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Image Source. https://www.pexels.com/photo/woman-in-sky-blue-blazer-standing-near-white-wall-8528741/ There is something we call self-leadership and that's when you take responsibility for your actions and try to lead yourself by learning from others and situations around you. It's okay to have people lead and direct you but there is little that can be forced upon you if you won't take the steps to walk by yourself. A lot of people won't take responsibility for their actions nor will they understand that the outcome of everything that happens in their lives depends on them; the action or the inactions - depending on the course of action. Self-leadership is the ability to lead yourself towards your set goals. Motivation from the outside would be useless if you lacked the will from the inside. A lot of people focus on the outside while giving little regard for who they are on the inside. I've built myself to the point that what anyone thinks of me doesn't matter as long as I know it's not a flaw. If it's a flaw I need to address, why not but if it's based on what anyone thinks, I am not moved because I am responsible for what I said and not how you interpret it. To fully develop ourselves we need to understand our purpose in this world. I've said it before and I would say it again that most of the problems we have in this world are a result of most of our parents who allowed us to grow into a system where they want us to fit in rather than stand out. For some of us, it's already late to go back and make certain changes so we have to make the most of what we have. It's a terrible culture to ask children what they want to become in life because I would rather have them being asked, "What problem do you want to solve in the world?". This brings a lot into perspective because it shifts their thoughts from fitting in into standing out. They focus on which problem and they are tailored in that line. Someone once said that if you are seeing a problem that no one else is seeing, that means you are the one to bring about the solution to that problem, either directly or indirectly. A lot of people don't understand the purpose they are to serve in the world because all their lives they have been restricted to thinking they are slotted into the system and this has killed a lot of creative minds. We can't go back to make a brand new start but we can continue from where we are to make a happy ending. I am jeered towards giving hope to those who still have the chance because I was denied the chance to follow what I wanted. I don't want others to fall into the same bracket so I am committed to giving basic education to everyone but each person would determine what they want to do with their lives afterwards and then be equipped into doing that. Discovering your purpose in life is a process and it's a journey of discovery as well. You won't have everything figured out all of a sudden. You won't have all the things you wanted at a go but you have to take note of the clues as you go through life. Most of us don't understand that our purpose in life is to fix the things we have been denied. Most people would rather take up the pity approach so the whole world can take notice of them and show them pity but nothing concrete ever grows on such a ground because no one would ever take you seriously or help you enough to stand on your own and even if they tried to, your brain would always assume the pity approach and you would become comfortable as you will allow that opportunity to pass by.

Image Source. https://www.pexels.com/photo/woman-sitting-on-stone-3317184/ Our purpose is in the things we have been denied. This is why I respect parents who didn't have the opportunity for education and yet they stake their lives on the line to make their children have the best of it. Your purpose is tied to your experience in life...what you have gone through, seek to it that some people with similar experience won't need to go through that again. As you are seeking a purpose for your life and taking note of the clues, learn to understand yourself. Understand your temperament and be true to yourself. You need to honestly analyze yourself and know what works for you so you can know what to avoid and the things to do away with. As you strive for self-leadership, never forget about self-awareness. Self-awareness brings about self-regulation where you understand yourself and then discipline yourself on certain things. Even the mighty can crumble without self-control or discipline. You need to know when to engage and when to withdraw. You need to know the difference between giving up and letting go, persistence and when to give up as well. Self-regulation means you can control your desires and emotions so they won't get the better of you. When a defining moment comes, you had better define that moment or else the moment would define you. A self-regulated life is pruned and being pruned adds more colour to your life. No one can motivate you as you would motivate yourself. We need to drive ourselves and then have a purpose to live for. What are you doing? What do you want to do? What steps are you taking towards the things you want to do or currently doing? There is no need to compare yourself with others because your race is different from mine. You can copy the things I am doing but you won't have the staying power to continue for long because it was never your dream in the first place. Learn to find your niche and build on it. When others find their niche they give up easily. The moment they hit a snag they think it's not for them. There is no smooth path and you have to learn how to weather the storm. This is why understanding who you are is important and knowing what purpose you are made for as it gives you the staying power to continue because you won't need any external motivation but the one from inside. Mistakes are bound to happen and you have to learn from them. A bus stop is not an end stop just like a speed bump is not to stop you permanently but temporarily. We need to keep moving forward and stop living in the past. It's okay to take time to recharge and refire when we feel overwhelmed and tired but it doesn't mean we have to let that dream die but rather for us to re-evaluate the things we have done right and done wrong and then make informed decisions going forward. Take a break if you have to. Rest when you are tired but don't quit. *Thank you for your time.* *My pen doesn't bleed, it speaks. I am love's chemical content in human form and that's why I advise people to take a dose of "****Olawalium****" daily.* 🙈 Kindly follow me on **Noise.Cash**... I am trying to engage more with people and connect with everyone with this account. I look forward to seeing you there... You can say hello to me there so we can get familiarized as well. Click here. https://noise.cash/u/Olasquare

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