Just a ramble -Wednesday edition
It’s a normal thing to see people taking advantage of others kindness. I’ve got a soft spot that is known to a lot of my friends and acquaintance and it doesn’t come as a surprise to see a lot of people exploiting it to their advantage. A few months back I received a call from a friend that he needs cash, he sounded desperate and promised to refund it that same day when he gets home. I had nothing in the bank, just cash and it was so early that I couldn't get a POS stand to do the transfer. I called my brother to help me send the money to him, which I refunded in cash.
I planned to reject a refund since the money was just a little above $5 back then. Moreover, what are friends for? Since he promised to return it that same day, I waited for his message, expecting him to request for my account number, and my rehearsed lecture was "Don't worry brother" but his message never came in. The next day no message and days after.
For weeks he didn’t return the money as promised, neither did he mention it once. We met in school and he completely ignore me. sometime later he came to me and we chatted as if nothing transpired between us during the holiday and he must have thought I'd forgotten. Yesterday, he messaged me as usual, he said he needs a little cash, he promised to return it as soon as possible. Unfortunately, I didn't have up to that with me again but this time around, I didn't go out of my way to get it for him.
If he didn't act that way the other time, I could have helped. Even if he doesn't have the money. A message of acknowledgement, a message to show that you have me in mind could have helped and of course, I will tell him not to bother. But he acted as if he doesn't care at all. I don't wish him bad, in fact, I pray he achieves all his heart desires but his nonchalant attitude has blocked all forms of help from me. It isn't wickedness. It's lessons I've learnt my lessons from different friends.
This brings me to today's nugget...
We all need help at one time or another while working on a project. Most times, it's financial help. When you need help from others, it is important to ask, but have a limit on how much you ask. Most people would like to help, but here are some things I have learned and I have come to realize that, constantly asking for financial help has a downside.
First of all, think about how you can help others and what you can do for them. And think about how to make this help as much as possible without being caught by others who are waiting to help themselves and others. What do you have to offer in exchange for help rendered? It's rare to see people help nowadays without the expectation of something in return, so you need to be careful of who you run to for help.
Another thing, worth considering is who to ask, where, how and who wants to give. It sounds so simple but in fact, it is not so. In our country, many people are asking without thinking about what might be asked in return or where the news of their request will get to. "When you give with your right hands, your lefty hands shouldn't know" isn't in everyone's book. The purpose of giving has been defeated if you keep telling everyone what you did. Though some people show ingratitude which might lead to an outburst of things you've done for them, we need to learn how to control ourselves and not spoil the help we've rendered.
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Got to go... It's been a busy day for me, and tomorrow promises to be even busier. Lectures are ongoing in school but Lazy Valour is still at home eating momma's food. By Sunday I'll be joining the others. Let's do this again.
I've had this same encounter, I helped someone with cash, he promised to return but never did nor showed any sign of "I'm coming I don't have it now". That instantly blocked the giving Chanel. Oftentimes if I'm giving out, I seldom go with the mind of borrowing out so I won't be expecting much because we(human beings) are unpredictable