October 18, 2022
While homebodies are comfortable enough to live in their own abodes and can't seem to leave them, others aim to step out of their houses literally to live on their own for many reasons. Freedom, privacy, and an independent life are a few reasons I can name. This topic came to mind after reading @Kushyzee's article about When should a person leave their parents' house?
In my own point of view, a person can leave their parent's house once they have already established a stable life with a job that can sustain their daily needs. Any kind of job, as long as it won't make the person starve for the rest of their life, and definitely not make the person live in the street. This is not ideal for students who seem to struggle to make ends meet and those who rely only on their parent's shoulders.
Some may believe that living on their own is a relatively easy life, particularly for the young ones. They compared living on their own to living in boarding houses while waiting for their parents' allowances. It is indeed a lovely life - no need to be concerned about finances.
But hell no, the other way is totally different. And you can only understand the real-life struggle if you literally live on your own, working to finance your expenses, rent, and bills while also doing housework, laundry, marketing, cooking, and so on. (While writing this part, I realized that it is no different with working and living with my parents, but still doing all of those, lol)
It's funny to think back to when we were students; we wanted a job right away so we could buy and do whatever we wanted and live independently. But once we get a job and experience all kinds of shits in life (as per PVM), we just want to go back to being worry-free students and wait for our parents' allowances to arrive. Have you ever thought about that? I did many times. Adulthood with a lot of responsibilities sucks.
As mentioned above, there are reasons why others want to leave their parent's house. And if I were to put myself in this situation (which I truly wish to do), my reasons will be: to achieve freedom and independent life, escape from burdens and responsibilities, and more peaceful life.
Independent life and a little freedom are what I have right now. But the second reason is still tied up with me, and would probably stay for I don't exactly know until when, until my 40s? The 50s? That sucks. And a more peaceful life is what I truly desire, especially given that I grew up in a large family where the noise seemed to be permanently contained within our home. I want to live alone so that I can have more freedom. Somewhere where no one will interfere with my relaxation and where I can do whatever I want without others bothering me. In my own house, I can even go naked or insane if I want to. A more private and free life where I could feel pretty at ease in my own skin.
Yet, there are reasons too why others couldn't seem to leave their parent's house. Some reasons that I can name include: being homebodies and the fear of separation or stepping out of their comfort zone, the unstable source of income, the inability to manage his/her own life (those reliant), and lastly, family responsibilities.
I know a lot of homebodies here and they are afraid to step out of their comfort zone to the beehive. It's pretty risky to think though at the beginning, but surely, the time will come when you will definitely want your own space to live independently. Mark these words!
But see? Family responsibilities seem to be included in all circumstances. And again, if I will put myself in this situation, even if I want to leave my parent's house, I still couldn't unload those responsibilities, until such time that my youngest sibling is fully grown up, and already know how to stand on his own.
So to live in, or leave my parent's house?
If I were to choose, of course, to leave, but, at right time when things are already at the right place. Yet, I wouldn't leave for good, and I will always come back when necessary. Besides, there's no place like home.
What about you? Share your answer below.
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Yes, nobody left their parents for good coz we always come home lalo na tayong mga Pinoy... When I was a student I wanted to leave our house to be free and independent din. I thought of looking for a job and not rely on them pero my strict and proud parents said it's nkakahiya as if daw d nila kmi kayang pag-aralin.
For now am self reliant mom of 4 kids, and is living sa bahay ng mga parents q. They are living at their house in town