I Can Never Understand It.

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I know we resolve conflicts differently and many people are fuelled by drama. I know we all have individual choices and no one is a moral judge over another because we all sin differently. Just because we sin differently doesn't mean we are perfect either but there are some things I can never understand which I've seen people do in this life. We are responsible for our choices, yes, even the eventual outcome, no doubt and the issue is that I think most people think with their feeling which allows them to do things they wish they didn't.

Lover's That Drag Each Other on Social Media.

As I said, I am not trying to mock anyone of them nor am I claiming moral rights over them but to me, I think it is pointless. I know most celebrities make it the business of others because they feel they have to explain to their fans but maybe they are putting themselves out there too much and they just don't know it. I know that most people like airing their dirt on social media because they think they want justice of some sort or perhaps they want to quickly say their side of the story to either feel good about themselves or make others see that they are not at fault which is a way to retain the fans they have left. It has become a trend now and I keep asking myself "what's the point?".

It's your life, no one would teach you how to live it but as good as the social media space is, I don't think it makes sense to drag each other all because we want to pain the other person bad so we can retain our space in the good graces of others. To me, I see it as immaturity where you have to go to such an extent to drag each other. You don't owe anyone any explanation...you don't have to explain anything except you were attacked and you feel the need to clear the air.

I know of those whose fans asked what the problem was and they defended themselves, and nothing more but I have issues with those who go to extra length to drag the other person down especially those who have children with each other. They seem to forget that the attention should be taken away from them and focused on their children because social media never forgets. When that child grows, he or she would be faced with such damning consequences due to his or her parent's inability to use their discretion.

We are moved by our emotions and most people like taking it to social media because as I've come to see how humans are, they tend to believe the first person to ever tell the story...until they hear from the second party, of course. I've seen situations where ex-wife dragged her ex-husband and childishly too, the ex-husband responded and they are still at it till today. They have a child together and I don't know if they ever thought about that child in the whole of these issues. I can't understand and it's something I would never do. Whatever narration anyone holds of me it is their opinion and I believe the time would always be right for me to speak...it doesn't have to be now.

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A relationship should not be for immature minds and this is why we see so many people struggling to keep hold of one out there. You will fight, you will argue, you would disagree but can't you break up quietly if there is a need for it? I've seen those who broke up quietly and after months still got back together. I can only imagine how difficult it would be to come back together if they had dragged each other into the social media space. They wouldn't want to appear "weak" and that's why most people hardly get back together after they have crossed that line even though in their mind, they desperately want to.

What you do with your life is your business and rightly so but I have zero tolerance for those who make their relationship everyone's business and then go back to start complaining. They go around to tell people to mind their business when they start giving their opinions or when they start attacking them, yet they forgot that they made it everyone's business after airing their dirty linen. Maturity is not in defending your space but in weighing the consequences of your choices before doing them.

The social media space is fuelled by drama but you don't have to attend the show. As good as social media is to air your views and state your case, it can become toxic and most people get lured into trying to please their online audience without thinking of the damaging effect it would have on them going forward. Everyone has the right to do what they feel is right for them and if this is what works for most people, I am sure it can't work for me.

I've never been moved by what anyone thinks of me as long as I know what I am doing and keep to my lane. As long as I am seeking areas to improve but it doesn't have to be on anyone's terms. The truth is, whether you state your case or not, defend yourself or not, drag your partner online or not, those who would love or hate you won't still stop. Some people have been strategically positioned to never understand you and they would go through any length to twist your words. The Bible said it is better to be thought wise by keeping quiet than to speak and then remove all doubts.

Thank you for your time.

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