Promises are no longer Sacred
Never budget on a promise because it's easier for people to make promises than to keep to the promise. Gone are the days when Promises are sacred, nowadays people make promises with no intention of fulfilling them, but just to get rid of you or stop you from pestering them.
One thing I’ve noticed about movies that depict the ancient days is that when someone swears with his name to do something, people believe him, they take him for his word even if he is an enemy. They believe a man’s word is his biggest seal. Breaking it with be a discredit to him. Promises were never taken lightly no matter what they cost. It is said a promise is a debt, but you can never be sure when that amount will be called. People go ahead to make promises as if they don’t have any responsibilities or things to do. All they seem to think about is the good side of the promise.
But what about the bad side though? There isn’t anything mentioned about what will happen when a person fails in fulfilling a promise. Do the promises die when no action is taken?
Promises are meant to be kept. It might not necessarily be about a monetary change or favour but just about the commitment you made. There are a lot of people who make promises and don't even try to keep them or end up breaking them without being thought about it. It's unethical and that someone isn't very trustworthy.
I can remember when I got into the university and required money to pay my acceptance fee and Tuition fee. I went to my uncles and aunties who promised to support me once I gain admission but none helped. For weeks I kept on going to their houses, spending transport fare and missing lectures but they kept on asking me to come back. It got to some time, any time I get to my uncle’s place his wife will attend to me rudely and tell him he isn’t at home. I stopped going and decided to take up some Jobs to raise money.
I was bitter for a long time and wondered why they all promised to help but fail to do what they say. I carried the hate for a long time but later when I experienced more disappointment from those I called friends I learned to stop budgeting on a promise and know that humans and fulfilling promises are enemies.
Everyone has someone in their life, who is reliable and trustworthy. Someone who is honest and who does what they have promised to do. People can be trusted to the extent that you can rely on them for everything you need. Everyone hasn't had such luck. If you have, congratulations! If not, don't worry you are not alone. There are a lot of people who have been deceived by their friends and loved ones, simply because they expected something from them. So if you are someone who doesn't have someone to rely on for their needs and desires here are some words of advice to help you find the right person you need.
The first question that you should ask yourself is why? Why do you want to find someone reliable? Well to find the right person that you want to trust and rely on, you need to think about the state of mind of the person whom you want to make your friend or love. What do they like? What kind of person do they want to be around? For example, if they want someone who is funny and funny all the time, then you need to be that kind of person or figure out how your funny side can be shown more.
Do you want a friend that is trustworthy and keeps to promises? You have to start by being one. You can’t take others with a pinch of salt and expect them to take you seriously. Be a good friend and see how others will reciprocate, though the world is rotten right now and it’s hard to see someone you can trust wholeheartedly, there are still good people out there.
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I have always known for a long time that I can never hope on anyone that promised me something, most of the time they end up breaking their promise. Having it at the back of your mind that promises are just mere words and can be broken at anytime will save you from a lot of frustrations arising from disappointments