“Can We Make It Work?”

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I want to preference this by saying I’m not necessarily looking for a relationship right now, but if I find a girl that I cannot pass up on I will take that opportunity and I’ll run with it… and when I say a girl I cannot pass up on this is what I mean, Understanding appreciation and physical attraction equally represented.. a total of 100 percent attraction, and also bear that in mind that a lady can be 10/10 in the looks area and maybe she cares so much about me, but when there isn’t understanding we can’t operate..

I need to have someone in my life for there to be that understanding and the most important part of it is connection and compatibility… connection is something that cannot be articulated but can only be experienced and when that feeling happens it feels like you’ve known this person all your life besides you just got to know each other minutes ago…

Explaining compatibility is non negotiation, problems occur when you don’t relate with what I want or what you want as someone who is in a relationship.. How cool are you when I object to the meal on the table regardless of whether you like it or not, so I prefer having someone that I can flow with daily.. but lastly it’s chemistry, difficult to build but an essential part of building a bond over time.

I was deeply afraid to show affection , I felt that there was a huge gap between her reciprocating it back to me and that is not okay.. you have to understand the person, even if it’s on a relationship or friendship.. I have to have a girl that connects with me and appreciate and also love me for the way I am and I do that likewise..

Then this is a huge one, and that is Physical attraction… I’m a physically attractive person and I try to look after my self and I would want someone who takes care of herself as well.. but this is slightly negligible, it’s subjective to everyone and I love women a good looking one.. But looks only get you 10 percent of the margin, staying respectful as a man or a woman and understanding is huge..

“Whats your opinion on this, Do you have certain objection in dating?” Have you been in a relationship where you aren’t cared for or your opinion don’t matter?” Two people have to manifest love before being in love, these are just my area of concern which differs through..

I’m trying so hard to work and also be active here, I will try to be more active… Thank you for reading and thanks to everyone supporting..

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April 9th, 2022

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Many people consider physical looks, but in all I think for a relationship to be strong one should look at character, attitude, mindset. I know of someone who loved a girl cause she was very pretty and had curves after 2 months of the relationship he had to run for his life, lol he said she was bossy, rude etc. Anyways love is pure and good when you meet the right person who cares and loves truest from the heart. And I’m sure you’ll find the best girl for yourself

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User's avatar Nkine_osowor
2 years ago

Well looks are part of the criteria but more importantly the person's IQ and level of smartness. The person has to be very smart and can hold a conversation not just any kind but an informative and interesting one.

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User's avatar Venvie
2 years ago

A lot of persons consider physical looks before other attributes and this has led to numerous unsuccessful relationships. A person might look good physically with contrasting characters, but we all know the magical touch of love. It tends to overwrite a lot of irregularities but with time, the irregularities becomes prominent and hard to overwrite. Personally, I haven't been into a "Serious" relationship, so I can't say. I believe loving someone should go beyond physical looks and compatibility should always be a priority.

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User's avatar Chief_Mekus
2 years ago

Regulating the rhythm of life with calm without rushing will make life more consistent in doing something, not forcing yourself when pressure begins to shake life, the form of positive thinking that life is relative.

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User's avatar pajeroz
2 years ago

I haven’t been in a relationship before talk-less that I won’t be cared for but I’ll prefer a woman who is natural beautiful and very supportive. But physically and emotionally.

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User's avatar Allboy
2 years ago

I've never been in a lot of dates. I do agree though that we have to know more about the person we want to commit too.

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User's avatar ARTicLEE
2 years ago

Wow!, Well for me, I've been in such kind of relationship, once though... I don't wish to witness such again. Just as you said, there must definitely be mutual understanding between us both, we just have to care for eachother. It shouldn't be one sided. I've been in a relationship whereby the guy showed no iota of care in him. It was just me; doing the calling, still me; doing the texting, me again; doing all the loving and caring. It actually drained me, he claimed he loved me but then I expect that if one truly loves someone, then one should be able to show it. Not just by saying it, action actually speaks louder than words. I'm on the same quest as you.

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User's avatar Ellawrites
2 years ago

This must have been really hard and I’m happy it ended cuz you had your freedom and that’s very important, he failed in every area by not reciprocating it back to you.. I feel so sad that a relationship will flow on one side and he will end up saying he loves you, Nah! That ain’t love

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User's avatar King_Gozie
2 years ago

He never loved you that's why

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User's avatar Venvie
2 years ago

Exactly… that wasn’t present..

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User's avatar King_Gozie
2 years ago

Hmmff I experienced where my opinion doesn't matter at all, it's like all about him and it doesn't include me.

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User's avatar Probinsyana
2 years ago

I have come to realise that being attractive is subjective. One can be good looking, but not necessarily everyone is attracted to that person. Although, I am sure you were talking about your personal preference. As for understanding, I believe that is a key ingredient in any relationship and none can work without it.

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User's avatar Aimure
2 years ago

I like the fact that you know what you want in a relationship, that's a good thing, some don't know what they want and end up choosing just anyone and they expect it to last.

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User's avatar Deeepensiverse
2 years ago

That’s the whole point and some times could be differently that we just avoid these things and jump into one… it’s probably years later that it haunts the both… love is blind 😂😂

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User's avatar King_Gozie
2 years ago

You have told about this concern of yours in one of your article before Gozie:)

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2 years ago
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