Her Weakness Become Her Strengths

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|5th Nov 22|18:00|

Over the years, women have always been downgraded and considered weak due to the patriarchy depicted in history. We are always defined as household workers and only know things about caring for the family and home. That is absurd to believe because, nowadays, resiliency and the number of challenges faced and overcome are used to define someone's capabilities rather than gender.

This was submitted as my entry to the LoH contest on another platform. Because I dreamed about my mother the other night, I opted to share this here.

Would you believe me if I say we are thirteen siblings in the family? Imagine how a mother can handle more than a dozen children. A weak one would definitely go crazy.

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Above all the inspiring women I know, there's only one whom I considered the toughest and most resilient of all, none other than, my mother.

Ignorant and weak she may consider herself when she was young, but motherhood turned her into a person she never thought she will become.

As a third of the thirteen and eldest daughter of the family, I witnessed how my mother faced a lot of challenges and how she was able to get through a lot of storms. I've been with her throughout her journey as I stood as the second mother of the family.

And having a husband who was always away to work to make ends meet, she stood as a mother and a father to us at the same time. She carried all the burdens and responsibilities of raising her children alone and went through restless days and sleepless nights for the sake of giving her children a comfortable life.

We aren't rich or poor. But there were times in my childhood when we suffered hunger due to our father's shortcomings. A lot of times, I've seen her eating less just to give us enough food on our plates. She'd rather starve than see us starving.

If during the day she was restless, each night she was sleepless. She would get up with just one cry from a baby and attend to the baby's needs. She would stay awake until everything was fine. And as her assistant, I stayed up late as well. In that way, she had company.

A lot of storms came that she dealt with by herself, as our father was away on his duty. I was about 10 or 12 years old when a devastating typhoon caused havoc in our place. During those days, our father couldn't be reached out to. We even thought he had abandoned us. My mother, on the other hand, doesn't have enough to suffice our needs. She had stayed up all night worrying about what might happen. We were too young and no one could help us, but ourselves.

With God's guidance, we survived the typhoon. It receded the next day, and we were starving. One problem left was how to look for something to fill our growling stomachs. We went out to collect fruit from fallen trees with our mother. We got bananas and some vegetables. They saved our day. And a few days later, our father showed up, probably to check if we were still alive. But at the back of my head was hatred against him for being away during those days we needed him most. If not because of our mother, we probably would have given up our lives.

When our father betrayed our mother and opted to go with another woman, we saw how she cried bitterly and worried about what would happen to her family. She feared seeing a broken home with fatherless children. Yet, her love for him prevailed as she believed that someday, our father would change and go back home again. It seemed that her prayers were granted when one day, our father realized that we were her real family, and he found his way back home, for the betterment of everyone.

Losing is part of being a mother as well. I witnessed how she became devastated when she lost a child, not just once, but twice. She suffered a miscarriage during the first trimester of her pregnancy with her fifth child. She lost her 7th child a few weeks before his 1st birthday due to an unknown sickness that even doctors weren't able to revive. It was so sudden and unexpected. He got sick in the afternoon. He was sent to the hospital at night and went back home the next day, dead and cold. It wasn't just devastating to her as a mother but to the whole family.


"Sometimes you don't realize your strength until you come face to face with your greatest weakness."

-Susan Gale


A mother's greatest weakness is losing a child, and we never expected it to happen to our family. However, death is untimely and we don't own our life, so we need to move on. But that became her strength.

She seemed to have moved on easily when she lost her unborn child. But it took her a long time to recover from the loss of her baby. I've seen her wailing silently, shedding tears but soundless. The sense of pensive sadness, grief, and guilt were all painted on her face. As a daughter, it was too painful for me to see my mother in despair and sorrow. She has been our strength, but seeing her weak made us weak as well.

Only mothers who have lost a child know how painful it is. For the sake of her remaining children, she stood stronger and continued being a mother.


"Being a mother is learning strengths you didn't know you had, and dealing with fears you didn't know existed." -Linda Wooten


Her weaknesses became her strengths. And her past experiences, sufferings, and pains had even strengthened her resilience.

If there's one thing that I got from her, it's being resilient and hardworking. And I'm proud to be her daughter.


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May she live long and enjoy the fruit of all her labour. She went through a lot to make sure her family stayed happy. Mothers are really trying.

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1 year ago

I admire your mother for the unfailing love and sacrifice for your family. She was so selfless just to have a complete family being together for better or for worst, for plenty and in want. She had been a mother in the best essence that she could be. You are so blessed to have her and she having you and other siblings, especially your father for having your mother as a wife.

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1 year ago

She's Indeed a superwoman, Salute to all Mom out there!

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1 year ago

Womens are the very strong . Womens do everything just need support . Womens can do job with home work . In world womens do it . Moms are the best gift and blessing us from Allah . Moms are best for all child . When womens want to do so they do it . Womens can handle home and do job outside .its not weakness its women strenght .

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1 year ago

Women are wonderful creatures though they are seen as weak, their abilities and capabilities are unleashed when situations require it. Salute to ur great mom... We lost 2 in our family and they were older children. I wasn't still born those time but every time my mother thinks of them, the pain is written all over her face

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1 year ago

Same pla dn samin.. Mas madami kmi lung nabuhay mga yun hehe.. But iba yung naipanganak na at mawawala lang..iba yung pain ng ina...

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1 year ago

Many people out there may see women as someone who's weak or fragile. Nowadays, even other women do downgrade other women too. That's how toxic the society can be ~ but no one could ever question a mother and their strengths or weaknesses. Being a Mom is something that should stand for in a lifetime, walang retirement like those professionals.

So, our Moms are the bestest. So worthy to be idolized with! And ang strong ni Mama mo, Ate ah. Bearing 13 children in her womb is just, wow! Jan pa lang, ibang klase na ey. 💓

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1 year ago

Salamuch..and I know in the future, you'll be a great mother to your children 😊

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1 year ago

Looking forward, Ate. Pero saka na kapag financially stable na ako at kaya na talagang magpalaki ng makulit na bata. Hihi!

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1 year ago

Your mom is truly a super mom. Despite losing a child, she didn't let that hinder her from taking care of the others. Being able to take care of 13 kids is no joke, we have mothers that can't even take care of one!

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1 year ago

True.. The irresponsibles..

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1 year ago

Wow...Janey...wow. She is a real definition of a mother...strong... Dependable...and resilient. I see that in you already and I celebrate such a huge figure as her. Anyone can be a mother but it takes someone special to be called "mummy". It aches my heart when the society reduces the roles of women and see them as domesticated individuals rather than the strength they truly possess and the value they have. What can we do without our women??? Nothing. Women are pillars...

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1 year ago

Nice to hear that from a man..jehe..your wife must be lucky to have you kuya

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1 year ago

Thank you, Janey... Women are phenomenal and remarkable.

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1 year ago

To say mother, is to say infinite love, eternal compassion :)

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1 year ago

Wow 13 kids what a super momma!! Losing two the way she did, the whole thing with your father and still standing tall for the rest of you shows that God created an amazing mother indeed. Yes be very proud to be her daughter. Good to see you have picked up things from her as well.

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1 year ago

Thank you

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1 year ago

You have explained a good point in life. May your spiritual bond with the mother always be beautiful.

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2 years ago

I read some of the entries in the community and mostly write about their mother. Well indeed being a mother really need to be strong ano? Even I myself is looking up for my Mom too!

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2 years ago

Sooner or later, you'll be one too

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2 years ago

Our.mother will.do anything whatever kind of hard challenges it is she know and find other things ro make raise as soon as possible she can and did not turn down.

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2 years ago

Only those responsible mothers

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2 years ago

You really have a deep understanding of being a mother. Respect to your mom and to all moms like her!

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2 years ago

Thanks ..

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2 years ago

Salute to you mother madams, di biro mga pinag daanan nya but there she is, still fighting. Gaano man sya hamunin ng tadhanan, lalabas talaga sya 🥰🔥🤩

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2 years ago

Thanks madam

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2 years ago

Oh my, you got a volleyball team with referee. Nakakabilib si mom mo, sobra. Halos lahat na danas na nya and nakayanan nya. 🤗🤗🤗

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2 years ago

We call it a platoon since our Father was a soldier 😂

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2 years ago

Salute to your mom miss Jane. Isa sa mga moms na naencounter ko na napaka brave. Nakaya niya lahat ng mga challenges na dumating sa life. Yung papa ko miss Jane 10 sila magkakapatid. Marami din sila.

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2 years ago

Wow.. So successful naman ba lahat?

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