Being unfaithful to your partner because he/she also betrayed you does not solve anything. In most cases, you end up regretting what you have done and increase distances and suffering. Using infidelity as revenge is a common resource in relationships. It is also an irrational impulse to punish the other. The problem is that this behavior almost always leads to regret, since, far from resolving something, it leads to chaos and senseless suffering. The wound becomes much more infected, creating distances that are often unbridgeable. The origin lies in that delicate layer of psychological skin that is our emotions. When our partner betrays us, the pain is so intense that we seek to inflict the same punishment on the other.
In that sense, we seek to feed them the same poison that we ourselves have ingested. Revenge is that darker side of our personality that derives in traits and attitudes that we must understand and deactivate to reach maturity. A difficult path that not everyone reaches. Infidelity is an experience that appears frequently in monogamous relationships. The reason why it leads to these acts is as diverse as it is unpredictable. Sometimes there may be a real infatuation for a third person. In other cases, it is simple attraction and sexual desire. There is also the lack of love, the search for new sensations, to reinforce self-esteem and, of course, the search for revenge.
There are even many who think "if my partner did it, why not the same do". A thought that, at first, seems most absurd, later materializes in a legitimate mechanism to express anger. Infidelity as revenge is an irrational and unconscious impulse that aims at two things. The first is obvious: it seeks to make the other suffer the same damage that one has experienced in one's own skin. And the other purpose is to achieve a change, to bring about repentance after becoming aware of what has been done. However, these behaviors do not always achieve either one thing or even less the other. The result is none other than to increase the aggravation, to achieve that after a blow there is a more intense backlash.
However, infidelity as revenge also hopes to awaken empathy in the other person. The desire to retaliate when suffering the betrayal of the partner is guided not only to provoke a change. It is also expected that when the other person suffers the pain of infidelity, that he/she realizes what he/she has done and also suffers for the suffering generated. It is emotions, not reason, that guide and drive this type of behavior. There is often another motivation; the desire for power and to restore dignity. When one has been "emotionally injured", it is common to live that experience as a humiliation. An infidelity is an attack on trust. Using this same behavior as a mechanism of revenge further annihilates the relationship.
In conclusion, if a relationship is worth saving, cheating for revenge is not a good choice. Revenge only feeds the worst of ourselves, that shadow that always brings discomfort and unhappiness. It is obvious that a betrayal hurts and that the brain often feels the desire to do to the other person what he/she has done to us. However, this reaction does not solve anything, it only increases the pain and reduces one's dignity to shreds. It is not the right thing to do. In these cases it is necessary to resort to honesty and express to our partner how we feel about his or her behavior. Dialogue is the essential nutrient in any relational problem, it is what allows us to understand and reach a series of agreements or solutions.
Have you been tempted by the desire for revenge?
Disclaimer: I would like to let you know that English is not my mother tongue, I may even make some mistakes in the elaboration of sentences in my posts. Feel free to correct me attentively. It will help me in my learning process.
I especially want to thank my loyal sponsors for their unconditional support. I truly wish them the best this world can give them. I would also like to invite my readers to stop by and review your content, it is very interesting and valuable.
My most recent articles:
Maturity is also learning to subtract.
You can follow me on:
Facebook - Instagram - Youtube - twitter
My Blogs:
