are taken from my garden and has been edited in Canvas.

A Child's Innocence **The child again repeated to the Doctor "when you open my heart please see if God resides in it".** This is one of the forwarded message I received from a social media. **Out of curiosity I just read the touching incident narrated by our late President Dr.A.P.J. Abdul Kalam.** One evening our late President and his close friend, a renowned Cardiologist were sitting together and having a chat. The Cardiologist is one of the famous Doctor in the northern India for his position. He has performed various operatiions and was a successful Doctor throughout his profession. He had a team of Doctors working under him which means he used to handle only the most complicated cases while referring the other patients to his junior Doctors. Sometimes life is full of challenges. And the courage with which one is going to handle is to be the best end result. The Doctor narrated an incident to the late President. One day as he was getting ready to leave the hospital, he could hear the cry of the parents of a little boy, below 5 years. Another Doctor who was attending to the boy felt that he should be directed to the Cardiologist , after going through his medical result. On seeing the result the cardiologist at once felt the child will be living only for a short period of time. He at once called for the parents and said an open heart surgery should be performed immediately but then, chances of survival was little. On the other hand, if he doesn't perform the surgery the child will not survive for more than three months. The panic parents decided to go ahead with the operation. He was hospitalized. So now the preparation for the surgery started. The child kept hearing about the open heart surgery but he was too young to understand. The mother was the one who stayed with the child. Every night she made him pray to God to get well soon. When he asked where is God his mother gave the reply that "**God resides in your heart".** On the day of the operation, the child was in the operation table and the Doctor thought in his mind after the operation will the child be the same as such. The child on seeing the Doctor said **"Everbody says you are going to open my heart."** The Doctor was surprised. Again the child repeated the same question for the second time and the Doctor said "**Don't worry child I will give you a medicine and you will not feel the pain."** The little boy immediately said "**Iam not worried about that Doctor**". And he continued **"when you open my heart and if you find God there, please tell it to me after operation".** The Doctor was taken aback. The operation started and within minutes he knew the child was not going to live. Because the blood flow to the heart stopped. So he told the Doctors its over. And he went and sat desperately in the chair, but the little child's innocent words kept ringing in his ear. "**If you find God .....".** Infact, he was broken. Immediately a miracle happened the para medics who were attending to the little child found the blood flow to the heart was returning to its normal. They immediately called for the Cardiologist and to his excitement he said let's continue with the surgery. The surgery was a great success. And the surgeon told the President the child will live for another 60 to 65 years. After this operation, the Doctor made it a point to put a picture of God in the operation room and pray before performing any operation. Miracles happen when we sincerely plead to the Almighty. It is just a sincere conversation between you and God.

Missing my job If you need to move a step ahead, you need a job. A job not only gives up monetary pleasures but ensures confidence and endurance, which keeps us moving. **Job is a piece of happiness.** I love those jobs related to academics where the job is hectic, but the atmosphere with children can create wonders. Be it school or college or any technical education. We get so close to children that most times we forget our pains and be one among them. **Job is a security.** Especially for those coming from a low or middle class family. Something is better than nothing. Because at the end of the month or in the begjnning of the month you get something in hand to meet your expenses. **Job brings in lot of tensions.** When you have a responsible job means your responsibility towards job is more. Here when you have a supportive partner to share your responsibilities means you become successful in career. We become 100% successful when we are able to take up job and family in par. **Job is a confidence**. We don't break down easily or we are able to talk patiently and solve matters that are within our reach. All these wonders take place just because you carry a responsibility. The confidence we gain on having a job can never be expressed but can be experienced. **With the help of a job you get ro know people better.** You get to know who will stay wirh you long and who will not. It becomes easy to read the minds of the people. **The importance of a job can never be felt unless you lose it. It is my own experience.** My life had a meaning with a systematic time schedule when I had a job. I had time to focus on too many things amongst the busy schedule. I was recognized and respected as an able staff. I was updated with the current happenings. Life was more beautiful though we had financial issues. I gave time for my family. I had more of free time. Now Iam secluded to the four walls of my house with a never ending job besides routine complaints. From this I understood one thing, never give up your happiness for sake of satisfying others. Today infact Iam happy when I saw a message in my notification section. Here it is. It definitely makes us happy because this is also part of hardwork. Though the message is small It is like an awakening call and strength to.move ahead. My thanks to all those who were behind this message.

Never confide In general, peoples trust each other easily. May be they met only for few hours or may be for a few months or few years. But some friendships lead one to express their personal issues to a stranger even before he/she gets to know him thoroughly. ***When do peoples take the risk to confide something very serious to another*** When ever one is over excited or at deep grief, people usually tend to share it with someone. But how far you can confide is a question to think about. When you decide to confide something very serious and confidential, make sure you are confiding to the right person. Some peoples who are too close to us , the one being with us all the time, the one who helps us occasionally when need arises, the one who listens to our issues may not be the one who can give a solution when problems arise. They might be the one who turns their back at you, when you really need a serious help. People who talk less and shows less interest in others and the one who never interferes in others job, are probably worth enough to be trusted. Though you confide something important to them may be you will not get a solution but for sure you will get an assistance. Some of us can never handle serious issues. We keep depending on others especially when something unfateful happens. So we instantly take the support from soneone even if we are not sure of getting a eesponse. To keep themselves at peace or to share their long lasting happiness, some people confide. But may be it will result in good or may be something tough is awaiting them. Few things when disclosed among the family circles or friends can create a bad impact on the whole. In such cases its better to remain calm and wait for an opportunity to expose. When things go wrong, too mamy voices will rise against you. Even if you have done good, the good will be suppressed and only the bad will be reminded. Every individual has a story to confide but let that be told to the right person at the right time. Not sooner or later. We might feel at peace when things are exposed. But if it goes to the wrong person, just imagjne the situation.

All of us has the potential All of us has the potential to implement and execute but sometimes it so happens that we don't get the right guidelines at the right time. So these are just a reminder ..... **Do not put yourself as a sorry figure infront of others.** That shows only our weaker part even if people feel sorry for what you are. May be too many hands will reach out to help you, but then it will always be reminded everynow and then. So then you feel guilty if you are a self esteemed person. **Be a keen observer -** To be perfect to a certain extent, we should be perfect in observing certain things related to the task to execute. Though opinion differs from different persons on a particular concepts, you can stick on to what you observed. Eventually, you probably get more ideas when you start working on it. **Never let people take you for granted - When people around us find out that we have** nothing to do with their subject or issues, we are forced with a less marginal job, thinking **"let them do it" or thinking "what idea do they have about this particular job"?** **Keeping a low profile yourself is not always advisable -** keeping a low profile will keep you away from all the important aspects you were to carry out. Only when one gets noticed for his extra skills will he be considered. **Avoid taking help from others unless and until need arise** - If you think you can perform the task independently then go ahead, never look back. Only when the need for asking help arise, should you go for an assistance. You are respected more when you take the privilege of executing a given task independently. **Think differently.** Just deviate from the regular schedule of doing and put it in a much better and easier way to execute the desired task. When you are forced to act as per the direction of the concerned authority, you can slightly deviate from their direction if you are confident. For this you are taking the risk by yourself. **Any job has its own risk-** when you take the time and patience to overcome the èntrusted task at your own risk, there you definitely win and you are recognized. Simultaneously, opportunities just pour in. Finally **an output with a desired result** wins the heart of many. Focusing on just what you are to do will probably end up with good fortune. For some it is a milestone while for few it is another winning trophy.

Go! find your happiness ***Happiness never comes to us instead we have to go insearch of it. When you do something you love there you find happiness. We need a break from our regular routine to make ourself happy.*** The joy of being happy is one's freedom and can never be declined by anything or anyone else. Happiness is such that once you step out you have to grab it, no matter what pain you are to undergo. Many desires go unfulfilled, many dreams get shattered, some achievements though near remain afar, some of us fail miserably, aome opportunities are at your door steps but not in a position to grab.....for all these above matters to lose , their might be a reason. All these are being restrained due to someone's selfishness. Then how can one be happy. When you are happy the people surrounding you are happy from your viewpoint. Even if they are not positive you find yourself energized. Happiness makes us do things better, by giving the best output. Recently, my niece with her friends studying in another state visited a tourist destination in the north part, without the knowledge of her parents. But all her other cousins were aware if it. On her return she was questioned about her preplanned secret trip, she said they need a break from their hectic schedule so they decided to give a try. Infact, they refreshed, energized and most importantly learned so many new things in their journey. She had a n adventurous story to tell. Happiness is an inbound feeling when some of them express by celebrating some of them suppress for undue reasons. Because they know there happiness is not going to make much difference in the family. So they stay silent. But such peoples are rather strong. This usually happens to the women members in the family. Let me tell you a short story. It is about two female friends who share everything among eachother. In an unfortunate incident one of the friend dies. But this friend used always say my children, my husband and my in laws depend on me and cannot manage without her. A month passed the other friend felt she has to call the family as the mourning period was over. She was thinking the family routine should totally be disturbed as the friend is no more. So she called her friend's husband to find out how things were moving. The reply was everything was getting back to normal. As a full time maid was available for the kitchen and another maid to take care of his parents. This shocked her. Because the friend who died worked throughout day and night for the happiness of her family and forgot to live her life happily. But things are back to normal and.much better than before. So that's life friends. We are valued when we are alive. If grief strikes, a moaning ceremony is conducted may be for a day or for a week and things are back to normal. Your happiness is complete when you share it with your dear ones. Some peoples suppreas their happiness while finding joy in others happiness. It is like they are living for the sake of others. This is a wrong conception and should never be appreciated. Most often we find people who doesn't like the very fact of others being happy, especially when they are not. A matter of jealousiness. But here they are not to be blamed. Because happiness is one's freedom. ***For others happiness never suppress your happiness as you have only one life. So live your life to the fullest. And go find your happiness.***

Technology vs. Children In this competitive world, the advancement of technology on one hand, gives rise to stress for the education system on the other hand. In this, both teachers and students being the prime target. While some children are able to cope, some literally fail leading to stress. To compete with the other education system and the job opportunities abroad, children are forced to adapt new courses in par with their present classes. Failing which, they lose upcoming opportunities ultimately resulting in stress and depression. Loads of assignments, record works, other theory related paper works, practical classes within and outside class proves hectic to the present generation. Right from the pre primary to the senior level, the children are faced with this problem. I lived in a place, in other words an era, where there were no Technoparks nearby. There were offices and factories functioning with a shift system where we could meet our parents after their office schedules. We enjoyed a meal together with whole members of the family when parents are at home. The importance of having meal together was also a chit chat time by exchanging each other's views. But now there are techonoparks and more number of techies and engineers passing out. For the lucrative job they possess, they don't mind working more than than the normal 8 hrs. Their main fooding being burgers and cokes ar a a tine they prefer, maybe at the midnight also. Now if we see the difference, the parents at my time had the patience to hear the day to day routine stories of their kids. The biggest advantage being to guide them, to support them, to correct them when in need. The end result being the children were mentally strong. Strong enough to face the present challenges. But now the money has taken over kids in some families to a certain extent where by the interaction between the parent and child is limited to a "hai" and a "bye". Here, the end result being the children are psychologically disturbed. Not knowing where to find a solution and whom to ask for help and support literally making them weak. ***Therefore to meet today's problems the children should be reminded of few things -*** **Do not expect the same happiness that you receive at home from an outside world -** There are sensitive and naive children who wish to expect to receive the the same happiness they receive from home. Such children can be made strong only when parents unfulfill their unnecessary demands. Never give in to all their demands unless and until it being the last option. **Do not expect the same comforts** - When children go out for the betterment of their education never stop them . But remind them of the shortcomings awaiting them. Convincing them to adjust and adapting to the new environment is a must. **Do not expect the same encouragement** - Words of encouragement is definitely a kind of motivation. But never always encourage even when you find faults. Reprimand where he or she has to be. So that they know the difference between good and bad and when a third person points out their mistake they don't become weak instead try to correct themselves. Children today are too bold to take any decisions that comes into their way. A success though results in a party, a failure ultimately results in suicide. The pressure in school going children is more especially in private schools where they are being punished for late coming, for talking in classroom, for not getting a text book and worst of all, not maintaining silence even in breaks. Its a kind of torutre. Technology though advances several upliftment in careers, it equally destroys the careers of many educated peoples when new developments are in process.

Parent Community in the education system- then &now Right from the time the education started we have seen the different faces of parents while admitting a child to the institution. Earlier we had uneducated parents and today we have over educated parents. Both these are difficult to handle. When we start looking from a generation when education started, there was no pen and paper. In the stone age period most inscriptions the writings were carved using hard tools. Later on ie., during the monarchy time, when ink came into practice, the feather tips were considered more comfortable for writing in a piece of paper. These feathers were dipped into the ink bottle before writing and then penned into the paper. The above mentioned was just an information about the means of communication in the absence of pen and paper even in the prehistoric period. Now let me come to the topic. The role played by a parent community in admitting a child to the institution is a saga right from the time education started. Around 50 to 60 years back, most parents were less educated or uneducated . Few parents took the initiative to admit the child while few are least bothered of the child's education. Not because they were disinterested in education. It was a joint family system where education was of less interest in few families. If the child passed or failed was out of question. So those with interest passed out successfully. Then came the parent's of 70's who was a bit educated. Most parents wished their children be educated. But here also less importance was given to female education. The parents were ambitious who wished the child get a good education and secure a good job. So a good part of these are the outcome of today's parents. Most parents are well settled and is expecting the same from the children. But when we talk of todays parents they are over ambitious. They go to the extent of fighting with the education system as they are aware of the pros and cons. Here you can find most influential family with spoilt kids. Here the parents force the chdren according to their wish. Some succeed while some a total failure. In future, where will the education system lead to is still a quesrion mark. Because more than 50% of the children lead a carefree life .

Defend yourself wherever necessary Be it a workspace or at home, learning to defend yourself is a must. Increasing crime rates against women obviously is a clear reason **why should we not learn to defend ourselves? ,** particularly in a country like ours. A happy going school girl was given less privilege at home in whatever she chose. The reason being she is a girl. Is it a must that girls should be given less importance in a family. This is the story of a family comprising of four members. The parents and two children. The elder being brother and the younger one sister. As the father earns a meagre income to support the family the daughter is being abstained from some of the benefits which her brother is enjoying. The children are being loved equally by the parents but when it comes to getting things the sons demand is considered first. The girl gets all the used things of her brother. Like his dress, his previous year's textbook etc. She was not even allowed to join a course of her choice after her graduation, inspite of scoring excellent marks. She could pursue her studies further if she chooses the course chosen by her family. Finally she gave in and joined a college nearby her home. Here, she fell in love with her teacher who used to support female education and frèedon for females on the whole. So she felt her life was safe in his hands and she can have a career of her own. But slowly his true colour came to light. He was the one deciding what she has to wear, with whom she has to mingle and even shamelessly getting into her social media profiles and blocking all male friends etc. Finally, she got to know that his teachings in theory did not match with the theory of life. He was a thorough male chauvinist whom she got rid of. When her family got to know about the secret affair her education was discontinued at once and arrangements for marriage started. She wept profusely saying she needed to continue her education and make a career so that she can take of herself and her family. It fell into deaf ears. She was married to a stranger. A person whose rage ends up by breaking the househokd items or properties at his home. The initial stages of marriage went on well. But when the honeymoon period started to fade new problems were erupted by the husband. He felt joy in slapping her for all minor faults. To please her husband she used to try new recipes from social medias. But his uncultured lifestyle never appreciated her hardwork instead rewarded her with a merciless slap. When this continued for long, she felt it was enough to suffer the torture. She called her parents to take her back home. But the answer was "it happens in all the family" . When she new nobody was their for her support she decided to defend herself. Slowly but steadily, she enrolled herself in a freeclass of karate through social media. And secretly in his absence she used to practice this art at home. One day, in a fit of rage when he tried to slap her, she used her full strength to attack him. He was shocked. Twice he tried to attack her after this but she learnt to defend herself . And that was the last he raised his hands against her. Defending doesn't only mean raising your hands against someone who attacks you physically but you can raise your voice against those who torture you physically. Never let fear overtake you. By defending yourself means you have taken a bold step ahead,where you are more confident than expected. You learn to defend only when you realise that nobody is there at your immediate call.

There was a time when... Yesterday evening, I had a short walk from my home to the bus stop. It was nice to walk along the mud roads surrounded by houses, green grasses and playgrounds. It was 5.00 p.m. A time where you can usually find children running and playing in the ground. There favorite game being cricket or football. Only later did I feel that it was during my childhood I expected to see all these games and not with the present generation. Because as and when I kept walking I could hear the laughter of a lonely child sitting in his garden and playing with his mobile. In another home, I could hear a mother yelling at her son to keep aside the mobile and have his tea which is getting cold. **How strange? If this is going to continue then what will the future have in store for us.** ***There was a time....*** When I, as a girl and as a woman, was able to walk freely alone to my friends places, at the convenience of my time. When we had lot of friends to confide our happiness, joy and sorrows. The bonding was strong among friends as we used to meet them constantly. When the playgrounds were full, the enthusiasm to find the next possible place was on hunt by the youngsters to continue their game. When we used to drench completely in the rain enjoying each and every beautiful moments of droplets falling in our body. When the boys run with a two metre cloth in hand to catch fresh water fish from ponds. This usually happens after heavy rains. When we friends used to catch each others hand while crossing the roads or railway tracks. When we experienced the taste of home cooked food prepared by mother rather than purchasing from out. When combined studies or going to one particular tuition in groups was a trend. When we used to cut and eat raw mangoes with chilli powder, salt, curry leaves and a little bit of coconut oil. When romance between a girl and boy was respected. But now all these are written in air. Few children are secluded at home enjoying the comforts provided by technology rather than spending time with friends. ***Now the bonding is between man and technology and no more between man and man.*** All these photos captured in my mobile during my evening walk.

How good are you in commanding There are times when we ignore few peoples but at the same time respect some for certain valuable reasons. Irrespective of the fact that you are not a super human, some people just fall in love with you, not for your looks but for some extra quality you carry with you. Unnecessarily raising your voice to get the attention of others is not commanding power. Some peoples raise the voice to hide their fear for the fact they will be respected. An asset for a loud voice. Sometimes we mistake a harsh tone to a commanding one. For some this voice is a blessing as they get their things done easily. When you benefit from your commands then you are a successful person. If you really need your commands to get executed, there're some positive qualities that you need to possess. ***When will your commands gets an abrupt response?*** ● When you have an eye to eye contact with whom you are concerned and the proposed topic reaches the listener with no revert questions or clarification. ● Your dressing sense and gestures do count when it comes to official meeting. If you are comfortable with your dresss, your command becomes more powerful. This infact is another psychology to command. ● Gather as much information about the subject comcerned. Be updated with the current events. Because once you start speaking automatically the command within you will be noticed giving prime importance to the subject. ● When you know you made a mistake, admit it and never hesitate to sorry. And once you say it, you will be more free to talk. Accepting mistakes is the good quality of a good leader. ● Inorder to get respect, never pull out any ego issues. Because a simple flaw is enough to spoil a whole speech. Dignity really matters here. A command though big or small, at office or at home is executed well when conversed to the point.

A traditional festival All of us has some reason as to how the weekend went on. Here in our place, Temple festivals are going on in full swing. This particular festival is carried out in few famous temples. The streets and the roads leading to the temples are decorated in colourful lights across the posts and trees. All these are colourful during nights. And lots of stalls are in progress throughout the night. Lots of stalls are already booked starting from the roads. On the way we saw a sweet stall. **The name of this sweet is ladoos.** It is in the shape of a small ball usually yellow in colour. They are made out of gram Dal, a kind of lentil. It is one among the famous Indian savouries. For any function, from marriage to house warming ceremonies to school functions, the presence of ladoo is a must. Usually I have seen ladoos of lemon size. But this is the first time I came across ladoos of different sizes ranging from a lemon size to 5kg ball size. The people from our place go in large numbers just to see the festival. It is told that twelve days the devotees stay near the temple by building small tents. They observe fast for these days by abstaining themselves from eating meat and fish. They depend only on vegetables mostly root vegetables like yam, tapioca, potato etc. So now the vegetable prices have soared high. A great opportunity for vegetable vendors to exploit the customers. Consequently, the price for meat and fish has reduced to a great extent. Another good news to customers. Lots of stage shows are being performed during the night. To see the Unity in integrity in my place you just can visit these places to watch their functions. Where all are one irrespective of caste. **Now its the Sabarimala season here**. As per Hindu mythology, the Hindus go for pilgrimage to this particular place. To describe about this temple in short - **Sabarimala temple** is one of the famous temple situated on top of the hills. It is told that more than 10 million devotees from all over the country visit here annually. This place is a two hour travel from my place. The men are the one who visits the temples. They are dressed in black. This temple remains open for all devotees only from the mid of November to the end of December. It is a 41 day fasting period. They abstain from meat and fish and eat only veggies. On account of this, small rituals are being conducted in other temples, which I had mentioned in this. All these captured in my husband's mobile and edited using canva app.

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Meeting with a difference As the Covid was prevalent for nearly two years regular classes were suspended and online classes were conducted in full swing. The parents had no idea as to who were the Class incharge and respective subject teachers. When regular classes were in progress for the past one year an interaction session between students and teachers are called for in most schools. In other words a face to face contact between the parent and teacher in the name of Parent Teacher meeting. One such meeting was held in my son's law college yeaterday for the first time in his 5 year degree law course. Since 3 years after his admission this is the first time we got to meet the staff and principal. The journey to the college was 5hrs. by road. We left around 6 a.m. from home and reached by 10 p.m. As the Principal was a new person she took all the credit of the running the institution successfully. She was praising herself and degrading the students and the parent community. I myself worked in an educational institution for 15 years and never did I get to have an experience like this in my school or in the schools where my children studied. Infact it was a different experience. A meeting with a difference. Usually in every institutional meeting to my knowledge if a child is weak or naughty, the parent is advised to take an extra care of the child and not a negative point is being mentioned. After the meeting I and my husband ddecided to meet the Principal. When I heard her talks I had a hatred towarda her but when I met her personally she was a simple person. She said the children now-a-days are very bold so just to bring them under control she said she had to be harsh to the parents. Somewhere I felt she was right indeed. She wanted to implement new plans like institutional training with reputed firms, placement facilities for bright children, introducing new courses etc. After this, we just left ro my son's hostel which was 3 kms away from the college. This was my first visit after he shifted to this new hostel few months back. It was a farm house. The house was surrounded by organic fruits,vegetables and medicinal plants. There was a beautiful lake flow in front of the house. We could hear the rough sound of the water gushing. There were lots of cows, goats, hen and ducks. Some of the vegetable bearing plants were papaya, ladies finger, bell pepper, Tomatoes etc. This was how my day went off yesterday. All photos were captured from my mobile from my son's hostel.

Effects of Communication ***Communication is an art, a skill where you try to present yourself as what you are and what do you need in return.*** When a matter is communicated by one person to another and when it is being understood throughly it becomes an effective communication. But at the same time when the matter is conveyed in an improper manner, then it becomes an ineffective communication. The language of communication is so tough that it can either break a relation or make a relation. Most of them get into unnecessary conclusions when something goes wrong resulting in an enmity. Most relationships within the family gets strained just because the right thing is not conveyed in the right manner. To avoid such confusion make everything transparent. Recently, something happened in our family circle which reminded me to write this article. Let me start like this. One elderly person in the family has decided to buy an asset for his dear one at a fixed rate and suggested, if the amount is more than the fixed rate the remaining can be settled by the other person. Though it was agreed initially, on the day of payment as it exceeded the fixed amount, the excess amount was refused to be given by the latter. The reason being **too many hands spoil the broth**. Every person who passed through this contract gave different opinions. When one said the asset was small, the other said too expensive anď the other not upto their expectation. The end result being conflict as the idea of purchase dropped. A silent gesture, infact, leads to a big disaster. Recently, I was watching a local series where a rich, talented and handsome guy is the dream of every girl from his college. Here, we have another lady character who is equally rich and spoilt, expects the same as the other girls in the college. She conveys the message to her mother who is a fuzzy wealthy woman. On hearing this, the mother is very curious to meet this young man proposed by her daughter. She prepares a plan. The plan is to throw a party at her huge residence on the girl's birthday, inviting all her frienda and other big shots. There she plans to announce in public about the marriage of her daughter to that particular boy. The party begins and the boy arrives on time. Let me introduce another character. A maid, in another words a beautiful young woman. The maid also dressed in her best attire is busy serving the guests. The spoilt girl dressed in her best outfit was happy to welcome the handsome boy with a bouquet. All these time the girl was accompanied by the maid. And the boy's eye at once fell on the beautiful maid and unfortunately he couldn't move out staring her. But this was wrongly mistaken by the mother, who felt his glance was at her daughter who was standing beside the maid. Thinking its a wonderful opportunity, the mother asked the boy if he wish to marry her daughter. He literally nodded his head as he was absent minded and still gazing at the maid. She smartly declared the marriage in public. The boy in turn became furious on hearing this and at once left the party which simultaneously was an insult and hurt the daughter very badly. Such was the impact of communication out of a simple gesture. Some exchange of information related to huge outcomes are exchanged in a diplomatic matter. May be the talk lasts only for few minutes but the response is immense with a positive approach. Here the matter is conveyed in an efficient manner. Sometimes we take more time and space to convey a particular message which deliberately fails. This is because the approach was ineffective. Communications can even mislead a person. When too many channels are involved, the increase in confusion is more. Because as and when the messages pass from one channel to another **more amount of fuel is added,** resulting in an unexpected end result. When you are in conversation with a person in mobile make sure your mind is not diverted or distracted so that the right thing is conveyed. Most often while in phone, few of us concentrate on things surrounding us and the environment where we are, whereby, we give and take a half question answer session. If the person is an anonymous one, make sure you are interacting with the right person. Most people take advantages if they get to know you are a layman on the subject discussed. Any result that we expect from a communication depends on the way we present. **Let it be precise and to the point.**

Life is short The lady was always curious to complain about her neighbours clothes that was hung in the air after a wash. Every morning she and her husband sat near the window of the dining hall to have their breakfast. The window was facing the backyard of her neighbour where the clothes usually hung after washing. And it became a routine habit for the lady to look out of the closed window to tell her husband that her neighbour doesn't know how to wash the clothes. One fine morning, to her surprise she found the clothes that hung were clean and shining . So immediately she called her husband to have a look. The husband in a cool state of mind was having his breakfast and after completing it he told his wife that he cleaned the window panes of their dining room early that morning. So here we can conclude that it was not the washing mistake of the neighbour rather it was the result of the unclean window panes. This short story was posted in facebook. **What exactly does one gets to know from this story.** Our life is like a window pane. When we remain with dirt, whatever comes in front of us is dirty. But clear the dirt from your mind, you can think about life from different perspective. Do not always expect things to be right from your perspective. Only when we go deep into the matter do we get to know the seriousness of such matter. Hatred, jealousy, proudness are few things that should be removed from your heart. When we remove all these Life is beautiful. When you stand in the bank of a river and look to the other side we feel our life is miserable. Only when we go to the other side do we know how beautiful our life. As the saying goes "**Grasses are always green on the othee side**" The real impact of life is known only when ***we step into others shoes.*** The beauty of life is all about giving to the brim. Most of them do not like the success of others. But the pain he underwent to gain success is known only by him. **Life is full of challenges. Face it with strength or forget it with remorse. But never give up. Because each step you take is valuable than the previous one.**

Children's Day **November 14th is being celebrated as Children's Day in India. It is a declaration from the government of India. This day ia supposed to be the birthday of our first Prime Minister Pandit Jawaharlal Nehru.** ***According to this great personality today's children are tomorrow's future.*** His incessant love towards Children made the government pass this rule. To celebrate Children's day every year on this particular day. His love towards children can never be measured. A simple man who always placed a rose in his kurta (a long sleeve knee length cotton shirt). He was always happy in the company of children despite the fact he had less time to spend with children. Children, usually address him as "***Chacha Nehru".*** *Chancha means uncle*. He was dear to his children. On this particular day all educational and non educational institutions work on regular basis. No declaration of holidays officially by the governmenr. In most schools there is a zero period in the 1st hour. During this period, children are directed to read the news, to read a preparatory speech, a patriotical group song by the students erc So on this particular day the school conducts competitions related to articles, drawings, poster making, quiz and finally a speech bybthe Principal. Such competition are held to commemorate the birthday of this eminent personality and prizes are being distributed for all the participants. If you are lucky, you get choclates also. Most children are subjected to few responsibilities on this particular day. It is to bring out their responsility and execute them in a right way. Stage shows are conducted by the staff and students to highlight the importance of patriotism on his particular day. It is a kind of awareness for the children to show their strength and weakness. While looking at the present situation, there are children who are in large number in Shelter homes. The increase in the number of children every year is due to poverty or childbirth out of wedlock. **When children are going in the right path, it means our country is in safe hands.**

Mental state of Depression **Depression - the mental state where we are not able to open up our problems to anybody, which remains deep in our heart and finally leads to breathlessness, anger, anxiety, frustration and lastly unwillingness to share and stay aloof from closed.** This usually happens *due to lot of stress or over thinking* especially when nobody to support us when in need. This has become quite common in our society. Peoples are now taking the help of Doctors for depression which will end up by taking regular dose of pills. This situation becomes permanent where you can never escape for years. **How do you take it?** - There are people who are strong and for them any problem is ***"to hell with it".*** Such peoples keep moving forward by kicking the past away. In the case of people who are weak it is vice versa of the above. They never can withstand even a small issue that passes by them. Here they overthink resulting in aggressive character which obviously affects their health conditions. These are the one who fear the public as to ***"what will they think"*** **In order to avoid depression** Never get involved in things which you have no or less knowledge about. It is like you are inviting problems for yourself and finally resulting in depression. Never let people take you for chances. You have the freedom of opinion and execution. When you feel you dont gain anything otherthan being depressed in their company, stay away from them. Never share your reason for depression with whom you are not sure of or where you don't get a solution. Because some might enjoy the situation you are facing and some might ignore. To over come depression listen to music, do an act that you like, be in the company of good friends, engage in hobbies of your choice, go for a short trip with your lovwd ones. etc. **Staying depressed is always not the end result or solution to any problems. If you have the will power to stand and fight, you will definitely overcome your Depression. Being in the company of good friends is definitely a positive vibe.**

Noise pollution- a known painful act Two days ago we had a function in our nearby mosque. It is to commemorate the birthday of a well known personality whose contribution to the religion has created vast changes physically and mentally in the hearts of the people. To be honest I am a god fearing person. I respect my religion as well as others, but not to the extend of disturbing others. The function that was conducted in our area was in a way creating loud disturbance. Loud disturbance meaning they projected loud speakers outside the mosque facing the piblic and its surroundings. They did not take the initiative to know the problems arising out of it. Many homes in our area have aged parents and vulnerable people, school and college going children and children preparing for exams. There are homes where men and women reach after long hours of work and travel. Usually, one opts for a rest on reaching home. Unfortunately this is not possible with the sound of Loud speakers that is working in progress from morning to night Some peoples react to such situations by reporting this to the committee members, While some are silent spectators due to fear and respect towards the community. The end result being their is no final solution to this existing problem. Just tonsuffer silently. Right now it has become a competition among different communities for projecting loud speakers in their respective community. Resulting in indifference among individuals. For no reasons people become enemy to each other. Humans creating inhumane act. Though the law has enforced several rules against noise pollution from the traffic department nothing is in practice for individuals in respective rituals. This is a paonful act. Hope to get a peaceful solution for this very soon.

The Magician and his physically challenged children Not everybody is successful in fulfilling his/her dreams. A dream to pursue a carrier you intend to. But this so called magician chased his dreams to be what he wanted. ***Iam talking about the great magician named Gopinath Muthukad.*** He is one of the renowned magician in our country. He is a real performer with a great talent. He has created wonders in the field of magic. One of his best asser is his smile. You can sèe him always with a pleasant smile. He belongs to the northern part of our state Kerala. But as his performance is being recognized in most of the countries and inorder to expand his career, he shifted to southern part of the capital city of our state. A brief description about him is available in the google encyclopedia. Coming from a middle class family his father was totally against his interest in magic. Inorder to please his father he graduated in Mathematics and joined Masters in Law. But he dropped his Master's degree to pursue a career of his choice, a career as magician. ***He had a unique style of performing this art in his own way***. He has been honoured with several state and national prize for his immense achievement. ***Recently he was honoured by the UN agency UNICEF for his continuous support in promoting the growth of mentally disabled children.*** He started his magic while studying in school after watching a magic show. At first he did for fun, then he continued and pursued as a career as professional magician. But ***presently his purpose of magic is restricted only to the physically challenged persons***. And that is the reason behind his recognition in UNICEF. For this he took the initiative to open a school called "*****Different Art Centre*****" for these children. The purpose behind this school is to bring the extraordinary talents of these children. When he started this school he never expected enormous number of students to enroll in this Institution. ***This is the only institution where the expense is borne by the institution solely.*** Free education and free food being the main criteria. The busy magician reduced his professional career to spend more time with these children. The result being each child had the ability to bring out the best in him/her. When one turned out to be a good singer, the other was good in drum beats and another a good speaker. Recently two of the students from these centre were qualified and honoured in the capital city for their talents. The credit goes to this noble man Gopinath Muthukad for his constant support to these students. There was a TV show by some of the parents of these children very recently. One of the mother of a challenged child said she was often warned by her own relatives against bringing the child for functions. She said she has to face this mental torture where ever she went along with the child. But now, this child is a matter of proud to his parents. Because his hidden capabilities were thrown to the public by this so called magician. **Gopinath Muthukad is a man of substance. A personality one would likebto adorebwith respect. A man behind the awakening of many sleeping able talents within the physically challenged person. Its really an honour to salute such personality.**

Thoughts and Expectations **Each time we do something or we try to stsrt something new ahead, we think over and over again, Was it correct? Is this the right way? Should I choose that? Too many questions pop up into our little mind.** It is not just one of us. Almost all of us get inro this confusing state of mind. May be as the saying goes "***Too many cooks spoil the broth***". If we take a decision by ourself or with the assistance of just one single trusted person these questions never pop up. Before we get into any negotiations it is always better to have a subject knowledge of what you are going for? May be it is too little a talk or may be its a serious issue . Just make sure to keep yourself updated in what you are getting involved. So that you have a prepared answer for an unexpected question. Never give a chance for peoples to question you more than once. The answer should be in your finger tip. Never blindly believe anyone and never give up if you prove to be right. Do you know when people take chances ? It is only when they get to know your weak points and they focus on to your weak points rather than coming to the matter concerned. When it is concerning to a new job or any kind of new proposal or matter relating to admission of your child , in simple words, those things which are to be considered seriously , it is always better to have a second option. An assistance from trusted persons will be of great help. But at the same time never disclose the complete picture of your expectations. Because some take it for granted while some struggle to find loopholes to add fuel to fire. Rarely some considers it as their own to give you a brief description of what you are intending to do. Communication is very important when two persons are involved. Let this communication be an healthy one to find a final solution. Any communication should end up short and sweet rather than a long one withn o end result. *****If your "thoughts " are good, you will break all the barriers to reach upto your "expectations*****".

Healthy Lifestyle We peoples get easily adapted to the changing life styles, be it for good or for bad. But it will be good if we follow a healthy lifestyle. Let's see if you would like to be one among these. Early to bed and early to rise makes man healthy, wealthy and wise - This is an old saying but I do agree with this statement. I believe most of us do agree. Its always better to follow this routine so that atleast we get a good healthy sleep, ***the after effect of which is our willingness, intelligence and calmness to execute things in a systematic manner.*** Early to rise should not start by seeing the messages of your mobile instead by seeing the greenery and inhalation of fresh air that you get on opening the windows of your room. If this is not possible a sweet smile at your spouse or at your child ***which will make your day at peace.*** A brisk morning walk around the surroundings of your locality by saying a **"hello", a "good morning ",or "How are you"?** to your close friends or passer-by makes you energetic. Here, do not expect an answer. Drinking water in empty stomach is another healthy lifestyle. The intake of water should be warm. ***A body cleansing is necessary before you start your day with food.*** ***A cold water head bath in the morning is another healthy lifestyle.*** You stay fresh ahead. But this will work out only if you jave a good sleep the precious night. Temptations - Its better to avoid a crave for junk foods. Particularly when you cross the age of 40. Because by then we have most of the ailments. ***Let tempting foods stay only as temptations in the food counter so that you can live a medi free life*** atleast for few years. Include more of veggies in the form of salads in your food chart. Sleep should never be skipped. A stretch of 6 to 8 hrs. sleep is compulsory. Last but not the least maintain a healthy relationship with selected friends. For those who care for you and for those you care. Its quite difficult to follow by what I wrote here. Though we all know about these. But then we can give a try when it concerns with our health.

Let your smile be your identity Are we losing something by our beautiful smile. Not at all dear friends. In fact we becone more energetic by giving off a beautiful smile free of cost, even if it's a stranger. Yesterday I happen to watch a program about an young aspirant aiming to become a Doctor, but met with an accident. Her entrance exam for medicine was just one month ahead. She had her hands and legs broken. One side of her face was badly injured. Hailing from a poor family her dream was shattered after the unexpected accident, as she was bedridden. Her father was an autorickshaw driver, mother a housewife and brother doing his degree. Academically she was a blessed child. Once she started to regain her strength, her next step was to prepare for the All India Medical Entrance Examination. She never gave up. When the date neared she was hardly in a position to stand or sit. On the day of the examination, with all her strength she attended the entrance exam. After few months on the day of result declaration, to everybody's surprise she topped the examination and got admitted in one of the top colleges. She became the talk of the town and won the hearts of many. Do you know what is her Asset? Its her tireless smile. In an interview **She said "I learnt to smile more only after this accident" which is supposed to be her strength**. The reason was many of them turned their faces against her as one side of her face was little bit disfigured. To win their confidence, she used to smile at them even when they turned away from her. According to her it gives her a positive vibe. So what all a simple smile can bring within us is always a question mark? Most peoples keep smiling hiding their tears behind while some of them never hesitate to produce a fake or sarcastic smile. If smile becomes the reason for one's happiness appreciate them. Some people never bother about the environment, they just find a reason to smile. May be your smile will be the strength for another to remove their pain. A smile never makes a difference in your life but it certainly will make a difference to a person in pain. So keep smiling to boost yourself and to boost others.