Happy ever after?
Happy new month everyone. I know I’m not the first person to wish you a happy new month, but let mine ring in your ear for it’s coming from my heart. So here is my first article for the new month. I attended a "singles submit" yesterday though I contested going but when my Dad is bent on something, it is hard to say “No” to him.
So there I was, seated amid other young boys and girls. Many are of marriage age so they were seated there excited to hear from the speaker, I kept on looking around not sharing any iota of excitement with them, looking around for the easiest escape route but my Dad who was one of the speakers kept on throwing threatening glances at me. I resigned to fate and plugged my Earbud in my ear ready to listen to the new playlist I created, but a soft tap on my shoulder stopped me in my track. I look up to see a beautiful usher smiling at me and gesturing that I should remove the Earbud. If it were to be a guy I will be angry and might tell him to f*ck off but this lady was too beautiful for me to say “No” and the smile was out of this world. I feigned interest in what the speaker was saying like an obedient child.
However, after some minutes of pretending to be attentive, the speaker was able to get my full attention when she mentioned little things we don’t pay attention to, that destroy marriages. She was specifically talking about marriages in this part of the world because things that might lead to divorce here might be negligible in other countries. Vice versa.
-The men’s ego
I was surprised to hear that some men are against their wives working and some that allow them to work don’t want them to earn more than they do. My mouth was left open. How on earth will you be sad because your wife earns more than you?. I thought after marriage the two become one and both parties want the best for each other. Why then do some men feel intimidated when their wives earn more money than them.
-Joint account
Having a joint account is another issue some marriages have. The husband and wife make use of a single account, that way they can control how they spend. However, this sometimes leads to more problem for them when one of them start spending on things the other doesn’t approve of, or when one withdraws without telling the other.
-Dotting on kids
It’s now a normal thing in most families for either the mother or father to act as the bad cop and the other the good cop. Some fathers/mothers dot on their kids too much and take offence when their kids are chastised by their partner
-Friends of the opposite sex
Having a best friend of the opposite sex might be an issue in a marriage. That doesn’t mean after getting married you cut ties with your close friends of the opposite gender, but try to limit the closeness. When you talk about your female friend every time you are with your wife, she will get tired one day and might start suspecting you. Throughout we all love to claim that we are not the jealous type but by nature, we hate fighting for space/ love.
-Who cooks?
Someone asked a question - “Let's say the husband closes from work by 5 pm and the wife by 8 pm who should do the cooking?”. I thought it was a no brainer. The husband can do the cooking when he gets back early on some days and other days he can decide to wait for the wife or they eat out but so many guys there disagreed. They say the husband shouldn’t be the one cooking at any time, neither is eating out an option.
Conclusion
There are so many minute things leading to break up nowadays, the courtship period is the time to discuss all these issues. Do not make assumptions, ask questions that are not clear to you. Be sure before saying “Yes I do”
Thanks for Reading!
Hey there you are the first person to telle " happy new month here " I wish you the same sir it good to be exploring more after a month of less attention . Who cooks we all know who owns the duty it should be the wife and nice meeting you sir