" He doesn't love me," she said to me. My friend looked on with anger and amusement. I was surprised myself because I know how my friend treats her. I can say with boldness that indeed he cares deeply for her. Why then is she saying this?. As if she knew what was going through my mind, she added "He doesn't know my love language"

"Oh we are getting somewhere," I said to myself. At this stage, the amusement on my friend's face was gone. In place of it was anger. I looked at him and gave him the sign to please calm down.

"What is your love language?" I asked.

"Money is my love language " she replied.

PAUSE

INTRODUCTION

Pardon my manners. No proper introduction to today's article. Let me correct that...If we are to go by the denotative meaning of the term Language, we would say it's the particular pattern of communicating among a certain set of people. It isn't restricted to spoken words alone. Signs are also languages. A raised high brow can have dip meaning to someone while to another it's a way of acknowledging someone's presence.

I don't want to go it that angle because I believe Various articles have done justice to that. I will use the case of a friend of mine as the foundation for this article. All other words and conclusions will be based on it.

Back to the story

I was speechless and clueless as to what to do next. They shouted at each other while I watched them. I left for hostel and wonder why on earth someone will proudly say it out that she's a "Gold digger" because that was what i believe she's saying.

I couldn't take it for long, and decided to have a conversation with a friend who I can say has a lot of experience in relationship matters.

Various love languages

I) Constant reminder

Some people's love language is to be reminded now and then. They might pretend or act indifferent to it but the day their partner forget to say "I love you" or didn't send a message professing his/her love they start feeling Sad and feel the other partner is cheating.

II) Spending quality time together

A lot of people's love language is the desire to be with the other person always. When they are down, they expect him/her to be present to share the pain with them. They want to share their happiest moments with their partner. When the partner gets busy for consecutive days without taking out time to attend to his/her partner, the partner gets annoyed and might start doubting him.

III) Buying Gift

Some people don't know how to express their love other than through gifts. They buy their partner various things and offer them financial assistance. It isn't limited to the guys alone. We have ladies that buy stuff for their boyfriends. Give them money as a form of support. Probably this is the category my friend's girl falls. She expect little gifts as an act of expressing love. Not compulsoryly huge amount of money or big gifts.

IV) Physical touch

A long hug. Intense cuddling is the way some people express their love. They believe they find solace in such actions. And form a deep connection with their partner in the process.

V) Act of service

By offering to help the other from time to time is another way of expressing love. Though the society has placed the mantle of the home keeper on the women. The husband/guy offering to help with the dishes, cooking, setting the table, taking care of the kids can act as a form of showing love and ladies do appreciate this.

Understanding matters

The most important thing is to understand your partner's love language. I know of a girl that says her guy calls Every night to remind her of how he loves her with all his heart. She said that alone is what she needs.

Now to the issue of being a gold digger or not. The danger of having "giving out gift" as one love language is that the other party might feel entitled to it at some point. And most relationships based on this do end in breakups. With each party hating each other. One will be accused of being "Broke and can't take care of his man/woman" while the other will be accused of being a "Gold digger".

My Love language

Constant reminder. The little "I love you" helps in reaffirming my feelings from time to time. But my Greatest love language is Crypto. As the famous tiktoker, "Maisvault" said and i quote "I'm a crypto digger...a bitcoin digger". Winks and gives a sexy look. lol, call me a "BCH digger". 😂

Dear girlfriend(s). Do you want to show your love to me?. C'mon said me some BCH, send me money. I want to be a BabyBoy for life.😂

Thanks for reading!🤗🤗🤗

What's your love language? Kindly drop it in the comment section. Let's interact