Be Genuinely Happy For Others.

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I don't understand the way this world is going but the bitterness is just too discouraging. We can't be genuinely happy for others because we are not in their good graces or because we are not on talking terms? I don't know how others see it but what will it cost you? Your ego is that much inflated that you would rather not celebrate another person's win? What might be important to you might not be important to others but the moment they tagged it as an achievement, it costs you nothing to at least celebrate with them.

I don't understand where we are going with hate in this world but I am not encouraged with how things are with humans. Be careful when you hate others because the hate in your heart is capable of consuming you too.

I don't fancy it when people pick sides and most people that have asked me who I prefer between Cristiano Ronaldo or Messi or Djokovic and Nadal would always get the same answer from me: "They are both phenomenal and we need to enjoy having them around while we can. Instead of making comparisons, be proud you have them in this generation and admire them for their different talents."

It aches my heart when Messi struggles and that's when people take the chance to call him overrated. Are you for real? Overrated? With all he has done for football and so many goalkeepers he has ridiculed? In the same vein, I get angry when people say Ronaldo is not as good as Messi because of "Political Balon d'Or." Have you seen the guy's statistics? They are insane! Have you seen the records he has broken as well as Messi? Rather than pitch them against each other to bring about unhealthy wars, just appreciate them.

We are all different and we like people for different reasons but because your preference goes with one person doesn't mean you have to invalidate the other person. You shouldn't even say anything at all if you know what you would utter would be disrespectful. We live in a world where everyone wants to air their opinions without gauging them side by side. Most people are opinionated and won't even think deep. It's disappointing because we all can reason. I respect your decision but don't rub your bad judgement on others. There is no need to spread jealousy, hatred and bitterness because it's not healthy.

We need to learn how to put out individual differences aside and learn how to appreciate the progress of others. I know it's a lot and sometimes we wish it happens to us instead rather than them but still, it has happened to them, why not appreciate others?

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I saw a popup notification earlier today about the Qatar World Cup 2022 theme song which Davido featured in. It is a huge milestone for him because I can remember, I think it was K'naan that produced the Theme Song for the 2009 World Cup called "Waving Flag". The pop up showed someone saying people didn't congratulate Davido for the landmark and he cited politics that it's Davido against the Music Industry.

First thing is, I don't know whether they congratulated him or not but whoever that person was that said that, he or she didn't help the cause either because these are the kind of things that brings about enmity and I got to know that Davido also unfollowed so many artists because they didn't congratulate him. I think it's childish too because whether they do or not, it won't take anything away from what you have already achieved. This is why I don't place too many expectations on people. I am sure he expected others to congratulate him because he is fond of congratulating others whether they are cool with him or not. This points to the fact that sometimes the fans are the ones who bring about these frictions.

The other issue that got me angry was when Basket Mouth's wife responded to the "Davido against the Music Industry" tag by saying that the world is hurting, people are dying and that the person that started the whole thing shouldn't be expecting people to be in the right frame of mind to send congratulations. I feel her comment makes no sense because it's not as if she was on the streets with placards fighting for peace. Except she is affected directly by those who died and got kidnapped on the train which I shared in my post yesterday, I don't think she has a point.

People die daily, kidnapping has been the order of the day and yet the world didn't stop. These are unpleasant situations, yes and we know our government can be so irresponsible too but how does that stop everything magically? If her husband asked her to go on a date with him would she decline? All of a sudden she is worried about the happenings in Nigeria...but if it was her close friend that celebrated that milestone, would she have said the same? Most people are hypocrites and this is why I said it would have been better for her not to talk IF she feels the message wasn't directed to her.

We take life too seriously and we need to learn to calm down. When we die, nothing else matters except the memories we have created no matter the billions we have stashed somewhere. Learn to congratulate and appreciate people because their success won't take anything away from yours.

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Kind of have to be happy with yourself before you can be happy for others. Most or a good percentage of people are not happy with themselves, or what they feel they have or should have accomplished. And a lot of those people still harbor jealousy in their hearts and cannot be happy for someone they envy. Another awesome post @olasquare and point of view. Post obtained through Dreemport.

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2 years ago

I love this angle. Indeed, we can't give what we don't have. Most people are not even happy with themselves, how much more can they be happy with others. That's spot on. Thank you so much.

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2 years ago

Whenever I hear the fans of these great sportsmen argue bitterly, I just can't help but shake my head. It wouldn't surprise you to know that the both Messi and Ronaldo are great pals and appreciate each other very well even when their fans can go as far as hurting each other. The joke is always in them

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2 years ago

The joke is always on the fans. I agree. Ronaldo's son is so fond of Messi. If you watch the backstage of the 2009 (I think) Balon d'Or, Ronaldo told his son to go ahead and greet Messi. Fans are the problems and it shows the behaviour of humans.

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2 years ago

That's right. We all go through different struggles on how to achieve our different goals in life. We are all equal no matter what your status is and who you are. Just be happy that others are succeeding.

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2 years ago

Just be happy for others...simple. Very simple but we would rather complicate things.

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2 years ago

Well, I think the issue of hatred has been there from onset, it's more like it's part of like because it's everywhere. But it's alarming alarming how people take some issues of life personal. The issue of hatred and being a fan to a celebrity is one thing that shouldn't be taken to heart(I mean love it and go), not creating unpleasant grounds. Last Last, the celebrities are making their waves while people are judging.

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2 years ago

This is what most people don't know...they are creating unnecessary enmity and this life is a funny one. The person you hate today might be the one to help you out tomorrow.

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2 years ago

So many things happening in the country which the mouth can't even say. The music industry is now a theatre. They are some things we don't even need to take about since we know out intentions in pure to others. David should not have dragged this matter in the first place, I understand how he feels, but there are some things we need to ignore as a celeb to avoid getting into controversy.

In addition; Sometimes in life, our friend's dreams may take off earlier before us. We need to stay happy, congratulate and clap for them, coz it will never stop us from getting to the top also, we may even shine brighter than they do.

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2 years ago

I agree with you and I enjoyed that part you said the dream of others may take off before the other. That's right. Most people are so short sighted that they don't know maybe their own dream would be fulfilled only through the dream of others...but they let resentment push them to the back door.

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2 years ago

Uhhhm, this was really deep and intense, I've noticed one thing; from my experience and from the experience of others, most people would not be pleased to see one succeed, they won't commend you neither would they congratulate you. They'll rather view and pass this is with an exception though... Imagine this scenario: Davido decides to gift money to 100people if they did congratulate him. I bet the story would take a different turn. He would have received thousands of congratulatory messages and comments and that only happened because money was involved. Fact, people always have the selfish mentality... Their hands become too heavy to wish another the best.

These days, strangers are wishing you better than your friend would have ever wished you. I've witnessed this too... And I have decided to soothe myself with these words: "the fight is against me and myself, so I must thrive to be better than my yesterday's self." So sad... But it's the world we live in. So sad!.

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2 years ago

Jealousy, selfishness and envy... I feel you on this, Ella and you spoke so well there. Indeed, most people are not happy with our achievements. They want everything for themselves and want everyone else to be dry.

I love your last quote there.

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2 years ago

I did feel genuine happiness when I found out my friend was about to be hired as a public school teacher. In our place and in our profession here in PH, it means a lot to be hired. Though we did not come with the phase as to where she is now, we are doing our best now to be just like her soon. 😊

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2 years ago

That's brilliant. Celebrating with others opens up our mind to the possibilities of what we can also achieve. It's a win-win situation.

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2 years ago

True my friend, with her achievement we get my motivated more to try harder for this year's opportunity. 😁

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2 years ago

Absolutely.

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2 years ago

The title says it all, if someone already reach their goals in life or living the life they deserve, why not be genuinely happy to their success? We don't need to hinder or be jealous because we don't know what they are going through.

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2 years ago

Exactly...we don't know and might never know. If it means a lot to them, we should learn to celebrate with them.

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2 years ago

Jealousy and envy is easier to be said than mastering it. As humans, blessed are those who are really appreciative in any achievements the people surrounds us conquer.

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2 years ago

Absolutely 👏🙌 spot on.

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2 years ago

I appreciate those familiar players like messi and Ronaldo. They have both talents. The only people commit mistakes is that they've compare those players with individual strategies in winning the game. The said Messi is better than Ronaldo or vice versa. But it's non sense argument I think we should always accept they have both unique traits. So we should appreciate and love their own endeavor.

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2 years ago

Thank you. I also believe it's a nonsense argument too because we are taking the focus off the achievement of one, which isn't fair.

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2 years ago

Yes, we talking about their achievement.

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2 years ago

As it should be rather than fan wars.

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2 years ago

One thing that is often encountered is that the presence of other people often makes the lives of others not in a happy atmosphere, meaning that even though the happiness of the closest people is visible, it only makes other people not happy. This happens because of the views of individuals who do not happily accept other people succeed.

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2 years ago

We don't happily accept the happiness and success of others, I agree with that. It's disheartening.

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2 years ago

Most people fail to realise that it doesn't take anything away from them when they wish someone happiness and be truly compassionate for their fellow human. Quite disheartening really. I hope we come to realise this before it's too late and learn to be better. Makes me think of a saying of Dalai Lama "Compassion is the wish that others be happy even if our own happiness diminishes".

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2 years ago

That's a brilliant quote and it's true too. We focus too much on ourselves and fail to acknowledge others.

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2 years ago

Being genuinely happy for others give a different positive vibe.

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2 years ago

This is so true.

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2 years ago

Not too surprised. Jealousy an envy have been in existence since 130 B. C. Although these people don't care to hide it but show it openly. Whatever the case, we mustn't let them get to us.

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2 years ago

That's the annoying part. They don't care and they show it that they are bitter and jealous. It's sad.

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2 years ago

Very well said sir, people are jealous to each of everyone thats why they cant be genuinely happy for the success and achievements of someone. And yes you are right, why people can 't appreciate them, in the other hand that person didnt do anything bad for them, they know him by name only not the whole personality. Just be happy for others and for sure your happiness will follow.

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2 years ago

Jealousy, that's right. They would rather want that good thing to happen to them than others.

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2 years ago

Messi should never be called overrated because he has done a lot in the world of football and he has done

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2 years ago

That's it but short minded people seem to think otherwise.

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2 years ago

We truly need to appreciate others for their success or breakthrough towards something. We'd never know what they went through to get there. I keep saying and will continue saying this , fans as they call themselves are the ones who most times cause war between celebrities. You'd see them saying Wizkid is much preferable to Davido and the likes. Just like Messi and Ronaldo like you mentioned above. Everyone has what makes them special. I love celebrating people because I know mine would also come one day. No hate here!! Keep appreciating their efforts in getting where they are.

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2 years ago

No hate, just love...that's what we should be preaching. It's okay to have favourite but never rubbish the achievement of others which they have gotten through hard work too. If it were easy, why aren't others doing it?

Thanks for this dear.

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2 years ago

Nigerians matter is like school children play, so many childish things happening every day.

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2 years ago

Exactly sir, too many childish things which we allow to cause division. It's just so unheard of.

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2 years ago

We should try as much as possible to congratulate people when truly deserve our congratulations, like the writer has said being share in another person's joy is a good thing and through sharing in others joy with a clean heart, God who sees our heart will also grant us with something tangible that people would also celebrate with us. I think we should let go of pride or envy and appreciate people because their success will not take a dime from us.

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2 years ago

God bless you for this. That's exactly what it should be. Regardless, we should be happy for others.

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2 years ago

Thanks you sir

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2 years ago

Thank you, too. 😊

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