If you do not value yourself enough, perhaps it is because you do not know the negative consequences of this exercise of injustice, in which you yourself are the appraiser and party. Remember that the consequences of undervaluing yourself are not only paid for by you. All the people around you, starting with your children, partner, relatives, friends and colleagues, will suffer from your lack of self-esteem. Thus, the fact that you do not value yourself enough will make you look at yourself in a mirror as someone small, when in reality you have capabilities that you ignore. It is difficult to have a realistic image of our own capabilities, at the same time that it is difficult to set a limit that separates those challenges that we can achieve with effort from those challenges that are beyond our possibilities.
In fact, sometimes we fail and sometimes we succeed, something that conditions how we feel in the present and often makes us lose perspective of our true value. When you do not value yourself enough, you tend to acquire a series of automatisms that give you away. Evaluating whether or not they are present in your life can give you a realistic view of how you value yourself and how fair your self-worth is. A key to those people who underestimate themselves is their over-modesty. No, it means that negative connotations come from overdoing it. This fact signals a person as insecure. Accept compliments. If someone compliments you, they feel you deserve that treatment, well, you do. While humility is a wonderful virtue, too much of it can be a self-esteem problem, so let them lavish you if you deserve it.
Don't forget that everyone has an opinion on everything. But on many occasions, those opinions do not arise from a rigorous process of thought and analysis. That doesn't mean that they can't hurt or be reliable, but we must know that they don't always deserve an excessive valuation either. If whatever someone else's opinion is too important to us, we may be underestimating ourselves. Insecure people overvalue any other person's opinion. So we shouldn't feel vulnerable because of what others say. Nor are their comments more valid than yours. It is not wrong to think about the welfare of others. Putting it before your own can be a valuable and altruistic attitude. Doing so constantly is a clear symptom of underestimation.
In that sense, a person who underestimates himself and who is insecure will always feel the target of the mockery of others. Any comment, look or gesture can be misinterpreted, causing anxiety. But don't think that everyone around you is thinking about you. To a confident person, these attitudes, if they exist, because sometimes they are imaginary, do not matter. We should not be concerned with pleasing others, but with pleasing ourselves. If you are one of those who think that you cannot do something, it is because you cannot do it. Your thinking is your main enemy, that is, yourself. You are not aware of the many possibilities and capabilities you actually have.
In conclusion, do not be defeatist. You have enormous capabilities and possibilities and you can do whatever you set your mind to. But try to keep your feet on the ground. You could build your own company, for example, but not make horses fly. Always within realism, be aware of how much you can achieve if you set your mind to it. These people avoid leaving the comfort zone because for them it is really comfortable. In a gray, routine and repetitive existence, many people feel secure. They avoid getting out of it at all costs for fear of what might happen. They always think negatively, believing that any change will be for the worse. This is a clear lack of self-esteem. If we loop into the comfort zone and convince ourselves that it is the best, we will end up believing it is so.
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