Would it be okay if a woman is more successful than her husband.

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2 years ago

03 may 2022
Hi,

Over the years I have heard a lot of arguments about this particular topic. Is it okay for a wife to be richer and more successful than the husband is?. A lot of people would say oh it doesn’t matter. She can be richer and still be totally submissive to her husband. Don’t be pissed at me I call B.S at least not in a third world country like mine.

Why ?

I Have a neighbor back then who were a young couple at the time. They were very educated and exposed(like they were of the new world). The wife who was the managing director at a firm in lekki was receiving x5 her husbands salary if not more.

They understood each other and it was working for them. Not until she got a promotion at the same firm that required her to spend more time in the office and work more hours. Just that it came with even more benefit she got a new car.. they moved to a new house and they were even having expensive trips every now and then but one thing remained. She had even less time for their relationship work consumed her more and more and if he dared complain the talk of the day was.

“If I give up my job for you can you sponsor my lifestyle?”

“Can you pay me half the money I am earning right now”

“You know I am working this hard for us baby and everything I do is for us to live comfortably”

“it’s only a matter of time before I become the main boss and we can have time for each other again be patient baby”

And as promised she got a promotion even quicker than expected but guess what she had to spend even more time at the office because the boss was beginning to depend on her competency which is not her fault if we are being honest. She eventually had to get a maid who was younger, prettier and around to take care of the house chores.

I think you already know how the rest of this story plays out. Her husband cheated on her with the maid who eventually got pregnant and gave birth to a child.

Long story short they got a divorce and now she is still single and although very rich but single. Her ex husband is Married to their maid with 3 kids now with a good job and they are living okay last I heard.

Now I am not blaming anybody in this case because I don’t know what he must have endured before he cheated or what she had endured to get that far ahead in life. One thing I am sure of is she didn’t make the decision of having a maid work in her home with an easy mind it probably took guts for her to come to that final decision.

I am just saying for everything there is a price. Maybe for her the ultimate price she paid for succeeding that far was her marriage maybe it wasn’t even meant to be but all I know is sometimes in life certain things don’t just can’t work out at least in certain places. Not because there are not the right thing or because they aren’t possible options it just because they just can’t work out .. life is not fair.

Perhaps in another world, country or timeline it might be possible that she keeps her job and her man but in this .. nah it wasn’t.

So tell me what do you think she would have done differently?

Who do you think has the fault?

Do you agree with your girl or wife having more money and success than you have?

Let me know in the comment section. Thanks for reading. Stay safe and stay happy.

with love, jumper

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2 years ago

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I've noticed that there are some men that do not want their wife to be richer than them and this doesn't mean anything to me. As a woman, you should always respect your husband. Whether you're rich or not. So it depends on their understanding

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2 years ago

Yeah you are right bisola it depends on the ground of understanding between the man and the woman

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2 years ago

This shouldn't be ask in the first place. I mean, we have different perspective towards th eword success. As for me, it doesn't really matter.

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2 years ago

Yeah you are right but it is just how the world is these shouldn’t be a question but it is today

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2 years ago

In everything there should be balance. It's up to the couple to talk things through no matter who earns more so as not to sacrifice the relationship or the family.

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2 years ago

Yeah you are right .. they just need counseling and guidance.

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2 years ago

why is this even a question in first place???? it should have been okay, it should have been normal from long time

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2 years ago

Yeah but the world flawed so what can we don?

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2 years ago

For me it is okay. The only time a man is intimidated by his wife's success is when he is lazy , full of pretensions or when he is too competitive that he only believes women are only limited to child bearing and laundries. Men and women complement each other not compete with each other.

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2 years ago

👏👏👏👏👏wow this is beautiful.. wow and yes I support your response “man and woman should complement each other not compete with each other”

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2 years ago

Thank you lodicakes!

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2 years ago

They say " you cannot have it all" career and love life.. you can be successfull in your choses career but expect not in love . Maybe it is because of "time". I have a female officemate who had a good position and lets say had good earnings compare to her husband. Sometimes I could hear her saying bad things to him while talking on the phone. So that made me think " is this the career" can do in a relationship?

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2 years ago

Exactly my dear lhes. Sometimes when a woman earns more than her husband she tends to start disrespecting him saying things like “after all I am the provider for this family”. So you see why I called b.s in my article. Well I don’t know different people with different cases

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2 years ago

yeah but still I believe not all, after we got married my husband was jobless for almost two years. I was the one working but I never say something bad to him. I don't want "money issues" to be the main reason of trouble

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2 years ago

🥰🥰Awwn you see you loved him so much not every woman is like you .. I pray I find a woman like you one day 😌

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2 years ago

love is a give and take Levi, it's not about "Who" to provide, not who will spent money but it's who have an ability or resources. we are now living in new era. It wouldn't be an issue if its the woman who will pay the bills sometimes. right? Oh, for a handsome man like you? for sure you will find her

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2 years ago

That’s the thing I feel like because I am attractive I am finding it hard to find a good woman

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2 years ago

haha glad I just had a normal beauty, so I don't have that problem

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2 years ago

haha that's what we called " Pogi problems" here in the Philippines.

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2 years ago

For me it doesn't matter because marriage is both side of the party, if the wife can provide then no problem... But some men are not comfortable with such because they'd feel like they are being controlled lol...

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2 years ago

Yeah someone in the comment section now just even said one of her office mate who provides for her family always insult her husband whenever she is on call with him in her presence. If I were her husband i wouldn’t appreciate such would i ?

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2 years ago

So now you see why I said most men arent comfortable with it..

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2 years ago

Yeah you are right

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2 years ago

I feel the problem is balance, there has to be balance in everything and she failed to do that. The husband that married the maid cheated and that wasn't fair on her, she was probably trying to do the best thing for them.

I'll say this with confidence, the man will still cheat again at the slightest inconvenience, I feel there are other approaches to that than impregnating the maid.

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2 years ago

Yeah also I feel like maybe the marriage wasn’t meant to be because I tell you this if you truly love a person then sacrificing for them wouldn’t seem like a sacrifice. If she truly love him she could have quit or look for another less demanding job and if he truly loved her he could have waited for as much as needed . But oh well what do I know

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2 years ago

They weren't meant to be

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2 years ago

Mostly here in our place, womens have work than men , if I were the most successful one than my husband, I know he would be happy because he send me to school because he wanted me to be successful..

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2 years ago

🥰 awwwn that’s so nice you and your husband are a role model for couples to emulate.

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2 years ago

yay.. thank you for that hehe

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2 years ago

Maybe everyone's views are different, but today's era has replaced the perspective of some people that between men and women have stood on equal footing and in my opinion that is also true because many circumstances and positions of men are replaced by women in leadership, organizations, etc. But perhaps the problem is that the man is the head of the household who is always prioritized and becomes the backbone of the family.

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2 years ago

Yeah I don’t know how to put it but in the ancient time the man was always the bread winner and the woman the one who organizes the home.. so for some couples if they don’t follow that traditional partner with love and understanding things tends to fall apart

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2 years ago

Honestly speaking more success more earning by your wife does not mean there will definitely be more problems. But, it is allabout how we handle things in life. Some people do not value other things in their life other than material success while some always value their family over everything else. there are many richer people who makes time for their family despite being busy enough in their profession. But again i would say it all depends on people's emotional intelligence.

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2 years ago

This is beautiful bro and yes you are right being richer doesn’t mean you have to neglect other things in life but you know these things happen sometimes to teach us to do better

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2 years ago

I believe in a home where true love and God exists, there would be no issues with one partner earning more than the other since resources would be put together.

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2 years ago

Yeah I agree but love fades and sometimes what keeps a home is friendship and how do stay friends with your partner by seeing them often

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2 years ago

I am the one who has a regular job and works hard for our family. My husband doesn't have a regular job, I think it doesn't matter who has more money or has a nice job .I earn more money than him and I know he understand that I have to work more since we still have a baby to feed an a teenager to support.It's a matter of loyalty and understanding.

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2 years ago

Yes bravo 👏 this is the answer I was looking for it is a matter of loyalty and understanding. That was why I said “third world country” I feel like couples can learn how to manage some of these things in therapy or counseling.

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2 years ago

Thank you.husband and I never had an issue about who earn the most.

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2 years ago

Surely, both sides have difficulty of which decision would suits. Yes the woman seems to have 5x or more monthly salary than other. If I were the husband I should not tell her cause that amount is a big help for there expenses. But she has to sacrifice her time and neglected their family. In that case they can spend time for leisure time. Of course there's still time for her to have at least one day off from work or even they can spent time on a vacation especially holidays or non-working days.

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2 years ago

Yeah but I think the leisure time she had if she had any was put into doing more work that is why she rose to the top of the firm in a short time. It was like she prioritize her work over her family.

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2 years ago

Sometimes it is the main reason why other people tend to make a long dispute because of that situation.

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2 years ago

Being successful comes with a lot of responsibilities. The responsibility that came with the position the lady was given, was one that came at the cost of her marriage. There was no way she could combine both and had to sacrifice one in the long run. From this story of yours, I can say that he's a good lady. She fumbled it by bringing in a maid that's old enough to give birth to a child. Nowadays, some ladies especially them feminists act like they've made it and would definitely not respect their husband because they believe they have it more.

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2 years ago

Exactly her believe is that she has to be the one to provide more and more and that if her husband needs anything all she needs to do is find him a maid not understanding that temptation can come in and out of sight eventually becomes out of mind.

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2 years ago

I understand why many guys would not want to be in that position because things get easily into the heads of women but we have guys too who are terrible at that. I think it's all about the kind of person. Money has the capacity to change anyone. Humility is key in everything. Know your worth and don't give discount..a lot of people are defined by the amount of money they have. As for me, I'm never bothered...as long as I am.making impact where I am.

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2 years ago

Yeah true words well spoken boss thanks for your contribution- and yeah you are actually right

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2 years ago

Thank you, brother.

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2 years ago

There's nothing bad if my wife is more successful than I am inasmuch as she knows her role and never misuses her chances, it's fine by me. I will say the lady was truly busy but guilty, she should have created time for her husband no matter how. The man told is at fault to some extent cos his patience might not be enough.

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2 years ago

Yeah but then you don’t know how long he must have endured her absennce

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2 years ago

True sha, but they are both guilty

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2 years ago

The man was wrong, but just like you said; I also don't know what the man endured before he remarried.

Strictly my opinion, a woman can be more successful than her husband, but she and her hubby need to have a mature understanding on the whole issue, either ways; the man is the head of the family. Whatever job the woman finds herself doing, she should be able to spare out time for her kids and family. So the woman is wrong in that aspect

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2 years ago

Yeah you know I am sure they had that agreement before even deciding to get married but things can change as time goes on

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2 years ago