It Wasn't Free At All

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We are all free to dream anything we want, as expressed in the well-known Filipino saying "Libre lang mangarap." but does it really free?

A dream is a series of goals that a person aspires to attain in the future.  We were taught as a child to dream big since it's free, but I think that advice is flawed. A dream is a big word with a lot of implications and obligations, in my personal perspective, as I deduce from my experiences.

Although expressing my ideas may come across as negative, I still felt the need to do so. We don't dream just to leave this dream as it is; rather, we dream to create things. We don't just dream; rather, we build dreams. This is a sad fact because in the process of building our dreams, we have to sacrifice many things and we experience many failures. This is one of the reasons why I disagree with the idea that "it's free to dream." When we don't get what we want on the first try, the common thing that everyone experiences is disappointment in ourselves. This involves a battle of tenacity; if you have the courage to take a risk, you have a lot of opportunities ahead of you despite knowing the fact that you only have a half of chance to succeed, but if you are afraid to take a risk from then on, you will immediately find yourself giving up on achieving your dreams experiencing failure.

I believe it is better for kids to learn early on that failing at something is acceptable than always counting success. A child who is encouraged to keep track of their accomplishments feels pressured to constantly be the best because failing to do so would leave them feeling deeply disappointed in themselves which can lead to affect their character in the future when it comes to achieving their own sets of dream in life. Once a child was taught to accept failures and embrace their own flaws it would be easier for them to carry out the responsibility of achieving their dream as they wouldn't be afraid of failing.

Dreaming big is like taking out a loan from a bank using a commodity since we have to pay interest on top of the cost of the ambition as well. Since you have to wager, it is more "harsh to dream" for me, yet the gamble is tempting, right? Entrepreneurs are renowned for being risk-takers in all aspects of their lives. Therefore, if we dreamers want to accomplish something significant in our lives, we must learn to take risks and count failures as it also equivalent to experience. Rather than simply abandoning a goal as it is, take action and carry out the duty that we set out to complete.


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Dream big! even tho there are obstacles I know you can make it

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2 years ago

I totally agree with you sis, di talaga libre mangarap because once we are in the middle of achieving it , we need to invest something. There is also a big responsibility that need to manage.

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2 years ago

Tama po bukod sa iinvest may kailangan din talagang isakripisyo

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2 years ago

Thats why we call it a dream , it's not yet real so it's free. But in order to put our dreams into reality that's the time that it will be taxing . Physically , mentally and monetary. And the one who succeeded are always the one who believed , who struggled, who bears the pain along the way , who sacrificed and workhard. Everybody has the right to dream - the free one. But not everyone has the courage , the capacity , the will and determination to put it into reality coz as what you have said failures may come their way. So we have to understand that failure is included in the process to reach our dreams.

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2 years ago

Very well said grey, mistakes and failures serves as our stepping stone in a better future

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2 years ago

Totoo yan. I got your point. Magastos kapag you're in the process of achieving and building your dreams.

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2 years ago

Yupp not just in terms of money but as well as the time and effort that we would use through the process

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2 years ago

Wala na talagang libre ngayon sis, kasi kung libre lang mangarap hanggang pangarap lang talaga kung wala kang gagawin wala din mangyayari. Kaya kung may pangarap man tayo need talaga ng effort maglaan talaga tayo ng oras para yung dream na yun ay matupad.

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2 years ago

Opo kaya isang maaking responsibilidad talaga ang mangarap kung ayaw nating madisappoint sa sarili natin we need to make efforts

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2 years ago

You are right my dear sister. Dreaming big is like a big stone hung around our neck, and still trying to swim which won't be possible. The pressure will be too much. It is better to take it slow and steady

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2 years ago

Indeed and it is much better if me teach the young ones to accept failures to lessen the pressure that they would face in their future

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2 years ago

I agree with you. It's free to dream but the process and the journey for getting there is hard and it cost you so much. But taking risk is better than doing nothing at all, and all this sacrifices will be worth it in the end, and you will be paid off by the things that you invested.

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2 years ago

Indeed, ang hirap lang teacher na ipaliwanag sa iba yung pros ng failures kasi meron iba na nauunahan ng discouragement

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2 years ago

It is never too late to dream and never too late to make it happen as well. It is indeed hard but it is okay to get there slowly.

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2 years ago

True, that is why I'd like to teach my nephews that it is okay to count failures to be able to succeed

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2 years ago

Okay lang yan failure, kasi dyan tayo talaga nag gogrow

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2 years ago

Yan nga din yung problem nuh yung sasabihin na libre lang mangarap pero pag na failed malaking epekto sa sarili kasi minsan may mga taong mahihina talaga.

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2 years ago

Ang daming adidiscourage sa pangarap nila dahil sa pressure kaya ang hirap din talaga

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2 years ago

Oo langga yang pressure talaga nakapag failed ng mga gusto i-achieve na mga things.

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2 years ago

Yyunn nga po tapos minsan hindi namamalayan nung mga parents ng mga bata yung binibigay nilang pressure sa mga anak nila sa kagustuhan na magsucceed ag mga ito

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2 years ago

Oo langga. Hope the parents are not like that langga kasi iyan sa mga reason why yung mga anak experience stressful things.

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2 years ago