Every mother has her own unique approach to parenting and nurturing her children. It is up to them to determine how they will discipline their children. Some people favor the harsh approach, while others prefer the compassionate approach. Mother knows best, but not all the time. What were your parents' methods for disciplining you and your siblings? Was it a strenuous and tough one or a gentle one? When it comes to going out and hanging out with your friends, is your mother strict? If she does, it's fine because she simply cares about your safety.
But sometimes we can't help but think negatively, especially nowadays, when teenagers are easily irritated if their parents won't let them hang out with their friends. They will then become enraged, and questions will arise in their minds as to why their parents are like that, and why they must be so strict. They feel like they're in a cage. As they've said, the more strict the parents are, the more rebellious the kid will become. But still, it all depends on how the parents discipline their kids.
I would say that I am lucky that my mother is not a strict mother. She doesn't stop us from going wherever we want as long as we're with a good group of people. The only time my mother wouldn't let us hang out with our friends was when I was a kid. She wouldn't let me go outside because it was too hot and she wanted me to sleep in the afternoon. LOL, typical Filipina mothers. And as we grew older, she always allowed us to go and hang out with our friends. From our oldest to our youngest, we never heard her say "No" to us, except on my older brother. Which is the black sheep of the family (before).
She's confident in letting us go wherever we want because we're not the type of kids who love to go out and hang out with our friends, which also explains why she's not strict when it comes to that. Yes, we seldom go out of our house, and it is our own will, our choice to just stay in the house. We're not party-goers. That is why every time we asked her permission to hang out with our friends, she would automatically say, "Go ahead, that's good." "Enjoy!" Sometimes she will be the one who forces us to go out and have some fun. She is a super cool mom!
Our mother once shared with us their teenage days, along with her siblings, who are my aunt and uncles. My mom was the eldest, and she got all the household work. She would even wash two sacks of clothes, and they were a huge family. She had eight siblings. My grandfather was a strict father, and my mother could detect favoritism toward her and her siblings. My mother said that she wasn't totally enjoying her teenage years because she was already focused on household chores. My grandfather would not let my mother leave the house even if her friends invited her to go out, even if it was only a few blocks away or just in the same barangay.
I feel sad for my cousin because my aunt is so strict with her. My aunt won't allow her to go out and hang out with her friends. She can only go out and enjoy herself if she's with us, her cousins. And, she's 23 already, yet her mom won't allow her to go out. Because of how strict her mother is, that is one of the things that she hates the most. Well, I just couldn't blame my aunt for being a strict parent because my cousin was their Única hija and the middle child. And I understand why they are so strict with their daughter. But sometimes, it's too much to the point that my cousin couldn't enjoy her life anymore.
My mom said that my aunt was so free during their teenage years that my grandpa would allow them to go wherever they wanted, except for my mom. That is why she promised to herself that if she gets a family of her own, she will allow her kids to go out and will not be the kind of strict parent to her children because she doesn't want her kids to experience the same way she experienced it way back in her teen years.
So lucky to have a mom like her.
To someone who has a strict mother or parents, it's okay, they just did it for your own safety. But always remember,
Mother knows best, but not all the time. :)
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Nakakaksakal ate amg strict parents sa totoo lang hehe. Oftentimes, lagi nilang iniisip na sila lagi ang tama kaya naiinis ako though I think that they were just doing the best but not all hehe.